NEWBIE 🙋🏼‍♀️ TTC first baby - anyone else new to the journey?

[beckyBP]

Hey ladies,

Thought I'd start a new thread for anyone new to this like me 🙋🏼‍♀️

We're TTC after a change of plans when COVID postponed our wedding 🙄

Currently cycle 1 of TTC WITH AF due in 3 days.. I think I can feel it coming tbh.

Didn't use any form of ovulation tracker other than Flo (which I've used to track period for years) this cycle.

AF came at the weekend, I did atleast figure that I’m allowed to drink this weekend though 😂 silver lining.

Let the next cycle begin!

Ah sorry to hear that @PinkPlantCase but well done on finding the positive and I bloody hope you treated yourself! 👏🏽👏🏽

I feel like once you're over the initially arrival of AF it's actually fine isn't it and like a time to reset xx

@PinkPlantCase every cloud has a silver lining ehh? Lol enjoy having a little drink while you can.

Yeah, I figured I’d be more annoyed If AF didn’t come AND I wasn’t pregnant.

I’ll ovulate this month around our wedding anniversary which will be nice 😁

Sorry to hear that AF has started @PinkPlantCase, still, make the most of it while you can

I'm currently on CD28, no idea when AF is due as my cycles have ranged from 26 - 35 days long these last six months. Though my last cycle was 35 days so I'm going to go with that. Fully expecting it to arrive, so I'm hoping I won't be too disappointed if/when it does. Though I'm sure I will be!

I've no idea how many DPO I am, as I've had several LH surges though my app is telling me I'm 10DPO, as it thinks my highest (and first) LH surge was when I ovulated.

Oh hey AF 👋🏽 😫

TTC is way more stressful and emotional than I thought.

Hope everyone is ok

@beckyBP sorry that AF has arrived again! How are you feeling?
I'm very jealous, I am on cycle day 43, going out of my mind 😬😬

Sorry to hear AF has come @beckyBP. All we can do is keep trying, and fingers crossed that this cycle is your lucky one.

I'm trying to wait until the end of the week before I take a test, but it's a struggle!

Awh how annoying @beckyBP 😕 still new cycle and all.

We’ve found this month quite frustrating. I’m due to ovulate tomorrow and DH has started getting performance anxiety. He won’t finish or can’t keep it up. And it is doing my head in!!!

We did it 3 days before ovulation as thankful I’m ovulating early this month so we were DTD when there was less pressure.

It so annoying when tomorrow is literally the last day for a whole month. Ive suggested watching something to get us in the mood but he thinks baby making should be a magical affair 🙄

I don’t really care if it’s magical I just want to get pregnant.

@PinkPlantCase that does sound so frustrating, and I can really relate. Sex between me and DP has become completely different while TTC, and not in a good way! It feels like we're having to do it because the time is right, rather than wanting to do it.

Do you tell your DH when you're coming up to ovulation? Just wondering if he'd find it easier if he was oblivious to where you are in your cycle?

@Meg87 I think I might not track ovulation next month, I’d don’t think I could track it and not tell him. It’s so frustrating that we have to wait another month to try again if it hasn’t worked this time.

The problem is that we only normally have sex once a week, occasionally twice so if we carried on as normal and completely took the pressure off it would take us ages to conceive especially if I wasn’t tracking my cycle.

I have suggested the cup and syringe idea... I know it’s still early days but I don’t see the point in waiting until we’re months down the line and then going for the cup when we could do it this month and give ourselves the best chance.

I’m also trying hard not to be a dick about it 😂

Ahhhh such a great group! I’m on the postponed wedding bandwagon too. Although I’m actually quite surprised at how many girls are squeezing babies in before their wedding haha. Not in a bad way it’s just fitting into that dress isn’t it!

Our wedding was supposed to be in July but we’ve pushed it to August next year - not TTC but I’m so broody haha. We said we would start trying this year after the wedding but now it’s moved to next year we agreed to wait until after August 2021. Although I keep hinting I’d be happy if we had one now

HOWEVER, I’m incredibly late for my period this month. Usually I’m only on a 26-27 day cycle and it’s now cd 32 and no sign (I think?!) of AF. Tested on Sunday and it was a BFN, today I’ve had the tiniest bit of brown discharge this morning but nothing more. Usually I start bleeding soon after. Really odd! Had cramps for about a week now but havent has any of my usual pms this month. Bit annoyed this has happened as I was happy to wait until next year and now this has got me really hoping there’s going to be a baby on the way. And if AF shows I think I’ll be so disappointed. Oh well! Fingers crossed for everybody waiting! Xx

Thanks ladies! It really is so hard isn't it!

@doublecheeseburgermediumfries I'm fine now! Thanks for asking. When AF arrives I'm gutted but now I'm excited for cycle 3 TTC! Wow! That's a long cycle. Could it be a BFP?

@PinkPlantCase ah how frustrating for you. It's so annoying when you just need him to perform! Poor men.. I bet they think we're all crazy 🤪

I think we all have this idea of how we would like our babies to be conceived and then when AF comes for the first time in you're like.. I don't care how just get me pregnant 😂🙈

I agree with you @Meg87 about maybe not telling him when you're ovulating!

Welcome @Max31 that does sound like early symptoms. What test did you use? It sucks about the wedding doesn't it, we've just postponed for the 2nd time and I have no idea when we'll be rebooking. TTC has become my priority xx

@beckyBP No definitely not a BFP unfortunately! I had flashy smileys at the back end of July but didn't get a static smiley (again🙄). I just get these horrible long cycles sometimes! My longest one was in Jan/Feb which was 45 days so if AF doesn't arrive today/tomorrow/the day after I might beat my personal record 🥳

I don't think men get it at all. I might try not sharing when it's ovulation time next cycle! Right now he doesn't deserve the excitement of seeing a flashy smiley face!! Mine thinks this is going to be a walk in the park! A breeze! There's always next month! 44 days? That's not too bad how long should they be?
Pal, I am a ticking time bomb of hormones right now do not say that's too bad!

Fingers crossed for you @Max31, it might have been too early maybe? Have you tested since?

I’m really looking forward to someone on this thread having some news, it can’t take us all forever 😂

We managed to DTD the day before ovulation in the end so I now have EVERYTHING crossed.

My fingers are crossed for you @PinkPlantCase. The days just before ovulation are meant to be your most fertile so you're in with a good chance!

I have some news... I took a test earlier and saw a line! Though at exactly the same time as taking the test I bled a bit! So confused. That was about 7 hours now and nothing since so I'm trying to stay optimistic...

@Meg87 Oh congratulations!! Hurray one of us us made it 🤣🤣

I think small amounts of bleeding can be normal, it couldn’t have been implantation bleed as I think the embryo has to implant before you can get a positive test. Fingers crossed for you!

How have you got on with not telling people? I’m going to find it so hard to not tell everyone when we finally do get a positive test.

Thank you @PinkPlantCase yeah that's why I'm a bit worried - I know you can get implantation bleeding but it must have already implanted, so why the bleeding?

I've definitely got myself into a mindset of it not sticking. Every time I go to the toilet now I'm expecting there to be more blood, so I'm finding it quite easy not telling people! Once it seems a bit more definite I think it will be a struggle. I've been trying to decide at what stage I'll tell my parents, and I've no idea!

Congratulations @Meg87 take care of yourself and take it easy 🤞🏽🤞🏽 for you x

Love this chat! New here will try some of the abbreviations!

Did anyone go to docs for advice on TTC in early days? Or did you just start trying?

In the TWW are we supposed to not have any intercourse and just wait to do a pregnancy test or get AF? or is it OK to still do it haha?!

Thanks xx

@Sunshine2243 I spoke to the doctor because I needed to manage the medication I take and understand what I can carry on taking.

It was a really happy conversation tbh 😁 I’ve worked with this GP for years to try and manage chronic pain and it was lovely to speak about something so hopeful.

We’ve carried on DTD in the TWW and will take a test if my periods late. Though tests can work earlier than that.

To give implantation the best chance I have stopped drinking alcohol and I don’t drink caffeinated drinks anyway. Though of course people who do these do still get pregnant!

@Meg87 how have you been? How everything’s still going okay.

Hi @PinkPlantCase, I'm still pretty confused to be honest So, my miniscule amount of brown blood on Wednesday/Thursday turned into heavier red blood on Thursday/Friday (quite a bit lighter than the first couple of days of my period, and no lumps/clots but near enough filling up a sanitary towel amount), accompanied by period-like cramps - ouch, and a loss of the pregnancy symptoms I was previously experiencing. So, doesn't sound good! Though the bleeding has really reduced now. I knew it couldn't be as easy as getting pregnant on our first cycle trying!
I'll phone the doctor on Monday.
I feel like I've been a bit all over the place these last few days.

@PinkPlantCase Lovely glad it was a really positive experience for your at the Dr's, I think in 'normal' times I would have gone straight away but worry they wouldn't think it important now...
Thats good to know, we will just continue to DTD throughout the month to break up the waiting around time haha!

@Meg87 I hope you are OK and the docs can help you figure it out x