Penguin huddle 🐧🐧🐧 TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 35 - time for some sticky BFP's

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Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to give and receive support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy or baby. Pregnancy and child loss is one of the most difficult things we can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. I hope you find this thread to be of some comfort.

I have found so much comfort from the lovely ladies on this thread and I’m hoping for lots of BFPs in coming months!

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@Hopefulmummie so sorry to hear about your loss. This is a lovely group though, welcome.xx

Hi everyone

Welcome @Hopefulmummie, I am so sorry for your loss ❤️ this group has been a wonderful source of support for me.

Glad you had a good acupuncture session @Semele5069. Very similar to mine, I was there nearly 2 hours! Full history and then I had about 20 minutes of acupuncture, all in my back, one in my head for anxiety and one in my hand and a few by my ankles. She did mention that I'm a bit stagnated and something to do with my kidneys, but I've forgotten what that means. I'm going to have a course and am looking forward to it.

I had a difficult counselling session on Thursday - I reflected from last time that I'm still holding onto a lot of shame, so we explored that. I'm not sure if it's off the back of that or the acupuncture releasing things, but I was quite emotional yesterday.

That's great about the sands session @KerryW87 ❤️

@AliceinBunnyland I'm sorry that happened, I know we can't hide away but like you say having news like that in a safe space is really tough 💛

Hope you're well @Kiki275 @Mumlili9 💕

I'm off to meet some new ivf friends I connected with via Instagram today which I'm looking forward to. Have a lovely weekend xxx

@Hopefulmummie So sorry for your loss ❤️ I'm very new to this thread and have already found it such a help, everyone here is very supportive ❤️❤️

@VenusStarr Oh how nice is that? Hope the meet-up went well and you had a great day! :)

@VenusStarr I think I'm being oversensitive as I'm so tired and a bit stressed with work plus feeling "hormonal" but these things will often bother me on a bad day. I feel much better today after a good night's sleep and watching some TV with my baby bunnies running around

Hope you enjoy meeting your IVF friends today

Hope everyone else is ok 💕

@BunniesLoveBananas I'm glad you're feeling a bit better! That's the good thing about this forum, always a good place for a vent when we're not having a good day ❤️

I do know how you feel - my sister-in-law is 7 weeks ahead of where I was. She's such a wonderful person and has had her share of heartbreak before this so I'm so over the moon for her...but it is also hard sometimes to know her baby's wee cousin didn't make it.

Glad you're having a better day :) x

@VenusStarr thanks for asking after me.

I'm CD 2 of my 3 month break from ttc. I start my new job on 24th August. I'm sorry I've been awol but I'm not really dealing with this enforsed break very well and I'm feeling quite resentful of the world right now. Then to really rub the salt in my friend with the 8 kids (youngest child is 10 weeks old) tells me today thats she's pregnant again and sends me a scan picture of 6-7 weeks twins!!! Truly I give up and have never felt more a failure.

@Mumlili9 I can understand to some degree why you feel the way you do. I can't believe your friend is pregnant again?! She is your friend and she might be highly fertile (from the sounds of it) but I wouldn't consider her to be more successful than you in any way from what you've said. You are not a failure 💗 Tell her that you don't need to see scan pics if that would help you. It sounds like you've been a good friend to her.

@Mumlili9 My heart goes out to you, I'm so sorry you're finding this so difficult :( I can't imagine how hard it must be to be taking a break when you feel it's forced and not entirely your own choice. How are you feeling about starting the new job?

You are absolutely not a failure ❤️ Hope you're feeling ok and having a well-deserved relaxing Sunday xx

@KerryW87 @BunniesLoveBananas thanks for your kind words.

My break from ttc is because of the new job. Its bitter sweet, I'm excited about the new job but it kind of puts a possible stop on ttc . The job intales lots of lifting and restraining fully grown men with mental health issues. I'm worried that even if I did fall pregnant then I might get hurt and lose the baby anyway or they would finish me because I'm pregnant. I know legally they can't do that but there's plenty of loop holes and other ways to get rid of you if they want too. Tbh I'm not sure ill ever get pregnant again anyway don't believe my body is capable. I believe that the surgeon completely messed me up during my botched ectopic surgery.

@Mumlili9 Oh wow, that does sound like a really physically demanding job! I'm glad you're excited about it - I've read so many times that we are "more than ttc" and it's so hard to feel that way at times, but I suppose we do all need to remember that; to make time for the things in our lives that we're good at and that we enjoy doing, whether that be career-wise or in our free time. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I'm happy that you're looking forward to the job and I hope that it's a positive thing for you ❤️ Is there a sort of probationary period for your job after which point they would have to look after you at work re. risk assessments and job security?

I'm so sorry about your surgery :( Has that been looked into at all?

@KerryW87 yes its a probationary period of 12 weeks and 3 weeks intensive training. As to the surgery no covid happened so that was that.

@Mumlili9 wow! Your friend is going to have a lot on her plate when these babies arrive! With as busy a life as she's got going on, she probably hasn't spared you a second thought 🙁. If her twins are identical, she'll be having a lot of scans. Now is maybe the time to gently say that you're so very pleased for her but are struggling with the news, then you can take a step back. If she is a friend, she'll understand. Huge hugs xx

@Mumlili9 ❤️ I didn't cope well with enforced breaks, I don't have any advice, but we're here. I can't believe the insensitivity of your friend. I vaguely remember when you said she was pregnant, wasn't she single? You are not a failure - I understand why you feel like that, I carry that feeling often, but it's not true. Sending you lots of love xxx

@BunniesLoveBananas I don't think you're bring oversensitive. I had something similar last week with a dormant WhatsApp group resurrecting with one friend asking another about her newborn as she's fostering a little one, so there was chat about going to baby sensory etc together. No one else in the group replied, so we were just essentially welcomed into their private chat. I met up with a different friend from the group yesterday and she said she completely felt for me and that it was inappropriate - helped me feel validated. The problem is them, not you xx

Hope everyone is OK - I'm having trouble posting so can't reply to everyone xx

Morning, hope everyone's ok! Hope you're feeling ok this morning @Mumlili9

So, I've been trying to roughly keep an eye on things since lochia stopped and I believe my cycle started again and this is potentially my fertile week 😬 (Thats unless my cycles are out of whack now). Been keeping an eye on EWCM etc but think that's about all I'll do - not sure I have the mental strength to deal with the frustration of OPKs!

I've been taking the Wellwoman vitamins for conception, iron, fish oil and manuka honey (read its good for EWCM). Partner has been taking wheatgrass as it's meant to be good for sperm...do any of you take anything differently for TTC/have any tips? Thanks :) x

Well ladies its my last day in my old life / job . I'm so excited but so sad. I've worked there for over 10 years and I'm going to miss it truly.

Thanks ladies for all your kind words over the last 2 days

@Mumlili9 enjoy your last day and embrace the new chapter. They say a change is as good as a rest and there could be so many surprises waiting, just around the corner.

@KerryW87 try not to stress too much about TTC straight away. Maybe put your focus on learning your cycles again as mine were totally out of whack (Flo was not good at predicting either). DTD every other night (but don't make it a chore). Sorry, that sounds so know all, but I found I got so upset and angry with myself for missing ovulation etc when in fact I really couldn't have known/predicted yet.
Also, I've heard good things about ConceivePlus. x

@Kiki275 Thanks, no it doesn't sound know all in the slightest, appreciate the advice so thank you ❤️ I know I probably do seem a bit nuts with it so quickly, I don't know why but I just feel like it's the only thing that's keeping me out of a really low mood these days. I know that's dangerous, though since, as you've said, my cycles might not be normal for a while.

I actually just ordered Conceive plus a few days ago!

Hope you're ok? xx

@KerryW87 don't think it's nuts at all. It's entirely understandable. Fingers crossed for you xx

Thanks @Kiki275 ❤️

@Mumlili9 Hope the first day went well! x

@Mumlili9 That was clearly meant to say your last day, not first! 🙈

FFS! What is it about men that means they piss you off immensely, at the precise moment when you're ovulating and you need them for their sperm? The thought of DTD has the same appeal as unclogging the hair from the shower drain x

@Kiki275 I shouldn't laugh 😂 but that is just TYPICAL. Is it just a general getting on your nerves sort of day? Hope he's less annoying in the required timeframe!

@KerryW87 😂 I'll just play a game in my phone and let him get on with it 😂😂 x

@Kiki275 That's a good approach 😂😂😂 x