TTC #1, cycle 13 and fed up! Whose with me?

[Theawkwardblonde]

Hello. So AF arrived yesterday which means I'm officially on cycle 13 of TTC. I'm a healthy 28 year old with husband whose 33. We've had 2 chemical pregnancies in the time we've been actively trying. We are just waiting on our dates for blood tests and SA for husband.

Needless to say I'm bloody fed up! Had 3 friends announce pregnancy news in the last week, and one friend is due in 4 weeks. TTC is definitely starting to take its toll on both of us and the realisation that something may be wrong is starting to sink in.
Who else is having similar? Please feel free to share/rant!

@Cha0907 it's awful isn't it 😂 I have permanent bitch face when people tell me they're pregnant now 😂

@Rosie189 hello! Aww sorry to hear you've been trying 13 months. It's all soul destroying. I'm the same. Worried there is something wrong. I've had a very weird 1 day spotting which I thought was a period. Sat here now 14dpo and no period, no BFP so clearly something up with my body. I'm terrified now that this means I've stopped ovulating at the age of 28 😞

@Theawkwardblonde it’s so weird to have spent so long being worried you’d get pregnant accidentally and now being ready and not managing. I went to the drs last year as after googling (worst thing you can do) I was convinced I was in early menopause or had cancer. The dr mainly brushed me off but I did have some blood work which was all ok although I’m not even 100% what was checked. I have really heavy periods that make me feel ill and I struggle to get through the day. I think I might have endometriosis but I always feel I’m brushed off when I go to the gp so find it hard. Also we’ve only been properly trying for a year (although not mega careful for around 18months) and with hubby being away realistically we’ve only tried for maybe 7or 8 cycles as he’s away 3 weeks at a time.

@Cha0907 Baby chat is hard. Two of my close friends started trying around the same time as us and now both have babies. I know they’ve both found it tough to have given birth and not have much support due to the whole COVID situation. One is my best friend and I feel like she’s worries about chatting to me honestly sometimes which is a shame cause I know she’s had a really hard 6 months and want to support her, but it is a little hard to hear the moaning. SIL is due in dec although I think they’ve struggled too.

@Theawkwardblonde honestly swear the only time my AF was like that was when I was due to have day 3 bloods done so was a nightmare booking them. Annoyingly I always found getting a bfn helpful as was like my mind had accepted it and af would arrive full force so hope you get an answer either way soon!

Hello similar ladies!

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So hard, isn't it? We started trying 2 and a half years, got pregnant quite quickly and sadly lost our bean just before 12 week scan. We took a break, but now we're also on cycle 13 with no luck! I think we felt our MC meant fertility was on our side, so feeling a bit hard done by.
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How does everyone cope with the 2 week wait? And when AF comes... It's torture!
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But my main bugbear at the mo though... Women (friends and colleagues) complaining about how it was "soooo hard doing lockdown with kids, you're so lucky!"
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Hi @Rosie189

I haven’t told any of my friends we are ttc but A few of my friends have had miscarriages so I think they would probably understand. Still not sure I feel comfortable telling people we are ttc not sure why just feel like it might make people feel a bit awkward 🤷🏼‍♀️

Hi @Nellle

The 2 week wait is torture. Always symptom spotting and googling symptoms 🙈 then getting your hopes up for them to be totally shattered when AF turns up 😭😭

I know lockdown with kids must of been hard. My friend had a baby during lockdown and she had been out a good few weekends. I just keep saying to my partner ‘can’t believe she is out again’ why would you not want me to home with your precious baby 🙈 I know everyone is different and you don’t always know what someone is going through but just couldn’t imagine leave my newborn so early on maybe just me 😭

@Rosie189 I know right? It's mental. I usually have heavy periods which is why I'm confused this cycle 🤷🏼‍♀️
Must be hard with hubby away. Fingers crossed you get a BFP soon.

@Nellle hello!
Sorry to hear about your mc. Fingers crossed for a BFP for you soon! Yes all my friends with kids have twisted about lockdown and kids-lucky buggars 😂😂

@LS2020 typical isn't it? Was there a reason for your dodgy period and did your cycle return to normal? Do I class my minimal bleed as a period? It's completely knocked me out of sync

@Theawkwardblonde nope nothing, had my day 21s that month too and they confirmed I’d ovulated so all was normal really and then I must have ovulated the following month as that’s when I got my CP. the short bleed is really odd - anything more today? Tbf if it was implantation it takes 48 hours for HCG to hit detectable levels so you might want to consider taking another test at some point 😊

Well the missing AF has arrived today with a bloody vengeance (pardon the pun). I'm actually relieved as this means I can start the prep for cycle 13. Where's everyone at on their cycle? Anyone in TWW?

@theawkwardblonde Sorry about the bloody AF, but great that you feel some relief. Wishing you all the luck for the next month and welcome to cycle (lucky?) 13!

I'm on cycle day 16 and somehow haven't managed to get a positive OPK! Usually regular as clockwork on day 14 so not sure what's happening... Either way, I'm in the 2 WW. Torture!

13 dpo here 🙋🏻‍♀️
I have short cycles so it's day 21. I couldn't resist and poas this morning which was a bfn. I have all the symptoms I had before my bfp and then chemical pregnancy at new year - seasick / travel sick feeling, terrible headache, exhausted. These aren't normal PMS symptoms for me, but of course they might just be this month 😬

@Theawkwardblonde sorry about AF but at least you know now. I’m a super boring CD7 so just waiting for FW. I read online you can ovulate early with a CP and had some sticky CM today so think I might have to get on with DTD daily soon so I don’t miss my chance 🤞🏻

@Cha0907 I’ve only really told my best friend as we both started trying around the same time. I’ve had to mention to a few people at work as there is quite a few safety concerns related to work, I’ve hated having to mention to people at work though as it feels really revealing and awkward.

@Theawkwardblonde so frustrating when your cycle decides to do something weird. The past few months I seem to be getting spotting 4 or 5 days before my period. Never happened before! Although maybe I’m just paying more attention with constant symptom spotting.

@Nellle I’ve hated the complaints about lockdown and kids. We were out under crazy amounts of stress during lockdown with how busy work it. Had to be at work. All mums were furloughed and those of us working with such reduced staffing levels were under so much strains. A couple of them have said we had it easy and it’s been hard to not loose it at that!

Interesting to know where everyone is-we have a varied bunch! Excited to see what updates there will be over the coming days 😊😊

@Nellle hopefully you get that positive OPK! 2ww is the worst!

@CurbsideProphet you're not out till AF arrives-fingers crossed for a BFP for you!

@LS2020 oooh hopefully you get ovulation soon 🤞🏻we DTD so much last month I'm in the mind set where I can't be bothered this coming month. bloody TTC taking the fun out of everything!

@Rosie189 yes I was similar with the spotting. Only seemed to start one we actively were TTC. I get your complaint re work and lockdown. My friend was able to get reduced hours but still get paid, and then eventually got paid leave to look after her kids. She was mosning it was stressful, while I had to pick up 2 other people's jobs as a result 😂 I would have taken the kids over work stress any day!

I’m on cycle day 14 and reckon due to ovulate in the next day or so. I’m not tracking though as husbands away working till next week so likely a wasted cycle for me 😫

Do you mind if I join?🙈 been off the pill since October 2018😓

@Rosie189 ah that's a buggar! Nothing worse than missing ovulating. But I bet it's nice when you get to see your husband again.
You never know, ovulation may just delay itself and time it with his return 😊

@xoJellyBean hello and welcome! Have you been TTC since coming off the pill?

AF is due by Tuesday (cycle varies from 23-25 days at the moment). I just get anxious now. Too scared to be excited or optimistic now 😕

@Theawkwardblonde I did 2 months where DTD every other day and I honestly couldn’t do it again, who has the stamina 😂 the month I got my CP though we only did it in our FW so it can still happen even when you only do it a few times 😊

@xoJellyBean welcome! How long have you been TTC?

@CurbsideProphet how are you symptoms coming along?

CD18 of cycle 13 over here. Feel like it's going to be a loooong 12 days! Annoying one too, never got my positive OPK and lost my thermometer on all the important days. We really REALLY tried this month, but no idea what's gone on womb-side. Solidarity to all. Sending good vibes. Who else is in the 2WW?

I'm day 23. A range of symptoms that could mean anything. I only have short cycles so AF will arrive by Tuesday. I can't even bring myself to be optimistic anymore 😬

@Theawkwardblonde you are not alone! Month 12, heading into 13 next week and about cycle 15 as mine are short. Also ttc no1 and I'm 34, Dh is 37. I've had bloods and all normal. Dh had a SA and low count, motility and morphology so he's doing lifestyle changes now. He'll get a repeat one in Nov and if no change we'll go private for ivf as god knows how long the nhs will take for the referral. Time is not on our side with our age and initially wanting two...good luck with your investigations!

@notyetamumbuttrying DH and I are the same ages as you and your DH. We're 11 months in now, but my cycles have become so short it's more than 11 cycles. How did you get a referral for your DH's SA? All my GP is talking about is gynae referrals for me.

@CurbsideProphet think we've chatted before on another thread 😊
Oh how odd. First starts of tests are bloods and scan for the woman and SA for the man. Unless you already have something going on that they are investigating? Can you just ask for an SA to rule out? My cycles are short but always have been, like they were when I was younger etc.

Hi, can I join? we started ttc last year and we are currently on Cycle 13 and I'm 10DPO. We've had 1x MC and 1x Chemical. The miscarriage was heart breaking but in the end we where glad that we could actually get pregnant as was beginning to think there's something wrong with one of us.

We are going to keep on trying until next year April then will contact the GP for tests etc.

@Monday55 best of luck for a positive outcome next week! Keep us posted x