New to mumsnet, TTC cycle 1 club

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Hi there,
I’m very new to mumsnet and in my first month of trying to conceive.
All the info out there is really overwhelming and just wanted to start a thread for the people in the same boat.

@Scarlettxo @MyGossip hey guys! I ordered 50 off amazon and I think it was around £7 so really reasonable!

You defo need to go cheap as like you say it's pricey every day! I did every day after my period first cycle now I have a better idea of when I ovulate I just do it from about 5 days before Flo app thinks I'm going to and it's always caught the surge for me so far that way! I've actually just got a fermometer too to test basal body temp each morning as I think that's supposedly even more accurate than the OPKs. Again £7-8 off amazon and next day delivery 🥰 you just put it into Flo app every morning and it tells you when you're ovulating apparently!

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@Franki1986 Frankie I feel completely the same. Bizzare as since we got married (and before) I was always pretty chill about the idea of starting and never really thaaat bothered, then as soon as we officially decided to TTC it's like I've lost the plot. Symptom spotting every month, convinced I am and then AF shows up. I think it's natural though when it's your first time trying as for some reason lots of us think it's not going to happen. I'm trying to just have a positive mindset this month and keep trying to think it will happen when it happens xxx

@TTCgee Aw fabulous thanks very much! I will look into that! If it doesn’t happen this month, I’ll be purchasing all of the above!

Has anyone else been worried about fertility issues? I had blood tests to determine PCOS and all my FSH levels and sex hormones came back as normal, so apparently that’s a good sign! Doctors didn’t really explain in much detail ... negative OPKs make me wonder if there is something else going on. Drive myself nuts reading up on it!

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@Scarlettxo I also drive myself crazy. Google is my own worst enemy at the minute

I do get positive ovulation surges on the tests etc but then no EW cervical mucus and I've had reallllly short periods since coming off the pill (was on it 13/14 years) so then I read a million things and stress that I'm not actually ovulating!

Both mum and sister just got pregnant without even trying - looks like that Luck is eluding me so far xxx

@Scarlettxo I do exactly the same, I’m constantly worrying that there’s something wrong, and after constantly googling ive convinced myself I have every problem under the sun including pcos and endometriosis! If you’ve had the all clear with the results I wouldn’t worry, I think it’s normal for all women to worry who start TTC!xx

@Vil10 can't tell you how reassuring it is to read that I'm not the only one. It's like anything I read I think - I must have that! Over the last few days I've convinced myself I have PCOS and annovulation - why do we do this to ourselves! Xxx

@TTCgee Yep I’m exactly the same! Google is literally the worst thing ever!! But I can’t help but search, I’m a lot better now than what I was a few months ago, but I still have thoughts and every twinge I get I google it, it really isn’t healthy! But it is reassuring that other people are the same, this thread helps so much and is such a good support system!xxx

@TTCgee Oh wow! Same here though - I have family members and friends who have had luck first cycle of trying

@Vil10 Google is not a good idea! I have resorted to putting my phone away now and again 😂

Let’s just think our time will come when it is right We will keep each other updated on our journeys & each cycle is a learning curve for the next one ❤️

@Scarlettxo great motivation! It will happen for us and when it does we will wonder why we stressed ourselves out so much ❤️

thanks for the warm welcome, I also don't want pressure off anyone so its great to chat on here! Regarding fertility, yes I have irregular periods and high prolactin which can affect ovulation so thought best get cracking. After reading this I think I will get some ovulation tests, I think I am a bit lost as ovia app seems to get my timings wrong for AF.
hope everyone is ok x

Hi everyone, so I have a question I've been doing OPK every other day (testing OPK first time this month) from CD8 since I don't have alot of them atm. I was thinking when the line gets more visible I will start doing them more frequently towards ovulation date according to the app. So CD 8 test had a clear line, thinner than the control, CD 10 thinner clear line, CD12 there is almost no line (barely there) at all. Can this mean I've ovulated already? I'm approching my ovulation date according to the app should happen in about 4 days. I don't know whether i should continue testing or i missed the ovulation already this month. My normal cycle is 28 days.

Hi everyone! I've been lurking for a while but thought I'd bite the bullet and post on here for the first time! I was meant to be getting married but we have had to postpone our wedding due to the situation at the moment. We thought we would start TTC as I have that underlying panic I think a lot of women have that they won't be able to conceive. My fiance is super keen to have a baby so we started trying this month. We are both 33 but the jokey comments people make about "time running out" freaked me out so we didn't want to postpone TTC until after the wedding (whenever that might be!). It's funny because I don't feel pressure to have a baby - I want to - but it has come with a sense or urgency and panic due to things people say off hand without thinking. Have any of you felt that too?

@Flamingle909 we are in the exact same situation! Our wedding is booked for September but we are fairly certain it won't be able to go ahead, so as of yesterday we have decided to start TTC ☺️ I'm 31 so not far behind you and totally get the whole age thing. I came off the pill a month ago in prep in case we did decide to TTC and AF came on Monday, so that kind of changed things and we had a conversation and have decided to just go for it ☺️ When was your wedding booked for? X

@mintgreenlife It's such a crazy time to be dealing with an upcoming wedding isn't it?! We were booked for April so postponed in March til Oct but not convinced that will happen (but you know the deal, just got to wait it out!). I came off the pill last year as wanted to get my cycles back to some sort of normal, we were thinking about TTC then and then my other half proposed! We thought we would put starting TTC on hold and focus on the wedding instead and then this happens! We've been so confused but don't want to feel like our lives are constantly on hold so thought screw it, let's just see what happens if we start trying now. I wouldn't want to look back and think oh we should have tried sooner - if we get pregnant I'll deal with the wedding then! It's hard to know what to do for the best but this has definitely taken my mind off wondering what to do with our wedding plans 😂 how does your fiance feel about it all? Mine is keen to have a family asap but keeps worrying about me possibly not being able to wear my dress or drink at the wedding, bless him. I'm like I'll deal with that if it means we can have a baby! We sort of decided to just go for it on a whim this month too (didn't read up on anything before but now furiously trying to figure out what I should be doing when!). I'm not glad you're in an equally complicated position as me, but it is nice to hear I'm not alone in the chaos!! 🥰

@Flamingle909 I'm also in a similar position, our wedding is booked for September but am fully aware it will probably change so we too just thought screw it lets just start ttc now instead of after the wedding like we had previously decided and I think its normal to think "its never going to happen for me" I'm 26 and all of my cousins who have already had children got pregnant by accident and I have this irrational fear that I will be the one in the family it won't happen for when we are actually ttc but I believe its just that, an irrational fear, got to stay positive and we'll all get our BFP's when the time is right, good luck xx

@Flamingle909 Same position here too 🙋🏻‍♀️ - our wedding is booked for July but we're sure it's not going to go ahead so I got the coil removed. Such a weird time but glad I know have something else to focus on!

Good luck to you!

@Flamingle909 I feel the same as you - so nice to find someone else going through the same thing and know that our feelings etc about it all are completely normal.

@Flamingle909 sorry hit send before I finished typing! I was saying...

I feel the same as you - so nice to find someone else going through the same thing and know that our feelings etc about it all are completely normal.

Our wedding is in early September and we are feeling fairly certain that won't go ahead. If it can legally, not sure it would be worth doing it if people are nervous and lots of people don't want to come. Can you imagine a wedding with social distancing? Would be so strange!

We are going to hopefully do a registry office wedding on our original date this year if possible, but like you felt like we didn't want this virus to dictate our lives, and so deciding to TTC made it feel like we were taking things back into our own hands.

My fiancé is similar to yours in his worries about dresses and prosecco ha. He's just double checked with me that I'd be happy with that and like you I've said if that's how it works out that's how it works out. It feels like life can't be planned for right now, so TTC and going with the flow re babies and weddings seems like the best approach.

Have you actively started trying? This will be our first month and I have AF at the mo so won't have my fertile window for another couple of weeks xx

@KatieG200394 from what I've read on here I think everyone has that fear! Will be keeping my fingers crossed for us all xx

@RDC2020 I love that all us brides-to-be have come to the same conclusion! Like you I just want something else to focus on instead of worrying about the wedding and feeling blue about it all. I spoke to my mum about it all yesterday, and said if we do conceive it's a wonderful way to turn this strange and sad experience into something positive. Good luck to you xx

@MintGreenLife Exactly! We've not told anyone we've decided to TTC - so without trying to put pressure on it, we're really hoping to give family and friends some good news in the coming months! 🙈

Just wish TTC was as easy as what they say during sex-ed in school 🤣😂
Good luck! xx

@mintgreenlife @rdc2020 @katieg200394 - so many of us! I have been feeling like this is just me trying to juggle rescheduled life plans. I think the baby issue is something nobody mentions when you reschedule a wedding. But delaying family plans by a year or so is fairly significant in my book! I haven't told anyone we are TTC as everything already feels so complicated. Fingers crossed for us all that everything somehow falls into place! I do believe things will though - weddings will happen, babies will come, life will continue - just all in a slightly higgledy piggledy order and feeling a bit chaotic in the meantime 😂 there should be a whole other section of Mumsnet for conception/wedding planning in a pandemic at the same time! 🤦🏼‍♀️

@Flamingle909 @MintGreenLife @KatieG200394 glad I'm not the only one!

We've rearranged our wedding for next August and I just didn't want to wait another year and a bit to TTC!

We can do this! Babies or bumps at the wedding 😍🙌🏼

@Flamingle909 @MintGreenLife @KatieG200394 glad I'm not the only one!

We've rearranged our wedding for next August and I just didn't want to wait another year and a bit to TTC!

We can do this! Babies or bumps at the wedding 😍🙌🏼

@mintgreenlife yeah we started earlier this month - ordered some clear blue ovulation tests, decided to try one and get a big fat smiley then panicked! AF due Sunday and I don't know if we actually timed everything right as it was more on the unplanned end of the 'trying' spectrum 😂 so we will see