TTC #1, cycle 13 and fed up! Whose with me?

[Theawkwardblonde]

Hello. So AF arrived yesterday which means I'm officially on cycle 13 of TTC. I'm a healthy 28 year old with husband whose 33. We've had 2 chemical pregnancies in the time we've been actively trying. We are just waiting on our dates for blood tests and SA for husband.

Needless to say I'm bloody fed up! Had 3 friends announce pregnancy news in the last week, and one friend is due in 4 weeks. TTC is definitely starting to take its toll on both of us and the realisation that something may be wrong is starting to sink in.
Who else is having similar? Please feel free to share/rant!

@Cha0907 hello! I wouldn't worry too much about the weight-my bmi is over despite me physically being in the best shape I've been and fittest since my teens. I mentioned that to my gp he said not to worry 😊 yes I'm with you they conceiving by Christmas would be nice.

@dogmam hello! Great name-I'm a dog mam too and anticipate that's all I'll be at this rate 😂😂 you're in good company here.

@LovesFood1987 I still drink caffeine and alcohol. All my friends who conceived have drank. I don't have much but I do look forward to my wine on a weekend! Kudos to you for keeping that up though-far greater will power than I 😊

@Nellle yes I'm not one for dwelling on things or discussing them but it's good to have an outlet.

@CurbsideProphet that's awful-hope you get through this week okay.

Thank you @Theawkwardblonde 💐
I feel a bit like I shouldn't feel so sad when women have late miscarriages and still births. The gynaecologist I had a phone appointment with was quite dismissive of it 😔 I'm being referred back into Gynaecology. We have that choose and book herr. I chose the private option because the wait time was shorter, which is how I had a scan so quick. This time I need to choose the main hospital.

@CurbsideProphet don't worry I know how you feel I got pregnant and had a chemical in may but my best friend was 8 weeks ahead of me in her pregnancy and I was so excited then when I lost mine I was like oh well don't worry you'll definitely be pregnant again before she's due. She's due in November and I'm still not pregnant..

@notyetamumbuttrying yes I feel like my body knows to get pregnant, but something is preventing proper implantation. I've spoken to a different GP recently and she suggested I've maybe got a hormonal imbalance.

@lucyrp I'm really sorry you're in the same position. Must be very difficult seeing your friend pregnant. I can't believe 8 months have passed since my CP and we're still trying. It will be 12 months TTC next week.

@CurbsideProphet yeah I'm in month 14 now of TTC 😭

Did she suggest how to fix that? @CurbsideProphet or if that could be the cause then?
@lucyrp aww Lucy darlin, you'll get there. I'm so certain of it! Let's hope the correct bloods help guide the docs in the right direction!

@notyetamumbuttrying I think I may take a few days off mumsnet as I'm getting very irritable with certain comments on different threads and it's all getting a bit much for me unfortunately and I'm not one to not reply 🤣 I hope so, I'm worried as I don't really want to have to take any drugs or anything like that to mess with my body even more so hoping there is a simple answer or solution

You defo should then hun @lucyrp want me to have words with someone?! 🥊 don't want you getting upset by ppl on here, that's not nice at all! X

@notyetamumbuttrying ahaha no it's okay I'm just not going to reply to their comments 🙈😂

@lucyrp ah I'm sorry someone has upset you 💐 Sometimes posters think they are being helpful and sometimes they know they're being harsh, but they just like being superior.

@notyetamumbuttrying my GP and I have both wondered if my progesterone drops very suddenly instead of staying up. She wouldn't really be drawn on the subject (understandably as it's not her area of expertise). That seems most likely to start off with. I think / hope.

Ah ok so will you be referred then @CurbsideProphet?

@lucyrp sensible option! 😘

@CurbsideProphet you hit the nail on the head!🙈

@notyetamumbuttrying 💗💗

@notyetamumbuttrying yes back to gynae. The first one was quite dismissive and rude in my phone appointment, but I did get a quick scan which confirmed everything looks good apart from a fibroid.
My cycles have dropped to 24 days which is so short for me. I hope that it is something relatively easy to resolve 😬

@CurbsideProphet ah ok, so you're moving forward at least then.
My cycles range from 24-26 days but they've always been that way so not a worry for me. Hopefully they can resolve that! Keep us posted on what they say. We've been referred to a fertility clinic as Dh has male factor. No idea how long the wait is tho...we're gonna get a repeat SA in Nov and have agreed that if it's not improved that we'll go private in dec. So it's just the countdown to nov now!

Hi!

@lovesfood1987 I was super nervous about ringing the GP. Even just asking the receptionist for am appointment about 'fertility' made me ill! I think for me, it kind of solidified that we are actually struggling with ttc and made it seem officially real, so didn't want to take the plunge and speak to a doctor, but actually I feel so much better after talking to her and looking forward to getting my bloods done. I think most initial consultations are over the phone rather than face to face, if that helps you feel less nervous?

@nellle omg yes, my dog is amazing and a good distraction on the down days. My first baby ha!

I'm listening to a really good podcast, called BFN. I'd really recommend them. Not everything relevant as a lot of talk about ivf etc but theve been helpful when I'm feeling sad about everything as they're quite funny. Worth a listen on the daily dog walks anyway! Hope everyone's ok x

@dogmam I listen to their podcast too, really informative and funny isn't it. They did a sperm segment before which was helpful for us. I got Dh to listen to it!

@notyetamumbuttrying sort of moving forward. My original gynae referral was for the change in my cycles and extreme worsening of period pain. My new gynae referral will now be for the fibroid and for 12 months ttc. I think!

@dogmam I'm glad your appointment went well. I've had the same struggle with acknowledging there is potentially a problem. It's crap really! I'll have a look for that podcast.

@Monday55 I just read back to catch up. I'm sorry for your miscarriage and chemical. Any sign of AF or are you testing again?

Sorry been MIA as busy with work! Hope everyone is keeping okay.
Husband has had his phone consultation for SA-it's not going to happen any time soon as our local fertility clinic is being used as a covid testing site. That's obviously more important so I'm not complaining. I'm frantically researching what can improve male fertility 😂😂

Nothing exciting for me-I'm due to ovulate in 9 days. Any suggestions on anything to try different this cycle? I'm debating not tracking using opks and just going rogue this month! 😂

AF arrived today!!! for me giving me a 26day cycle. Just entering cycle 15 of TTC 😭😭

@LS2020 @theawkwardblonde @Nellle @CurbsideProphet I called the GP today and they asked me to call back tomorrow. Hopefully they'll let me get tests this cycle or the next one. DH really wants to get pregnant naturally but I told him it could be another year before we even get to the IVF route. He's up for getting his sperm checked out. It will definitely boost both our confidence if all tests test results come back normal.

@dogmam Hope everything goes well for you with the tests. I'm calling GP tomorrow to see if I can get bloods done this cycle or next one. The other ladies gave me good reasons to get it sorted ASAP

@Monday55 sorry to hear about AF 😞 it's a buggar when it arrives. Hopefully the gp can put your mind at ease if they run some tests, which I'm sure will come back as normal 😊. Are your cycles usually 26 days?

@theawkwardblonde Damn! that's definitely a set back! DH is taking a multivitamin + omega 3 fish oil supplements a day. Hoping it will boost whatever vitamin he might be lacking for now. I'm also taking a prenatal vitamin + omega 3 fish oil.

@Theawkwardblonde Hope you don’t mind me jumping on this thread, reading a lot of comments that relate to me! I am 29, cycle 8 #1 & had an early miscarriage last month.

Although in the pretty early stages we paid for a fertility MOT privately as we didn’t want to wait longer incase we had issues. Hopefully you get answers soon, is it a private clinic? My blood level is high which suggests polycystic ovaries which is a bit odd as I have no symptoms of this. We have a phone consultation next week & the process has been fairly quick.

My hubby takes wellman & I take pregnacare plus. We also use pre-seed as heard many good things about this. Hope everyone gets their BFP soon 🤞🏼Xxxx

@theawkwardblonde Cross posted my cycles range from 25 to 28days. Here's is a theme for my last 5 cycles (26days/25/28/28/27). What are yours like?