🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 4 🦕

[Annny27]

Hi everyone,

Setting up the new thread for us - we have come a long way since January and sadly a few of us are still on the "journey". Let's hope we arent here for much longer. Wishing us all baby dust (although its been so long I am not sure dust will do it for me - maybe will have to up the particle size to "baby sand" )

Ttc ladies:
@Fizzl
@Nuggetlover27
@ELM7
@Ljm0101
@Abi0795
@Babyghirl

And our recent bfps who i know like to check in :)
@Leok83
@scrumdiddly123
@SunnySideUp2020

@Annny27
I agree lol hobbies r meant to be things you like doing but this ttc is taking its toll big time lol gs thought I would of been on to my second by nw but 3 years l8r and 3 losses I'm still trying for my first but I knw I will get there and so will we all just taking a bit longer to happen but when it does it will be extra special 🍀💚

Hey everyone. You were all so kind to me when I first jumped in on this thread in August time! I have just been catching up and wanted to say hello again and just let you all know I'm still here, sadly! I'm just coming up to 3 months post ectopic so jumping back on the TTC wagon again x

@chali7
Welcome back on the nuts wagon off ttc lol, how have you been doing. Well I got my 3rd bfp in September but sadly went through my 3rd miscarriage in Oct when I should of been ten weeks. So on to ttc again myself and hope 4th time lucky 🍀💚

@Babyghirl so sorry you are also back! I'm on third time lucky now, after methotrexate 3 months ago. I'm so pleased it has gone quite quick. how are you doing? So sorry to hear of your loss. My original due date from my first MMC is coming up Christmas eve, so I'm making plans to be busy!! Xx

@chali7
The due dates r awful hard but you will get through it I have 3 due dates first the 5th of June second the 3rd of June which is my birthday and the 3rd the 27th of May so all close together I should have a 1 and a half year or or a 6 month old or should be pregnant so it's tough but just waiting on my app coming through for the fertility consultant should be in Jan so can't wait to that.

Well cd23 for me and I have started spotting brown stomach cramps so the witch is going to be really early this month around 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈 how r all you ladies doing yous all sorted for Christmas 🍀💚

Hi Ladies had a private scan today at what should be 7 weeks and unfortunately not good news. At the mo they are trying to decide if the scan is inconclusive or a pregnancy of unknown location. They have escalated to the senior person and I’ll hear on Monday if they are referring me to epu or not. If they don’t I’ll phone Drs and get them to refer me.

Feeling really shit so going to come off MN for a while as need to take some time out.

Have a lovely Christmas and I really hope 2021 is a better year full of 🌈 for all of us.

Omg @ELM7 I am so sorry! If they don't refer you to the EPU I would ask then yourself as perhaps they aren't trained or accustomed to your uterus shape at the private clinic?

Is there any hope that due to your uterus shape that the baby is just hidden from view at the moment? I hope you get the answers soon as this is torture so close to Christmas as well.

Sending all my love and ofcourse take all the time you need off and if you ever wanted to private message me on here then please do 💗

@Babyghirl a short cycle! Must be all confused after the miscarriage, mine was like that for a bit

@chali7 welcome back 💗 arr you feeling ready?

Thank you @Annny27🥰 yes I do, although I'm extremely nervous this time!

@Babyghirl its hard not to think of due dates. My friend had offered for us to go for a dog walk on Xmas eve, so I'm looking forward to doing that with her to keep busy!

Xx

@ELM7
So sorry its awful when all we want is a baby, when I went for my should off been 7 week scan I was measuring 5+6 I knew then things weren't good but tryed to stay positive take all the time you need to heal and private msg me on this anytime day or night. And try to have as much of a merry Christmas as you can and 2021 we all all going to be still on this thread but we will be all having r rainbows together 🍀💚
@Annny27
It's just brown now and again so will prop be here full blast tomorrow hate short cycles gives you something else to worry about and I have been waking up during the night soaking in sweat I mean my t-shirt stuck to me so going to phone docs on Monday bout that see what they say also thirsty during the night which I hope does not mean diabetes 🙈🙈🙈🙈
@chali7
It is its good to keep yourself busy on my birthday I did not leave the house cause it was a due date and did not want cards or anything so kept door locked and hide which was wrong to do but right for me if that makes sense xx

@Babyghirl thats not wrong hun, especially if it worked for you, I don't blame you! I will be doing something very similar, just with a bottle of wine to accompany me haha! Xx

@chali7
It does get easier and each year goes by, it will be the 3rd year for my first loss on the 5th June due date 2nd year for my 2nd loss on the 3rd of June and first year for my third loss on the 27 of May so close together just hoping I have no more angel due dates to pass me and it will be a real birthday next time around. Think us ladies have had r fair share of bad luck we r so deserving off good luck nw. A bottle off wine sounds good just be kind to yourself and let yourself feel sad it's only natural but you will get through it xx

My due date was June 3rd as well @babyghirl !! Yep I just lit a candle to remember her (we think) on that day and probably will continue to do it on her due date for as long as i remember

@Annny27
3rd of June is my birthday aswell 🙈🙈🙈🙈 yea I light a wee candle aswell just to mark there birthday just feels right to remember it 🍀💚

@ELM7 oh no. Sorry to hear. This must be so awful to go through right now.
I hope you get seen by EPU asap and get answers...
Sending you lots of strength and hugs 💕
Take care of yourself lovely, we will be here when you are ready to be back.

@Babyghirl that’s a great birthday because it’s also mine! In two years time we get an extended celebration which is definitely for us and not for the Queen’s jubilee...! I’m sorry it’s surrounded by such awful memories for you but I hope there will be some good ones soon ❤️

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I haven’t been on here for a while because I was kind of burying my head in the sand. I run a business which is classified as “essential” so I’ve had a lot to distract myself with from my miscarriage in October.

But now my period is a day late and my breast hurt on and off and now I’m in full panic mode. I’m so scared to take a test incase it’s positive... I feel so ridiculous but the thought of going through this again is so hard. I nearly cried at the idea of watching Call The Midwife earlier 🙈 I don’t think I’ve really dealt with what happened. And now I’m going to be super upset either way as part of me is really hopeful and the other part of me is so terrified. And I know I sound like a raving mad woman...

Sorry for posting in here but I think you guys probably get it...

Oh @ELM7 I’m so sorry- my second miscarriage was a pregnancy of unknown location so I know how hard it is 😔 please message me if you need to talk xx

@kamacs12
Welcome bck I work for the NHS so nothing has changed for me either which is good tbh. Take a test girl you never know got my fingers crossed for you. Just trying to get myself bck to normal wat ever that is after my 3rd miscarriage. Just waiting on an app coming through for the fertility consultant nw which should be Jan hoping 4th time lucky. You all sorted for Christmas 💚

@Babyghirl its so frustrating when due dates land on other memorable dates isn't it. It makes it harder to try and block out I find! I hope you are your loved ones have a very Happy Christmas and New Year - here's to a better year for us all, and some birthdays to celebrate at the end of it xxx

@chali7
I totally agree, hope you and your family have a very merry Christmas and here's to 2021 being a better year with lots of rainbow babies for us all. 🍀💚

@ELM7 🤞🏻I’m keeping everything crossed for you totally understand you wanting to stay off MN. Thinking of you xx

I’ve just taken a test and I’m pregnant again. And I feel overwhelmingly scared. I feel like my innocence has been stolen a little as I know I should be filled with joy. It’s the faintest of faint lines but it’s there. My symptoms are no where near as strong at the first time, I had implantation bleeding and nausea straight away. I’m going to try and look at this as a positive as something went wrong last time.

If anyone is still on here who’s had a miscarriage and then gone on to have a successful pregnancy I’d really appreciate the positive good news stories.

I also feel really sad because I should be telling everyone about my first pregnancy now... but fingers crossed this will be something good to come from it.

@Kamacs12 Massive congrats lovey! It is terrifying getting that BFP after loss, but you just have to tell yourself this is a new pregnancy and the odds are in your favour this time.

I was on these threads since Jan this year, after a MC in December last year. I got my BFP in May and am now 37 weeks! I still check in here, as I can’t wait to see all the lovely ladies here get their BFP’s!

There’s a thread that those of us who’ve been on these threads have moved over to, after our BFP’s, if you wanted to head over when you feel ready www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/4061185-Pregnant-after-miscarriage-part-4-TTC-graduates. It’s a real mix of people who’ve had their rainbow babies already, those who are very close and some who are earlier on in their pregnancies. It’s such a lovely support group (much like this thread!) for any anxieties and everything really! We all know how scary pregnancy after loss can be, so you’d be in good company ❤️

@ELM7 I'm so sorry lovely. I hope you've been seen by EPU. Know that we will all still be here for support when or if you come back on MN. Thinking of you.xxx

@Kamacs12 that's great news!! Congratulations!! Unfortunately it really is hard to not think the worst in the beginning but it will get easier the more milestones you reach. This is a different pregnancy and no reason for this not to be a successful one😊