Our first month ttc our first

[rosiej95]

As soon as AF disappears, which will be soon 🤞 me & my partner will be ttc :)
I've been keeping an eye on my cycles for a little while using the flo app & have been taking pregnacare.
Is there anything else we should know or do to help prepare ourselves? :)
Exited to go on this roller coaster of a journey & as no one knows of our plans would be lovely to hear off people ttc too :) xx

[rosieb060]

Trying. Terrified & excited. Hoping I might be pregnant- AF due Friday, and at latest Sunday.

I had three days of light bleeding about six days after I think I ovulated, so keeping my fingers crossed. I have also been exhausted, very sleepy slightly nauseous at times, and had some cramping on one side. All of this is really unusual for me.

I haven't tested yet, but just cried at the thought I might get a negative.

[beckyBP]

That all sounds very positive @rosieb060 especially the bleed. 🤞🏽 for you x

[rosieb060]

Thank you @beckyBP

[maudesid]

Anyone tested yet? AF arrived yesterday so it's a no over here and was a 42 day cycle which is so frustrating. Feel like I don't know my body at all!

[somanystars]

@maudesid BFN on a FRER at 11DPO over here so thinking I'm probably out :(

[rosieb060]

@maudesid oh I'm sorry to hear.

I'm holding off til Sunday, or maybe even Monday.

I go in cycles of feeling like I need to test NOW, and feeling more like- everything in its time, if I leave it, my body will let me know either way!

[rosiej95]

@maudesid Sorry to hear AF arrived.

I tested yesturday using a clear blue 6 days early & thought I seen a line but then done the digital this morning & it said not pregnant so Ive assumed I'm out for this month as I'm due AF at the end of the weekend.

[maudesid]

It's crap isn't it?! We all know it is unlikely to happen straight away and will probably take a little while but then you actually start ttc and you get sucked straight in. I keep thinking I really hope I'm pregnant by Christmas..

[rosiej95]

@maudesid very! So easy to get sucked into it!
I've told my partner I want to start taking it a bit more seriously & DTD a lot more next cycle 😂
I don't think it helps cause every little thing your like ooo is that a symptom? 🙈

[rosieb060]

@maudesid Yesterday I was desperate to find out and be pregnant, today I feel really calm and ready to take all the time in needs.

This whole thing messes with your head.

[rosieb060]

@rosiej95 apparently, it's worth DTD in a quality way- high quality DTD = better sperm?


www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2009/mar/22/fertility-problems-relationships

'The better their quality of love-making, the greater their chances of conception, scientists say. What one fertility expert calls "gourmet sex" - where both partners take time to ensure the other has a satisfying experience - gives a couple the best chance of producing a baby.'

[beckyBP]

I tested this morning 10dpo BFN! 👎🏽

[rosieb060]

Sorry @beckyBP

[somanystars]

AF got me 😩😩 To be expected really as it's only cycle 1 but still feeling a little down. I was kind of hoping that even if AF had to come it could hold off just a little as I'm concerned about my 10 day LP and was hoping it might lengthen a bit as it's now been three months since I came off hormonal BC. Ah well. DH and I are going to watch a rubbish film and eat some sweets I think.

[beckyBP]

Sorry @somanystars it sucks!

Girls I'm going mad.. AF due today had the teeniest bit of blood in CM earlier when I wiped (Soz) and now CM is quite yellow (again, sorry!) more than normal. Feeling very much internally like AF is en route but holding onto a tiny bit of hope!

[Bumble84]

@rosiej95 I see you’ve been off the pill for a while and tracking cycles which is good.

I’m pregnant just now after about 18months ttc. We went to the drs and had been added to the IVF list and then tada! I’m much older than you though.

Tips I’ve picked up along the way. Definitely track cycles, the Ovia app is pretty good but don’t simply trust when it says you’ll ovulate. I did eventually try ovulation sticks but I was getting desperate so I wouldn’t say you need them yet.

Dr advised us to have sex every other day throughout the ovulation period so that you maximise chances that you don’t miss the ovulation day. He also said to make sure partner has an ahem deposit every other day up to and around ovulation (if we didn’t have chance to have sex) reason being apparently dead sperm can build up and so your bit getting his best swimmers!

Start taking a pre natal vitamin, although I’m sure you will be.

The biggest and hardest thing to do is relax and try and not make sex a chore.

[Canni19]

This is our first month trying to conceive. My period was supposed to start today (23rd August) but on Wednesday 19th I had some dark brown spotting when I wiped. Early hours of Thursday I had what I think may have been my period, wasn’t very heavy but wasn’t light either, looked like it was mixed and a bit watery too. Friday I stopped bleeding around 11, changed my pad then and nothing else. Could I have just had a really short period or could this have been A heavier implantation bleeding? Think I’m clutching at straws and hoping for something that’s not there.

[rosieb060]

@Canni19 could be. I think the only way to be sure is to test x

[rosiej95]

@Bumble84 Thankyou for this ❤️
So informative.
I've been on vitamins for months now as well & have downloaded ovia to see how that goes :)
I'm not wanting to do ovulation sticks just yet, its only our first month going into second month & I still wanna be a little chilled about it all ☺️


So I'm as confused as ever,
So I took a clear blue 6 days early detection the other day & thought I seen a line it is very very faint but thought I could see it.
After looking into these I read it could have been a dodgy one as they are known for giving faint lines
So I took a digital one the next morning & it came back as not pregnant so assumed I was out
I then got told there not as sensitive & to get a FRER. So I've done one this morning & I think there could be the faintest line, but I'm unsure weather my eyes are playing tricks on me.
My boobs are feeling a little achy & burny and my belly is bloated & sometimes crampy & can feel like trapped wind.
I would have thought that if there was a line it would be a little stronger? 🤷🏼‍♀️
I'm 12 or 13 dpo
So I've Decided I'm just going to wait for AF to make her appearance.
I'm very much in the mindset now where if it happens amazing if it doesn't theres always next month to enjoy 😂
Just frustrating not knowing 🙈

[rosieb060]

BFN. I thought it would be but I'm still really, really sad.

[Helenmelon92]

Hi all, can I join? I've been desperate for a baby for years but hubby wasn't quite ready, so we finally started TTC last month! I have slightly irregular periods so am expecting it to take a while. DTD every 2-3 days, got BFN's this month, but knowing it'll take a while doesn't make it any less sad does it? 😔 AF due anytime from now to the next week or 2 but no signs yet!

[beckyBP]

Oh hey AF 👋🏽 😫

TTC is way more stressful and emotional than I thought.

Hope everyone is ok

[rosiej95]

@beckyBP 😞 hope your ok ❤️

I'm still waiting for AF to show.
She should be due tomorrow ish? If she's not hear by Thursday/Friday I'm going to take another test.
I refuse to buy any more until then. I've already spent £40 & essentially wasted them! 🙈 (haven't told my BF that tho 😂)

[AlwaysLay8]

Wow so after all my carefully laid out 'strategies' I never got a positive OPK this month which totally threw me off...was gonna DTD for three days in a row when I got the positive but I never did so just continued to DTD every other day. Now I don't know what is going on with my cycle, did I not ovulate?! Did I ovulate but my OPK missed it? Everything seemed normal last month. Confusinggggggg

[RLou3]

Good luck! I’m new to mumsnet.. would love to join this chain. We will be ttc for baby #1 this month!! Just waiting for cycle to end. I’m estimating that I will be ovulating around the 5th September! I’ve already convinced myself that I’m going to struggle - with no real reason of thinking this way. I’m just a born worrier and become consumed and worried about everything I do! Yes, extremely draining. Already dreading this process.

I’ve been using ovulation sticks for the past couple of months to make sure I’m ovulating - which I have been. So that I’m prepared and ready. Also have been taking pregnancy supplements. Not sure if any of you have seen the Luisa zissman website with her maybe baby page, where she recommends certain pregnancy supplements to start taking before trying?? She swears by them and was told to take them by a leading fertility specialist. I’m waffling...

Good luck to everyone .. I’m already drained/ excited to join this chain with you all ❤️❤️❤️