6 months TTC

[Twinkletoes85]

Hello Ladies.

I’m mid 30s ttc my first. I was on the depo before, I know that causes issues to fertility and it will take longer. It was three months before my periods came back but I’ve been regular as clockwork since. Fairly certain I’m ovulating (lot of signs pointing to it) but still no baby. Im due again in the next couple of days and I can tell I’m going to come on.

I tried with my ex a few years ago for 7/8 months (although it was a very half hearted and not really a surprise it didn’t happen.) I wanted a baby for different reasons back then and got very upset every month. I was determined not to get as upset and try be more relaxed with my new partner but I’m starting to find it hard.

How do you cope with the disappointment of another failed cycle?

Yeah I would @Bree2212 keep us posted tomorrow!
I'm nearing the year mark too @Missgoldilocks 9 months now and freaking out! But in a good way cos now I'm like ooh it has to be within these next 3 months...it better be anyway lol!

Morning ladies

@justjen87 I’m sorry to hear about you bfn, it is still early so you never know! It’s so hard you would think our bodies would make it more obvious what’s af and what’s pregnancy symptoms.

We renovated the house were in now, 18 months and we’re almost done. It was hard at times living in the mess but it’s so worth it. Plus we got a nicer house than we otherwise could have afforded as it needed work and we’ve got a fair amount of equity. I’ve said I wouldn’t do it again but in all honesty I would.

@justjen87 sorry about the bfn. It's so hard. Just be kind to yourself and allow yourself to feel the sadness and disappointment x

Good morning ladies,

Sorry to hear you got a bfn @justjen87 it really only hurts more as the time goes on. It really does suck.

We have had time to get in about our house and re do stuff during lockdown. It's driving me mad with everything lying around but it's almost done now. Couple more weeks of a mess and everything should be done.

I have had two people ask me this week when I'm going to have some 'news' and it just makes me feel so awkward and uncomfortable. I swear I will never ever ask someone that. They don't mean it do be unkind, I know the people who asked that genuinely have my best interests at heart but it's so hard. I feel like saying I'll have news when I have news and until then back the f off.

When you guys fall, will you tell many people before the 12 week scan?

Yes this is very annoying isn't @PinkFlamingoGirl I'll only tell parents, sisters and the two girls that know we're ttc. Prob my bestie too as she already caught so knows we're trying too. U should just tell them to not ask you and you will tell them when you have anything to share. I've done that with my mum and she's stopped asking now. I'm surprised she even did cos she took 12 months to conceive my sister so surely she can remember what I'm going through. Mind you that was 37 years ago for her lol!

Can I ask you ladies about other ovulation symptoms: the past 2months I've been having quite sore nipples, to the point where the water from the shower actually hurts. Usually occurs in the few days after ovulation. I've read many articles about breast tenderness but nothing really much about just the nipples. Have any of you experienced this before? Sorry if tmi but interested in other people's experiences, thanks!!

@PinkFlamingoGirl it’s so insensitive when people ask that... I had someone in work ask me once when we would have news and it was the day I returned to work after my miscarriage. I literally burst into tears, I think he has learnt never to ask someone that question again!

@Aokbaby I’ve had sore nipples during ovulation but nothing like that . Just a bit sore to touch .

I’ve always felt ovulation and usual symptoms for me are pains on one side and feeling bloated .x

Absolutely @PinkFlamingoGirl I hear you! My friends and family have now gone beyond asking to assuming we aren't having any more, which is also annoying when they assume we are finished. Basically people should just not ask personal questions! I've always been really superstitious so no telling anyone till 12 weeks.

@Aokbaby I get itchy nipples around ovulation some months. I also used to get really bad thrush flair ups around ovulation. Apparently it's the hormone changes but could also be the reason we've been so long to fall. Very rarely I feel the side ovulation pain.

@Bree2212 @Seafrontsky thanks for getting back to me. Yea it's weird, I've never had this before, maybe hormones just settling after pill!! Hopefully nothing to worry about 🙈 x

@justjen87 Sending you ❤️ and so sorry to hear about your BFN. I know how you feel and know that we are here for you! You did test v early though, so try to wait a couple more days and see if AF turns up. You never know.

@MrsMeow2019 My biggest fear was running out of money! Haha! Which is why we delayed for a year. We were going to do it earlier, but decided to pause, save and then do it. We’re converting a little attic room, doing our bedroom and doing the bathrooms. Doesn’t sound like much but my god has it taken over our lives! I don’t know how we would have done it without lockdown either - we had all this stuff to order etc before the builders arrived and I don’t know how we would have sorted it all if we’d been venturing to the office every day.

@PinkFlamingoGirl OMG I get this ALL the time and I think it is atrocious. I don’t think people realise how incredibly Personal and invasive the question is! I would tell family before 12 weeks (id need the support if I miscarried anyway), but everyone else can jog on as far as I’m concerned! Xx

I think I would tell my mum before 12 weeks and one of my friends.

If I fall on before we have to go back to the office then I’ll tell work before 12 weeks as I’d rather still wfh in the circumstances. I don’t think I I’d want to tell many other people

@Twinkletoes85 Good point about work. If I happen to fall pregnant before we head back to the office (here’s hoping!) then I’ll tell my boss and delay returning until I’m past the 12 week mark for sure. Thankfully I’ve got a super nice female boss with two young kids and she’s in her 40s - totally gets it.

@jessmcg I think my work would be understanding also. It helps a lot wfh now so they now you can be trusted to continue!

I’m sure I won’t be the only person who’s not wanting to rush back for various reasons

@Twinkletoes85 Too right!

Where is everyone in their cycle at the moment? I’m at 4DPO. Managing not to drive myself crazy.... yet....

Well done 😂@jessmcg hard not to go mad during the wait no matter how early on. I'm still in fw thank god. Think I'll ovulate weds.

I would tell my sister and maybe my mam. Nobody else. My boss is a man and I'm not sure how he would take it tbh so I dont know, I'll decide when and if I need to! I'm responsible for developing a return to work plan so maybe I could put myself last on the list!

I'm 5dpo and so busy with work at the moment I dont think I'll obsess too much. I had really bad anxiety at the weekend over work related things, actually never had it bad like that before so I'm hoping it doesn't have any physical effects I'm trying to do my positive affirmations anyway. Usually though it's the second week in the tww that I go crazy though so will see if I can control myself this month and not symptom spot like a mad woman!

I am CD 7... just started my clearblue OPKs this morning

@jessmcg I'm 8dpo and starting to go crazy 😂 I hate this part, I just want to know now and I'm trying to tell myself it probably hasn't but you always have that little bit of hope! 😩 I don't want to be upset over the weekend if I'm not...

@Fifol I’m also working on our return to work plan at work! Definitely putting myself last 🤣. Also don’t think I’m going to promote us all going back full time in the office - more home working for those who can for sure. Sorry to hear about your anxiety though - I’ve suffered a few times with work related anxiety and it’s horrible. Positive affirmations sound like a good step, have you tried meditation at all?

@Missgoldilocks Argh, I know that feeling well! Stay strong. What are you doing to try to take your mind off it? I’m sure I’ll be in your camp in a few days.

@jessmcg I haven't tried that actually but really need to look into it!

@Fifol There is an app called Headspace which is quite good and has free meditations you can try. Or try YouTube!

I’m cd12 and waiting for my static smiley on the opks.

@fifol sorry to hear about the anxiety! It’s very hard when it’s work related. I struggle with it at times too.

One thing I tried using was a worry tree, it’s basic but you look the the issue say can I do anything right now about this yes or no. If yes do it and get it out of the way if no put it to the back of your mind. It’s a work in progress but it really helps when it’s out of working hours and you can’t do anything about what’s causing your anxiety even if you wanted to.

That's a good idea @twinkletoes85 and @jessmcg I must check out Headspace I've actually heard of that.

@jessmcg haha its awful isn't it, the second week I always find myself over eating!! I have a lot of work on at the mo so that's helping lol and Netflix haha