TTC 35+ Thread 3 Cougar And Silver Fox Club

[ELM7]

New thread for us all and the list....
Lynnsong, 45, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 2
Dipsy77, 43, TTC (trying to conceive)#4, cycle 3 after MMC (missed miscarriage)
Sunbird24, 42, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, ivfsolo, attempt#1
Wavesandsmilesagain, 41, TTC (trying to conceive)#5,
Anna41, 41, TTC (trying to conceive)#2, cycle 5
Claireb707, 41, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 11
Tiletiletile1, 40, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 18?
Lucieloos, 40, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 3
Lastditchattempt20, 40, TTC (trying to conceive)#2, cycle 2
Posy1, 40, TTC (trying to conceive)#2, cycle 7
Justonemore39, 39, TTC (trying to conceive)#2, cycle 1
Musiceverywhere, 39, TTC (trying to conceive)#2, cycle 2
Selina37, 39, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 19
FridayKfangirl, 38, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 1
LT103, 38, TTC (trying to conceive) #1, cycle 3
Loladoodle, 38, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 2
Bearhug9, 37, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 8
Happyhappy37, 37, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 2
Sleeeeeepy, 37, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 1
Elm7, 37, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 8 (after MMC (missed miscarriage))
ChicaXS, 37, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 3 (after tfmr)
Moominmiss, 37, TTC (trying to conceive)#4, cycle 10
Farfromperfect82, 37, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 5
Angelchops30, 37, TTC (trying to conceive)#2, cycle 3
M4v3r1ck, 36, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 2
Matilda19, 36, TTC (trying to conceive)#4, cycle 2
Muda, 36, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 7
Semele5609, 36, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 2 after MMC (missed miscarriage)
Bellabubble, 36, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 4 after MMC (missed miscarriage)
Eviesma, 35, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 1
Chlo2701, 35, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 3
Pirateweasel, 35, TTC (trying to conceive)#2, cycle 3
Emeraldlily18, 35, TTC (trying to conceive) #1, cycle 13
Kwastell, 35, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, 2+ years (3mmc)

BFP (big fat positive)’s....
Mrstobe, 36, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 6 (1 MMC (missed miscarriage)), BFP (big fat positive)!
PinkTulipz, 37, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 1, BFP (big fat positive)
Sunshine1984, 36, TTC (trying to conceive)#2, BFP (big fat positive)

@FridaKFangirl

You never know *@LouJ85*! I’m sure I’ve read hear that sperm can swim about waiting for up to 5 days! 😀

Yes I've read this too... Guess I'll ave to just wait and see how strong DP's swimmers are! Is 5 dpo (this weekend) too early to test?? Asking for a friend ... 🤣

Can confirm that swimmers can last a while. DS was clearly conceived while I was in a different county from DH (DS is definitely his!)
BFN this evening but no sign of EWCM yet which is odd for me too. Will give it a few more days and then do a morning test if I don't feel any different.
Any suggestions for OPKs? Thinking maybe I should approach this a little more scientifically....

@lastditchattempt20 im so sorry. Thats just awful. Getting your hopes up. That's really put me off FRER tests.
Big hugs to you.
My AF came full force to. Xx

@Hayleywoody82 thanks. I think using the FRER that are so super sensitive means you can pick up on any tiny amount on HCG which may not actually indicate a progressing viable pregnancy at that stage. Plus they're expensive! So next time I'm planning to only use less sensitive ones later in cycle.

@lastditchattempt20 yes sounds right. Positive thinking for next time xx

@Fizzy13

Can confirm that swimmers can last a while. DS was clearly conceived while I was in a different county from DH (DS is definitely his!) BFN this evening but no sign of EWCM yet which is odd for me too. Will give it a few more days and then do a morning test if I don't feel any different. Any suggestions for OPKs? Thinking maybe I should approach this a little more scientifically....

How many days pre ovulation did you DTD, if you don't mind me asking? Ive been using the Clearblue digital ovulation kits - the ones that show you a smiley face on your most fertile days. However I've just learned that there's a version that shows you 4 fertile days - so just been back on Amazon to order those! Honestly I've spent a bloody fortune testing every days since coming off the pill 3 weeks ago! Getting a tad obsessed... DP thinks I'm nuts 🤣

@LouJ85 I've just got mine today in the post. Ive got AF atm so not started yet. Im hoping there good.
Not a clue when to start testing as i don't know my cycle as I've only just come of the pill 6th june xx

@lastditchattempt20. Sorry to hear this, fingers crossed for future, sending hugs x

@LouJ85, once you know how long your cycle is you’ll know when to start testing from the CB leaflet. My First natural cycle after coming off the pill in May was 27 days so I started testing on day 7, empty circle, days 8-11 flashing smiley then static smiley yesterday, day 12...

@Hayleywoody82. It’s hard to know until you’ve had the first natural AF. I waited a month to give me a rough idea and only used CBs now I’m on cycle 2

[quote Hayleywoody82]@LouJ85 I've just got mine today in the post. Ive got AF atm so not started yet. Im hoping there good.
Not a clue when to start testing as i don't know my cycle as I've only just come of the pill 6th june xx[/quote]
Very similar to me then! I came off the pill 10th June. I waited the 7 day window where I'd have been usually having my withdrawal bleed, and after that I literally tested every day until I got positive ovulation results on 29th & 30th this week. So it was just under 2 weeks of testing. Not the cheapest way, but it meant I could pinpoint my fertile days this cycle without knowing my cycle length. DP and I just randomly DTD in the 2 weeks prior, with one being early hrs Sat morning... so about 2-3 days prior to ovulation according to those tests. We weren't able to again due to work and other stuff getting in the way, so I'm just hoping some of his swimmers were still hanging around on Mon/Tues. Pretty sure I actually ovulated Tues as had sharp ovulation pains that day. But if it's not to be I'll just carry on next month. Once you know your cycle length the leaflet in the ovulation kits will tell you roughly which days to start testing - which is probably an easier method than my approach!

[quote FridaKFangirl]@lastditchattempt20. Sorry to hear this, fingers crossed for future, sending hugs x

@LouJ85, once you know how long your cycle is you’ll know when to start testing from the CB leaflet. My First natural cycle after coming off the pill in May was 27 days so I started testing on day 7, empty circle, days 8-11 flashing smiley then static smiley yesterday, day 12...[/quote]
I've just ordered the 4 day flashy smiley one for next month!

Can k just clarify ladies. Your cycle starts from first day of period right? Xx

I've bought the conceive plus gels to 🤞🤞

@Hayleywoody82 Yep AF day 1 is cycle day 1

@FridaKFangirl thankyou. Im 38 you'd think I'd know this 🙈

@lastditchattempt20 so sorry to hear you’re out again this month, it did look good for a while, hopefully that was a practice for a really strong one soon.
@Lynnysong glad your donor managed to get round! Must be really frustrating for you when he’s not available at the right time.
Welcome new ladies, good luck with your journeys!

I know it’s completely irrelevant as I’m still waiting for the ivf go-ahead, but I seem to have gone down with ewcm in sympathy. It’s only CD8, and I can’t remember the last time I had it!

[quote Hayleywoody82]@FridaKFangirl thankyou. Im 38 you'd think I'd know this 🙈[/quote]
I’m 38 too! I’m sure I’ve asked similar questions! 😅

Awww good luck keep us posted xx

@LouJ85
Pretty sure it was 3 days before.
Trying to work out when you ovulate is a bit easier with endometriosis as it hurts!

@lastditchattempt20 So sorry to hear that. 😔

It looks like I'm about to ovulate after an early miscarriage 2 weeks ago. So it looks like my cycle has recovered quickly. Had the flashing smiley on clear blue for 3 mornings in a row now. This is my first cycle tracking basal temperature, and it looks like it's dropping to indicate I'm about to ovulate. 🤞🤞

Although we've been trying for 2 years, I've tried to avoid tracking in detail as I can get obsessive. Fully into it now 😂

Also got a private fertility consultation this afternoon over Zoom.

@Lynnysong Hoping you ovulate after your donor came round.

I don't think I'm timing this right, going to try to get him round earlier next time. Probably would help as his swimmers should last a few days lol. Lowest temp was the morning of the day I had the peak.

But fingers crossed it was yesterday, I can only do my best with this. I can't try any harder than I am. I did have the slippery cm that day, so hoping my body wouldn't make it if there was no hope lol fx x

Hey @Lynnysong trust your body to do the right thing 🙂 I had a 'peak' smiley face two days before I got slippery CM, and a strong peak smiley the morning of slippery too.

I find it really hard not to be completely negative after ovulation, but have to keep trying to think positive as we really can't tell until AF shows. 🤞🏻 xxx

I've kind of terrified myself by reading a lot of stats and scare stories about getting pregnant over 40 so I'm probably overthinking things. I'm worried that if I manage to get pregnant it'll end up in multiple miscarriages or chemicals like last month. I'm just wondering whether implanting early say, 6dpo is a bad thing? Is the womb lining thick enough?