Anyone want to join me...2dpo

[Moominmiss]

I never seem to quite fit into any of the existing posts so thought I’d create my own.

Feel free to join me.

I ‘think’ I’m due af around 17th May, but knowing me will start testing from around 11th onwards as I’m a total poas addict.

I say I think that’s when my af is due because in the past my cycles have been around 37 dats long. Ovulating around cd22.

But thus cycle I took soy isoflavones after researching about them, hearing they can bring ovulation forward, and amazingly I got my positive ovulation test on cd14! So if my luteal phase remains the same which I think it’s meant to, then I’d be due af 14 days after that (my luteal phase is 14 days long).

I’ve been known to test from 7dpo though so not holding out much hope of me staying strong 😂 that’s the trouble with having a ton of ic tests burning a hole in my drawer!

Good luck to everyone else.

Hi everyone, can I join? I'm 2dpo and trying for my first 🤞

Hi, can I join too?
Due af 16 May. Had a go with those clear blue digital ovulation kits this month. 9 days of flashing smilies so no idea if I have ov or not! Who knows! Ttc 1st baby at 33. Been nearly a year so it’s proper frustrating so need some like minded ppl who understand

Thanks for the welcome!
No idea re the ovulating twice, google doesn’t seem much help either and only refers to peaks within the same 48 hour period. AF was 6 days late and was getting neg after neg when POAS, anyway one day POWS (peed on wrong stick) and had a solid line, imagine disappointment when I saw the green handle, confirmed solid smiley face with CB.
I called my GP and she was looking to do bloods then AF arrived, appointment was cancelled and advised to try again this month but go in if anything strange happens again.
First time anything like that has happened, putting it down to stresses of our current world and thinking positive vibes :)

@Moominmiss luckily my FRERs aren't being delivered for another few days I've only got clear blue and I know they aren't as good for early testing. I don't want to waste them.

@Mrsirvine you are 100% correct at least I have "work" / MN to keep me occupied.

I'm sure my OH thinks I'm crazy the amount of time I've been spending on here

@BattenburgBerry I wouldn’t worry about not catching the peak on an opk, I think as king as you manage to bd a couple of times during your fertile window then you’ll be covered!
Also don’t worry about only just coming off the pill, I know of plenty of women who fell pregnant straight off the pill before even getting a proper af so fingers crossed for you!!

@Hopingfor2021 I’m so sorry to hear about your mc’s. It’s so awful to go through. Really hoping this thread can bring you some positivity. I’ve been ttc since September 2019 and had one mc and a chemical in that time. It’s devastating, and each month I feel like it’s getting further away from becoming a reality but we need to stay positive!

@Pol96 of course you can join! Welcome and baby dust to you 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

@Catsnkidsistheplan welcome 🙋🏼‍♀️ I’ve no idea about the clear blue opk’s as I’ve never used them, but I’m sure I’ve read on here that some women only ever get flashing smileys, never see a static smiley, yet still conceive just fine, so 🤞🏻 For you!
I’ve not quite been trying a year yet, but I’m 37 and they say 6 months or more of trying over age 35 is the time to get help. But I’m pretty sure seeing as I already have children, and have managed to fall pregnant would mean they wouldn’t be interested in helping me. Just feel bad for my oh as none of my children are his. He has none.

@MinnieMD oh god 🙈 I’d have been so gutted to think I had my bfp only to then realise it was an opk! It’s definitely the sort of thing I’d have done!
It’s good to know that your GP is on board with helping you out if it gets to it. Fingers crossed you’ll get your bfp and won’t need the bloods doing, but it’s great that they’re ready to help if something weird happens again! Hopefully it is just the stress of everything going on at the moment, I think from what I’ve read on here, the situation is throwing a lots of ladies’ cycles off!

@BabyDust13 I’m actually seriously considering asking my oh to hide my frers until I get a line he can see on a cheapie! He wouldn’t waiver. If I asked him to not let me have them he’d be really strong and not let me near them. I’m just glad I have such a huge stash of cheapies to satisfy my poas craving 😂

Thanks @Moominmiss think I'm on a couple of other threads with you too!

@Pol96 yes! I think I’m on the long cycles one with you and then I tagged you in my soy isoflavones thread too! 🙋🏼‍♀️ Nice to see familiar names though x

@Moominmiss snap, I’m 37 too. Although this is no.1 baby for me. I think my husband is more excited about this than me, he’s really getting into the details of the cycle, it’s nice that we can chat about it because I’ve not told anyone that we’re TTC.

@Moominmiss I couldn't do that OH would definitely cave. He's just as impatient as me. I'm sure he'd pee on a few sticks if he thought it would help 😂

Anyone got any tips for not symptom spotting etc? Last month I was awful with it!

@BattenburgBerry oh it’s nice to see someone else my age!
Oh you’re so lucky to have a partner really taking an interest in the whole ttc process. My partner is so eager to have a baby, and I know he desperately wants it, he’d do anything I ask of him in terms of making himself as healthy as possible etc, taking vitamins etc. Whenever I initiate sex he goes with it etc. BUT he’s totally clueless with how it all works regarding my cycles. And he’s just not really interested in knowing more. He just says as long as I know what needs to happen then I just need to let him know what he needs to do and when and he’ll do it.

My 2 best friends both knew I was ttc, and both went through my mc with me, but since my chemical, and one of my best friends announcing her pregnancy, I’ve kept quiet about ttc. I know they’d know I was still trying but I stopped talking about it with them. In fact when my one friend announced her pregnancy I felt so gutted that I told her I was taking a bit of a break from ttc to let my body recover a bit. I just felt a bit gutted and embarrassed that she’d gotten pregnant and I was clearly struggling. I didn’t want her feeling sorry for me so it’s easier for her to think I’m not trying. Less expectations!
I know now I won’t tell her until I’ve had a scan too. I thought we were super close, hence why I shared my bfp and mc experience with her, but I only found out about her pregnancy when she announced at 14 weeks on social media. Felt like a kick in the teeth to be honest.

So, like you this is the only place I can talk openly about ttc!

@BabyDust13 😂 the thought of your oh peeing on a stick!!! I did tell myself that IF I got a bfp this cycle I was going to try and keep it a secret from oh and surprise him with it next month on his birthday, but I know in reality I’d be bursting to tell him. I’m rubbish with any form of self control (as proved by my endless poas addiction) 🙄

@Pol96 if anyone has any tips I’m listening! Each month I try to keep busy and do things to take my mind off it, but even if I manage to find things to do, I still know in my head that the reason I’m doing these things is purely to take my mind off it. So it’s just catch 22 and never works. Literally since ttc it consumes every part of my life. The days from af I’m just counting down until ovulation, then it’s making sure we dtd at the right times, then obviously the tww starts. It’s literally never ending. I’ve lost track of how many times I’ve googled ‘symptoms at 2dpo’, symptoms at 3dpo and so on and so on 🤦🏼‍♀️

@Moominmiss I know right! Other than my oh, my best friend knows we're ttc and I've just told her I'm in the TWW (after explaining what the TWW is) and that I need distractions.. Doing online pictionary Friday!
Literally count down the days from af to ovulation then like you it's catch 22! 🤞 We get lucky!

@Moominmiss aw thanks for your kind message. It's such a lonely time, especially when everyone around you is announcing their pregnancies and you want to be happy for them, not bitter. Can't believe your friend announced it on SM before letting you know! What I have found during my miscarriages is that only those who have had similar experiences can truly understand. I've been so lucky having support from the most amazing friends but equally been surprised by unnecessary comments from others.

Sending baby dust to everyone on this thread xx

@Pol96 it really is so good to be able to chat to ladies that are likeminded and know exactly what it’s like to go through the turmoil of ttc!
I think lockdown is making it harder tbh, like at least before we could go out on dates, go shopping etc, there was way more stuff to do to take your mind off things. But now it’s literally me and the dog, or my kids when they aren’t with their dad.

@Hopingfor2021 it really does feel like the loneliest time and the loneliest place to be, ttc especially after a loss.
I’ve honestly lost count of the amount of pregnancy announcements I’ve seen in the last week. All due in October. I want to be happy for them but inside I just feel resentful and I don’t want to be that way!
My sil is due at the end of July and seeing her just breaks me every time. Like I couldn’t be happier for her and my brother but my due date was 3 dats away from hers, we should have been going through it together. We had told each other and were so excited to have cousins that would be so close in age, but then obviously I miscarried. But seeing her huge bump just reminds me of where I should be now. And I think you’re right, everyone tries to be supportive, but really it’s only those that have suffered in the same awful way that can ever truly know the heartbreak.

@Hopingfor2021 sorry to hear about your tough time. 🌈🤞🏼 good luck for this month

@Moominmiss I wouldn't be able to keep it a secret. To be honest both times I've had chemical pregnancies OH has been the one who has noticed symptoms and said maybe I should take a test. I get really sore boobs and apparently as grouchy as hell 😂😂

Sorry to hear that @Moominmiss, I’ve had friends in the past that I considered close and shared things with them, but they didn’t share things with me. So I’m just keeping quiet for the time being. If and when we do find out my husband and I have agreed that we won’t mention it to anyone, until we’ve had a scan. And it is a kick in the teeth when you find out on social media, like they don’t even have the courtesy to tell you first. I’ve not heard from one of my friends in ages, it’s like she’s dropped off a cliff during this lockdown.
I agree, it feels so free to share things on here.
Will keep fingers crossed for everybody, now just got to find something to keep me occupied for the next 2 weeks.
Def will keep checking in to see how everyone is doing

One way or another it sounds like we've all been through a tough time this making a baby malarkey is not easy but we need to stay strong and positive and help each other because the end result is going to be awesome - so I've heard I have no actual proof of this given I'm trying for my first (I'll get back to you on that) people get pregnant and have babies every day our time will come 🌈

Thanks and it’s good to join. Like therapy. I’ve not told too many ppl about ttc. Told a couple in the beginning when I was excited and then as the months go on, frustration sets in. I know what you mean as it feels like there’s preg announcements everywhere and it’s like seriously why can’t it happen to me? My sis in law is in the same age range as me and I worry if she ends up preg easily that I will just compare myself to her n be gutted.

@Pol96 trying not to symptom spot this month. I’ve done it every month. And you just hope you don’t get the beginning of af and then she turns up! Had sore boobs some cycles and sometimes not. Like every cycle varies!

@BabyDust13 Thank you, really hope this is your month! xxx

@Moominmiss I completely agree about lockdown making it much harder. And constantly being reminded of what you don't have with all the announcement. It was exactly the same with my SIL, our girl was due in of December (Turner Syndrome discovered at 13 weeks) and they announced their pregnancy just after we lost her, born 4 weeks after my due date. So I ended up lending her all my maternity clothes, breast pump etc which was heartbreaking as I wanted us to go through this together and have cousins same ages. With our first miscarriage my friend had identical twins due same date as me! Another friend same week as my third miscarriage and this 4th one I have multiple friends that have just announced their pregnancies at 12 weeks (which would have been me next week). It really feels harsh!

Is anyone already symptom spotting? Did something different this month etc? Is someone testing in the next couple of days? I really should wait til AF is due on Monday but knowing myself I'll do it on Friday!! FRER normally gives me a positive at 8-9 dpo....

@Hopingfor2021 I'll probably cave and test at the weekend if the FRERS I ordered turn up by then. I've had a few twinges/cramps today but nothing to bad 🤞 I'm only 5DPO today so I doubt there would be any real symptoms yet

Ps I find it really helpful talking to everyone so thanks for listening to me ramble 🥰

All these acronyms, what does FRER stand for?

@BabyDust13 I love that message you posted. I have 2 kids . Trying for pregnancy #6 I can honestly say it is worth it. This is part and parcel of the process, and it’s The part people don’t talk about openly (because it’s bloody painful lol) .

I have a theory. That the babies and pregnancies we lose and the months we don’t get pregnant, they would stop the babies we end up with inevitably. Like if I hadn’t had my first miscarriage I wouldn’t have my eldest , and she’s here now and I wouldn’t change her for the world, she is the child I was meant to have. And this 3rd baby , no matter what I have to go through to get there will be worth it and will be the baby meant for my family. well that’s what I’m telling myself anyways to get me through it haha haha xxx

@BattenburgBerry first response early response - they’re an amazing pink dye test that show pregs early and are usually v v accurate. A lot of people complain about blue dye tests (I personally have never had a false positive on a blue dye test within the time frame but there’s loads on here who have) xxx