Penguin huddle 🐧🐧🐧 TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 35 - time for some sticky BFP's

[SomeBunnyovertheRainbow]

Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to give and receive support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy or baby. Pregnancy and child loss is one of the most difficult things we can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. I hope you find this thread to be of some comfort.

I have found so much comfort from the lovely ladies on this thread and I’m hoping for lots of BFPs in coming months!

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Morning,
@Mumlili9 have you started your new role yet?
@Esssa has the bleeding settled?
@Hopefulmummie how are you?
@VenusStarr how is the IVF preparation going?
Hope everyone is okay x

@Kiki275 not yet I start Monday. I can't believe how nervous I am though. I'm a bit scared to. I'm told the wards are very volatile and to expect to be hit and bite regularly.

@Mumlili9 at least they're being honest . Hopefully, it sounds worse than it actually is and for the most part will be quite calm & routine x

@Kiki275 morning I'm good thanks. Af just finishing now so trying smep from Monday as it worked for us the last time
How are u

Just to let you know I had my 12 week scan and it was successful. I'm still rooting for you all in the background! Hope you're well.

@Sakura54 wonderful news! Are you feeling more reassured?

@Hopefulmummie good thanks. Suppose I'm in the dreaded TWW now so time will tell x

@Mumlili9 Oh wow, least you'll be prepared going in? I hope it isn't quite as full-on as that on Monday! Hopefully this week and weekend is a good one, and let us know how you get on when you start.

@Sakura54 That's fantastic news, so pleased for you :)

It's been a month today since my wee boy was born, and finally got a call to say he'll be able to be cremated and have his service next Saturday. Hoping this brings a bit of peace knowing he's at peace and not in limbo - Id wondered why I was feeling worse as time went on and not better, but I think that was maybe why as I feel so relieved he's finally going to be able to rest. Sounds morbid to say that it's been a good day because of that! But it has ❤️

Hope everyone's ok today! x

@KerryW87 how lovely! I was lucky as I got hand my boys personally to the funeral home and then visit them as often as I liked until their funeral. I can't imagine what it would have been like not to be able to do that. You must be so excited to have him close by again and say everything you need to xx

@Kiki275 Aw I'm so glad you were able to do that, that must have helped a bit during such a sad time for you ❤️ Yeah, it's been hard knowing he's been in the hospital mortuary all month but just so relieved he'll be laid to rest now and we can go visit him ❤️ Thank you :)

Off topic but wondered if anyone can help? Has anyone had mid-cycle bleeding? I never usually do, but this week was looking like ovulation week (CM, cramps etc) but I'm bleeding bright red? It doesn't seem like a period, looks too much like fresh blood but gradually getting heavier over the last 24 hours. Bit scunnered that it means I'm not back to normal yet :(

Hope everyone's ok! xx

@KerryW87 what CD day are you on? Had you had a "regular" cycle previous to this?x

This would be my first cycle after lochia stopped so it's very rough but I'd be around CD 16? Perhaps because I haven't had a "regular" one yet I might still be all over the place? Was just a disappointment when all seemed fine until this!

@KerryW87 I think it can take time to get back into a regular cycle

Hope everyone is okay 💗

@KerryW87 sorry it must be so disappointing. I agree with @BunnyLovesBananas mine took months to get back to "normal" and even now the flow has changed from before. My 2nd period was approx 3 weeks after the first but the cycle did then start to lengthen. Just log everything on an app and get to know your new cycles. DTD regularly but without becoming a chore. 🤞for you xx

@Kiki275 @BunnyLovesBananas Thanks both of you ❤️ It is, it's really hit me hard today as I was so focused on getting back to TTC. I got a sympathy card from our maternity unit today but it was addressed to me and my ex partner which panicked me incase baby's details don't have his own dad's name on it! Phoned and tried to make sure they knew that I was totally fine about it and these things happen but could they just check that everything's right, especially since our boy is now able to be laid to rest and wanted any records to be right. They've said that they'll make sure everything is correct so I'm glad I phoned.

Also, the bleeding is now getting heavier so more like a period...but only two weeks after lochia stopped? So I guess I'll need to hold off on getting hopes up of falling pregnant straight away and be realistic. Been sent home from work today so it's just been a bloody SHAMBLES of a day 😂 Not to worry, you've all been through this too so I'll be fine x

@KerryW87
Excuse my language but F**k Work!!
Go home, get the duvet on the couch, put something good on Netflix (I totally recommend Anne with an E) for mindless heartwarming loveliness. Have a you day xx

@Kiki275 I felt terrible about being sent home but the headteacher was really good about it, said she was surprised I've been in and cheery every day since the term started and not to worry about having a day off.

Wasn't sure what to do with myself but after having to sort out that potential disaster (my youngest is almost 9 so it's not as though my ex was in that ward with me just last year or something...very odd that it was his name and not my partner's!) maybe a wee day in the house wouldn't be such a bad thing! Thanks so much, hope you're having a good day and thanks for cheering me up today! ❤️❤️ Are you in the TWW now? xx

@Kiki275

I will look that up too

I recommend Katy Keane on BBC iPlayer!

@KerryW87 I'm just thinking... I had lochia for about ten days and then got my first period almost exactly 28 days after I gave birth (I know because period came by the time we had DD funeral) so must have been similar to you ie period came a couple of weeks after lochia stopped. My periods were a bit irregular eg had a 33 day cycle and a 26 day cycle but not overly so this could be about right for you x

@BunnyLovesBananas Ahh thank you for this, my lochia was heavy for 10 days then by 2 weeks it had stopped completely so that might be similar to you then? If this is my period then I'll make sure and note everything down and see how things go from here on out. Thanks so much :) Hope you're ok! xx

@KerryW87 I wonder if they have him as Next of Kin details to you rather than the babies dad? It is odd though.

I'm on the TWW now, between DSs birthday and the house refurb, I'm hoping it'll fly by x

@Kiki275
Oh, I wonder? I think they took my partner's details when we were in labour but to be honest I'm not sure, as you'll know it was a bit of an exhausted blur at times! Whatever the reason, I'm sure they'll have it sorted now after I phoned so it's fine.

Aww lovely, hope he has a great wee birthday when it comes! House refurb is a major one (we've been in ours a year and will likely be doing it for the next...five 😂) Here's hoping that's enough to keep you distracted and it doesn't feel as long a wait as normal 🤞 x

@KerryW87 Yeah I started logging it straight away in Ovia and then at least it was logged in case I wanted to speak to my doctor or bereavement midwife xx

@Kiki275 Hope you're okay. The significant dates are tough 💙

Hi ladies how are you all?

Been shopping and sorting my house out this week. New job so thought new me. I've had my eye lashes done, thats new never tried it before. Dyed my hair and bought a whole new wardrobe. Stopped wearing foundation and threw out heaps of crap from my house I horded and never use.

I'm feeling very out of sorts. DH and I used protection for the first time in 3 years last night and I have to say it really did stop the passion for me. It just felt all wrong not only the unpleasant condom but the rest felt wrong too. I hope the next 3 months isn't going to feel the same way. Oh and luck would have it I'm going to ovulate on the first day of my new job. So I'm going to spend my first day with ovulation paid good times (rolls eyes 🙄)

@venusstarr how's the progress with IVF coming along

@Mumlili9 try a few condom types as some are better than others. Before TTC and then losing the boys, we found Boots ribbed were the best for us. Plus, they have the bonus of being mess free and no wet patches. Sucks about the ovulation pains, hope your body takes it easy on you, you deserve the break xx

Thanks for asking @Mumlili9, got an appointment in a couple of weeks. I've been incredibly anxious this last week, trying to work through that so have been quiet. I've got an acupuncture session next week, I actually called her yesterday to talk through how anxious I am, so she's going to help with that.

Good luck for Monday, putting yourself first is great :)

Hope everyone is OK xx

@Kiki275 I don't think is so much the type of condom as I've always hated the feel on them no matter the brand type. Its the needing to use on at all that bothers me. After much research I will never take the pill again its not good for your body or mind. I think its going to be a very tough 3 months. Although I not sure we need bother at all as its been 6 months of timed dtd and nothing has happened and my consultant pretty much said its unlikely to happen for us now after all the damage caused during my ectopic surgery. But I should be grateful im alive right? (Rolls eyes 🙄 )