TTC baby no1. Looking for fellow crazy TTC friends!

[CAG14]

Hey

This is my 9th month TTC my first baby and I'm 33. I got static smiley on Friday on OPK, and now I'm in my TWW - again! I'm currently on furlough so the wait seems even longer and more painful and I definitely end up going a bit crazy 🤪

Anyone else in similar boat and need keeping sane?! Also any TTC tips you've heard of? I will literally try anything at the moment haha.

@squidlady sorry for the BFN :( I know exactly what you mean about all the ways you think. I think it is definitely fine to be angry and sad for a day and then try and turn it into positivity. It is such a roller coaster isn't it?

@stabal cramping is back. Im guessing AF will make an appearance tomorrow.

Hi I am 30 and we are TTC for first baby too!

@squidlady really sorry for the BFN 😣 I know what you mean too. It's so up and down.

@CAG14 nooo 😞 though you're never out until she finally appears 🤞

@Crayon7 hey! How long have you been TTC?

5dpo here and I cannot stop eating at all. No matter how much I eat I feel like I am starving and my belly is empty. I fuss about my weight as it is & I’m on a Keto diet.. well I was until I started eating everything I could see. 😭😭

Hi all, i am very new to this, but me and my partner have decided to TTC.
I have been off cerezette, (still early days) for 2 weeks now.
Me and my partner have not been careful since i stopped birth control. However exactly 2 days after stopping the pill i had a bleed which i assumed was a withdrawal bleed, this lasted 3/4 days but felt like a normal period. However in the last few days i have experienced several pregnancy symptoms but a very recent test has come back negative, hence the reason i did a test as i have had a break before from this pill but cannot remember getting these symptoms. Over the last week My symptoms have included sore and tender breasts, cramps and stomach pains, mostly in lower sides of stomach and abdomen, white discharge, and frequent urge to go to the toilet and more facial spots. I was on cerezette for 2 years and when i was taking cerezette my periods completely stopped and then the last few months recently i had the odd spotting here and there, i have read stories and there helpful but has anybody had these similar experiences and is this a good sign and normal?

Many thanks.
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[quote Stabal]@squidlady really sorry for the BFN 😣 I know what you mean too. It's so up and down.

@CAG14 nooo 😞 though you're never out until she finally appears 🤞

@Crayon7 hey! How long have you been TTC?[/quote]
Hi we have been TTC for 18 cycles, had two chemicals. I wish sometimes I didn't test early but it's so hard to resist!

My DH and I have started our TTC journey this month - had the mirena coil out 8th June and 6 days ago was the first time I ovulated since then (been testing daily) so fingers crossed! I’m 36 and he’s 40, really hope it happens for us.

@fatbottomedgirl100 Hi, we practically started our TTC paths at the same time. Had Mirena out 11th June, I'm also 36 and OH is 39 in November. I've just started using Femometer stripe this week, had a darker one today so just about to ovulate I think.

Feeling a bit conflicted ATM though as my work situation had changed since deciding to have coil out. Company has now announced compulsory redundancies with a group meeting tomorrow afternoon so don't know what's going to happen. With that, one half of me is desperate for it before we get much older and the other half feels so reckless trying to do with so much uncertainty and instability surrounding.

@Nellyk84 Are you me? 😁 my work situation is also a bit uncertain at the moment. For various reasons, if I get pregnant in next couple of months I won’t qualify for paid maternity leave (other than statutory) and there’s also some shake-ups going on at my work. Ultimately my DH and I decided to go ahead and TTC anyway given it might take us a while to conceive and it’s not guaranteed that we’d be in a better situation Next year anyway.

I hope you and your partner come to the right decision for your family and that the result of the group meeting is positive for you.

@Leobaby I'm 4DPO the progesterone munchies hit me last night.. Found myself wondering aimlessly in my kitchen until I settled on 2 pots of custard 😂 🤞 for you though

@BA15 hi! Unfortunately it could take a long time for you to get back to normal and random spotting isn't uncommon. I hope it settles for you soon! I've come off that pill in the past and I bled for quite a while

@Crayon7 I know how you feel. After my miscarriage I tested early the first cycle and got a BFP. Unfortunately started bleeding 5 days later so I think I had a chemical too. It's heartbreaking. Really hope we get our bundle of joy soon

Morning ladies. Hope you don’t mind me joining the thread. I’m 29 and this week marks 12 months off the pill. For the first 6 months I was very chilled and although we were not actively TTC i naively just thought it would happen! At the start of the year I downloaded a fertility app so I was more aware of my fertile period and would make more effort to DTD during that week. So far no success. In 12 months I haven’t taken a pregnancy test, no ovulation kits, no supplements and my OH is very keen on ‘just letting it happen naturally’. I’m currently very torn between letting nature take its course or using conception aids. I don’t want to become obsessed but at the same time it is really getting me down every month when it doesn’t happen. I’d be interested to know your thoughts on what you would recommend as a starting point? Thank you all..... I have found it comforting to read this thread and know I’m not alone in my journey.

Morning ladies. I decided to try and not come on my phone and just have a weekend not overthinking everything TTC related. I’ve got ulcers from stressing myself out and AF made me so down this month. It just sent my mind into overdrive and overthinking literally everything.
So me and OH went to Abersoch yesterday and spent the day at the beach with friends, (socially distanced) it was so lovely although now I look like a lobster haha but I feel like the vitamin D has done me some good.

Hi to all the newbies 🙋🏼‍♀️

@squidlady I feel you, I feel like I’m stopping myself getting pregnant with the pressure and the anxiety of it all but I don’t know how to not do that haha

Hope everyone has a good Monday 💛 x

@LMA27 you can’t beat a bit of sea air and vitamin D! Glad to hear you had a good weekend and managed to relax a bit - I’m also prone to ulcers when stressed so I feel your pain!

@NoRestYet 👋🏻 yeah I get your point, maybe talk it through with your OH if it’s bothering you? Or start tracking and keep an app or a diary and that way he doesn’t need to worry about the details and you’ll have a better idea about what’s going on. I decided to use opks pretty much from off as I’d been on the pill for about 13 years and didn’t have a clue what to expect! Opks and using an app to track made it easy for me so I knew which days ‘mattered’ and which didn’t lol. Other people I know just ‘let it happen’ and that’s worked too so I don’t think there’s a right way or wrong way to approach it - figure out what works for you both and stick to that 👍🏻

@NoRestYet

Morning ladies. Hope you don’t mind me joining the thread. I’m 29 and this week marks 12 months off the pill. For the first 6 months I was very chilled and although we were not actively TTC i naively just thought it would happen! At the start of the year I downloaded a fertility app so I was more aware of my fertile period and would make more effort to DTD during that week. So far no success. In 12 months I haven’t taken a pregnancy test, no ovulation kits, no supplements and my OH is very keen on ‘just letting it happen naturally’. I’m currently very torn between letting nature take its course or using conception aids. I don’t want to become obsessed but at the same time it is really getting me down every month when it doesn’t happen. I’d be interested to know your thoughts on what you would recommend as a starting point? Thank you all..... I have found it comforting to read this thread and know I’m not alone in my journey.

My hubby is chilled. Me not so much after 18cycles and two chemicals

I have used Pre-seed this cycle will let you know if it worked at all.

Thanks @Pippy20 I see all of the comments about BFN, CPs, flashing smilies, faint lines and just think oh my god i don’t know if I could put myself through that every month! Don’t know how you all do it and function like normal human beings at the same time! ... but on the other side I think I’m not trying hard enough! So hard. Wish they taught these things in school !!!!

@NoRestYet haha yeah but I think the key is having a positive outlook. Yes peeing on sticks every month is a pain, but for me, and especially after having a mc, I liked knowing what was going on and when. I just found that if I knew what was going on I could deal with it, so getting a bfn is bloody disappointing but then it cleared my head to be like okay let’s see what the next cycle brings. And with opks it was good to start seeing a pattern and then needing to use less each month as it became easier to predict when I’d get a positive. Personally I don’t think I could have just gone on month to month not really having a clue what was going on, especially as some months I ovulated later than the app predicted, meaning I would have missed some key times! I just found that these things took out any doubts I had about ovulation dates etc and then that gave me the freedom to carry on with normal life without overthinking it too much. Easier said than done! But everyone is different and I know that definitely doesn’t work for everyone! I really wish there had been a much more in-depth lesson on this at school - I honestly thought have sex once and BOOM! Pregnant! I was that naive that even on the pill I was meticulous taking them thinking that even if i was a few hours late I could get pregnant - if only I knew haha

@Pippy20 I literally feel like I could have written this myself Haha. As much as I tell myself not to obsess and try to chill a bit more I actually think I would be a million times worse if I wasnt doing opks, tracking temp etc as at least I know what is going on and like you say some months I would have had no idea when/if I ovulated.

Just catching up with all the messages as not been on in a few days. Hello and welcome to all the newbies!

I really feel for those of you having unexplained spotting and, and those of you coming off birth control and trying to work out your cycles. It really is so exhausting, and like some you said there is such a fine line between not doing/not knowing enough and obsessing and driving ourselves crazy. I’m so thankful in that I’ve not had to come off pills or coil etc coz just used condoms my whole life. I suffer with Hormonal migraines so birth control was out for me. So my periods have been regular since I was 12 years old, which I’m thankful for. But it’s still not making it any easier to fall pregnant! And yes I’m my 20’s always feared the ‘have unprotected sex once and you’ll get pregnant” turns out that’s not the case!

I was told last week that my role at work is being disestablished, it was horrendous. But they are creating 2 new roles,one of which I am hoping I will be matched to. I’ve also had the thought of should we be trying during this uncertainty but I just feel total peace a out trying. I figure anything can happen at any point in life and we can’t put it on hold any longer. Plus turns out it doesn’t happen straight away for some of us anyway! But I totally feel the same as those of you going through work uncertainty. I honestly think women have so much more to cope with in life, men never have to worry bout how getting pregnant impacts their career/income/maternity pay.

So I’m CD8 today and starting my pineapple Every day this week and spoke to hubby bout smep yesterday. Was nervous about bringing it up as really thought he would say it’s too regimented and too much pressure. He was a bit quiet when I was explaining it but said yeah that’s fine, so I was really relieved. And so begins the week of smep for us, I really hope nothing crops up that gets in the way of it especially around ovulation. This is cycle 3 of trying for us now. One thing he did say is that his best friend (who has young kids) said that when him and his wife were trying for years, he got to the point where he would have been quite happy to never have sex again! I think he was hinting at how tiring & pressures it can be for the guy, my response was “yeah but you always get an orgasm out of it, it’s not like you’re being asked to go to war or anything!” 😂🙈 I mean some men would love to have sex every day!

I found this website which explains more bout pineapple and Brazil nuts, if def trying it out
www.ohbabynutrition.com/blog/pineapple-for-conception-brazil-nuts-for-implantation

Can I ask, do any of you change your diets/restrict sugar, do more exercise or anything else differently? I don’t drink caffeine and I don’t drink alcohol in the 2ww, but I just wondered if sugar can impact things too. I really don’t want to give up chocolate, this is bloody hard enough! 🙈

Anyone else coming into their fertile window this week too?

[quote Pippy20]@NoRestYet haha yeah but I think the key is having a positive outlook. Yes peeing on sticks every month is a pain, but for me, and especially after having a mc, I liked knowing what was going on and when. I just found that if I knew what was going on I could deal with it, so getting a bfn is bloody disappointing but then it cleared my head to be like okay let’s see what the next cycle brings. And with opks it was good to start seeing a pattern and then needing to use less each month as it became easier to predict when I’d get a positive. Personally I don’t think I could have just gone on month to month not really having a clue what was going on, especially as some months I ovulated later than the app predicted, meaning I would have missed some key times! I just found that these things took out any doubts I had about ovulation dates etc and then that gave me the freedom to carry on with normal life without overthinking it too much. Easier said than done! But everyone is different and I know that definitely doesn’t work for everyone! I really wish there had been a much more in-depth lesson on this at school - I honestly thought have sex once and BOOM! Pregnant! I was that naive that even on the pill I was meticulous taking them thinking that even if i was a few hours late I could get pregnant - if only I knew haha[/quote]
Haha I thought it will be so easy too! Now I wish that I never used contraception past 8 years as now TTC 18cycles and nothing.

With OPKs and temping.

@Faith82 I'm so sorry about your work, that must be stressful! Really hope it all works out. Sometimes I read posts about people concerned over being financially stable or saving before having a baby and I feel really guilty because those kind of thoughts never really cross my mind. Me and my OH aren't in the best paid jobs but we work damn hard and we do enjoy ourselves without having kids to pay for right now but I know when it comes we will work it and out and be fine. I'm also nervous about mentioning SMEP to OH as I think it'll put him off but I want him to also know how bloody stressed I am over everything 😂

@Crayon7 have you looked into trying anything different from cycle to cycle - like the sperm meets egg plan? Or looking into supplements etc?

Haha I know - it’s just frustrating that everyone’s timelines can be so different, I’ve got friends popping out kids left right and centre and literally just seem to look at their partners and get pregnant, and then similarly others who it’s taken a good few years to conceive. All the data on this is that most couples take a year on average - and I guess if a year is the average just as many people are taking longer than that as are taking less than that. I guess just try not to let what’s going on with other people get to you. I found a good old social media cleanse worked wonders for me! If you’re pregnant and you know me you’ve definitely been muted 😂

@NoRestYet hello and welcome! I am the same as @Pippy20 in that I need to know when I ovulate and what is going on as it changes each month. However I have had a few months (been trying for 10 months now) where we have decided not to use them and let it happen naturally. I just end up back with the opks haha. I think if you make sure you DTD every other day from cycle day 8 up until your next period it should cover it and then you dont have to worry about tracking.

No sign of AF this morning but I can just "feel" it coming if that makes sense. Did a test on an IC this morning and it was BFN. Only 10DPO but I just know this isn't our month.

@LMA27 hope you are okay. Sounds like a nice idea having a break from your phone and doing something nice. It can be so consuming and stressful.

@CAG14 don’t give up hope just yet! I got a stark as day negative at 9dpo and a decent line at 12dpo and I felt exactly like I was about to get AF 🥴

@Stabal We are the exact same - worry about the financial details etc later as there won’t ever be a ‘right time’ to do it so might as well go for it 👍🏻

[quote Pippy20]@Crayon7 have you looked into trying anything different from cycle to cycle - like the sperm meets egg plan? Or looking into supplements etc?

Haha I know - it’s just frustrating that everyone’s timelines can be so different, I’ve got friends popping out kids left right and centre and literally just seem to look at their partners and get pregnant, and then similarly others who it’s taken a good few years to conceive. All the data on this is that most couples take a year on average - and I guess if a year is the average just as many people are taking longer than that as are taking less than that. I guess just try not to let what’s going on with other people get to you. I found a good old social media cleanse worked wonders for me! If you’re pregnant and you know me you’ve definitely been muted 😂[/quote]
Used pre-seed this cycle 🤞🏻 will see if that helps. Supplements and vitamins didn't seem to make difference so far

@Pippy20 exactly this. I could think of a million reasons why now or any time in the past 2 years isn't a 'right time'. We know there will be sacrifices to made but we're responsible and have our heads screwed on, we'll be fine!

@CAG14 sorry you feel like that. But my early pregnancy symptoms also felt like AF was coming any second so 🤞🤞🤞 it ain't over til it's over!