Penguin huddle 🐧🐧🐧 TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 35 - time for some sticky BFP's

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Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to give and receive support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy or baby. Pregnancy and child loss is one of the most difficult things we can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. I hope you find this thread to be of some comfort.

I have found so much comfort from the lovely ladies on this thread and I’m hoping for lots of BFPs in coming months!

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Hi lovely ladies thank you for the reassurance I will continue to monitor and hopefully see that positive opk sooner rather then later.

@Mumlili9 20th is not to far away now and hopefully will give you the answers you need.

@VenusStarr its so frustrating 😤 but at least having you all here its nice to know we're not alone. Hope the doctors go well, I am going to monitor and maybe if it continues like this i may also have a little discussion with my gp.

@Kiki275 thats good news then that you dont need treatment. Google is no ones friend but we all seem to use it when we shouldn't 🤦‍♀️. Hopefully you will continue to not need it and all will be OK for ttc.

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@VenusStarr no LevoThyroxine yet but if I fall pregnant then I'll need to start. Yes to Thyroid antibodies but I'm not sure what that means really. To be honest I'm a bit upset as I kind of pinned my hopes on this being the reason my cycles haven't regulated. Whilst I don't want to be unwell and neither do I want treating unnecessarily, I was hoping there'd be a quick fix to give me the best chance of TTC. That said, at least there's nothing worrying going on so I've as good a chance as anyone x

@VenusStarr that sounds positive though and hopefully your body will continue to steady out and regulate again. At least you now know you are able ttc and have as much chance as all of us which is brilliant news 😀.

I have just tested using the cb opks had nothing all cycle but this morning went from nothing to this so I'm hoping that means that I am finally going to ovulate and obviously have no build up so will be making sure I dtd the next 2 days.

That's a good sign @kim80 🤞

@Kiki275 I think I'm taking the levothyroxine now just for my own peace of mind, I don't think I really need it. The specialist didn't seem to think so either, but it majes me feel like I'm doing something. Mine was only 3.06 (I don't have a sub clinical diagnosis) and it's around 2.44 now. I was told if it was over 2.8 I could be medicated. I completely understand the contrasting feelings xx

I'm still spotting, my temps gave been dropping so I am wondering if I'm going to come on soon... Not much else to report. Dh got made redundant but managed to find another job quickly but it's shift work, so he's in all weekend and can't come to my follow up appointment. I have to drive to Surrey on my own. I'm sure it'll be fine and also means I have to concentrate on driving and not go ogling on the journey down!!

Have a good day everyone xx

I've been wondering if I had a duff pack of opks (just use cheap ones from amazon) because I've literally had no second line at all, on any of them. So I ordered a new set (still the cheap ones) and just did one and there's a definite faint second line. So it's entirely possible I might have but just missed it because the opks were rubbish. Or I've not ovulated and I won't. Or I'm still waiting to ovulate. But spotting most days is not normal for me either way. This is my chart - my temps after ovulation normally are around 36.5. Anyway, need not to obsess... 🙄 😑

@VenusStarr good news he got another so quickly. Would he be allowed a break and video call into the appointment, so he's there?x

I don't think so @Kiki275, he's in hospitality and they only get a 15 minute break 🙄 plus my appointment is at peak time for them - 1.30pm. He didn't feel comfortable to ask for the day off in his second week, I get that and we were prepared for it. Just sucks. But I'm hoping it brings us answers. Plus it's probably good for me to go alone as when I'm having treatment if check ups, I'll definitely have to do them alone, so it's good practice! Xx

@VenusStarr sorry to hear you have had to deal with redundancy through this shit time but its amazing his managed to get another job with the current situations.

I also ordered some cheap opks from amazon and never hardly had any 2nd line i then brought some easy@home ones and they always had a faint line so I also thought my cheap ones may not have been so sensitive as the better ones. Your chart looks good though as it does show you hit the temperature you normally ovulate at so fingers crossed you may have and your opks just never picked up on them.

Please keep us informed with your appointment its true what you say as in ipswich every appointment you have to go alone and at least with driving it will keep you busy on the way.

Good luck. X

I can't remember if I mentioned that I was worried about retained tissue but I've had a negative test at 2 weeks after my medical management. But I've had the spotting and some strange cramps on and off. I did get antibiotics which I finished on Thursday. This morning I've passed some tissue that I definitely feel is pregnancy tissue - it's been 6.5 weeks. I'm waiting for the epu to call me back.
I'm so worried 😢 I hope that it's everything. I knew something didn't feel right. X

@VenusStarr I'm so sorry you're still having to go through this and it wasn't picked up in sooner. I hope EPU can help xx

Thanks @Kiki275 the epu did call back, feel a bit reassured but still got a niggly feeling that something isn't right. Because my hpt is negative, I don't think they're concerned, which I do understand but this is definitely not normal. Just wrapped up on the sofa with a heat pad and the cats.

I'm going to speak to the GP tomorrow as I'd already had antibiotics which I finished on Thursday and they possibly helped move things along, just not sure if I'd need more. I'm also seeing our new doctor on Wednesday, so I'd be interested to hear his thoughts (and he might scan me). Xx

I hope everyone is okay and I'm sorry I haven't contributed much to this thread recently

@VenusStarr I hope you're okay and I hope get some answers xx

Good luck to everyone 💗

Good to hear from you @EatPrayYoga ❤️

GP is referring me for an urgent scan (not sure how soon urgent is though) x

@venusstarr I am so sorry you are going through all this. Hopefully they will get you in quick for the scan and you will have some answers. I had retained tissue and know how it feels to bleed for so long admittedly I didnt go through 6 weeks of it which I can only imagine must be dreadful as I know how much I had enough of just 4 weeks.

I really hope that either the tissue you lost was the end of it or you hopefully get some answers from the scan.

Being tucked up on the sofa with a heat pad sounds like the best medicine for how you feel.

Please keep us updated.

@eatprayyoga good to hear from you hope you are ok. 🙂

Hi @VenusStarr not sure if you remember me, I used to be FrillyFarmer when I was on these threads.

My second MC was very similar to yours, I passed what we thought was everything, but I still had a couple of symptoms and a feeling. I tested negative after two weeks, and then a few days after I started to use OPKs again. They were showing constant peaks and when I did an HPT it was positive. The useless GP and nurse tried to convince me it was a new pregnancy but the HCG results from my blood tests were too low, but were rising. It went on and on and I had to push but I had retained products and had to have a D&C. The sonographer spent about 20 minutes on me before he found the retained products so don't be scared to challenge them for another look. I'm so very sorry you're going through this again, sending my love to you and the other penguins on this thread. Xxx

Hi @dryoldparty I do remember you, thank you for coming back on the thread. I'm sorry you've been through the same. I'm petrified of surgery. I'm not getting positive opks or hpts now, so I can kind of understand why the epu aren't seeing me and hoping that it means all is well. But like you say, there's a feeling I can't shake. Plus the tissue I passed, I'm 100% certain that it was pregnancy tissue but I need to check that it's all gone.
I've got the 'urgent' scan on Saturday morning. I'm seeing the private recurrent mc specialist tomorrow, so I'll take it through with him and see if he might scan me.
Thanks again xx

Hello ladies sorry I've been awol again. 13dpo today BFN . Hysteroscopy on Friday but now DH is on beta blockers. It seems the universe really just doesn't want thus to happen for us.
@VenusStarr sorry to hear your having troubles, hopefully they can sort you out x

I'm sorry to hear about the bfn @Mumlili9 ❤️ lira of love for Friday and hope it brings some answers. Sorry to hear about your dh too.

I'm just killing time before my appointment, made it down in good time, so had a coffee and a sandwich. Will post later with my results 😬 xx

Lots of love! *

Good luck @VenusStarr with this afternoon 🤞sorry to hear this @mumlili9 and good luck for Friday x

Thank you @kim80 I'm not long home. Tiring day but we finally have some answers! I have very aggressive nk cells, so my body is attacking the pregnancies. He said that without treatment I'd likely keep miscarrying 😢 so I'm on some medication called hydroxychloroquine and I have to have regular intralipid infusions - had my first one today. We are able to resume ttc now and all being well my cycle will settle soon. Feel so relieved that we finally have some answers but I'm devastated that it took 4 of my babies for us to find our the reasons why xx

@venusstarr I am so glad you have found this out and have been given the ok to ttc again and the correct medication to help.

Its so sad that it takes such losses to find out what is going on in the body.

I fully wish you all the luck from now on and will enjoy being on you journey with you. 😊

@VenusStarr I'm so glad you have an answer and even better that it's treatable. I do hope things happen quickly for you xx

Thank you both @kim80 @Kiki275 officially started my medication today :)

@Mumlili9 best wishes for tomorrow, will be thinking of you. Xx

Hello ladies. Just de-lurking again .......

@VenusStarr so pleased you have some answers and started treatment now. Fingers crossed you get a BFP soon and it's a sticky one! Just wish you didn't have to lose 4 to find this out.

@Mumlili9 thinking of you tomorrow and hope it gives some answers that could lead to a successful pregnancy x