Starting TTC again after missed miscarriage part two

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Following on for from this thread, for all of us battling TTC after a MMC:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3910275-Starting-TTC-again-after-missed-miscarriage?pg=1

I caved in and tested today. It looks like a BFN although in some photos there's a shadowy line. I think BFN though. I'm around 4 days before AF, feeling nauseous today and been constipated for 4 days (sorry TMI). I'll retest on Monday before going to the hospital to be sure. Xx

Hmm I just had a bout of bleeding after I went for a wee, kind of like AF but it's 4 days early and I've not had the usual cramps etc. How odd! I'll keep checking this. Probably early AF, bit worried as to what's going on with my cycle though, 27 days is short for me xx

@PurplePansy05 how many dpo are you? Could it be implantation bleeding?

Hi @Threnody. No, definitely AF, I'm having cramps now and all. It's OK, I'll try again this month. How are you doing? Xx

Morning, hope everyone had a good weekend!
How are you this morning @PurplePansy05 ? Is it definitely AF?
@Threnody how are you doing? Xx

Ok, thanks @Carefree1. Just back from the hospital, yet again messy as usual, they didn't expect to come in today (ffs🙄). No hope they'll get it right this time. I am going to leave it till after my birthday and complain and book a private clinic (hopefully they're open). I can't listen to the "because of covid" excuse any more. How are you doing? Xx

@PurplePansy05 Fingers crossed for this month then!

I'm doing ok, thanks, the bleeding stopped. I now have a uti, and had to call the out of hours dr yesterday, who prescribed antibiotics. I had to take a urine sample to my drs this morning, and have to keep an eye out for any pains in case it is ectopic - so obviously now I'm over-analysing every twinge! I guess this was never going to be a relaxing time, but really!

Urgh @PurplePansy05 that’s so frustrating! Fingers crossed for this month for you and have fun over your birthday. Have you got plans?
@Threnody Sorry about that, they’re awful! Is there a possibility it was a really bad uti/kidney infection or something? Have you got work and plans to keep you busy to pass the time and keep your mind busy? Sorry you’re going through this

I’m doing ok - was meant to get my results today, but they’ve not called despite checking in this morning (surprise surprise). So I’ll have to ring again tomorrow.

Watching the most amazing and touching program..
Me, my brother and our balls..
it’s on bbc 1. So a British production... but it’s so fascinating to see a program informing men about their fertility and what effects it.. following these brothers and their journey to become dads... heartbreaking at times.. but to see how emotional they are is refreshing to see, I guess we only have experience of how this journey effects us..

@Carefree1 I don't know - I did wonder. Got lots to keep me busy - work is hectic at the moment, and my youngest's birthday is next week.
How annoying, but typical, that they didn't give you your results. Hope you get them tomorrow.

@Carefree1 Did you get your results?

Ladies, I feel a boost is needed. I'm conscious I've been moaning a lot because things aren't going great and I think generally with covid etc. it's bringing everyone's mood down. I don't know if you feel the same, certainly everyone I know is now feeling fed up/drained/had enough. I'm struggling with that too, alongside the baby related stuff.

I feel like a positive boost is needed. At the moment I can't be bothered to move much, eat well or do anything nice for myself. Does anyone have any positive thoughts? Maybe we can start a trend, as a "pick me up"? It's been such a hard time for all of us...

Glad you’ve got lots to keep you busy!

No, didn’t get my results yesterday, despite being promised a call back. So need to chase them again today. I know that they’re busy, but you’d think that by physically seeing less patients at the moment, the service would be better?

I thing you’re right @PurplePansy05, I think we’re all in need of a little boost. I’ve been a complete Debbie downer lately!

Finally got my results - all normal. I need to go back again in January to decide what next. GP told me to not be stressed or anxious because I can get pregnant, just takes me longer. And if I don’t stress it will be ok...
And don’t worry about irregular cycles, it’s normal. Be thankful you got pregnant.
I’m just raging to be honest 😂.
Didn’t see your comment @Chatbash72 I’ve not seen the programme, but I’ve seen the guys talk about it before - probably good that they’re being open about it and raising awareness to men not to be so embarrassed or whatever about their balls

@Carefree1 I can see why you're raging. I know where you're coming from. I suspect if my results come back normal I'll hear the same. But how can you just keep trying with such history of loss, or when you're trying for a while, how can you just tell yourself not to worry and to keep going.

I wish someone could tell us exactly what's going on, give us a medicine and a handhold for the future. Some guarantee that it will be ok.

But it's such a hard process with so many unknowns. With such randomness. Often with more questions than answers and no guarantees at all. I am struggling with that a lot, always have.

You're not alone It's a shit day. It's been a shit year, two for me. It can't possibly be that shit forever. This too shall pass, deep breaths.

I'll say something positive, the hospital rang me today to reassure me my tests are being processed correctly. Some results are already back and I'm having an appointment with the consultant on Monday, they've brought it forward because they "recognised I'm concerned about the previous issues". I am not holding my breath and I've already been in touch with a private clinic. I'll be going there for further tests, I've already decided. Looks like I'm going to be £2k lighter as a result, but hey. Such is life.

@PurplePansy05 thank you, some very wise words indeed .
That’s great that they’ve brought it forward, I hope that it goes to plan this time! At least they’ve acknowledged in a backwards way that they’ve messed up. Hopefully, they get it right and you won’t need to go private, but it’s good that the option might be available to you.
I’m a bit tempted to order one of those thrivia hormone blood tests that you do on day 3 of your cycle. I seem to have done a random blood test and the 21 day progesterone. Problem is that I’m impatient and I’ll want to do it right away rather than waiting who knows how long for AF 😂

Sending big big hugs to all you lovely ladies
#babylossawarenessweek

Thank you @Chatbash72, big hugs to you too. I'm doing the wave of light next week ❤️

Big hugs to you too @Chatbash72 hope you’re all having a lovely weekend xx

@PurplePansy05 how did your appointment go? X

Hi @Carefree1 thank you for asking, that's very sweet of you.

I was going to post earlier but I needed to gather my thoughts. The consultant was lovely and some things she said, well, she hit the nail on the head. I felt she really knew what she was talking about.

It turns out I am absolutely fine. I am a healthy woman. Bloods are fine. I have no apparent issues that would have negative impact on my pregnancies. The consultant's view is that I was just terribly unlucky especially at my age for it to happen three times in a row and that the reason was chromosomal and it might happen to anyone in any pregnancy. She was very clear that my history does not suggest the reason lies with me or DH. She will refer us for further genetic testing, but the only thing this may come back with is that we have an increased risk of MC for genetic reasons. There's a 2% chance of that. There's nothing that can be done about it, we still can have a healthy baby and the advice now, regardless of genetic testing results, is to continue trying. This is the only way, I need to take the risk. It's highly unlikely this would be NK cells, she said I can go for further tests in that regard privately, but that my results and history show this isn't an implantation issue and therefore NK cells problem is very unlikely.

She is very confident I will have a healthy baby eventually. There literally is no reason why not.

It makes it harder to digest that it's somehow happened three times already though. I'm struggling to comprehend that nothing else can be done. That I'm actually ok and yet I still don't have my little baby to cuddle. I'm welling up here cause I know I should be happy with the news, but it makes all these losses even more hurtful and unnecessary and I'm scared for the future.

She's putting me on progesterone and baby aspirin but it's purely a precaution and reassurance because I don't actually need either.

Don't really know what else to say. I think I'll have to bite the bullet again and again, who knows how many more times.

How are you?

How is everyone on the thread?

Are you coping ok this week?

Xx

It sounds that it was a fairly positive experience this time @PurplePansy05, I’m glad they made up for your poor experience last time.
It’s understandable that you might be disappointed there isn’t an ‘answer’ as such, but such good news that you’re ok. Like you said previously, we just wish there was a pill to make everything ok.
You will get your baby to cuddle I know it!

I’m ok thank you - I’ve booked bottomless brunch on Saturday and I’m so bloody excited! With 2 of my closest friends and we’ve not all been out together in such a long time as they both have little ones.
So much more upbeat this week! Xx

Just popping on to see how everyone is doing.

@PurplePansy05 Glad your appointment went well. Seems as though you had a positive experience for once. It must be good to know that everything is okay but also daunting at the same time that you just have to keep trying until you get your baby.

My period came 1 day early last month which is unusual for me, it’s usually bang on time. That also means my luteal phase was only 10 days. I’m wondering if it means my cycle is changing back to how it was before the MC, guess I’ll find out this month. All in all I’m feeling quite calm and positive. I don’t dread my period anymore, I can sort of brush it off and say “we’ll try again next month”. I think I’ve come to terms with the fact it might just take us a bit longer than others and that’s okay - as long as I have my healthy baby at the end of it which I’m sure I will 😊 x

Hi all, How is everyone doing?

I feel like we’re officially on the countdown to Christmas now 🤦‍♀️ Which seems crazy that this year has gone so fast with lockdown etc.

@WildflowerPetals that’s such a good outlook, I hope you’re well!

So after having my 21 day progesterone bloods last month - when I actually ovulated, it seems that this month I’ve not ovulated or at least not yet and I’m on cd23. But, my cycles are all over the place

Hi All

I hope it's okay to join. I am recovering from my missed miscarriage and back TTC again. Not had AF back yet but am three weeks post MMC and TTC again.

This page has given me so much hope in such a hard time. Congratulations too all the BFP.

Hi @Mustkeepgoing2

Sorry you find yourself here! So many ladies have got their bfps now, which is encouraging. There’s a couple of us still here though to chat to.

Use it to ask any questions/vent/chat whatever you like 😊. It’s awful, but there’s some comfort in talking to people who’ve experienced the same.