🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 4 🦕

[Annny27]

Hi everyone,

Setting up the new thread for us - we have come a long way since January and sadly a few of us are still on the "journey". Let's hope we arent here for much longer. Wishing us all baby dust (although its been so long I am not sure dust will do it for me - maybe will have to up the particle size to "baby sand" )

Ttc ladies:
@Fizzl
@Nuggetlover27
@ELM7
@Ljm0101
@Abi0795
@Babyghirl

And our recent bfps who i know like to check in :)
@Leok83
@scrumdiddly123
@SunnySideUp2020

Aww Ladies I feel like an idiot. Af due today and since Saturday id been symptom spotting I’d convinced myself I was pregnant. It’s been a long time since I did that 🙈 so on my way home from work I bought a pregnancy test first one in about 6 months. BFN!! When will I learn

@Fizzl that's great that everything is where it should be even if you didn't get to see the HB, but I'd definitely say that late implantation could be the reason for measuring slightly behind so try not to worry!
I know I had my first scan at 7 weeks and the wait was absolute torture but the Hb was clearly visible then so looking back was good to wait but I'd no option to get an earlier scan though! It's amazing just how slow those first few weeks go. They make the TWW seem fast!

Thanks for your reassurances everyone. Fingers crossed it will all be good news when I go back in a few weeks. I'm sure there's good reason why the dates could be a little out. I don't think they mentioned anything about the fetal pole 🤔 but to be honest I don't think I really took it all in. At one point I asked a question and was told quite simply in response that 'there is no baby yet' so that kind of wobbled me (there may have been a tear at that point 😬). I know they do this day in day out and it's routine and very medical/factual to them but I was a bit taken back by how bluntly she said it. I think I was probably being a bit sensitive tho as my husband could see the point she was making, as could I but I probably just expected it to be said a little more gently. I always seem to have these little gripes with medical professionals 😂 I think it must be me. I honestly appreciate tho it's a tough job and compassion must wear very thin overtime. My husband even jokingly said yesterday that they must think I'm coming across a right diva 🤨 not sure what he means!

I've been feeling quite nauseous/rough since yesterday afternoon/evening (which is new for me as never had this in my previous pregnancy) so hoping that's a good sign (hopeful!). I wanted this sicky feeling as I thought I'd feel more reassured but now I don't know 🤦🏼‍♀️

@27DONFIN sorry it was a negative. We like to cling on to hope and unnecessarily torture ourselves that's why we do it 💐

@Fizzl I don’t think you’re being sensitive to say that to someone in our situation is insensitive. I’d of broke at that too.

Thanks but Af is on her way have awful cramps. I’m so over trying I just want out of this monthly cycle so badly. I’m thinking of taking a break and concentrating on losing some weight to see if that helps this whole process x

How everyone today just an update I have contraction like pain today last time I had this I passed the placenta the same day so if that happens today I will know its all over. Bleeding has really eased of nw thank god its like a norm period waa like this last time to when placenta passed through to. Will just test in to weeks to c if it's nagitive and I can move forward with hopefully getting my rainbow baby. 🍀💚

Hey all
Thanks for all your reassurances about fertility help. You're all so supportive 💖
My blood test Monday was fine. Not sure when I will get the results but will call the dr if no news in a week. I'm 11DPO today and think AF is going to show her head today 😔 hoping my tests give me some answers soon

@Fizzl sorry that your scan seeemed to cause you more worry than it helped 😔 it's good that you got your injections though and like the others have said try not to worry too much and I'm sure that your next scan will be a positive one 🤞🏻 I would have been sensitive at the comment too hun so don't worry about it. I have also found some of the people I've seen to be quite abrupt. Like you say they deal with it everyday but day is it's new , you'd think they would be more caring and reassuring

@27DONFIN so sorry for your BFN 😔 it's cruel what we do to ourselves. Every month I tell myself "don't convince yourself you're pregnant" and every month around AF I do it! This journey is cruel and one I wouldn't wish on anyone 💖

@Babyghirl glad that it's almost all over for you so you can move forward. Your positivity always amazes me. After all you've been through. I would be a complete wreck and have no positivity left. You're an inspiration 💖💖

@nuggetlover27
Thank you for your kind words, I have to be positive or I would loss my mind I know I will get my rainbow baby I just have to be patient I have had the raw deal and have been the 1 in 100 to have three losses in a row, but my want for a baby is way more stronger than my fear of losing another one. I'm going to let my body rest to my fertility specialist app comes through they said that could be 8 to 12 weeks so not to long hopefully to wait xxx

Good morning girls I have just phoned early pregnancy unit waiting on them phoning me bck just want a scan to make sure everything has gone for reassurance if nothing else, had a lot off discomfort yesterday and in to the nite don't know if it was my urters going bck to normal size or I'm really consapated to really bad. Pain has eased off this morning thank god get a bit off a break never dosed off to 3 this morning with my hot water bottle, fingers crossed they scan me to settle my mind 💚🍀

Morning everyone :) I am about 5 or 6 dpo now. I actually had to check, thats how un obsessive I am being this month haha! Plus I had brie last night so deffo enjoying my tww 🤣

@babyghirl fingers crossed they can see you! I had some cramps for a little bit afterwards but its always good to have you concerns reassured by the nurses!

@Nuggetlover27 sorry you think AF is on the way :( hopefully next week they can tell you your progesterone level! I got my results after 6 days and I phoned up and asked the receptionist for my levels

@27DONFIN sorry for the BFN :( nd that you think AF is on the way! It might be worth not taking time off completely but just having sex whenever you want and not tracking your cycle. (Its hard to do when I get very distinct ovulation signs!)

@fizzl good on you if you do manage to wait 2 weeks! I remember the wait between scans to see if i had actually lost the baby was torture!!! Felt like an eternity haha

And yes, late implantation will impact dates so I dont think you have anything to worry about :D how are the injections going?

AF arrived yesterday afternoon. It’s been an emotional few days hid in the toilet at work way too many times for a cry...breakdown lol Iv deactivated my fb this morning as what should be seen as a lovely post by someone I know announcing her birth of her 2nd child. I burst out crying when I read it and felt so jealous she’s had a 2nd baby very quickly after her first. Then I was emotional cause I felt awful and guilty feeling that way. So I deactivated it for my own sanity

@27DONFIN
I deactivate mine ages ago cause of all the baby posts and pregnancy posts best thing I done I was so angry when I had it and found I have calmed down an awful lot x

Well how you ladies holding up, well all my pains have eased up thank god got a good nites sleep last nite bleeding eased of just the brown blood now hoping it stops soon have to do a test nxt week fingers crossed its nagitive for me, strange how we look forward to seeing a positive then pray its nagitive so we know everything is back to normal.
@fizzl how you doing girl.
@Annny27 well how's the tww going for you.

Just catching up, @Fizzl that’s great that the pregnancy is in the right place and you can start your injections! The same happened to me when I went for my first scan, should have been 6 weeks but only saw yolk sac and fetal pole and said baby was measuring between 5 and 6 weeks. I went back 12 days later and she was measuring 7weeks and 4 days! It’s an awful wait but hang in there xx

Morning all

AF has arrived for me 😔 I managed to start convincing myself yesterday that I'd succeeded this month.
It's such a blow when AF comes. 😭 on to the next month.
I'm so with you @27DONFIN This journey never gets any easier

@nuggetlover27
Sorry af got you this month it's heart breaking every month the witch turns up. Hope and pray nxt month is your month 🍀💚🤞🙏

Morning ladies :) half way through tww for me, nothing atall to report 🙈

@Babyghirl glad it looks like it is over! Has the beown spotting finished? Mine went on for about a week the spotting

@Nuggetlover27 so sorry AF arrived :( do you have any tests this month e.g day 1-5 bloods?

@27DONFIN I had a phase not too long ago of being very upset and jealous hearing if other women's pregnancies. Now I am not so bad but it still does hurt! Sending love xx

@fizzl that's promissing that @scrumdiddly123 had a similar scan experience ☺

@Annny27 thanks

@Nuggetlover27 sorry Af is here. I’m having a crap time with it just now so sorry Iv not motivational chat for you. But sending love 💕🥰

@Annny27
Just brown spotting still just when I wipe mostly, tmi lol I so can't wait to its gone I'm craving the intimacy with oh again just to feel close to him again have not been close from I found out I was pregnant so somewhat need it. Xx

Hello :) how’s everyone been doing? I haven’t been on MN in a while as I’ve been trying not to brood.

I think I’ve blocked out what’s happened in the main (although that’s probably not healthy). I’ve been pretty obsessive about checking if I’m ovulating. And I think maybe in the next few days...

Has anyone in here had experience of trying the same month as a miscarriage? Hospital told me to wait but everything online seems to suggest there isn’t really any reason to?

@Babyghirl how’s it all going? Any news on when your consultation will be?

@Fizzl so happy to hear your pregnancy is going well ❤️

@kamacs12
No word yet bleeding nearly gone just the brown on wiping but not loads off it. I'm doing OK thank you but think I'm going to leave ttc again until I get an app don't think I could go through this a 4th time, there a load off threads where people trying straight after a loss have a look in to them how you doing x

Hi everyone 😄 hope you're all doing well. I've been trying to forget about things as much as I can. So far so good, this weeks gone strangely quickly - I thought time would be dragging.

How are you doing @Babyghirl? Have you had a scan? I remember that feeling well when I desperately wanted my tests to turn negative. They didn't for weeks and i was spotting for what felt like forever. I ended up having bloods taken to figure out what was going on. Only a few days later my period arrived. I hope this is all over for you soon 💐

@Nuggetlover27 Im glad it's not just me! I really appreciate it must be a tough job and I couldn't do it but how they share things really makes a huge difference to how you feel and how reassured you are. Sorry AF arrived, How are you doing?

@Annny27 I think I will survive the two weeks without caving - this week has gone so quick. I've actually surprised myself, I thought I'd be climbing the walls but I actually just feel quite calm and resigned to the fact that whatever happens is out of my control. Oooh I miss Brie! I normally love ALL the cheese at Christmas - hopefully that won't be he case this year. Small sacrifice hopefully 😬. I'm starting the injections tomorrow. Long story but turns out there is a national shortage (nothing is ever straight forward!) and the pharmacy needed to order them in. I'm ok with it tho because I figured I'm probably only just around the 6 week mark now so I'm feeling now is a good time to start. Wish me luck - I'm not great with needles 😂. I hope the rest of the tww goes quickly for you.

@27DONFIN sorry you're having a tough time. Social media can be really hard. I remember having a few meltdowns over Facebook announcements. Then feeling guilty about it. Remember it's ok, it's not that you're not happy for them you're sad for yourself and what you've lost and that's totally understandable and justified.

@scrumdiddly123 ah thank you! That is reassuring to hear. I'm feeling o.k and hopeful everything will be fine when we go back but there's always that niggling at the back of your mind!

@Kamacs12 thank you! So far so good 🤞 I was advised to wait one month just to be certain there was no retained tissue (sorry I hate that word!). If you're period doesn't arrive and you keep getting faint positives it's hard for them to determine whether it's a new pregnancy or still tissue from your previous one. But otherwise there's no reason you can't - there's no associated risks with another loss as far as I'm aware

@fizzl
No they won't scan me until I test nxt week to c if it nagitive, if its still positive I have to phone them, I'm just hoping it's all gone. How r you feeling hope all is going well and baby is doing well xx

Morning ladies! 9 or 10dpo, nothing not normal symptom wise. Boobs are slightly less sore already which makes me think maybe period will arrive sooner than 14 days but we will see!

@Kamacs12 I had thrush and an infection immediately after the miscarriage so I didnt try the first month. If you had a d&c they recommend not trying because your lining is too thin the immediate month after. But with a natural miscarriage I think you are okay to try straight away

@Babyghirl thats good that its tampering off! No i totally get you, after months of not being intimate, its nice :)

@fizzl well done for keeping sane! Are you having to inject them yourself daily? Ahh I feel for you I wouldnt enjoy that :S but its a small price to pay for your rainbow 🥰🥰 when is your scan?

How's everyone else doing? Xxx

@Annny27
The month I found out I had none of the same symptoms I would norm have when my period is due, my boobs where not sore the way the norm where either they started to get sore after my positive test 🙏🤞🍀💚