6 months TTC

[Twinkletoes85]

Hello Ladies.

I’m mid 30s ttc my first. I was on the depo before, I know that causes issues to fertility and it will take longer. It was three months before my periods came back but I’ve been regular as clockwork since. Fairly certain I’m ovulating (lot of signs pointing to it) but still no baby. Im due again in the next couple of days and I can tell I’m going to come on.

I tried with my ex a few years ago for 7/8 months (although it was a very half hearted and not really a surprise it didn’t happen.) I wanted a baby for different reasons back then and got very upset every month. I was determined not to get as upset and try be more relaxed with my new partner but I’m starting to find it hard.

How do you cope with the disappointment of another failed cycle?

@A08x i see a line! Congratulations!! Sending positivity your way.

1 DPO today. Everything crossed i get a sticky bean.

@Bree2212 sorry to hear you’re feeling down.

You don’t know for sure that af will show until she arrives. And if she does then you grieve for your month and try your best to focus on the next.

It’s easy to get weighed down sometimes but it will happen for you and when it does you’ll realise it was the perfect time for it xx

@Missgoldilocks thanks that's really helpful on the affirmations. Do you say just one statement or do you have a couple? And do you say them out loud or in your head? Just trying to figure out how it works! Need to remind myself to be positive and it will happen when it's time. And god absolutely yes, trying so hard in my teens and twenties not to get pregnant, but I've had so much unprotected sex its unreal, and nothing! I will say my first two were quick so maybe there is something in the scare stories of 20s being super fertile! But also when it's our time, it will happen. 🧡🤞

Thanks so much @Twinkletoes85. DH is amazing, very good to talk things through. And we share childcare 50/50 so he's signing up for more than other dads who have to work long hours. So I'm lucky in that sense for sure. But I do feel quite alone as I know others do on here because my friends aren't in the same place as me and so I dont really have their support. They are either older and kids are early teens or they have 2 kids and adamantly done at 2. So that's quite hard.
My kids are 7 and 4 and lovely ages, but we are getting further away from the baby years and able to think about bigger adventures so sometimes it feels like if another baby takes much longer it would mean they miss out on those years of travelling or exploration before they dont want to be with us! I'm overthinking maybe...
And ABSOLUTELY on the guilt! I drank all the wine last night and feeling it now. But it also stretches to everything like I need new Jean's but what if I'm pregnant then I'd need new ones in a few months. It drives you nuts! Best we can do is try to stay sane, treat ourselves when we need to, but give a baby as much a chance as possible by looking after ourselves and DTD as often as possible. We've got this! 👊Have a good weekend, what are you up to?

For me I read a lot of quotes. I just search them up on Pinterest. I don't do anything with them except read them. Sometimes I'll save the ones I really like. I have one set as my screen saver just now. I also try to replace a negative thought with a positive one. Things like I know this will happen for me, I can't wait for when I see my bfp, I am going to feel so excited when it happens.

It is trial and error as it's hard not to let the negative creep in. Really hard as I know how frustrated, sad, angry, hopeless this whole journey can make you feel but I am trying to keep that out of my mind.

My quote of the min is 'trust the timing of your life'. I just feel it's very accurate of how I feel. I'm going to do what I can to TTC as it's what I really want but I need to trust that it will happen when the time is right.

I am so sorry you are feeling down @bree, sending you some positive vibes and I will keep my fingers crossed for you this month 💖 I think you should have a nice night tonight with all your favourite things

Hi everyone sorry been MIA last week all just got a bit too much with my friends baby and then AF arrived - knew I was over reacting a bit!

So nice to see so many people all on the same boat and a few getting their BFPs 😬

I am going to use the CB OPKs this month again and I have also been looking at some supplements I seen on Luissa Zissmans Instagram/blog. I had seen it a while ago and then seen a comment here the other week in it too! I have also been a lot more conscious of making sure I am taking my folic acid as I had been a bit scatty with taking it religiously.

Read some of the comments here too about people saying they will try for a baby when they have a bigger house etc. I did think that too but have slowly come away from the idea of having a big house and the ‘perfect’ life. I am happy in my home just now. My job is stable and so is my partners and with the last couple of months with coronavirus it has made me realise that we are in a really fortune position to still be making money paying the bills and having money left over at the end of the month (if I control my online shopping urges 😂) If we do have a baby I know we will probably need to move house eventually but will just deal with what we have just now 😊

Fingers crossed this month for everyone trying 🤞🏻

Hey everyone I have had loads of posts to read through! Hope everyone is doing ok and getting some support from the group is helping!

I definitely believe that quote @PinkFlamingoGirl my nana always said what's meant for you won't pass you by. And I really believe it because it has turned out so true. And definitely agree @Cha0907 there is never a perfect time. I want to move closer to my family and buy a house but we need to save more money for that. But I'm not waiting as that could be years away!

@Seafrontsky I'm the same I really want to get new jeans and and some new clothes but I'm like no point spending money I wont be able to wear them! At least at the moment it doesn't matter too much as I'm living in leggings and cosy clothes working from home

Hi everyone AF is due in 5days time and I'm already getting the same old leg and stomach cramps just want her to hurry up and arrive now just to get it over with!

Oh my god- OH just gone out and I caved and did a test as AF due today.

It's a bit of a squinter but there's definitely 2 lines!!! Can't believe I'm telling strangers on Mumsnet before OH but I honestly have felt like this was never gonna happen

@Seafrontsky I know what you mean about friends not been in the same position. A lot of mine have either had their kids now or don’t want them.

I can see what you mean but then having another baby won’t stop the adventures, older kids mean an extra pair of hands to help!

I know what you mean! I’ve bought some new clothes recently and it was such a big decision as I don’t know how long I’ll fit into them (and if I’ll ever fit into them again after 😂)

We do got this! Just keep doing what we can and trust it’ll work out when it’s meant to!
Just lots of gardening this weekend, what about you?

@Cha0907 sorry you had a tough time but glad to see you back. I think you can get caught up trying to be ready for baby. You’re right just being stable and happy is enough ☺️

@fifol I like that saying. There is truth in it.

@KK251289 sorry to hear you think af is on her way, try not to feel too down. I know it’s hard

@SallyCinnamon3009 I saw the line straight away! Congratulations 🥳

@sallycinnamon3009 I can see it too!! Lovely that we have another BFP 🎉😁

Thanks Guys. Hope we see loads more in the next few weeks xx

Congratulations @SallyCinnamon3009 🎉

So guys I think I might order a progesterone test, does anyone know if taking Agnus Castus will affect the result? Is it classed as a hormonal medication? Should I maybe do the test next cycle when I’ve not taken any or will it be ok to do this cycle?

It’s on offer at the minute and I thought £40 is decent enough to put my mind at ease either way.

Hi everyone, sorry for posting on here, the thread I was part of has sadly been closed😩 just wondering if anyone could help, I'm TTC first child and have been doing opks for this month, currently on cd 18 and just wondering if this is positive for ovulation, pic isn't great but lines are the same colour in real life, any help much appreciated x

@nat I'm not sure if it would affect it. Possibly if it's supposed to increase it.

Hi @aokbaby I think that looks positive. The line looks as dark as the control to me

@SallyCinnamon3009 I can see something, massive congratulations to you lovely.

@Twinkletoes85 thank you. I'm going to have a bit of indulge myself bank holiday weekend, sweets, chocolate etc then in the next few weeks go again.

@Aokbaby I think it looks pretty dark line so could be

@SallyCinnamon3009 that’s definitely a line congratulations!!!! Did you have any symptoms? Nice to have another BFP on the group. Here’s hoping it’s rubbing onto the rest of us.

@KK251289 it is hard trying to be positive when you have been TTC for a while. I’m exactly the same. Up & down. Feel like my mood changes through out the day.

Totally get you all on the getting new clothes. I’ve ordered some anyway.

9DPO & 5 day till AF is due. Still getting what I think is stretch pains in my lower right side & twinges in my back. Boobs are feeling sore on both sides. Praying it’s not AF.

Hope you are all ok x

@PinkFlamingoGirl @KK251289 thanks ladies, it's the first one I've done where the lines match, will test later to check again xx

@PinkFlamingoGirl I’ve not decided against it, I’m on cycle 10 now so I may as well wait until I hit 12 cycles and get it done at my GP for free!

@justjen87 Thank you, glad it's not just me with the mood changes. Feeling so down but then I know in a few hours I'll convince myself that I'm not 100% sure I'm not pregnant until AF shows so not to be down then I'll go back to the low mood. This is cycle 9 for me and it's still a few months until I can see a GP so feel like I'm in limbo.

Congrats @SallyCinnamon3009 hopefully we will all be having news soon!

I think I'm 3dpo. I started temping this month but my temps have been very varied and haven't seen a spike after ov like is supposed to happen. Hoping it's just that it hasn't worked properly for me!

@KK251289 if it helps, I’ve been a bit of a nightmare lately. I’ve taken it out on my DH a lot because he’s the closest person to me. I don’t mean it I really don’t. We had a good chat yesterday & he said he feels like everything he does is wrong. He said for the 1st time he now realises this process is harder on me as I’m the one testing, symptom spotting etc. It really helped us having that chat. Although I do feel guilty 🙈

I do get what you mean. It’s like a rollercoster of emotions. I read earlier up one ladies comment which I thought was lovely was most people will conceive within 1 year so statistically we are closer to getting our BFP’s!

It’s just that little element of doubt that creeps in that gets to me when I think what if I do have something wrong.

Sorry, I have rambled a bit. Sending you a bit hug x

@SallyCinnamon3009 congratulations!! Amazing news :) did you do anything differently? How long was you trying xx

@justjen87 thank you so much for your lovely message. I've been a bit more open with my partner over the last few months how much I struggle each month with how I feel and hes being really supportive.

That's lovely what you've said, you're right we're just getting closer to that big fat positive. I'm going to keep saying that to myself even when AF arrives. How has that made me feel so much better.

We'll all get there, sending a big hug back to you.