TTC after a chemical pregnancy / early miscarriage

[Littlebee1990]

Hi everyone, on a few really supportive threads on here but thought I’d make another for anyone who may be in a similar position to me and we can support eachother... I’m petrified of trying again after last month tbh.

Last week I thought our dreams had finally come true when I got 3 BFP (including a digital!).. a week later I was bleeding and a call to the EPU confirmed it was a chemical pregnancy / early miscarriage.. so I’m back here and tomorrow will be CD1 cycle 4 (I know so many people have been trying so much longer) but just didn’t expect to be back so soon after getting a BFP.

So tomorrow marks CD5.. AF is due around 1st August and I promise to not POAS (apart from the one I need to pee on tomorrow to confirm the pregnancy is gone!) until 8th August if AF doesn’t show.. I can’t risk seeing a chemical and testing early again so have told myself never again will I test early.

Would love some buddies along the way with me 🤞🏼🌈❤️

@Littlebee1990 💖
It's hard isn't it , since my MC three people I know have announced their pregnancies and two others have given birth

I'm in my TTW with af due around 20th depending on which app I look at but this is the first since the MC.

Hi ladies, so I'm out this month. AF arrived one day early and I'm so gutted. This was mine and my husbands first month TTC since my chemical pregnancy and I feel so sad and like there's something wrong with me. 😔😔

@irwine I felt the same as I was so hopeful for a BFP the month after but tbh the fact AF arrived allows your body to reset and refocus. Sending us both lots of positive vibes for the second cycle after the CP xx

Does anyone take vit b complex? If so how much please x

@irwine I felt the same the month after the CP. Convinced myself I was pregnant again. It is so tough and definitely doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. Fingers crossed for you this cycle.

@Littebee1990 I'm not far off where you are, CD13 today and in my FW.

I'm feeling scared now,
first AF since MC due Friday or Saturday
Trying so hard not to test before then

I feel like hoping this will be a BFP is keeping me afloat but at the same time I'm panicking now what if AF turns up

I think I'll crumble

Hi all, just wondering if there’s anyone here that has experienced or knows about subchronic hematoma’s? I’ve just had my early scan showing tiny 6 week baby but I have quite a large blood clot behind the gestational sac and the specialist told me to prepare for the worst and that I’ll likely miscarry again as the clot will dislodge the sac causing me to miscarry 😞 I feel so useless and defeated. I feel like I’m just waiting for my baby to die inside me, will be my 3rd loss since April 💔

@EDW1 I am so sorry that’s awful, can you go do the EPU and see if there’s anything that can be done? Do they think this caused the other losses? I’m so sorry but I’m absolutely rooting for you, that little bean hasn’t gone anywhere yet ❤️

@Littlebee1990 thank you. Am not feeling very hopeful. It was the gynaecologist that specialises in pregnancy loss, infertility and recurrent miscarriage that performed the scan so there’s not much else I can do. She’s going to scan again in a couple of weeks (ish) time if I’ve not lost baby already by then. Xx

@EDW1 I’m so sorry to hear this 😞 I did actually listen to a birth story podcast of a positive story with this. The mum had constant bleeding throughout her pregnancy and it wasn’t diagnosed for quite a while and then she was told to have bed rest and the baby was fine. Can you rest lots?xxx

@SMB20 I have seen some positive stories but because mine is so large and baby is so small the specialist is pretty adamant baby doesn’t stand a chance. I’m going to try and rest as much as poss but have a 2&1/2 year old at home and due to go back to work (in a primary school) on 1st sept xxx

@EDW1 I'm sorry you are going through this

@123feraverto Did you test?

Checking back in to report that we started TTC again straight after my mc at the start of July, but AF returned as normal. This is our second month, and I am taking a very relaxed approach. Only DTD when the mood takes us, which is how we conceived our DD.

Oh no sorry @EDW1 praying for a miracle x

Thank you @Boc86 xxx

@EDW1 fingers crossed for you ❤️❤️

[quote marplemead]@EDW1 I'm sorry you are going through this

@123feraverto Did you test?

Checking back in to report that we started TTC again straight after my mc at the start of July, but AF returned as normal. This is our second month, and I am taking a very relaxed approach. Only DTD when the mood takes us, which is how we conceived our DD.[/quote]
Yes thank you for asking
Got my BFP 🙂 early days but the lines are getting darker day by day

@123feraverto many congratulations! Delighted for you.xxx

@123feraverto Congratulations! That's great news!

I think I'm out this month. I was away for a week during my fertile period, so unless the app is wrong, there's very little chance. I debated not going, but hadn't seen my mum in 6m.

Good luck to those in the 2WW

Thanks 😊
5 weeks yesterday
Hope you are all doing ok

Wishing the positives for you all

Congrats! Lush to see another BFP.
CD18 for me and still no peak OPK or temp rise.. always used to ovulate CD14-16 but since the CP everything is so much later 😢

Period back last night so at least I've got a baseline to work from. Not sure if I want to ttc again tbh, just so scared. Thinking of taking a break from it all.

Hey! How are we all? I’ve finally got my peak.. CD21.. cycles are so much longer than before my CP! Attached are my OPKs from CD10-CD21 and we DTD on CD7,9,11,12,14,15,17,19,20 and we will DTD tonight and tomorrow also. 🤞🏼

We’re away 3-13th.. AF is due on the 10th, don’t know what to do about testing as there’s a hot tub and gin and I don’t wanna use it and affect possible implantation! I think I’ll try and avoid it for the first few days and then test early (around 7th) and if a BFN which will be 11DPO then I know I’m likely out.. x

Hey @Littlebee1990 I’m good thank you, currently 4 DPO and broke all the rules this cycle, drank alcohol, had coffee, bad food you name it 😂 I have felt more relaxed though which has been nice. I know I’ll be a wreck again from 7 DPO onwards testing earlier than I should for any hint of a line.

Well done on DTD that much! We’ve found it so much harder since work has got busy again for the OH and I. Only managed to DTD on CD 9, 12 , 14, 16 and 17 (ovulated on CD 17).

It’s so tricky as you want to enjoy yourself but I would be worried about the same, I think your plan sounds good, give it a few days and then test.

I really hope this doesn’t upset anybody and I do appreciate how lucky I am to be pregnant but I’m really not doing too well and wondered if anybody can offer me any words and really I feel like I want/need to vent.

I have a dating scan on Wednesday and confided in a friend about my pregnancy and miscarriage yesterday and she was very insensitive. She told me not to be surprised if there’s no heartbeat yet as it’s too early and when I tried to correct her she snapped at me for making things worse for myself by googling things. I told her I’m already very worried after my miscarriage and again she snapped at me and cut me off and said she knows I had a miscarriage but I should just be happy and relaxing at this time and I’m ruining the experience for myself. I guess people who haven’t experienced miscarriage can’t emphasise.

On Friday my symptoms completely disappeared and I had a nightmare I woke up covered in blood. My symptoms have come back again today so I’m less worried but I was certain I was going to miscarry and this feeling comes on at least once a day. I don’t even feel like I’m waiting for a baby this time round - just another miscarriage.

I don’t really want to lose friends over this but I’m disgusted by the things a few people have said to me like I caused the miscarriage from being so stressed. Very few friends have checked in on me but is it just because people essentially look after themselves? I’m quite a caring person so if a friend is unwell or has gone through something I’ll naturally check in or do something kind.

Sorry this has been such a long post and I am sorry if this upsets anyone, I know my worries and heartbreak aren’t as hard as they are for those of you who still don’t have your BFP’s xxx

Morning @SMB20

I’m so sorry you’re feeling stressed and it sounds like you’re not getting much support to put your mind at ease, I’ve found some comments from people re my miscarriage also super insensitive and constantly get “advice” from my best friends who fell on their first month.. I just change the subject as best I can tbh, I know what I’m doing and really don’t need to hear “oh I think I fell by fluke” or “it happened so quick for us because I know my cycle” and “be glad you know you 2 can get pregnant after the misscarriage” - it’s very frustrating so I feel your pain there.

Sorry about your nightmare that sounds awful and would definitley spook me. I haven’t been in the situation as I’ve not had a 2nd BFP but I know I’ll also feel anxious, I guess I’m also “prepare for the worst” kinda girl which probably doesn’t help! That said I think I’d tell myself that right now in that moment I am pregnant, and that’s what I’ll say to you, right now you’re pregnant and there really is very very little at this stage you can do to reassure yourself other than look after yourself.

Wednesday is only 3 more sleeps away and then I hope will bring you some comfort. Everyone said having a baby meant spending your life feeling anxious and worried and I guess that starts as soon as you get the BFP.

I know it’s easier said than done but try and keep busy, remember that in this moment right now you’re pregnant and come Wednesday you should get the reassurance you need, so many people go on to have successful pregnancies after a loss so focus on that ❤️

Please keep us posted and just don’t bother discussing it with certain friends if you’re not getting the support you need x