TTC baby no1. Looking for fellow crazy TTC friends!

[CAG14]

Hey

This is my 9th month TTC my first baby and I'm 33. I got static smiley on Friday on OPK, and now I'm in my TWW - again! I'm currently on furlough so the wait seems even longer and more painful and I definitely end up going a bit crazy 🤪

Anyone else in similar boat and need keeping sane?! Also any TTC tips you've heard of? I will literally try anything at the moment haha.

I understand you guys so much especially with pandemic I was so worried thinking it's selfish then I though we have been TTC so long no point stopping.

I worry over money even though we have stable good jobs but it's just always unknown I worry about.

We have our own house and atm we dont even have proper bedroom for us or what's more for a baby nursery (we are waiting to do it up when this all pandemic calms dow ) and I was thinking why are we doing this we are not ready. Then again are we gonna be really ready ever?! So my hubby said not to think about it and we just go ahead cross this bridge when it comes.

@Stabal I do think it’s the progesterone for me, it must’ve gone wild this month because I’m starving 😂

@Pippy20 @Stabal that is good to know thank you. Sorry for TMI but I also have a runny tummy this morning which I think has caused the cramps. I woke up at 5am with bad cramping and it subsided after I had gone for an unpleasant number 2!

@Faith82 sorry about your job. So much uncertainty at the moment im in the same boat and it is hard.

I don't think there is ever a "right" time like you say. I did wait a couple of years after we were married as we wanted to enjoy our marriage just us 2 and go on nice holidays. The thing is now I'm thinking maybe we should have just started earlier but you never know do you? A lot of my friends are pregnant with their second child already and it does concern me and every pregnancy announcement does hurt even though I know I am being unreasonable!! On my girls WhatsApp group my friend announced her 2nd pregnancy the other day and she is one of the few who know I'm ttc number 1. I was half expecting her to message me privately asking if im okay but she didn't. Maybe I just expect too much and have to realise it isn't all about me and my journey.

Thanks for the advice. I now have opks and a pineapple at the ready! 😂🙏🤞

@NoRestYet pineapples for the win! Plus they are so yummy so it really is a win win situation 😆

@CAG14 it is really hard isn't it, and I’m super happy for people I really am, it’s just nice to be considerate especially when you know exactly what someone is going through. One of my friends recently text me before she told our group of friends she was pregnant again for the 900th time - she was one of a very small group of people I told about my mc so I really appreciated her telling me so I could process it without having to wade through all the OMG CONGRATS!!!!! Messages lol.

I’ve noticed you don’t see as many pregnancy announcement posts these days, I think in general people are becoming a bit more wise to the fact it’s not easy for everyone and it can be quite insensitive to post very in ya face announcements. I mean my dear sister decided she would tell our entire families she was pregnant on my wedding day lol - you can’t beat that 🤣 she was like well I thought you might question why I wasn’t drinking and I was like omg as if I would have even noticed you absolute eeeejit! Fortunately I’m not too bothered about that kind of stuff and children were definitely NOT on my radar back then 😆

Oops That should have said ‘fortunately I wasn’t too bothered about that kind of stuff’

I know. It’s hard. It’s not that you’re not happy for them, it’s just that you get a bit of the “when will it be my turn”.
I don’t know what will be best. I know my brother and sister in law are also ttc and have had 2 early miscarriages this year. They don’t know we’re ttc but I worry if I do get pregnant, it will really upset my sister in law. But if they get pregnant before we do, I’ll be delighted for them but also get that feeling of when is it our shot.
I fee awful when I think that way about other people’s happy news when I know I should be delighted but I think it is just normal. It always passes quickly but I do get a pang of sadness that it isn’t me

I also still have several people family and colleagues asking when we’re going to have children. Given the fact I’m 38, it is a silly one to ask. Especially when they don’t know if I want children or if I’m desperate for children but can’t have them. Or If I’ve had any miscarriages or if we’re trying but not falling pregnant.
I hate being asked that question 🙈

@LMA27 so true, it’s possible to feel incredibly happy for someone whilst At the same time being pretty devastated for yourself. One of my colleagues is having a baby soon, and knew about my MC, and as a result goes out of their way to tell everyone else in the office the latest updates etc except not me. I get that it’s coming from the right place but it also makes it suuuuuuuper awkward. Can’t win either way basically lol

Yeah it’s hard knowing what to tell people and when. I didn’t tell my sister when I was pregnant before as she’d had one failed round of IVF and I really didn’t want to upset her, I then told her about the mc and realised how ridiculous is all seemed and wished I had just told her as when it all boils down to it we all want the same thing and should be nothing but happy for each other. I guess it’s just making sure it’s delivered in the right way etc

I have got precisely F all done at work today and for the last half hour have been eyeing up the dominoes menu and rehearsing my lines for convincing my OH that I’m mondaying hard and doughy crap is required for dinner 😂

Oops that was a reply above should have tagged @LT103

@Pippy20 @LT103 I am definitely happy for people overall. But like you say it is a pang of sadness that then goes away quite quickly in the end. I know a lot of people assume we are trying and i know they are always watching out for an announcement or to see if im drinking or not. I can't believe your sister @pippy20 my SIL told everyone she was pregnant on my wedding day but it was their 5th round of IVF so I was obviously over the moon for them. Pizza is always a good choice whatever the day ;)

I have just done about 4 hours of overdue cleaning the house today which is so satisfying. Being on furlough it is good to keep busy. Also to keep busy not trying to think of symptoms.... haha

Completely with you all on the pang of sadness. It's hard to reassure people you're really happy for them when they know what you're going through or have been through but obviously it does hit you like a tonne weight. The boss I mentioned a couple weeks ago that's due another grandchild when I would have been due this year always shows me videos and photos of her grandson and it hurts. It really hurts. And I know I must be showing some sort of expression.. Maybe it's coming across as "not interested" and ignorant.. He's 3 in September and I've had to see all these milestones of him growing up. I also have 2 nephews and 3 nieces but they're all in their teens (I was a late surprise for our parents, my siblings are 10, 11 and 13 years older than me.. I'm actually closer in age to my nephew at 19 and my niece at 17 than their mother 😂) and I feel like they're my children haha. I have so much pride for them. At their school plays etc I cried at how overwhelmed I was at them standing on the stage. I can't imagine seeing your own child up there performing for something they've spent weeks learning. How do parents actually cope with these emotions? I will just burst. I've gone off on a tangent again but yes, it all hurts. I wish it was easy for everyone and I hope we can all get there in the end!

Yes that’s what I mean. It’s not that I’m not happy for others, but I end up feeling guilty for that initial feeling of sadness

@CAG14 I totally understand where you are coming from. I had a bit of a breakdown just before I turned 30 - I was totally single and had desperate and ticking clock stamped on my forehead so dating was horrendous! I was totally freaking out about the fact I was 30, had no signs on the horizon of settling down and always had a nagging feeling there was something wrong with me (diagnosed with endometriosis the next summer)
One of my best friends was getting married and the other just announced her pregnancy! I've always been super jealous of the pregnant one because everything just seems to fall into her lap
(spolier - she announced her 2nd pregnancy 2 days after my engagement and totally stole my limelight - she wasnt even trying and just got pregnant on her wedding night!)
I cried for the rest of the day after she told us she was pregnant - feeling sorry for myself that I wanted that and I couldnt see it happening and then feeling like a horrendous person for being so upset when I should be happy for her.
I also felt so left out that she didn't tell me they were TTC the first and
now I feel guilty that I'm not telling her that I am TTC. OH doesn't think we should talk about it with our friends.

So I joined this and made new ones

Also - still no sign of positive OPK and had a really heavy/dragging feeling yesterday really low down on my abdomen so hope AF doesnt appear before I've even ovualted!

Hi ladies

I'm 100% with you on the weird feelings towards friends and family getting pregnant... My cousin just announced her 2 pregnancy and she's just 2 years older than me. It's starting to get to me. Everyone in my shared garden has babies at the moment.. it's freaking me out a little.

Now regarding what vitamins/supplements you're taking, can you let me know what you guys have opted for?

After reading Impatient Woman's Guide, I am more lost than before somehow... All multivitamins for conception in the UK seem to have a ridiculous low amount of folic acid and I've now read that folate is better? Can anyone shed a light? Both Proceive Max and Pregnacare seem to be low in Folic Acid and don't have all the vitamins she suggests.

Should I buy everything separately? If so, that plus the OPKS... it's already a small fortune every month. I've only been taking 'Seven Seas Trying for a baby' with 400 mcg Folic Acid for a month now.

Also, anyone taking DHEA, Omega 3 DHA or Coq10?

I am feeling so overwhelmed. Grrrrr

AF due in 3 days. No sign of cramps, but I've had 2 BFN already.

@stepmumSW5 I agree felt totally overwhelmed after reading that book.
The UK conception ones have the exact amount of folic acid though..they recommend 400ug so maybe you're looking at a different value?

I've opted for pregnacare and omega 3 2000mg that includes 440mg DHA. Xx

@butterfly5291 so she mentions 800 micrograms of folic acid at least in the book - maybe I'm getting something wrong?

It's really overwhelming but I'm also inclined to get pregnacare + another supplement. I might try your combination. Thank you for sharing. x

I must have skim read that bit...all the websites here say 400ug is the recommended amount. Maybe check with a pharmacist if you're concerned?

I bought the omega 3 ones after recommendation from @Pippy20

@stepmumSW5 I take 400mg coq10, 400mg folic acid, 75ug vitamin d spray, baby aspirin and calc fluor during the TTW. I was taking agnus castus and myo-inositol but I think they're the cause of my spotting/light bleeding so I've stopped them now! I may reintroduce them again later down the line one at a time if things settle with the bleeding and there's still no BFP. I'm waiting on omega 3 to be delivered too.

@stepmumSW5

Hi ladies

I'm 100% with you on the weird feelings towards friends and family getting pregnant... My cousin just announced her 2 pregnancy and she's just 2 years older than me. It's starting to get to me. Everyone in my shared garden has babies at the moment.. it's freaking me out a little.

Now regarding what vitamins/supplements you're taking, can you let me know what you guys have opted for?

After reading Impatient Woman's Guide, I am more lost than before somehow... All multivitamins for conception in the UK seem to have a ridiculous low amount of folic acid and I've now read that folate is better? Can anyone shed a light? Both Proceive Max and Pregnacare seem to be low in Folic Acid and don't have all the vitamins she suggests.

Should I buy everything separately? If so, that plus the OPKS... it's already a small fortune every month. I've only been taking 'Seven Seas Trying for a baby' with 400 mcg Folic Acid for a month now.

Also, anyone taking DHEA, Omega 3 DHA or Coq10?

I am feeling so overwhelmed. Grrrrr

AF due in 3 days. No sign of cramps, but I've had 2 BFN already.

I recommend opks from access diagnostics. Much better than cheapies from eBay and good clear readings

Morning all and hello to the newbies that have joined!
I've been keeping up with all messages silently, I'm not CD 9 of SMEP and actually feel really excited and good about this month.
Quick question though, what time do people do their OPK's? I struggle to hold a wee in for 2 hours let alone 4!

@Jadeb1995 I do them around midday/1 and if it's a high reading I'll do another around 6/7 depending on my work shifts. I don't think it has to be a 4 hour hold necessarily, as long as you haven't drank a substantial amount within 2 hours that would dilute your urine

Morning ladies. BFN on FRER this morning and I'm 11DPO so that's me out. Feeling pretty deflated and miserable and obviously all the usual thoughts of is something wrong with me. My family are coming to stay this weekend (haven't seen them since January) so it would have been nice to tell them good news but instead I'm just going to have to drink all the wine I bought with them

@Jadeb1995

Morning all and hello to the newbies that have joined! I've been keeping up with all messages silently, I'm not CD 9 of SMEP and actually feel really excited and good about this month. Quick question though, what time do people do their OPK's? I struggle to hold a wee in for 2 hours let alone 4!

I have pop ups on my phone for them so it's handy. I try to not drink or wee doe 2hours before I take it but sip of water won't harm results.

I usually do them twice a day (12 and 4pmish) until it's high and then I do them 3-4 times a day until I get peak and then stop