TTC 12 months buddies please

[Whilstwewait]

Hi,

We have just hit the 12 month mark of TTC and looks like AF is on the way I am on another thread that's really supportive but I do find it disheartening when people get positives on the first couple of cycles of trying. So thought I'd start a thread for anyone around about the year mark. It'll be good to share things and get advice from people who are at a similar stage to me. Im 34 and my husbands 36. We are TTC number 1 x

Cd11 here ovulating in next few days I think and doing smep

Fed up with work, just want a break

@PlanBea hello! Glad you're ok now. I'm 9dpo and gonna test on sat with a FRER even tho I have major pms today so pretty sure I'm not pregnant yet again but gonna do it anyway. My sister's baby shower/bbq on Sunday so want to know if I can get drunk and cry at it 😂 only joking of course, how embarrassing if I cried 😬. It'll be cycle 12 if it's bfn so I'll be on the phone to the docs next week! Will only be month 11 in August tho as my cycles are only 24 days long.
@claireb707 fed up with work too! We have a week off end of aug for our first wedding anniversary and we've booked Barcelona...just hope they come out of lockdown by then and quarantines not in place 🙄

@claireb707 is it your first time doing SMEP? It's our first go. It made me feel like I was doing something more scientific at first but with a late ovulation I'm regretting it now haha.

@notyetamumbuttrying we're off at the end of August for our anniversary too, but nothing booked yet. The year before/of/after our wedding we've stayed at our venue, but I'm not sure I'm feeling ready for a hotel and spa stay yet. We've got a week booked off so I'm sure we'll come up with something!
I hope your docs are ok, some are huge sticklers for the 12 months, some seem more relaxed as I needed 2 CD21s and an STI swab before they'd do anything, so we're happy to start looking before the 12 months. Then we moved and covid happened so it was a bit of a waste anyway!

Hey hey!

Mixed really, I've been feeling better this month and more positive. Been doing my daily yoga and had a couple of acupuncture sessions. Also I've been having bad nights sleep for the last two weeks which is different from usual so that seemed promising.

I'm now on CD27/ approx 14DPO with AF due. Last night me and my partner DTD but no positions felt right, they all just few uncomfortable. We did find one eventually lol. Then an hour or two later I had the tiniest bit of pinkish spotting. Then nothing for the rest of the evening/ night.

I read that in early pregnancy, lots of blood flows to down there and Sex can cause small ruptures. Also, implantation bleeding can happen a week after actual implantation happens and sex can make it come out.

However, today I've some stretchy pink CM and kinda watery sometimes pink and sometimes brown spotting. Not loads at all, just when I wipe sometimes when I go to the toilet.

AF always starts with spotting for me which is usually brown then is a bit of both. But I can't decide if this seems different or not. My mind is seriously playing tricks on me! 😩

I've got next Friday off (not expected, work gave us all an extra day off as we've been working throughout lockdown) and then a couple of days around the August bank hol weekend. No holidays planned this year now, we're going camping for a couple of days but that's it. I think because I have been working albeit at home and partner was furloughed till 3 weeks ago it's made it feel worse like I havent had any time off even though I've had a few odd days here and there.

Yeah first time doing smep, had to explain it to partner again last night 😂 every other day till I get a peak and then 3 days in a row - 'what?? 3 in a row' yes dear 😂😂

Hey @PlanBea , and everyone!

Doing ok - CD19 here (4 or 5 DPO) and first month ‘following’ SMEP however we didn’t start DTD every other day until CD9 and then Hub struggled with the 3 days in a row thing (he’s only been back at work for 3 weeks in a very physical job so has been unusually tired...makes it more frustrating that we didn’t conceive in the 3 cycles that he was at home!). We managed though, but didn’t do the extra ‘just in case’ time as he was just too exhausted! Roll on when we don’t have to be following a time sensitive formula!

I had a similar meltdown to you, PlanBea. I saw a video of a surprise baby shower for one of my old friends...a few of us who were at school together, a long time ago I might add, had started TTC around the same time last year (all of them for #2, just me for #1)...anyway, I didn’t know she was pregnant and it hit pretty hard that it must’ve happened quickly for them.

Also, my dad, bless him, sent a scan pic to family group chat, his best friend’s daughter’s pic. They are significantly younger than us and been married longer and it was totally expected but still felt so sad at how excited my dad is to be ‘great uncle’ and how much he’d love to be ‘Grandad‘!
Was starting to really feel like I’m failing at this!

But, I managed to shake it off and just look for positives! Our wedding anniversary soon too so first dinner out and hotel stay booked after 4 months of doing nothing!

Cannot wait to read good news on here - and glad that we have this forum to vent and support each other

Hey all! Hope your all doing ok 😊
I'm ok thanks @PlanBea cd 22/24 for me today been cramping all day and boobs are sore so expecting AF as planned on Saturday! Work has been manic but have a week off coming up so looking forward to a rest and some chill out time! Our follow up apt in August can't come soon enough now just want to know what's going on and what our results are so we can move forward xx

Hey @PlanBea and everyone else! Cycle day 21 for me, 8dpo, had my progesterone test this morning. I'm still having very sore boobs, thats been 8 days now, I think they are also more veiny, been feeling nauseous in the morning and absolutely starving the past two days (very unlike me). Its too early to test of course and I'm worried I'm just getting my hopes up to be let down again.

@EmeraldLily18 and @planbea, thats so hard, its such a mixed feeling when friends/relatives announce a pregnancy, you are obviously pleased for them but it hurts when you feel like it should hurry up and be your turn!
Sending love and best wishes to all, fingers crossed for some BFPs soon xx

Sorry I've been a bit quiet I ended up in hospital last Friday was bleeding very heavy had a scan and they told me it was a miscarriage, but on the plus side I seen all my eggs so I no ive got plenty left, how is everyone? I'm now on month 19 of ttc not sure how this month will plan out with the mc

@Fran2020 how has the acupuncture been? Do you do many sessions a week? I am considering it but still not sold on it yet. It doesn't sound like you're out yet so fingers crossed for you

@claireb707 the plus side of SMEP is it's been really easy to seduce DH - basically "it's an even day today" seems to work really well haha. We haven't had the three in a row as I haven't had a clear ovulation but I might try tomorrow as temps are starting to increase. We don't think we have male factor (though no SA done yet) so I'm guessing it can't hurt now we're so far into the cycle.

@EmeraldLily18 sorry to hear you've had a bit of a rough one too. Does your dad know you're TTC? I think people think they will inspire you to start trying sometimes, as if you'd never thought of having a baby until someone else mentioned it. It's hard feeling like your letting parents down from becoming grandparents too if that makes sense? Hopefully anniversary stay will be a lovely reminder of the two of you as a couple, sometimes it's hard to see the relationship for the TTC haha

@Hayley19835 are your follicular phases short or is it your luteal? While the arrival of AF sucks it does mean you've got your next turn coming up soon. My cycles are so long it feels like I barely get any turns, then I skip ovulation anyway and it's like "well, there's 5 weeks of my life gone!"

@Motherofkittens28 mine is tomorrow! Did they say when you're getting your results back? I've been really sluggish the past few days but actually mostly feeling sick - sadly not from pregnancy as I did POAS just to make sure I hadn't conceived without ovulating (TTC literally drives you crazy haha)

@Chel93 oh no! Sorry to hear that. How are you doing?

@Chel93 oh I'm so so sorry. I really hope you've been taking care of yourself and taking it easy xx

@PlanBea usually ovulate soon after AF has finished but haven't tested with OPKs for months now so could have changed as last 2 cycles I been having random mid cycle bleeding 🤦🏼‍♀️ I've got some CB ones left so might start checking again. OH said I was a mad woman so stopped testing 😂 xx

@Chel93 so sorry to hear about your miscarriage hope your being well looked after and feel ready to start again soon xx

@PlanBea I was having one session per week but not had one this week as the lady was working less days, so my next is next week. I'm really enjoying it, it makes me feel so much more relaxed and like I am doing something to help. Have you found someone near you that does it?
Aww thanks, fingers crossed too! 🤞🏼
How are you feeling? I know exactly how you feel about DTD! I'm the same 😂

@Chel93 Really sorry to hear about your miscarriage. How did you get to see all your eggs?

@PlanBea I actually forgot to ask but I guess I'll phone on Monday and see if the results ard back then. Good luck with yours tomorrow!

Morning all. I just got a text from my doctor saying my bloods showed a progesterone level of 42.8 (more than double what it was last month) and that this level is absolutely consistent with ovulation.

@PlanBea that is less than 24hrs for the result as I had the test at 10:30 yesterday, im shocked its back so fast!

@Motherofkittens28 That's really good! Really quick too! Bet your pleased! 😊

I am 99% sure AF has started now 😭 So now into cycle 14. We are still waiting for the results of my partners semen analysis which he had a week ago. I have rung the doctors today to try to get things moving with the next steps for me (I've only had the two blood tests so far which came back satisfactory). Waiting for a call back this afternoon. Really hope they help 🤞🏼

*you're (still half asleep 😂)

@PlanBea mine already said to wait as I rang at 9 months, but I'm hoping to speak to another doc considering it would have been 12 cycles. Plus with the timing of the bloods they may as well start them in Aug if they start with day 21 bloods. I'd then get day 3 bloods in September which would be month 12. We'll see tho as they do seem pretty strict! Just tough waiting when you've waited so long already! Hope you get to do something nice for your anniversary! We're having to rethink Barcelona now, tough to know where to go. 🤔

@Chel93 so sorry to hear this! Please take care 

@Motherofkittens28 congrats, that's a great result!

@Fran2020 sorry to hear AF is on the way. Hope you get the ball rolling with the docs ASAP. Good luck!

@PlanBea @Motherofkittens28 @Hayley19835 @notyetamumbuttrying
Thank you girls im feeling a lot better ready to start trying again ive been doing opks but all low think this will just be an off cycle this month and hopefully regulate a bit more next month 🤞 i was looked after by oh done bit of online retail therapy to make me feel a bit better.
When they scanned me to check the pregnancy had ended she could see my eggs on the right side she showed me them was a bit of a relief to see i still had quiet a few waiting to be released

Hi everyone. Hope everyone is doing well. I'm just back from holiday was a lovely break although DTD was difficult we managed 2 days in Fertile window so not bad. I think im about 3 DPO im not too sure. Already thinking AF will arrive. I think you just come to expect it after so long.

@Motherofkittens28 that's fab.
Mine was 32 when i had mine checked which i reckon explains my spotting before my periods

@Fran2020 aw sorry to hear you think AF is on the way. Such a shit feeling. Hope you're ok?

@Chel93 glad you're feeling ok. It must be reassuring seeing all your eggs there. Hope this is your month xx

@Whilstwewait so glad you had a nice relaxing holiday think thats what we all need to just breath relax and forget all the stress and worries of ttc, thank-you it was i was worrying that id had my chances, I hoe so but I'm the same as you now just expect AF now and thats it now hope left in me

@Whilstwewait totally agree! U just do expect it after so long don't you. Glad you had a nice time away!
We've got a trip booked at the end of aug but now doubtful it will happen because of the local lockdown in Barcelona so planning plan b at weekend.

@Motherofkittens28 oh that's good news! The nurse today told me they should be back "next week sometime" but that the doctor would call "if there was anything of note". Tbh, whatever the result is its of note!

@Fran2020 glad you're enjoying it! At the moment I feel like my shoulders are up at my ears they're so sore. I usually get massages every 4-6 weeks just to maintain my body and I haven't had one since the beginning of February. I might start off with a massage first or the needles might not go in I've got so many knots I hope things progress for you with the docs!

@Hayley19835 I don't know much about short follicular phase, but I can check my copy of taking charge of your fertility if you haven't got one? I don't think it necessarily is a problem by itself as the follicles take 3 months to mature so I'm assuming they are mature when they release early. fingers crossed!

@Chel93 I bet it felt like a bit of good news that your eggs are in order. Hope you feel better soon

@Whilstwewait hope you enjoyed your holiday! I pretty much give up on a BFP as soon as I'm out of the fertile window. Hopefully this month will surprise us both.

I've been using both a Daysy BBT tracker and an Ovusense core body temperature tracker this month, I'd started with Daysy and am shifting across to Ovusense so doing both for a bit. Daysy hasn't picked up an ovulation, but Ovusense now thinks I ovulated on Monday. What's really interesting is whether my CD21 today thinks I ovulated - it feels like test of the femtech! We didn't DTD on Monday but did on Sunday and Tuesday so fingers crossed. I'll hopefully find out which one is more accurate early next week haha