3dpo and looking for TTC friends

[Lolliloo1234]

Hi,

I’m 29 and on cycle 2 of TTC. I’m 3dpo and now in my two week wait. I have no friends with children or anyone who is TTC so looking for online buddies to ride this out with!

Anybody in the same boat as me who wants to chat and be a little neurotic together?

Xx

So had results back, I’ve miscarried. They don’t think it’s ectopic
I’m just having a CT scan to rule anything else out in my kidneys.
Doctor tomorrow needs to do my smear test and swabs to investigate any possible cause for it.

💔

Nothing anyone can say will make it better @Lolliloo1234. Absolutely f*cking horrible and my heart actually hurts for you. If there's one thing to take away from it, it's that you're capable of getting pregnant. Hurdle #1.

Look after yourself xx

Hey,

I hope you don't mind me joining your chat. I have just read through all the previous posts, @Lolliloo1234 I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

I am currently in my tww, we have been trying for just over 4 years. You would think I would be more used to all the waiting really.

I look forward to following all of your journeys 🤞

Welcome @justacouplettc

Of course! The more the merrier. Lovely supportive bunch here. Sorry it's taking such a long time for you, can I ask if you've been TTC the whole 4 years or had it been more on / off trying? Best of luck for this month!

Thank you @mrsmummy111. We have had months when we I haven't tracked etc but it still hasn't happened unfortunately.

We have had all the tests, investigative procedures which all came back clear/good so we were diagnosed unexplained infertility.

During our time ttc my partner has started to have issues finishing - delayed ejaculation so that has also been an added hurdle.

There isn't any nhs funding in our area so we are currently weighing up options and continuing to try naturally/home insemination methods.
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Welcome @justacouplettc! It sounds like you’ve been on quite a ride. How have you dealt with it over the years? Fingers crossed for you this month, do you test or just wait for AF?

@Lolliloo1234 thinking of you xxxxx

As predicted, AF is here. CD28 which is fine but according to CB sticks I ovulated day 17 which gives me an 11 day luteal phase, that seems a bit short doesn't it?! X

Wow that is some journey @justacouplettc!

The road is rarely a smooth one but you sound very much like you're focussing on the positives, which is amazing. Also what you describe about your partner I think is incredibly common. We have discussed it on this thread before about the pressure on the man, and I've found with DH that it very much affects him sometimes too. In guess in terms of actually "TTC", the women have the relatively easy job. We don't have to enjoy it, let's face it. Whereas....they do (if they want to get the job done!)

Best of luck to you, we're all in this together!

Ps - still thinking of you @Lolliloo1234 and hoping you're doing ok

Hi @mrsmummy111 @Wineandrun @justacouplettc

Thank you for being so kind. I’ve got a day of doctors appointments and ultrasounds in front of me (they think an infection caused the miscarriage because of my inflammation markers in my blood) so today is going to be rough but at least I’ll get some answers.

Heartbroken but stoic about it, it’s cycle 2/3...it’s only just beginning and I know we can get pregnant which was a big worry for me. It’ll all be okay in the end, got to believe there is a baby at the end of this somewhere.

@justacouplettc Hello and welcome! Please do stick around, this bunch of ladies are lovely and it’s so nice to have a group around you. I’m sorry to hear you’re on a bit of a tough journey - focusing on the positives is amazing. You’re not alone with the DP hurdles...mine is built for a good time not a long time (3 DTD in a week is his maximum bless him) so that makes it tricky for us.

@mrsmummy111 11 days is okay, 10 or less is when you worry. I lengthen mine by taking vitamin d, b6, b12 and C but doesn’t sound like you need to. Perhaps it was just an odd cycle.

@Sammyclaire22 any more news on that line of yours?

Xx

Balls I just wrote a long reply and it all deleted!
Basically it was welcome @justacouplettc, we've had months of failure to deposit and its not easy. After talking it through I've made more effort to jump his bones for him rather than for baby making or I've said it's too early or late for my fertile window so he's not thinking about finishing adn we've had some days I've said we will only play and not actually have penetration then once we are into it he decides he wants to. Then if he can't finish I can say we'll we were never going to in the first place so we or i can finish by hand and when he sees I don't mind he often then perks up again. Sorry if tmi...!

Sending lots of love @lolliloos1234 I remember clearly the night after my surgery and although our diagnosis was different I know the feeling of wondering if I will ever be a mum, missing my baby and what the future will hold. All I can offer is love and hope that the end is never the end.

My lines are darker today--this is 10dpo vs 12dpo today. Starting to feel sick now too along with the tiredness so it's a good sign. Trying not to get too excited yet though.

Thank you @Lolliloo1234 and @mrsmummy111 it's good to hear we are not alone.

@Wineandrun just taking each month as it comes really. Some are better than others. I find it particularly hard after family events (obviously not currently an issue) and when it feels like everyone around me is conceiving.

I really struggled when all of the results came back ok and due to funding we were discharged from the hospital after nearly a year of waiting and tests. I almost hoped there was a reason for it!

Thank you for the advice @Sammyclaire22 everything is crossed for you x

Sooooo..... I had one last crappy Tesco test left, was going to wait until tomorrow put changed my mind. Got what looked like a shadow within the time limit. Then the amazing hero Amazon man turned up with my 76 packets of FRER so I thought I wonder.....it’s a BFP!! It’s faint but it’s there! I wondered why I felt sick all day yesterday!

I’m sorry to share this today @lolliloo1234. I hope you are feeling more positive today and you’re not in too much discomfort. My heart does go out to you. I needed to tell someone. My husband isn’t home from work yet so he doesn’t know. I’m in shock. Complete shock.

@Wineandrun CONGRATULATIONS!!!
Don’t be sorry - I’m so so pleased for you! How fantastic!

Congrats @wineandrun that's lovely news :) have you told your oh yet or is he not back?

How are you feeling today @Lolliloo1234? Been thinking of you Xx

Congratulations @wineandrun that's fantastic news.

Hope you are doing ok @Lolliloo1234

xx

@Sammyclaire22 yes husband now knows, he looked at me like I was completely crazy and started sweating profusely 😂😂 he recovered quickly enough. We’re both now just a bit scared, need to get the next couple of weeks out the way.

Can anyone recommend the best FRER pregnancy test to use?

Frer are a brand in their own right but clear blue and I think boots own brand do early detection. I like frer as its a pink dye so I think an evap is easier to determine

I googled the frer brand but came up with a few results so wasn't sure which to go for. I haven't bought any of the esrly detection ones before I've usually just waited to see if my period started. Tracking ovulation this month so I dont think I'll be able to wait this time!

Sorry frer stands for first response early response, but a range of them will say early response or jump on the bandwagon!

@mrsmummy111 @justacouplettc I’m going to take a break for a little while whilst i sort myself out. Will be back in a couple of weeks! Will see ya in the next TWW 💕💕💕💕

@Wineandrun @Sammyclaire22 Stay on the thread ladies!! I want to celebrate with you in 9 months when you WILL have your tiny humans!!!

Xx

Morning lovelies,
Sorry have just realised I've been a bit quiet, going through a few things here too (unrelated to TTC so won't bore you with them) but soooo thrilled and excited for you @Sammyclaire22 and @Wineandrun. Please do stay on the thread and keep us updated how you're both getting on.

@Lolliloo1234 I've been thinking of you and really hope you're doing ok. Take some time to yourself and let's catch up whenever you feel ready.

Virtual social distanced hugs to all!

Hi all,
That sounds like a good plan @Lolliloo1234, you've had such an upheaval and roller-coaster of emotions. I hope you are OK and sending lots of love.

Thanks @mrsmummy111, I hope things are OK your end too. AF was due today so hoping it stays away, my tests are still getting darker (but not blaring yet) so I'm feeling hopeful but still very nervous and trying not to get too excited yet. Or scared about actually being pregnant!

How are you feeling @wineandrun? Xx

I’m ok, AF also due today. Tested again yesterday and line was about the same, going to test again Friday just to be sure! We just want to get excited. I did a night shift on Monday and felt horrific all day yesterday so need to figure out what I’m going to do about work, I had awful morning sickness with my last pregnancy and I only had to sit at a desk for a few hours a day and that was hard enough. I just want to get the next couple of weeks out of the way. How about you?

Sorry to see you go @Lolliloo1234 but I totally get it, we will see you again when you’ve had some time. Take care xxx

@mrsmummy111 hope everything is ok, feel free to bore us as much as you like!xx

Thanks @Wineandrun ! It's not anything I can really put my finger on, it's more that I've just been feeling a bit meh the last few weeks. It's almost as if I don't even have the energy, or have even forgotten how to enjoy myself anymore. I think lockdown has affected me more than I cared to admit, and I don't like to say this on a TTC thread as it seems so incredibly insensitive, but having a 1 year old who has a LOT of energy and is used to being out and about with friends and family, play groups, lunch dates, swimming / sensory etc - to being at home all day every day, it's hard to keep him entertained and his whinging just goes straight through me. He's actually been much better the last few days, I've made a conscious effort to go for a lovely long walk every day which he enjoys, and I was brilliant at doing that at first but i almost feel as if the monotony of every day life right now is taking its toll and I feel lethargic to the point that even going for a walk feels like too much effort.

I'm in a funk and I'll absolutely get through it, it just feels like such a long time until life goes back to normal.

Basically, long story short, I'm moany and longing for my old life back.

Thanks for listening everyone and hope I didn't depress you all too much! Now back to reading Louis Theroux's autobiography (which if you haven't read, you must!