🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 4 🦕

[Annny27]

Hi everyone,

Setting up the new thread for us - we have come a long way since January and sadly a few of us are still on the "journey". Let's hope we arent here for much longer. Wishing us all baby dust (although its been so long I am not sure dust will do it for me - maybe will have to up the particle size to "baby sand" )

Ttc ladies:
@Fizzl
@Nuggetlover27
@ELM7
@Ljm0101
@Abi0795
@Babyghirl

And our recent bfps who i know like to check in :)
@Leok83
@scrumdiddly123
@SunnySideUp2020

@Annny27 great news about the progesterone! My 20 week scan isn't for another 3 weeks which seems like a lifetime away! Will actually be nearly 21 weeks then and booked that privately as the hospital don't have me booked for another 4 and a half weeks when I'll be 23-24 weeks! Couldn't wait that long and also DH gets to come to the private one (hopefully as we've just entered back to top level restrictions here today😔)

@ELM7 hopefully it won't be much longer until you get your BFP and good to have gotten started with booking in for tests too. I've permanently got my 🤞 for all of you!xx

@Kamacs12 so sorry you have had to join here although it's a great group for support. Even though it's the most heart wrenching painful thing now that pain does ease bit by bit but it takes time. Do whatever you need to do to make it easier on you. xx

Good morning ladies just checking in how yous all doing,
@kamacs12 sorry you find yourself on this group but it's an amazing group to be on be gentle with yourself it's a roller-coaster you will never forget but will learn to deal with it. These ladies have helped me so much after 2 miscarriages and 3 long years of ttc I got my 3rd bfp coming 6 weeks ago. I'm far from out off the woods yet got a scan tomara so just praying all goes well. 💚🍀

I still haven't passed the baby. That's been 4 and a half weeks now. I'm having cramps and tightenings pretty much constantly but the bleeding has stopped. Hospital said they'd see me next Wed again and will do D&C after that. I just need this physical bit to be over so I can start to move on x

@ejay84
Sorry your going this and things start to move along, when you have went through a loss its weird feeling you just want it over and done with so u can start to move on. Hopefully things start to happen soon and you can start to grive and heal xx

@Babyghirl thank you. I hope all is progressing well with your pregnancy. Hopefully I'll get my chance again too x

@ejay84
Thank you got a scan tomara my anxiety is bad but all I can do is pray after 2 losses I'm living on the edge until I know everything is OK, you will get there girl just give yourself time to heal there no right or wrong on how long that is with me I went straight in to ttc again as it took me nearly. A year both times to fall pregnant and took me nearly a year this time around to and being 37 time is not on my side. You will know what's right for u and just go with it but I can say the times I have fell pregnant is the months I totally relaxed and just in joyed being with dp again and nt stressing stopped temping and everything else use to hate when people told me to relax it would happen but they where right. I know them words will annoy u as they did with me but it does help xx

We're planning to TTC again soon too. I'm going to be 36 on Friday. so time isn't really on my side either. I'm so sorry you've been through this more than once. x

@ejay84
I'm prepared for the worst case scenario tomara so nt to get my hopes up and come down with a bang, but praying everything is fine. Its a whole new level of anxiety being pregnant again after a loss.

I can't even imagine it. No wonder you're anxious. I'll keep everything crossed for you. How are u symptom wise? x

Good luck for tomorrow @Babyghirl

Sorry you're still going through this @EJay84 💐.

How's everyone else?

Thanks everyone for the comments, it really helps to know I’m not alone ❤️ We had a scan today to confirm everything is gone. Really sad and not really sure what to say. Just feel completely deflated.

We’re going to start TTC straight away as I just want to know if we’re going to continue having issues now... going to temp check for this month only as I just want to check I’ve started to ovulate. Really don’t want to put too much pressure on it.

@Babyghirl good luck for your scan, although I don’t think you need it xx

Morning all
Hope you're all okay. Nothing to really update on my end, currently CD17. Had some cm the last couple days , but can never tell if it's from me or left over from DH (sorry tmi)
I'm not testing or temping. I am planning on having my 7 days before af blood test this cycle to check my progesterone, then when af comes I will have my day 3-5 bloods to check lots of other things.
I'm stressing a bit about how I'm going to know when it's 7 days before af?! I mean it's hard to tell when I'm ov on a normal month when I'm testing but when I'm not, how can I be sure? Especially after being sure in previous months that ov was CD24-28 and then last month af arriving on day 29. So so confused
Struggling a lot at the moment to be honest 💔

Good luck for your scan today @Babyghirl

@Annny27 good news about your progesterone one less thing to worry about :)

How are you doing @Fizzl ?

@ELM7 I'm with you, I never thought it would be this long either 💔

@EJay84 sorry you're going through a tough time 💐

@Kamacs12 sorry to find you here. It's such a tough time. I spent a lot of time crying then when I thought I was okay I would randomly bust into tears. It is, as the other girls have said a rollercoaster 💐

Unfortunately 3rd loss for me girls I'm done can't go through this no more. I feel like I don't want to be here no more would be an easy option just to go but I know I can get through this.

Oh no @Babyghirl I'm so sorry 💐💐💔💔

I will reply to everyone else later

@babyghirl I am so so sorry for your loss! I can only imagine the pain you and your partner are going through! Do you have anyone that you can talk to? Yes, you can get through this and your life has meaning in spite of your heartbreak 💔

We are here if you ever want to rant or talk but totally would understand if you want to leave mumsnet and never come back

You will be in our thoughts today 💗💗

@Babyghirl oh I'm so sorry 😔 this is such devastating news. Take care of yourself 💐

@Kamacs12 @EJay84 how are you both getting on?

@Babyghirl I’m so sorry my heart goes out to you and your partner. I know today and probably for a few weeks/months you will feel that way it’s only natural. Take each day as it comes be kind to yourself. And if you feel ready to do all this again then we will all be hear for you. 💚💚💚

@fizzl @27DONFIN @Annny27
Thank you just tired and drained having a bed day with dp waiting on things happening brown bleeding has started so hoping things move along soon and it's not a dragged out process. Just can't believe I'm the1% of the ladies who has had 3, 4 if you Count my cp that was the first time 4 years ago this march coming. Really fell like a failure and have convinced myself I'm the worst partner around as I can't even do wat I put her to do and that kills me 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

@Babyghirl I am so so sorry to see your update. I can only imagine your heartbreak of going through the loss again.

Take time, be kind to yourself and remember we are here for you if you want to talk/vent/rant.

Take care x

@ELM7
Thank you im taking it easy with dp having a bed day waiting an a Chinese coming. Hoping it does not drag out and its over with quickly. Xx

@Babyghirl I am so so sorry. I can’t even begin to imagine how you’re feeling right now. But you are absolutely not to blame. This isn’t your fault, and you are not defined by this. It’s an absolutely terrible situation and I wish there was something more comforting that I could say. I’m sending all the virtual love I can your way xxxxx

@27DONFIN taking every day as it comes. Apparently today is a very angry day... I feel pretty empty. I’m trying to step away from google and these forums now because I think I’m becoming a bit obsessed and fixated.

@Kamacs12 I totally understand that. It’s so easy to fall down the google worm hole you search one thing and next thing you are 50 search’s deep into a total different topic. So easy to be consumed by it all. I can only come on here when my heads in the right place. Sending love don’t let google get you lol xx

@Babyghirl thinking of you today 💚🥰

@Nuggetlover27 I'm doing good thanks. It still feels a bit surreal like my excitement and nerves are cancelling each other out! I'm just trying to put things to the back of my mind for now as whatever happens it's out of my control.

That's a good point about your bloods - not sure how you can tell if you have irregular cycles! If you have textbook regular cycles then I suppose you could hazard a guess but in your situation I'm not sure. I had to chart to know when I ovulated, I know it can be stressful but maybe you could do it for one month just so you know your dates are right? It might feel more stressful if you're results aren't accurate and could cause a lot of stress and worry for you 💐 it's so difficult though

@Babyghirl thinking of you today 💐

@fizzl
@27DONFIN
@kamacs12
Thank you girls I'm getting my head around it think now I knw the fertility clinic will investigate more and hopefully nxt time will be lucky xx