TTC September 2020 Bus

[samantha06]

Good morning everyone!
Ive been on a few threads now since i started ttc baby no.3 in june.
Unfortunately in August i did get my BFP, but it ended in a chemical pregnancy, so back on another ttc thread with all you lovely ladies.

Share you stories and join!
My next AF due 20th September.

Sending you all baby dust🥰

@samantha06 test again! Could be late implantation or early pregnancy bleeding. My best friend is 7 weeks, and is bleeding, docs/hospital say it’s all normal. They even had an internal scan to check, and little bean is well! I think you should test again just in case. Xxx

@samantha06 definitely test again. Otherwise you will drive yourself crazy. Best to know, even if it isn’t the news you want. Good luck x

Is anyone else still in the 2ww? I’m feeling lonely over here. Lol

@Jen8888

Think this is going south.

Little brownish bleed this morning.

Very faint positive on a clear blue this am and a BFN on a cheapie...

Is this turning into a miscarriage?

Tested positive for Rona this morning too!

What a day.

Now i have no childcare and am trying to look after my 2.5 year old DS

SEND HELP

@Jen8888 I'm sorry to read you're having a tough time and being tested positive, I hope you have minimal symptoms. x

@Theawkwardblonde I went to my doctor and she's ordered blood tests for my hormones got my first bloods tomorrow. I'm so relieved to get tested. Let me know how you get on with your tests x

@SarahMumof1DS @Theawkwardblonde good luck with bloods! I have terribly irregular periods so all my tests came back negative. Hence the referral to the fertility clinic. Unfortunately named ‘The Infertility Clinic’ first appointment available for my closest hospital is January 29th! We’ll keep trying for sticky beans before then!!

@MamaPheebz - I’m not sure as I’m really irregular. However, I had ewcm two weeks ago, we dtd twice that week, Spotting now, went from brown to pink to brown again in a day and a half. Boobs still hurting, I’m still crying at everything and I have the worst headaches ever. I’m symptom spotting like you wouldn’t believe. Need to stop it! How are you getting on??? Xxx

Thanks @Emc16x. Argh that's frustrating when you don't get answers. I'm a bit worried about that. It must be very confusing having such irregular periods, I've always been lucky with my periods mostly like clockwork except for early spotting since TTC!
Wow it's a long time to wait for your referral, but hopefully you'll get a sticky bean and won't need it!
My doctor won't help me any further if my hormones come back normal as I already have a son so will have to keep trying for longer.

@Emc16x @SarahMumof1DS thanks-will update you. I'm in a bit of a slump atm. Due to ovulate in 8 days but can't actually bring myself to DTD if that makes sense. I'm not normally this defeatist but I'm just a bit meh over it all, which isn't a good place to be in.

@Theawkwardblonde I imagine everybody feels like that at some stage when TTC so you're not alone. The stress of it all just gets too much.

I've actually wanted to ask everyone about this...

Has anyone else felt like this and just stopped with monitoring everything and left it to chance (eg. DTD when you saw some EWCM or something) and been successful? I've heard so many times of people who stopped trying and fell pregnant but it also feels like it would be so easy to miss the window and waste another month. Does anyone else think about this or tried this?

Cycle day 28. No idea when I exactly ovulated and a negative test this morning. If I’m not pregnant, I don’t think I’m strong enough to keep doing this. If I get pregnant I don’t know if I’m strong enough to control the anxiety that I might lose it again. Anyone else just hate TTC?

@MamaPheebz yes! There’s been a lot of tears this week. I was in CD34 when I had brown and pink spotting. I was convinced I was pregnant but three BFNs and AF comes with a vengeance today! It’s so hard. My best friend who ‘accidentally’ got pregnant is telling me to just relax and it’ll happen when it happens just angers me so much. It’s easy for her to say, she hasn’t had to TTC! How long have you been TTC? We’re all here for you! Lean on us, and vent. Really sorry you’re feeling that way. Same to you @Theawkwardblonde.

@SarahMumof1DS so many people are telling me to stop tracking, testing and just have fun. I’ve ordered mods opks...arriving next week, but I’m going to delete my apps, and maybe just try and listen to my body. But it’s so hard. I’m always symptom spotting, always monitoring, so it’ll be hard to just stop that. We just sold our house though so that might be a nice distraction.

@Emc16x @SarahMumof1DS I'm thinking just f**k it and not track anything. IVF got opks coming today, may just lock them up in the drawer.
All my friends are telling me to relax too but they conceived straight away. Doesn't help I'm quite stressed with work at the moment too.

I'm sorry AF arrived @MamaPheebz 😞.

Sounds like we're all sick of hearing the comments "relax and let it happen naturally" and the like. I thought I was the only one who's family and friends don't seem to get it. It seems like a lot of those comments come from people who have never been in our position. They have no idea how emotionally exhausting it can be. Even if we don't track, would we still have a stressful TWW? Would we still symptom spot?
I've actually been on both sides of the fence. My DS was a happy accident that was a very small chance of happening (I was using the natural cycles app to NOT get pregnant but I had been through a series of health issues and I ovulated really early in my cycle and it threw the app's algorithm out and I fell pregnant). Now this time round actually trying TTC it's been 5 months and no success (I appreciate 5 months is not a long time compared to some of you). Either way it feels like a long time of waiting and thinking about things only to have another failed attempt.

Girls I actually set up a thread a couple of months ago to discuss tracking and data collecting. Would you all take a look at it and tell me if you relate to it? It's called:

TTC - Does data collecting cause extra stress?

@Emc16x sorry af has arrived. This is our first month since miscarriage so i know I shouldn’t be complaining just yet. It’s just been a long and emotional journey and I don’t know how to make myself more relaxed about it.

Is anyone creating an October bus or is everyone staying on this one. I’m new to this so not sure how it works? Xx

@SarahMumof1DS i’m obsesses with peeing on sticks and not sure it is helpful. I didn’t use anything last time. Just DtD every other day and did one test when I was due on my period. This time I’m like a crazy person...

Sorry I meant @Emc16x, sorry AF arrived 😞.

@MamaPheebz are you still waiting for AF? I have internet cheapies so I just test as much as I feel lol. Yeah I'm new to the forum too, do we start an October thread?
I might join it as DH DTD with me unprotected couple of days ago so just in case he wants to do it again and we still have a chance this month. Also keep up to date with you girls 😊. I'm not doing opk this month just temping to see if I ov.

@SarahMumof1DS
Yes stay with us so we know how things are going for you even if you aren’t actively ttc. I did a test this morning which was negative but still waiting for AF. Cycle day 32 or something now so I’m just hoping it comes soon. We are going to try again this month but if it makes me really obsessive like this then I might take a break. It’s taking over my life! I’ve got a Little boy who deserves my full attention.

Thanks @MamaPheebz I will stay 😊. When was your AF due? Yes it's frustrating cos you just want to start the next cycle. You never know you could still get that BFP. Maybe if you feel it's getting too much tracking and you were going to have a break then maybe just DTD when you both feel like it and if it falls on the right time then great. Is it the TWW that stresses you?

My neighbour was given a pack of chlomid by a friend who was on IVF. She took 5 tablets and conceived. She just dug them out her bottom drawer for me to try the 5 that we’re left. It can’t harm me surely? Just help with ovulation i guess!

I’ve deleted all my apps and have decided not to opk test this cycle. Just go with the flow. We’ve also just sold our house and have to move out soon so that’ll be a good distraction. Although we’re moving in with my parents so will need to DTD quietly and sneakily Haha!! Hopefully we’ll hit the jackpot when we ‘least expect it’ as that’s the general consensus and advice from people eye roll

@MamaPheebz I think I got to day 36 before AF arrived. Somewhat of a relief because we can start again. Still keeping everything crossed for you though. We’re all different and tell tale signs can differ from woman to woman.

I’d love for us all to keep talking. It’s really helped me this month so thank you! Do we make a new thread?

@SarahMumof1DS I think an October thread would be a good shout! I'm new to this too so not sure if the etiquette 😂😂Been meaning to check out your other thread you mentioned too.

@MamaPheebz totally get the obsessive thing. We are trying to take it easy this month as I've been super stressed over it all.

Annoyingly i have more pregnancy symptoms now than I did with my 2 pregnancies but about 12 dpo and star negative so just gave to accept I’m out. Just need a new cycle to start.
There weren’t many successes in here this month so one of us is bound to get lucky next cycle. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

So many typos. Sorry ladies lol!

@Emc16x that's a tricky one 🤔. They say never to take other peoples medication but I'm a worrier so I'm always cautious. Do you know anyone in the medical profession who could advise you maybe?
Me and DH spent 9 months with my parents while searching for a new house, it was trying to say the least! We had a 3 month old baby tho so that didn't help. Good luck and hope that goes ok for you.

@Theawkwardblonde ok shall I start a new thread for us?
Yeah if you get time have a read. It's a thread for us to talk in depth about the trials of TTC and tracking etc.

@MamaPheebz it's confusing isn't it. Hope AF shows soon or BFP!
It's a good way to look at it that at least one of us should get lucky this month. We have to keep positive!

Girls I've started an October Bus for us all and anyone who is still waiting for AF from September bus:
TTC October 2020 Bus
🤗