Penguin huddle 🐧🐧🐧 TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 35 - time for some sticky BFP's

[SomeBunnyovertheRainbow]

Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to give and receive support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy or baby. Pregnancy and child loss is one of the most difficult things we can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. I hope you find this thread to be of some comfort.

I have found so much comfort from the lovely ladies on this thread and I’m hoping for lots of BFPs in coming months!

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Lovely for you to come in and say goodbye @Esssa wishing you lots of love ❤️ will be lovely to hear from you again so don't forget us! :) and hopefully we'll all be joining you xx

I'll definitely post a pic @Mumlili9 I think smep is OK as we both have short cycles, I couldn't imagine dh sticking with it if my cycles were 30+ days to be honest. He was knackered when I ovulated late before! :)

Managed to catch up on some sleep - you know when you're that tired you feel drunk?

I forgot to mention, I got an out of the blue email from Petals the baby loss counselling service. I completed a surgery for them about miscarriage aftercare and shared my lack of care. They contacted me and offered me 6 sessions! They're based down south but because of coronavirus, they're about to offer zoom counselling sessions to people further afield. I was so overwhelmed, I feel like having support from a counsellor who is trained in grief and loss following pregnancy loss would be much more helpful than the generic counselling I had last year (which ended up being me educating her on all things ttc 🙄)

Hope everyone is OK xx

I'm still around too, but feel the same as @Esssa I will be rooting for you lovely ladies in the background. You deserve to get your rainbows so much after all the hardship.

Hi all

Good to hear you’re excited for the new cycle @VenusStarr and yes I’d like to see a pic too!

@Esssa and @Sakura54 good luck with everything crossed tightly for you both.

That’s great news about the specialist counsellor @VenusStarr hope it’s helpful. I finally got my nhs referral through for a baby loss specialist counsellor through my hospital trust’s rainbow clinic, got my first zoom appointment next week.

Got the formal documention following DS’s PM. The report is peppered with unacceptable errors including referring to a ‘stillborn female’ as opposed to a male, and getting the wrong date of death and date of birth. I’m so annoyed. I’ve drafted a long email listing all the errors asking for them to be corrected.
The other big thing is that the PM call with the consultant said the cause was inconclusive, the pathologist report while still overall inconclusive, is quite suggestive of a cord accident being the cause and notes that the cord was short and hypocoiled so now I feel all over the place again. Got a specialist consultation next month with a more expert consultant in stillbirth so will just have to hang on til then and see if we get any more answers. I’m just terrified of it being something that will happen again in a subsequent pregnancy.

CD21 and I think 5DPO, ovulated a day or two earlier this cycle so hopefully it won’t be such a long one. Still at the managing to be vaguely sane part! I’m pleased with my first bbt chart so far

That terrible @marmitecheesetoast, I'm so sorry that the PM report is so inaccurate, that's incredibly distressing for you. I'm sorry there was detail about the cord which wasn't shared previously, that must have been very upsetting. I'm pleased you do have a consultant appointment with a specialist in stillbirth, I hope that does give you some support and can answer your concerns 💙

I'm pleased you're getting specialist counselling too.

Your chart is looking good too ☺️

6dpo and beginning to feel myself edging towards the crazy!

How is everyone else?

Happy Sunday

Morning @marmitecheesetoast I always find the first week of the tww manageable and the second I am twitching to test! Hoping the time passes quickly for you :)

The sun is shining here so we're off out for a walk today - very lazy morning so far, had a sausage sandwich and pot of tea. We went to the garden centre yesterday and got some lavender, herbs and new pots.

Hope everyone is OK, it's gone a bit quiet again. Thinking of you @Mumlili9 @SomeBunnyovertheRainbow @FloDaffodil xx

@marmitecheesetoast so sorry about your PM results and your right that a terrible thing for them to do. You must complain or these things just continue to happen.

I'm on cd9 and got my high on cbfm this morning so I'll see what opks say this after noon

@venusstarr hello I was thinking that too. I'm thinking I'm out this cycle if DH doesn't get in the mood soon. It's been 17 days since we dtd and he just keeps saying he's tired from work. I e tried talking to him but he says he's fine just tired. Doesn't help that I got my high this morning it's like salt in a cut

I'm sorry to hear that @Mumlili9, it can be really hard to get back into things - as soon as ov passes its like we fall out of the habit. Do you tell your dh about the opks? Hopefully you can try over the next day or so.
How are your temps this month? I remember last cycle they were pretty static just before ovulation x

Oh sausage sandwich and pot of tea sounds like the dream @VenusStarr definitely sounds better than my Sunday morning!

Lovely, I love the scent of lavender. Friends sent us a lavender tree when DS died, I had no idea that you got lavender trees! It’s in pride of place on our new front patio.

Oh @Mumlili9 that sounds incredibly frustrating and difficult I’m sorry. Does he know when fertile window is? Or does he feel like that puts too much pressure on? I must admit we’re pretty bad for only having sex during fertile window atm too.

I’ve sent an email listing all the errors in the PM and asking they correct them as well as feeding back how disappointing and upsetting it is so will see what I hear back.

@venusstarr tbh not so much this cycle. I'm not doing aspirin or EPO this cycle I wonder if that's why

@marmitecheesetoast oh yes he knows as we have fermometer apps together. He asked to link the apos so he could be involved. Dtd only happens if he wants it. He has aspergers so everything is always on his terms. If I tried to even kiss him with out him inviting the kiss he gets cross

@venusstarr @SomeBunnyOvertheRainbow

This does make things difficult with ttc

That sounds really tricky @Mumlili9 ❤️ ttc after loss is hard enough

Just wanted to share this picture I took today from my walk. We saw 3 lovely horses, this one could be a unicorn 🦄 :)

@venusstarr that's a lovely picture. Very professional looking too. But your right she/he really does look like a unicorn

I have NC

@marmitecheesetoast I'm so sorry so little care was taken in such an important appointment for you. I hope the consultant appointment helps 💙

@VenusStarr Thanks for asking of me. That photo is lovely

@Mumlili9 I'm sorry you have to deal with added difficulties with TTC. I don't know much about Aspergers but I hope you find a way to TTC that works for both of you. My husband used to almost rebel a bit when I was fertile as he didn't want to he told when we should TTC or feel like we are only doing it to have a baby but he has changed more recently probably because he now sees it isn't that easy to make a baby!

I'm on CD6 so nothing to report.

I did weigh myself for the first time today and weigh about the same as I did months ago. J hoped I'd lost a bit as I have been quite active but the past few weeks I've dropped off a bit so I need to make more effort to stay active.

@AliceinBunnyland nice new name. What is it with our men, they say they want children but seem to go out of there way to see it doesn't happen. Arhhhhh the frustration

@Mumlili9 that sounds really difficult. Hope things get back in gear for you soon 🤞🏻

Love the pic @VenusStarr definitely looks a bit like a unicorn! My DD would be very excited!

@AliceinBunnyland nice nc! Maybe you’ve gained muscle, that weighs more!

Thanks @Mumlili9 @marmitecheesetoast

No unfortunately I can't use that one as I've bought scales that tell me body fat % etc They connect to an app to log your progress which we both quite like. I was never focussed on weighing myself but I definitely still weigh more than before I got pregnant with my DD so hopefully I'll see some progress and this might help motivate me.

I totally thought I was out this cycle but I had a cheeky visitor this morning as DH had seen my positive opk in the bathroom bin. Seems hes up for trying after all. Positive/peak today so fx ovulation tomorrow. I've hot some strong pains on my right side (side with a tube) so hopefully we have a real shot this time.

How are you ladies

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Hello all, I hope you're all doing as well as can be expected x

I'm new on here, so thought I'd introduce myself

TW: Some slight graphic discussion of loss mentioned below

I'm 26 and started TTC again recently after a horrible loss last August/September. I have a wife, and we have a lovely known donor who we use when TTC.

I had an omental ectopic (usually this refers to an ectopic that isn't in the tube, but basically my body detected that there a problem and tried to wrap the affected tube in body tissue and pulled it higher up inside my body) which was initially discovered and treated with methotrexate when I was on holiday after I collapsed on a beach. Unfortunately, despite my HCG levels falling, I ruptured a month later (due to the type of ectopic there was a lot of blood loss) and needed emergency surgery and my right tube was removed.

We tried again early this year but have had a couple of chemical pregnancies but nothing seems to want to stick just yet. I'm in my TWW at the moment (due to test on Friday) and keeping everything crossed that something finally decides to stick! Would love to hear of some successful pregnancies after ectopic/tube removal as some days I do wonder if I will ever have a successful pregnancy.

Positive vibes and hugs to you all!

@Owl94 welcome and sorry for your losses. I too have one tube and hoping to have my rainbow soon. Hope you find support here. Oh yeah I don't think theres such thing as a topic not discussed here. There will be graphic images, stories and general tmi stuff all the time ( we do talk about nice stuff too sometimes lol)