TTC first baby thread 25

[Annny27]

hi ladies,

Setting up a new thread for all of us ttc our first baby!

Will tag all the names I can remember from top of my head (I.e easy to spell haha)

@kiza
@lozzlepop
@orangeloo
@lottiepink
@timswifey
@XjustagirlX
@lizzie198

Graduates:
@whatsthecraic91

@whatsthecraic91 good luck for your 12 week scan. Before I started this journey I had no idea what a huge milestone and achievement that is. Make sure you celebrate 🎊

good luck @whatsthecraic91xxx

@whatsthecraic91 lovely to hear you're just about at the 12 week milestone, so happy for you.

@timswifey sorry to hear -
AF arrived, how long do they usually last for you? I use a menstrual cup and noticed it appears to shorten my AF, something about the auction helps??

OPK was negative this morning indicating I probably did O yesterday but now got proper ewcm today? Gonna DTD today but make out to DP that it's just cause I'm in the mood rather than due to the ewcm and hopefully he won't have performance issues again.

@mrsbecs not sure what you meant with ex friends, do you mean an ex partners friend or an old friend of yours?

How's everyone's weekends going?

Hi @Kiza I love my mooncup.

For me day 1 is light, day 2 is hell, then a few more days medium-light, then spotting for a couple of days.

I have to be prepared for about 8-9 days usually. The night of day 2 I'm usually up 4-5 times during the night to empty the cup. It is honestly the worst BUT the cup is slowly improving things I think. It used to be heavy for a good few days but now it's just that 24 hour window where I feel like I can't really leave the house.

@timswifey I completely understand about the heavy flow. Mine used to be so bad that if my drive to work lasted more than the 1 hr it usually does then my tampon would be drenched and overflow onto my pad ( back up protection). It seems to have improved a bit with the 14kg I’ve lost. Still somewhat heavy though. I am thinking about using the moon cup but am a bit nervous 😬 unsure why

Hi everybody:) few days off from mumsnet so just catching up! Cd6 today

@timswifey sorry that your periods have been heavy :( perhaps if you haven't conceived in a few months you can go and see your GP as well but I am sure there is nothing to worry about

@Kiza that seems strange having such an early ovulation and then ewcm. I have ewcm up until sometimes 2dpo but usually it trails off at 1dpo

@whatsthecraic91 best of luck for your scan!!! Let us know how baby is doing and please share somepics 💗

@Lozzlepop have you heard any more on your bloods?

@orangeloo how are you getting on?

@mrsbecs ah a hen with ex friends doesn't seem fun!!

Been away from here a while, just reading back some messages to see what's going on.

@LT103 @beachbum85 @orangeloo how are you ladies getting on? I think we were all starting our new cycles the same time? I am CD13 now.

Trying to start and track BBT but really don't understand it. Today it dropped down to 35.93 most other days it's been above 36 but it's zig-zagged quite a bit since I started taking it.. a few days ago I had the right kind of Cervical Mucus to suggest ovulation. So very confused to be honest! Trying not to over analyse and do too much with tracking and obsessing as I don't think it helps me.

@croselle sometimes before ovulation people get a small temp drop :)

Hey @Croselle! Nice to see you back
I'm doing fine thanks - it's CD10 for me but tbh I'm not paying much attention this month (I had to look up which CD on my app haha)
In the meantime I got some repeat blood tests back which confirmed that I have some thryoid values which are off, so it seems like I need to sort that out first of all, and I have an appointment to speak to a specialist next week...

How are you doing? Temping sounds confusing but it seems your FW is here!

Still catching up with messages haha. I am from South East London.

@Elakiya welcome, I also have PCOS and am struggling a little, over the past year my cycles have ranged from 28 days to 70! I can't work out when I ovulate, BBT confuses me and OPKs never show anything haha so I think I might give up with tracking and just try and enjoy the ride a bit more. I was due to have a HyCoSy scan in May that got cancelled, not sure when it will be now and my consultation which was due in August now in January! My partner is having a Sperm Sample taken next week though so still trying to keep some things going and just trying not to overthink it where I can, keep doing things. I was recommended CoQ10 supplements and Selenium which I've been taking a couple of weeks now along with Folic Acid and using pressed lubricant.

Hope everyone else is getting on okay!

@beachbum85 yeah finding temping very confusing but I am overall trying to track and worry less. I think if I can just try and enjoy the ride a bit more and appreciate the time I have on my hands now to get some hobbies and things down then it might take the stress away and help a bit more! Who knows!

Glad you're doing well :)

@croselle. All good here. Cd10. Tracking temp and opk this month. Still negative on opk And temp all aver the place but will see what happens. Think I have a few more days to go until ovulation but I’ve never tracked before!

I think I'm around the same time frame as some of you too. I'm CD12 today, been doing CB OPKs since early CD5 and had a few days of flashing. Hoping for a peak soon. Been using Preseed a couple of times. How often is everyone planning on DTD during FW and peak?

Hi @ALew15 over the last 22 months we've tried all sorts, from every 3 days, every 2 days, also tried SMEP for about 6 months and still try to do that now when we can. It's tough going but increases your chances.

@Annny27 yeah was super weird especially with no ewcm before. I also don't have sore boobs which I normally get 1dpo so I'm wondering if I didn't actually ovulate and my body just geared up for it as the opk reading was 81 so just into the peak window. Going to keep DTD just in case. Are you trying SMEP this month or going for every other day?

@Elakiya @timswifey blimey you two ladies have it rough with that level of heaviness! Losing that much blood in 24 hours must also fatigue you, I have no idea what the NHS class as heavy but no harm in speaking to your doctor about it.

@Elakiya the mooncups can take a bit of getting used to, I would always squat in the shower to insert/remove and then force myself to laugh to 'relax' my muscles. Man the things us women do! 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

Having a right chilled out day 'working' from home today, only had 1 duty call so have been pottering around and it's been lovely.

@Kiza I’ve been told it’s due to PCOS. I also get huge blood clots but that’s apparently PCOS too. I am worried that they are just lumping everything under PCOS. However they have done a 3D scan ( when they were checking if I had a septate uterus) and they didn’t find anything abnormal?

Mooncups sound harder to use then tampons. I only started using tampons 2 years ago at age 27.

@Croselle it sucks doesn’t it. I think once you’ve been told you have it, just thinking about it adds to the stress.

I’ve been told to lose weight. I’ve got another 12kg to get to my healthy weight but lockdown is screwing me up a bit.

I haven’t started doing BBT yet but I read somewhere it has to be taken at the same time? I always forget to take it and have shuffled around in bed a bit before I remember to take it.

OPK’s I got a LH surge at cycle day 20 but was unsuccessful this month 😞. Without the BBT though I can’t tell if I’ve actually ovulated or the OPK was wrong?

I find that if I think about fertility too much I become obsessive, everyday I am googling about PCOS and how to cure it etc. I think stressing about it isn’t helping us, just need to let it happen naturally and not be concerned about it. I have professional exams so I am going to try and ignore the fertility side and focus on the exams ( but keep trying obviously).

What is HyCoSy scan? Is this to check for cysts on your ovaries?

Thanks for letting me know about the CoQ10 supplements and Selenium. Have you got hair loss and if so has this helped. I am literally going to be bald if things keep continuing the way they are. I was recommend myo-inositol. I’ve been taking it for a year but it didn’t help in anyway for me?

Are you on any medication for PCOS? I’m on metformin. Sometimes I think it’s pointless and don’t take it and honestly I think if I don.’the take it I binge more... the reason being that if I do take it and I start eating too many carbs it gives me the runs ( tmi sorry!). So it can control me to some extent

@Elakiya it does suck. I know exactly what you mean with the obsessing and looking things up. I'm trying not to anymore but it's hard. I might stop with the BBT as well cause u don't really understand it and anytime I do OPKs they show negative so I find it disheartening!

HyCoSy is where they flush the fallopian tubes with a saline solution to see if there are any blockages. I do have cysts too but they said they're not too concerned by them.

Im lucky with the hair side not getting more and not losing any so that's a good thing at least.

I haven't got any medication yet.

Hi Ladies.

currently 7DPO and still spotting! Feel abit silly but I might test on Thursday, we're having a street party for a neighbours 5th birthday - feel so sorry for him not having all his wee friends. Anyway, unlikely that it will tell me anything but I just don't want to get carried away with alcohol....

when do yous usually start pregnancy testing? or do you just wait for your period?

@timswifey sorry it was. AF, cry all you want Lion King is sad xx

@Kiza that had also happened to my husband. I can see why, its alot of pressure. I think next time i just wont tell him I'm ovulating.
It was 2 friends that were my besties, bridesmaids in my wedding. Turned sour after the wedding :(
@Annny27 thanks one of them text me trying to make me feel bad so I just left the situation, I cannot deal with that right now.

@Elakiya hope this month is all going to plan for you!!! Fingers crossed for Wednesday xx

@acaciabluebell my ovulation confused me as it only had a good strong line on one day, so I'm not even sure!

ps did someone say about having no/not much CM? I bought fertility lube lol, because I can be quite dry. So hoping that helps!

@Elakiya I highly recommend a mooncup, it will hold more than a tampon 👍

@Kiza every time I've been to the doctor they just try to put me on hormonal contraception but alas, I am a hippy and don't want to mask the issue I want to deal with the root cause. Call my crazy. Also I'm TTC so the pill is not right for me at the moment.

@mrsbecs I am afraid AF arrived on Friday last week. 😞 ah well we just start again 😄😁

I am always quite dry, no CM apart from close to the end of my cycle when I get white cloudy CM?
I might track CM properly this cycle. See if I can spot a pattern. I might buy preseed next month if I get a positive Opk this month but no egg white CM.

@timswifey will definitely look into moon cups. Are you allowed to sleep with them on?

@timswifey a fellow hippie!!! I'd been on the pill since I was 16 and came off when I was 26 and loved getting to know what my body really felt like. I then spent time syncing my cycles with the lunar cycle which was amazing, cycles have gone to pot now though!
I don't know much about natural remedies for PCOS but I'm a great advocate for TCM Accupuncture and herbs (if you can stomach them).

@Elakiya you can technically sleep with your mooncup in as they state you can keep it in for 12 hours or so, would just need to empty & clean it at bedtime before reinserting. It takes a while to get to used to it and you can be grossed out about touching yourself or your menstruated blood 😄

@mrsbecs am I right in thinking you've been spotting since O?

@timswifey @Kiza I was on the pill for 15 years! First went on it as a teenager for pad skin..... wish I came off it sooner as feel far better! Glad to hear about finding the and treating the root cause rather than masking the problem, love that x

@Kiza Yes thats right - Well not every day but its been over a week now - maybe I'm getting my period early or I got cut during DTD! I have been tracking my cycle for a year now since I went off the pill so I have looked and it has happened a few times before for a day or two. Also I had a dream last night that I got a BFP....MY MIND IS IN OVERDRIVE!
What is preseed? does it help with CM?

@beachbum85 good luck with your appointment next week xx

Still catching up on messages lol good to have this thread so active, nice to talk about this because my husband clearly does not want to know about CM etc lol

awww @Elakiya sorry about AF!!! Witch lol
xxx

Morning everyone,

Hope you are all well, not managed to fully catch up, but had a flick through.

@whatsthecraic91 that's amazing, such a milestone! Can't wait to see the scan pic 🥰

Hope you are all well 😊

Cd16 for me and I think I maybe ov'd yesterday or it will be today no temping or opk's, but had a few twinges 😊 defo takes the pressure off, and not missing doing it all to be honest. I usually take a temp around day 18 just to make sure it's high to confirm ov, I can usually feel the temp shift though to be honest.
Amazing what you realise 😂😂

Morning @Lottiepink, you are so intune with your body I love it! Tbh if this month isnt successful I cannot go through this again so will try and be less crazy with it all, focus on other things and see how I go. seems to make people happier when they do that xx