TTC after a chemical pregnancy / early miscarriage

[Littlebee1990]

Hi everyone, on a few really supportive threads on here but thought I’d make another for anyone who may be in a similar position to me and we can support eachother... I’m petrified of trying again after last month tbh.

Last week I thought our dreams had finally come true when I got 3 BFP (including a digital!).. a week later I was bleeding and a call to the EPU confirmed it was a chemical pregnancy / early miscarriage.. so I’m back here and tomorrow will be CD1 cycle 4 (I know so many people have been trying so much longer) but just didn’t expect to be back so soon after getting a BFP.

So tomorrow marks CD5.. AF is due around 1st August and I promise to not POAS (apart from the one I need to pee on tomorrow to confirm the pregnancy is gone!) until 8th August if AF doesn’t show.. I can’t risk seeing a chemical and testing early again so have told myself never again will I test early.

Would love some buddies along the way with me 🤞🏼🌈❤️

Thanks so much. I really don't want to take another early pregnancy test again in case I go through another chemical, so I don't know when would be 'safe' to take one. It's so nerve wracking! xxx

@irwine sorry to hear that
Wait till after your period was due if you don’t want to know. I want to know about my chemicals so I can see if I have a problem so I do test from 9dpo (cough 7dpo) x

Thanks so much- that's also sensible. I didn't see the doctor about my first chemical, should I have done do you think? xx

I don’t think you have to see them, especially if it’s early and you’re sure you’re free of infection etc. I just don’t know if it needs to be ‘on record’ to get help if you ever need it. If you have 3 recurrent miscarriages, including chemical, you’re eligible to get checks and your partner too xx

Ah thank you. I'm actually praying for this month but it feels sooo long until I will find onto either way! xxx

@irwine I’m so sorry about your loss 😞 I was going to wait too this month but like @Boc86 said I wanted to know if I am having recurrent chemicals. As for staying calm I have no tips! I got my BFP 6 days ago and it’s actually made me even more anxious than the wait xxx

Ah that's amazing, congratulations! Did you take an early pregnancy test? How are you feeling? I'm only a few DPO but by god, I'm already obsessively googling everything already. The chemical completely flattened me, I had no idea that could even happen, it honestly felt soul destroying. I'm so scared about the same thing happening because all I want is a happy and healthy little bubba. Thank you all for understanding xxx

@irwine Sorry you’re here with us but glad we can all support eachother! How many cycles are you on? We’ve been trying since April and I had a CP last month. My CP has hugely messed up my cycle and I’m 6 days late but only 11DPO but BFN on all tests.. just feels like it’s never gonna happen x

[quote Littlebee1990]@irwine Sorry you’re here with us but glad we can all support eachother! How many cycles are you on? We’ve been trying since April and I had a CP last month. My CP has hugely messed up my cycle and I’m 6 days late but only 11DPO but BFN on all tests.. just feels like it’s never gonna happen x[/quote]
I'm only on my second cycle trying since the chemical pregnancy, it all feels so worrying to me at the moment but I just can't help it! I totally get where you're coming from, I'm so glad we can all support each other xxx

Also I don't think anything can ever prepare you for the emotional heartache of losing a chemical pregnancy - so much love to you and we are all in this together xxx

@irwine I took my test at 11DPO or thereabouts because I just wanted to know. When I got the faint BFP I was sceptical and have taken a test pretty much every day which so far has thankfully gotten darker but still such early days. This morning my clear blue was very dark. I’m symptom spotting like crazy though, with my DD I had such sore boobs and they are a bit sore on and off but nothing too bad. I’m hoping it’s just breastfeeding has toughened them up or just a diff pregnancy. This morning I have a glimmer of hope that this pregnancy may go ahead and I’m trying to be positive but know I have a long road and in reality I won’t be completely convinced until my morphology scan at 20 weeks.

I know it’s easy right now for me to say this but you girls will have your BFP. The stats show within a year most people will which I know is a lifetime but it gave me some hope at least as think how quickly the last year went. Also because you girls have already had one chemical (and quite early on in your journey) you know you can conceive and so I think it will be much sooner and likely within the next 3 months. It doesn’t help the heartbreak though and I am sending magical positive baby dust your way 💖

@SMB20 thanks for your kind words. Best of luck with this pregnancy ❤️❤️

Hope everyone is well. I bought boots opk yesterday funny I didn't know what they were until after two kids. Opk showed a very faint pink line and I'm having pains on my left ovary. Miscarriage started last Sunday week so about 10 days ago and stopped last Friday. Maybe I'll test again tomorrow as don't want to get my hopes high.
Have to go to the dr for a full blood count, tired of blood tests! Have a good day all.

How is everyone?

@Littlebee1990 my cycle is all messed up too. I'm usually 28-30 days. I'm now day 38 and no sign of AF. I think I should be due today so I'm holding on. But now worrying it's something other than the impact of the chemical.

Honestly too scared to test - not sure either result would make me feel better! I do see other people's logic in testing to know if there is a problem so I'm going to wait a couple more days and then test so at least I don't have to face work either way!

@SequinCola Bless you, I really hope it’s because you’ve got a BFP! Do you track ovulation? I usually ovulate around CD16 and this cycle after the CP I didn’t ovulate until CD26 so I’m 10 days behind on everything. It’s so annoying. Tested and it’s a BFN for me xx

@Littlebee1990 I do and it sounds like our "normal" cycles are very similar.

I think I ovulated on day 22/23 so am 15 days DPO today. But just not convinced about any of it!

Doesn't help that two of my best friends had their first so am spending lots of time and money on baby things

Hi, joining. My gut instincts of a CP have just been confirmed as I've started bleeding. I had forgotten just how exhausting TTC is and it's just put a load of doubts into my mind even though I know they're common. I was already worried about my hormone levels and I'm worried this will set my cycles back and mess with everything more. Urgh!

@SequinCola Same here, I am surrounded by babies!!

@Beepbeep42 I’m so so sorry, we’re all in this together. Hopefully you reset quickly but sadly mine has messed my cycles up. I’m on CD38!

I’m so worried it’s not going to happen and there’s something wrong with one of us .. argh! Both fit and healthy and feel like we’re doing everything “right”

It's so hard. A few of my friends have had chemical pregnancies (one had several) then all went on to conceive sticky beans within a year after. I was around 13 months TTC no1 but having hopes dashed like this seems so much worse than AF arriving as regular.

Hey everyone do you mind if I join? Currently 12 DPO but think I’m having my second chemical in 3 months 😞

@KeishaV

Hey everyone do you mind if I join? Currently 12 DPO but think I’m having my second chemical in 3 months 😞

Thinking of you and sending you much love. It's totally exhausting and draining TTC, especially when you want it so much (like I do!) it's far too early for me to know anything, as I'm in the dreaded TWW, but I am googling everything and just praying that something positive comes out of it. Having been through one CP before, I completely sympathise - remember to be kind to yourself, and allow yourself time to heal and grieve- I had to, and I waited one cycle before trying again. It can be very emotionally draining. Practise self care and I am here if you need someone to vent to xxx

@KeishaV I’m so sorry. We’re all here for you. Are you sure it can’t be implantation bleeding? X

I can’t believe how many of us there are but take some comfort in knowing it wasn’t just me.. I hope that makes sense? X

@Littlebee1990

I can’t believe how many of us there are but take some comfort in knowing it wasn’t just me.. I hope that makes sense? X

Total sense! Why does no one ever mention this before TTC? Sending love to you all xxx

It is comforting.

@irwine that was such a lovely message thank you. I just hate that it’s completely taken away any joy over seeing a positive line on a test, instead I’m just filled with anxiety waiting for it to fade.

@EDW1 I’m pretty sure, I had faint lines at 10 and 11 DPO and started spotting last night which is normally a sign AF is coming. My body is being cruel with my heart though as the spotting has stopped now and back to creamy CM. I will know for sure by the weekend as AF is due tomorrow or Friday and I have some cramping so pretty sure she’ll be here soon 😞

@Littlebee1990 I know, literally never heard of them before TTC! I always feel silly being so upset as it’s so early but it’s gutting seeing the lines fade.

Thanks everyone for being so welcoming, it can be pretty lonely as we’ve not told anyone that we’re TTC xx