Starting TTC again after missed miscarriage part two

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Following on for from this thread, for all of us battling TTC after a MMC:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3910275-Starting-TTC-again-after-missed-miscarriage?pg=1

@Threnody Ah okay, I just assumed it happened the same time as my cycle is often the same length. I’ll attach a picture of my graph so far. I’m going to keep using OPK and BBT until the end of this week I think. I don’t know if that is definitely my peak or not as the test line wasn’t quite as dark as the control line on the OPK. This is my first time charting OPK and BBT so maybe I don’t have enough info yet.

Just done my OPK for the day - the test line is stronger than it was on my “positive” one on CD14 so maybe I didn’t ovulate then but will now 🤞🏼

@Sansa87 so sorry for your loss. Most of us have had messed up cycles after the MMC, some not for long but some slightly longer. My MVA was 15th May & I’m just finishing my first proper cycle without any spotting. FX yours is quick!

AF is definitely on her way, not a shock but still pretty gutted. It’s more the worry of what if it doesn’t happen next month either. Must try to stay positive & just enjoy life without obsessing!

@WildflowerPetals Looking at your chart, your peak is less than 1, so that usually means a test line lighter than the control. It might have been a mini peak before your surge, I had that on CD12, then my actual peak on CD18. Fingers crossed ovulation is on it's way! I usually start testing twice a day once the lines are getting darker so I don't miss the surge, as I had one month where it was really short.

@Starfish762 ah, sorry af is coming.

@Threnody Thanks for the advice 😊 The test line was lighter than the control but because the lines faded the days following that the app identified it as my peak and I think that’s why it confused me. But the OPK today is definitely as dark as if not darker than the control! I’m going to test again tonight but I don’t finish work until 8 😩

@Starfish762 Sorry AF is coming. I know it’s not easy but try stay positive for next month 🤞🏼

@WildflowerPetals how are your opks looking - did you do one last night? Did you manage to dtd?

I'm very confused with my ovulation day, FF claims CD17 using advanced setting, but research changed from CD18 to CD19 with this morning's temp. My other apps are all different now too, so I could be anything from 2dpo to 5dpo. I think for testing purposes, and peace of mind over timings I'm going to assume CD18. I'll work it out when af arrives, and if it doesn't, then I won't care.

Thanks @Starfish762

I’m not feeling great today. 10dpo, feeling a bit nauseous, & the cramping sucks a lot. We tested, & oh thinks he can see a shadow of something on the ic, but I have always been useless at seeing lines unless super clear, so I see nothing. Work has been quiet and I’ve been staring all day and see less each time 😂

@sansa87 I don't want to get your hopes up but I think I can see a faint line!

I'm just plodding along trying to keep my anxiety at bay, should be 8 weeks tomorrow based on AF but 7+4 today based on my scan.

@Threnody My OPK last night was lighter than the one from the morning but I’ve just done one now and the test line is much darker than the control so definitely positive today 🙌🏼 And we DDT last night so fingers crossed! I think the time I take BBT at varies too much so I’m going to try and do it when DH goes to work at 6am. Hopefully that’ll make it more consistent cause at the minute my graph is all over the place haha. Hopefully AF doesn’t arrive for you x

@Sansa87 I think I can see a faint line too, you’ll have to keep us posted 🙂 x

@Sansa87 I think I see a line too! Fingers crossed for you!

@WildflowerPetals That's great, will you dtd tonight too? Sounds like a good plan for your bbt.

@Workingmama1 hi, have you got any more scans or anything before 12 weeks?

Hi everyone, hope its okay to join. I've actually followed along now and again since the original thread but wasn't quite ready to post (even though we have been ttcing again since June). I had a MMC in late May, I was 9 weeks when we found out through a private scan (the worse way to spend £79 ever) and miscarried naturally a week after that. It was a traumatic experience as I ended up in hospital due to blood loss and it took some time just to feel physically better. Emotionally, I'm getting there but it has been difficult- I don't need to tell anyone here how hard it is.

Where we are now- it took two years for us to conceive and we obviously haven't conceived again since (I've had three cycles now- cycles are short and have been particuarly weird since MMC). I am going to see a gynocology consultant tomorrow as I have been concerned about endometriosis for some time- going private as lucky that it is covered under partner's medical insurance through work). We also have first fertility appointment in mid Sept- this is on the NHS but depending on what the plan is, we may go private for investigations as we will probably have to go private if we need ivf anyway (because we conceived, we will probably have to wait another two years before being eligible again which is quite frankly ridiculous and we definitely do not have time for that- would have been nice to be able to spend our savings on other things but I'm extremely thankful that private is an option). At this point, only known issues are mild male factor infertility and I have multiple small fibroids (although been told that they are not an issue).

I'll probably start posting on the infertility board but I do also relate to you guys with the MMC. Is there anyone else dealing with infertility issues or has been trying for a long time here?

Right now, I am trying to hold onto some hope that it did actually happen once so could happen again before we go down the ivf route. We started ttc pretty much immediately after MMC as we didn't feel that we have had time to waste but it took a bit of time to get our mojo back! Currently 4dpo and have given it a good go this cycle. I'm temping again and have also started using ov sticks- all the things that I gave up before I got pregnant! But I think it is helping me feel more in control and is hopefully useful info for fertility appointments. Also taking a shitload of supplements for egg quality after reading 'It starts with the egg'- anyone else doing this?

Lovely to meet you all and lovely to see all the BFP's!

@Threnody Think we will DTD tonight as well. Although, I’ve read that DTD every night can decrease your chances of conceiving as it can lower the sperm count/quality of sperm. I don’t know if that’s just an old wives tale though as I’ve heard of people conceiving from DTD every day!

@goldflakepaint Sorry for your loss. Hope all goes well at your appointments x

I know I was supposed to wait until tomorrow morning, but they’re cheap tests 🤷🏼‍♀️🙈

Tbh I think maybe I can see a shadow? Obvs photos don’t show anything to me, but OH is convinced it’s clearer... I’m going to end up buying a frer tonight aren’t I? Xx

@Sansa87 I can see a line there, definitely get a frer for the morning, but tentative congratulations!

@goldflakepaint sorry for your loss, of course you're welcome here. Fingers crossed for your fertility appointments.

@WildflowerPetals I think if the man has a low sperm count they advise to only dtd every other day, otherwise should be fine to do every day.

Hello ladies, I’ve been following this thread still and hope you are all doing ok 👋

@Sansa87 good luck for today!

@WildflowerPetals i think it depends on the health and age of your partner - if the sperm are less healthy it’s better to do every other day. You could try your partner taking vitamins too?

@goldflakepaint I did buy a load of supplements and then freaked myself out with what might happen if they all interacted and did things to my cycle which was still crazy following MMC so ended up just taking Pregnacare and the others are still in my cupboard!

I am 8+1 today and time feels like it’s slowed down - so long still to 12 weeks! Trying to stay positive and remember this pregnancy is not related to the last one.

Good luck all you lovely ladies xx

Thanks poppy. 12dpo. I can’t believe it! I tested 16dpo last time and my line didn’t seem much darker than this one! Although it was a CB I guess.

4 weeks 4 days post surgery for the mmc ❤️ Can’t believe it.

Just hoping and praying that it both sticks and grows. I didn’t have trouble with the sticking last time, in fact that was part of the problem. The medical management failed twice which is why I ended up having the surgery.

@Poppy10121 Yeah I’ve read that too, no know fertility issues for either of us though. But we’ve both been taking vitamins so hopefully that’ll help 😊

My BBT was up a little bit today but not much. We couldn’t DTD last night cause I’ve got a smear test this morning (in about 5 mins!) and won’t be able to tonight either as we’re staying over at a friends house 🙈 Hopefully DTD on Wednesday was enough 🤞🏼

Woohoo @Sansa87 congratulations!! Remember this is a new pregnancy and there is every likelihood that it will go ahead just fine 😊

@Sansa87 Congratulations! Wishing you a healthy happy pregnancy!

@WildflowerPetals Hope the smear test went ok - mine has been cancelled twice now. FX for you!

I've been wondering about making a drs appointment if I'm not pregnant this month, see if I can get my hormone levels checked. I know I've not been trying for long, but I don't have a lot of time, and I'm a bit worried about my luteal length, and slow temp rises. OH thinks I should wait longer.

@Sansa87 Sorry I must have missed your post when I wrote my last message but congratulations! Hope all goes well this time 💕

@Threnody Smear test went okay thanks, not too uncomfortable. I asked her if everything looked healthy from what she could see and she said yes and that my cervix was easy to find so that seems positive 😊 I was thinking about doing the same with regards to a doctors appt, I’m around 4 months post MMC now so I think having hormones checked would put my mind at ease a bit - How long post MMC are you now?

Thanks girls ❤️❤️ Just had a beaut of a nap, & feel like I don’t need to feel guilty for it...

Bit scared to move though, incase our little egg becomes scrambled or something. I feel there should be some form of ptsd therapy after a mmc

@WildflowerPetals Glad the smear went ok. I'm 5 months post mmc now. I put in an e-consultation to my drs, and have a telephone appointment next Wednesday. I guess I'll know one way or the other by then. I'm a bit worried about the fact I have cramps almost all cycle long now, so I mentioned that as well. My husband changed his mind when I went on a website which was 'how to tell if you have luteal phase defect' and answered yes to the first three questions!

@Sansa87 You definitely deserved a nap. I agree, there should be some sort of counselling or something offered.

How is everyone this bank holiday? Anyone doing anything exciting?

I'm going crazy here. 9dpo (I think), temps still going up, no lh rise like I had the past 2 cycles. I have nausea, and tingly boobs. BFN this morning. Af due tomorrow, I usually get spotting at 9dpo these days, so I may know I'm out by tonight.

Hi @Threnody

I’m in work. Luckily it’s quiet. I told the boss today though. He shook his head lots 😩😂

Feeling a bit nauseas, but boobs feel absolutely squishy and not painful which they did last time. Guessing I don’t want the same symptoms as last time though.

@Threnody I think it’s good you have the drs appt cause, like you said, at least you’ll know one way or another. Any spotting yet? What makes you think you’re 9dpo?