6 months TTC

[Twinkletoes85]

Hello Ladies.

I’m mid 30s ttc my first. I was on the depo before, I know that causes issues to fertility and it will take longer. It was three months before my periods came back but I’ve been regular as clockwork since. Fairly certain I’m ovulating (lot of signs pointing to it) but still no baby. Im due again in the next couple of days and I can tell I’m going to come on.

I tried with my ex a few years ago for 7/8 months (although it was a very half hearted and not really a surprise it didn’t happen.) I wanted a baby for different reasons back then and got very upset every month. I was determined not to get as upset and try be more relaxed with my new partner but I’m starting to find it hard.

How do you cope with the disappointment of another failed cycle?

@PinkFlamingoGirl fingers crossed for you x I really hope so. I do see the faint line.

@PinkFlamingoGirl I can't actually see your pic when I click in but looks like the others are seeing it so wishing you so much luck.

@Twinkletoes85 and @Lindsey02 are you both still due to test? Fingers crossed! Its lovely to get some bfps in the group

@KK251289 yes 4 days flashing totally normal. I had 4 days one month, like 20 the next and then 8 last month. Theres a good piece in the instructions advising which day of your cycle to start testing and the percentage of women who get different amount of days flashing. I'm on CD 11 and my first day flashing, feeling so hopeful this cycle!

@fifol I tested on Monday and it was negative but still no af. Will wait another few days and see what happens.

Good luck this months, fingers crossed it’s the one!

My AF is due next Friday. I might test around tues or Wednesday but feel nervous 🤞

@Fifol Thank you I feel better now someone else has said the same 😁 I really hope this is the cycle for you. I'll keep everything crossed

@Lindsey02 I always end up early testing, it's too tempting not too

@Twinkletoes85 so annoying isn't it, hopefully you'll get an answer soon either way. I had a cycle like that in january I was something like 16 days late but had bfns.

I know @Lindsey02 and @KK251289 it's so tempting to test! I usually hold out as I cant cope with seeing a bfn!

@fifol how did you feel that cycle when you were late? I don’t feel right but I don’t think I feel pregnant either. I also don’t feel like my periods due 🤯

I was convinced I was pregnant! But only because I was late. I didnt have any symptoms of either other than a few cramps. After all the bfns I was never so happy to see AF!

I hadn't been using any opks or anything other than an app at that stage so in hindsight I must have ovulated really late and just didnt realise.

Were you tracking ovulation?

Its torture it really is so I feel for you

Sorry I ended up deleting the photo account because I got paranoid. I'll share it again but probably delete it later.
imgur.com/a/FJnnfWI

I don't think I'll believe it until I see it on a digi. Feel nervous about it all.

General question- Do many of your friends/family know your TTC?

@fifol I had a lot of cramping about day 25 (which annoyingly in hindsight could have been implantation) but it felt so much like af that I cried all morning and started this thread 😂 since then I’ve had mild cramping on and off, really sore knees for a couple of days with a bit of aches and pains in other places. But that aching has stopped now.

I potted some plants last week and then cleaned the house last night and my back/neck was really sore after both but that could be the being at home and not really doing much.

I had a really upset stomach a bit too. But other than being a bit gassy thats all stopped now.

@PinkFlamingoGirl that’s so exciting I definitely seen a faint line! Everything crossed for you 🤞🏻

Only my mum knows we are TTC. I actually thought I was pregnant back in October had all the symptoms period was late but both tests I took were negative. About 2 weeks after my period was due I had a really strange heavy bleed. It wasn’t until I looked into a bit more that I realised it could potentially have been a chemical pregnancy but I guess I’ll never know and I try not to think about it too much! Anyway only reason my mums knows is I told her at the time I thought I could have been as one of my friends announced her pregnancy at the same time and my mum and her mum work together 😂

@PinkFlamingoGirl I also feel like if I told more people they would maybe stop asking when are you going to have kids or get engaged 😭 And having to act as if you aren’t bothered 😂

@cha0907 oh that’s the worst, when people ask or make comments and you just want to say well actually I am trying so shut up!

I definitely recommend not telling too many ppl because then you get asked every 5 seconds if you have any news to share!! Gets old fast lol

I’m having a bit of an emosh moment but can I just say thank you ladies.

It’s so nice to talk to people that understand. My currently pregnant and fell on straight away friend is the only real life person (other than the bf) who knows I’m late. And she doesn’t really get it as she wanted kids for ages and then it happened 1st month.

I honestly think I’d have gone a bit mad without this thread by now. So thank you

@Twinkletoes85 aww you're welcome! It's nice to find likeminded women to talk too and none of us actually know each other lol! Funny ol' world

@Twinkletoes85 aww you’re welcome! Likewise. I always feel like I’m boring my partner if I speak to him about how I feel or any niggles I get 😂

@notyetamumbuttrying it is a funny old world 😊 how on earth did people manage before the internet haha it’s so nice though that a bunch of strangers can come together to support each other 🥰

@cha0907 my boyfriends so laid back about stuff, he’s says to just chill out about it. I’d like to say his laid back attitude rubs off but it doesn’t 😂

@twinkletoes85 I agree its lovely and I'm genuinely delighted when there are bfps within the group!
My sister is the only person that knows. Sometimes I would like to confide in a friend but not sure they would understand.
We are 8 months married and have been trying pretty much all of that time. And it's so annoying people asking so when are you having a baby. I was on a zoom call one night recently and wasnt drinking wine and they were like oh have you something to tell us. Some people, even though they really don't actually intend it, can be very inconsiderate and inappropriate!!

They can. Just as I was deciding to stop trying with my ex (and to just stop being with him at all) one of the women I worked with made a comment about how I was 30 and should be getting cracking on having a baby soon.

She didn’t mean it badly but she had no idea we’d been trying for months and she really upset me.

@Fifol you're too polite! Some ppl are bloody morons is better lol! I guess they mean well but my god it's annoying right!
@Twinkletoes85 yeah it's really lovely! Hopefully bfp's are round the corner for us all

@Twinkletoes85 exactly what I mean by morons lol 😂

Exactly! Some things you hang don’t talk to someone about unless they invite you to 😂

Couldn't agree with you all more. People can be super insensitive with their comments. Not meaning to be but still. When you having a family? Oh any news? You hiding something from us? It stings.

A few close friends of mine know but they don't ask. They only talk to me about it if I bring it up which is nice of them.

I'm sorry that I'm terrible at @ people, I find it hard to remember the user names exactly so apologies if I get them wrong.

This seems like a really nice positive and genuine thread. It's nice to have people to talk to when you feel like you can't talk about it in real life x