All about us ~ MC'ing or MC'ed or TTC after MC or just loves cakes!

[katendmom]

Ok, girls, our last thread did get crazy long so I am starting this one. If you don't like the name - well... too bad You'll get used to it over time .

ILTC, hi there sista! I feel like we're SO alike. Can you believe that my bleeding started again today? I was quite . And out of all places it started in a zoo when we were watching little sheep at the "petting zoo" section with DS and DH. Grrreat!~ Hope you're feeling better and this mess if over soon for all of us .

Rosybelle, hi there~ [sends a wave] Com'on over - sorry you're here but it's easier to get through things together. If you read my previous posts you know what I have to say - ERPC (or D&C) all the way. Good luck!

Scully, hi... you sound like me... actually my DH who is very much doubting TCC'ing again. And that's just after one MC! Well... we did have a stillborn DD1 but went on to have a beautiful DS. What would have happened if we got scared back then and didn't do it. Ooops, promised not to talk about it until mid-Oct. That's when my MC blood/ tissue results are back from the lab to tell us what was wrong with the baby. We agreed we wouldn't make any decisions until we find out.

Cricri, I know you won't be chechking this thread until later but hope your weekend in Holland is fab!

Hugs and smooches to all!

I'm really sorry to hear what happened to you. The bloods will check for infections or viruses that could have caused the mc, unfortunatley most of the time exact causes are not found. I would tell people that the dr told you to wait for a few months before ttc in the hope that people won't then be waiting for news. Good luck.

Really sorry for your loss. Can't help on the testing question, but can imagine that it is hard having everyone knowing that you are ttc. Going43's suggestion is a very good idea. I'd do that if I were you.

As I, like most people on this thread, had my mc quite early, very few people know I was pg or, in fact, that I am ttc, and for that I am grateful. It would be fantastic if mc wasn't generally kept such a closely guarded secret (they say it is really common, but I've never met anyone in rl who admits to having had one), as this would, imo lessen the sense of failure and isolation that women often feel when it happens to them. But, with the disclosure of the mc comes the additional pressure of people knowing you are ttc, and I wouldn't want that.

In short, I completely understand why you would find this especially painful, and I hope you can put it to the back of your mind, and get on with the business of ttc without any regard to what others know or might be thinking.

Thanks Flossie and Goingfor3. I will do as has been suggested and say that we have been advised to wait a while. You never know that may well be the advice when we meet with the consultant - although obviously I hope not. I have to be honest and say that I still hadn't told work about the pregnancy - I was waiting until after the 20 wk scan. Of course I had to tell my boss when I found out I'd miscarried but he has been great and kept it to himself so at least at work things are fairly normal.

Hey all - sorry if this is the wrong time but just wanted to say had 12 week scan and everything was fine! Could see baby wriggling and everything - so lovely as was so scared would get there and there be nothing again. Am so happy.

P2B so sorry for your loss and welcome! You'll be in safe hands here and wont have that much time to be sad, especially if me and my battered sausage stall have anything to do with it

Emmsy, no problem with the help on comps-i seem to think im pretty clued up about it all and seriously....the runs?? you couldnt have said arm/leg/head fell off!! ILTS cant get her prescription today as all her limbs fell off and her sausage stall fell on her so she is now trapped under a huge pile of battered sausages and on top of that she has the runs

think they will buy it?

P2B as others have said ? I?m terrible sorry about your loss. It really makes little difference whether it is an early mc or later in the term. It is a loss of a baby, a loss of dreams and just one of the life?s biggest downs? You have come to a good place. This thread has girls with all sorts of experiences and in all different stages of healing. We are also very lucky to have a few who are already well underway with BFP

As far as your tests go ? I would actually say, have hope. They might be able to tell you more than you imagine (GF3, I think you?re right that in some cases they don?t find anything but since they told me the ?whole story? in both of my situations, I have lots of hope for them ). From your blood tests they?ll be looking for signs of infections, viruses, clotting factors, progesterone levels, etc ? things that could cause a mc from the ?mom?s? side. From the baby?s results they?ll be looking for chromosomal, developmental, etc issues ? things that could cause a mc from the ?baby?s? side.

I had pretty much one of each smile. We lost DD1 at 35 wks (she had a chromosomal abnormality ? so yes, you can go far beyond 2nd trimester with a baby who has chromosomal abnormalities; some of them can even go full term and be born). Then we had a healthy DS. In September I had an ?early? mc (at about 8 wks ? sorry, unlike many girls here I am selfish and have deliberately blocked out dates/ EDDs, etc). This baby too had chromosomal abnormality.

So, if I were you ? I would definitely not lose hope as far as what these results might tell you. As far as TTC? see for yourself. It?s very personal. Also, you will go through ups and downs. A few wks back there was nothing more that I wanted but to be pg? I am in a bit of a different spot now? Maybe it?s my selfishness kicking in again? GOOD LUCK. Please feel free to throw out any questions you might have? or just hang around for stories of others? {{{{huge teddy bear hug to you}}}}

p2b, so sorry to hear your story. I know what you mean about feeling like something was going to go wrong - I mean, I know everyone worries anyway, but I was reading the mc threads a week before I started bleeding, and had this really weird feeling like it was inevitable I would mc.

Try the link that Katendmom posted a short way down, that has lots of really helpful information about mc, possible causes, tests they do, and also about ttc

hey we're all doing xposting.
EllieG - so happy for you (but selfishly sad for me at same time cos can't help thinking that I would have had 12 week scan last week or this) - but you really deserve it. Hope you got a lovely picture to keep.

ILTS - I'm sure that receptionist would be all too sympathetic re sausage stall. They would probably drop prescription round for you themselves!

Ellie HOW FAB! Congrats and enjoy every moment of it now. Did you get a picture to take home?

Rosy... can't wait to hear from you on how things went with your little one.

ILTS, good idea about starting a fresh thread... given that we're so chatty... how about we try and start a new one every month? I just know that we will fill one up in about 30 days if not quicker. This way we can have the same title (so people can easily find us) but just update with the month?

Like "October - All about us ~ MC'ing or MC'ed or TTC after MC or PG, or just loves cakes!"

Feel like we need to add "PG" so our BFPs feel free to stay!

Then "November - All..." What do you guys think?

sounds good to me! definatly mention about the bfps too as i reckon we should have at least another 6 by the start of november if this one is anything to go by anyway!!

I may just try the sausage stall thing just for laughs

oh yeah and mention my sausage stall in the title

october-All about us ~BFP'S/MC'ing/MC'ed/TTC after MC or just loves cakes and ILTS has a sausage stall!!

Afternoon ladies have only had a Viennese Whirl at toddlers this morning cake wise

I'm CD6, Cycle 2 TTC#3, mc August

p2b - so so sorry for your loss, agree it is a very raw emotional time especially as you thought you were "safe" past the 12 week mark. I agre with the thought everyone knows you are TTC now and it being a bit awkward. If anyone asks "are you trying?" I say "we are waiting and seeing" bit vague but better than the truth "yes we are desperate to have another baby, used opks, timed sex, spotted EWCM last month does that answer your question?"

kate - love the title can't believe we have filled up another thread already chatty lot that we are, thanks for the link the other day btw great info.

EllieG - never apologise for bringing us some good news, thats great your baby is doing well it also gives us all hope.

FlossieF - you poor thing you seem to have been through so much, mc is bad enough nevermind the rest, I hope it resolves itself soon for you x

Help!

I've just read this post www.pregnancyloss.info/waitingforaf.htm
which was highlighted a while back and now I'm worried. Yesterday it was exactly three weeks since my missed miscarriage was medically managed and the nurse seemed confident all products had been passed. I used a pregnancy test last Monday (around the same time I stopped spotting) to check levels and it came back negative. Yesterday, I started bleeding again and until I read this link I assumed this was a period. Would 21 days from the miscarriage be long enough for a cycle? Does it matter if the miscarriage spotting only stopped about a week ago. Would the test have been negative if I still had traces of the old pregnancy inside? The pregnancy was missed a long time before medical management (about 6 weeks)so maybe hormone levels were lower and thus period came quicker? Argh...can anyone advise?

Can't advise, but sorry for your loss p2b

Hugs to you splishsplosh - I know how crap it feels to not be having the same so was very sweet of you to be so lovely x

Cycles can be every erratic after a miscarriage for some it happens quite soon after for other the cycle may be longer.

I read that link and I bleed on and off for three and a haly weeks and then started period about a week and a half after that. I didn't have 20 days of no bleeding before my next period and got pregnant after that period.

p2b - also very sorry to hear about your mmc. I had one too at 6/7 weeks, although it was only detected at the scan. You put into words exactly what I have been thinking since the mc about nobody knowing we were ttc before and now everybody knows. Thanks to the others for their helpful advice on how to deal with that.
Have you had a scan since your medical management? It could be that you have "retained products", to use that delightful medical term, even though the nurse was confident everything was OK. The bleeding can stop and start in any case (see Kate's link below)
On the other hand it could be AF - others on this thread have had AF very soon after a mc.
Perhaps you could make an appointment with your GP to put your mind at rest?
In the meantime welcome to the thread and hope you get as much comfort and support from it as I have.
EllieG - really pleased everything went well for you at the scan. I can imagine it must have been very nerve-racking initially.
TJuice - LOL at the fanny physio! Do enlighten us when you eventually find out what's involved!
Hello to everybody else.

Goingfor3 - thanks again for your replies - much appreciated. I have just rang the early pregnancy assessment centre where I had my miscarriage and spoke to the sister. She felt that because I had tested negative last week the bleeding I am experiencing is a period and not bleeding from retained products. Thank crunchy for that! For half and hour there I was losing it. Thoughts of having to go back to hospital /D&C etc..I am much relieved to think my body is hopefully on the mend. I hope my hubby and I conceive as quickly as you did.

just wanted to say a big congrats to sybil - great news!

Kensgirl- good to see you back- I had been fretting about your disappearance. Sorry you don't fel this cycle is the one- I do so hope you're wrong.

Come on ladies- who's next with the BFP? This thread seems to be having a lucky spell xx

p2b actually before I read your post with what a nurse said - I was going to suggest the same thing. If you tested after mc and got a "negative" - then I would also assume it was a period (lovingly called AF on MN). So, believe it or not - congratulations! You're CD1 and it means in few short days you'll ovulate and on to baby-making-paradise!

Now, I can't imagine that somebody would actually ASK a person if they're trying, especially knowing they had a mc?!?!?!? If it happened to me - I'd turn around and respond: "I'm sorry, just to make sure I'm clear on what you just said - are you asking me if I'm doing my husband?" I think that should handle it. By the way ? other options are allowed for the word ?doing? in the sentence above

By the way - here is our new thread for October. Sorry, ILTS, didn't put anything about sausages there... I feel like it is such a precious thing that if anything - it deserves a thread of its own! LOL

Evening all, just checking in to say hi and hope everyone is OK.

p2b so sorry for your loss, hugs for you and hope you're OK after the worry today. Hopefully you can stay relaxed about trying again and sticky beaks will keep there noses out of your business.

Well I'm soooooooooooooo booorrrrrrrrrrreeeeeeeeeeddd with waiting for my first AF post m/c. I just want to get back to normal iyswim. And start playing with my LH pee sticks.

BTW been meaning to ask - can I go back to using tampons with 1st period?

p2b - so sorry to hear of your m/c. I had a missed m/c at 12 weeks (baby died at 8 wks according to obst, had been heartbeat at 8 week scan). It is very very hard to deal with. My thoughts are with you and I hope you conceive again very soon - and that the pregnancy is unremarkable in every way

Hi Im new to all this so please bear with me. I had medicall managed miscarriage end of july. went for the 12 weeks scan but no heartbeat. we were devastated as been trying to concieve since ds who is 5. I have just had my first proper period since and am thinking of ttc again, but this has been over shadowed by the death of my best friends baby. she has had 2 mc and gave birth to a boy bt he passed away. we are all struggling to deal with it, and i cant contemplate ttc right now.
Have been reading all messages and you all seam a really supportive bunch thankyou for letting me gate crash.

Oh Frankie, so sorry for your loss and also for your friend. You aren't gatecrashing at all.

Just a dreadful situation for you all, all you can do I guess is go with how you feel with ttc. Don't really know what else to say just that I really feel for you and hope are OK.