Feb Bus Pt 3

[Juno231]

@MimiArm
@paintfairy
@MrsTwentyEight

Figured I'm not ready to let you ladies go ☺️

@Juno231 sorry hear AF got you. Onwards and upwards to another cycle 🤞🤞

Your wedding sounds very eventful haha!! I have my first dress fitting tomorrow and dreamt last night that the dressmaker altered it before she even met me and it was completely wrong. Then she slapped a £1200 plus vat bill in my hand. I woke up startled haha - gonna go out tomorrow and buy a pair of Spanx shorts for the fitting in the hope it makes the dress look a little better!!

Managed to get another cottage booked. It looks lovely, with a sea view. Only downside is that it's not secure for the dogs so they need to be on lead when outside. Not idea in that respect but I'm just relieved to be able to get away for a break.

I think the mixture of TTC troubles, wedding planning and wedding drama has me on the edge of cracking (his parents are going though a nasty split and it's been a constant case of "I'm not going if he's going" ridiculousness for the past three months amongst other ridiculous behaviours). WFH since March hasn't helped as I can't seem to be able to switch off from work stress and the above because everything is merged into one, you know?

Morning ladies
Sorry I missed all the chat ! Haha interesting read with all the wedding talk! Mine was nearly 4 years ago and abroad ✈️ Seems like forever ago...!
Sorry @Juno231 to hear AF arrived 😕 But good news on the drinking on holiday front haha!
@MimiArm wish you all the best!! What date is the wedding again? Your dress looks absolutely stunning!
@paintfairy oh I realllyyy want that symptom to be a symptom for you ...🤞🏽
I am currently on whatever dpo and not keeping track because I don’t know when I OV-ed 😂 CD25 though so 7-8 days till AF is all I know!

@Juno231 I had everything at one place. I literally planned it in a way to minimise things going wrong. I know what I'm like and I couldn't be doing with being stressed on the day. That's not to say the lead up was ideal. I did lose a bridesmaid. 🤣 Having said that- I think it was for the best.

@MimiArm oh god. Well DHs mother kept us guessing as to whether she was coming or not right until pretty close. Did my head in. She had to travel to come. I seriously lost my patience with it all. Unfortunately my dad died too a few months before, and I was so annoyed that he couldn't come and wanted to, yet she just couldn't be bothered. I was past the point of being polite.

Getting away definitely sounds a good idea. Yes I know what you mean about wfh. It does all start to blur. I enjoy it but even I'm starting to crave some structure. I dreamt everyone was pregnant or had a baby. Even people I know that have no kids and won't be. And that I was incapable. So obviously its not bothering me much. 🙄

@MrsTwentyEight 🤣 About the same as me then. My AF is due next Fri or Sat. One week to go!

@MrsTwentyEight Thanks so much! Our wedding is on 4 November 2020.

@paintfairy Ah, I'm sure that was really difficult with your dad passing away and MIL playing up like that. I can understand why you were out of patience.

So far we've had:

• DP's dad making up lies that we said offensive stuff about DP's mum - to get DP's mum and sisters to fall out with us so we haven't invited him now to the wedding
• DP's mum and a few of his sisters saying that if dad does go they won't go
• DP's dad sending one of DP's other sisters round to get info and his dad now falling out with this sister because she didn't manage to convince us to extend an invitation to him
• DP's sister now saying she isn't coming and doesn't want anything to do with us
• DP's dad now spreading it around that DP is "under the thumb" so basically it's all my fault he's not invited.
• my mum telling her DP that he's walking me down the aisle without asking me first (my own dad died over 20 years ago) - I'm not particularly close to him, but don't dislike him or anything.
• my sister complaining about bridesmaid dress because she wants something akin to a formal dress (she's only 18)

I'm sure there is way more - those are just the highlights. Fact of the matter is, what his dad lied about was appalling and if he were to offer a genuine apology then we may reconsider inviting him. But instead he's just digging the hole even further and I can't be arsed with the immature pettiness of it anymore. I almost called the wedding off yesterday after learning about the "under the thumb" comment yesterday and the other sister saying she's not coming.

If they don't want to come - stuff them. In a way, we are kind of hoping COVID forces the wedding to be cancelled so that the two of us can just go and get married by ourselves. So far, one by one they are ruining it.

BUT, in better news, had dress fitting yesterday and it fits much better. Those 10lbs I've lost made all the difference.

And in even better news, got call from fertility clinic nurse yesterday and explained all again. When I said that we feel they are pretending there is a wait list for the tablets so we are pushed into IVF she said "I'm being careful with what I say here". Long story short, we collected the prescription this morning from the clinic and are now sitting with a two month supply of Letrozole 💃🏼💃🏼 (not before she told me I need a scan before they will release prescription - until I pointed out I had a scan a few weeks ago. She said "where did you get scanned" and I said "in your clinic!!" - she said "oh, this looks really bad".

Sorry - that was a long ramble 🙈

@MimiArm good heavens. If its any consolation, I had the same thoughts. I wanted to go abroad anyway originally. So there were so many times I nearly cancelled it all. But on honeymoon watching others married, I was glad we didn't. Because it really lacked the magic of having your friends and family round you.

Our day was ok. But the lead up was very stressful. My brother couldn't decide if he was coming because he'd rather go on holiday. My bridesmaid was a complain pita taking over. She fell out with someone over my hen do planning (who wasnt even going 🤣). Then told them they wouldn't be welcome at my wedding. Before eventually falling out with me because I wouldn't wait until the month before my wedding to buy her dress. Because she wanted to diet. And claimed I was making her look bad in a dress. (I actually let them pick their own because we were buying high street dresses?). I'd mail ordered some for them to try and she had a tantrum before even trying on. It was the week my dad started chemo. And she then accused me of being a bad friend and not asking how she was all week. I blew my stack. Haven't spoken since. DHs mother was still refusing to commit to coming a month after the rsvp date. Because she had to fly here. Kept making excuses. One of which was- she might be dead by then. Again- I went ballistic. My dad died after the numbers etc were all given in so I had to sort that. He had a hotel room etc booked too. I honestly didn't think I would even get through the day. Had it happened any nearer to it, I don't think I would have. Dh invited a friend and they kicked off because they couldn't bring their daughter. Can't believe they even asked. But we kept it small and weren't really inviting children. We had under 50. I didn't even invite extended family. They refused to come in the end. And they were just the big issues! So I know how you feel, believe me. I wanted to tell everyone where to shove it all! You do have to be firm. Its this or don't come. And that's that. Its your day after all.

Great news about the clinic! Well. Kind of. Not so great its a shambles but it's great you managed to sort them out!

@paintfairy

Holy moly!!! How can there be so much drama around one day that isn't even about the people causing the drama! I got anxious just reading your story.

I'm firmly switching off from caring now. Come, don't come, I really don't care anymore. It's not worth getting into a state over.

My AF was due 3 days ago and no sign of it so I can start my tablets. Weirdly too, my RHR has shot up!! It should be going down with AF overdue, no? I did a FRER yesterday morning (my last one) and BFN. Why am I even thinking that way when all tests have shown no ovulation! It's just strange AF isn't here as my cycles are usually 26 days - 28 max. Maybe it's the stress delaying things and causing RHR to shoot up!

@paintfairy

P.s. this was the first month I didn't waste money on OPKs or any tracking whatsoever. We also only DTD about once a week so even more doubtful!

@MimiArm God knows. And his mother isn't remotely ill by the way. So there was no need for her comment. You honestly have to switch off to it. The people that matter will be there. And that's all you need.

Hmmm. Odd? Stress definitely delayed mine when covid came. I had a really long cycle that month. But that's the only time ever. I still find it odd you aren't ovulating yet have regular cycles. I've friends with polycystic ovaries and they don't always and their cycles are all over. I think i would have tested too. Annoying its bfn. I'm not sure I'd want to start the tablets until AF came though. In case?

@paintfairy Yes, you're right I'm sure. Switch off and just try to enjoy the day for us.

Yes, it is weird that I have regular cycles. The consultant said that too, and also that it's strange I have ovulation symptoms. I deffo won't start the tablets until AF comes as need to take them on CD2. I've been told to take all 5 tablets on the same day (I frantically googled this as I know most people take them CD2-CD6, one a day - apparently it's ok. Just a different method of administering them).

@MimiArm Yes I always thought you spread them out. I take soya isoflavones which is the same idea. Not that it's worked mind. 🤣

I'm really pissed off. So not only did it seem like an age to get seen (or rang as it were) by a dr, because i originally called like 2 weeks ago, they rang me today saying the appointment i had didn't exist and shouldn't have been booked. So i need to book another. Which is a week and 3 days later still! I am not happy. 😡 DH will have had his SA done over a week by that point (possibly even have the results) and yet I've not even managed to talk to anyone?

I was spotting ever so slightly today. Which is my normal pattern. So I'm guessing no miracle will happen.

@paintfairy No way, how infuriating!! How the hell can it take so long to get a refund phone appointment! When I rang my GP (in the height of lockdown) I was able to get a doctor call back that same bloody day!

At this rate, you'd be quicker registering at another GP practice. Would you consider that? Is your DH registered in same practice but with a different GP, or is he a different practice altogether?

Remind me please - are you hoping to get CD2:CD21 bloods done as a first step investigating?. I think you said before that you had tests done last year but not for fertility purposes. I can't fathom why it's taking any time at all (other than waiting for correct test days) to book in for blood tests as starting point (if I'm remembering correctly).

I don't blame you for being raging 😤

@MimiArm I don't know what they'll do. Because I've not even managed to speak to anyone! Ffs. It's a different Dr too but I don't know whether that's better or worse as I don't know either. So obviously I'm going to explain where we are at and I'm hoping she'll do something!

DH is at a different practice altogether, so yes, I'd consider moving. Most round here are over subscribed though so it is a problem. But he certainly managed to speak to someone at least and get his referral.

Last year I had a general health blood test and also a day 2 blood test (that was difficult even because you can't get appointments last minute and clearly you don't know in advance exactly when it'll be!) and also scans. So other than day 21 blood test I don't know what they'll do extra. If anything the way it's going. 🙄

@paintfairy I had the same issue with the timing of blood tests. Having said that, my practice were able to accommodate blood tests with the nurse with not much notice and told me to phone up to arrange at the appropriate time (so clearly for CD3, a day in advance). Those appointments are much easier to come by than the GP appointments (in theory).

I would deffo look into moving to the same practice as your DH and the same doctor if possible. Might help having both of your results for further investigations if they're required.

I can't believe how quick your DH was able to schedule the SA test. Here, DP would have still been waiting as they say the lab is still closed and I had my GP blood tests months ago now. Other way round from you!

I switched to the female doctor in my practice as I noticed online that she had a diploma in gynaecology and that deffo helped as she seemed to actually care. The male doctor that delivered my results was bloody useless (and I'm not being sexist!).

@MimiArm I feel awkward seeing a man? There's a good lady dr there but she's been off on maternity. Over a year now so should be back soon. There are no others but the merged recently with another practice and there's some there.

Last time I needed blood I had to go to the clinic (health centre type place) rather than my practice nurse. It was a faff but I managed it (no actual appointments but they save so many for emergencies on the day so you ring that morning). I was sat in the waiting room the other week though for the smear - an old man came out from seeing the dr. Went to reception and said he needed to book a blood test for tomorrow the dr said. Receptionist said sorry I've no appointments for 2 weeks! So nothing has changed. It's terrible. She sent him to the health centre to try. He came back saying they had nothing for weeks either. She said didn't they advise you to try ringing on the day? He said no? It's shocking. Far too many people for the service. And they are building thousands more houses. It just can't cope.

@paintfairy That is crazy. Sound ridiculously over subscribed. Do you live in a city? Not that it matters I suppose. There "should" be enough practices for the amount of people. I live in the countryside - under normal times it would be a week wait for a doctors appointment but blood tests would be shorter. These days though it's a same day doctor call back or bloods with a few days.

Any more developments?

I'm about to enter CD35 now (for the first time ever). I've been really bloated the past few days, pretty fed up mood, tender boobs and on and off twinges in ovaries.

Can't believe AF is late for first time ever when I'm sitting with the Letrozole ready to take. Sod's bloody law!

@MimiArm fairly city yeah. It's always been at least a 2 week wait for appointments but it's been getting worse for a long time. I'm really done with everything today. Everything is a constant battle.

Spotting more. Temp slowly dropping. Fully expect AF tomorrow or Saturday. 🙄

Really frustrating about you though! It's like torture. Just making you wait that bit longer. I suppose it can't go on forever. Fingers crossed there's an end in sight soon.

@paintfairy Sorry to hear you're feeling that this today. I get it completely. Hoping tomorrow is a better day for you ☺️

My RHR is still sitting stuck on high but I'm pretty sure I'm not pregnant.

Hey ladies
Been awol sorry
Tested a few times this week of course and wasted expensive FRERS 😂 Ofc it’s bloody negative
Think I’m due this weekend or Monday...don’t.even.care.ugh.

🤣 I'm due AF today I reckon. If not it'll be tomorrow. Temp is down now to 36.47 and has been steadily dropping. So no hope there. 🙄

Haha I’ve started (well some spotting which I’m going to try and not get my hopes up about implantation bleed 😭)

AF arrived for me mid morning. No mistaking it. 🙄

And for me too...so that’s onto the next bus and 6th cycle it is...😭

@MrsTwentyEight I've lost count what number bus now. FFS.

Hi ladies

Sorry to hear AF arrived for you @paintfairy and @MrsTwentyEight

I'm on CD37 now (wtf?) with no sign of AF as RHR is continuing to climb. I do have AF type cramps though and sore boobs. This has never happened before - I'm usually a 24-28 day cycle.

@MimiArm I'll wet myself if you are pregnant. 🤣🤣🤣