TTC after miscarriage - April 2020

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Starting this thread for anyone TTC after a miscarriage. My MC was in December and I’ve had no joy since, but these threads have been wonderful for being amongst lovely people going through the same thing.

As always, sorry to anyone who finds themselves here and fingers crossed we all get our rainbows soon 🌈

@Sallyjo27 I've not left the house in 10 days post SMM but returning to work tomorrow so much less time to focus on TTC which may not be a bad thing and will see what the world looks like post-lockdown. Sorry for your loss and hope you are recovering from your MMC and hoping April will be your lucky one, you planning on using anything to track? I have no idea if I'll even ovulate before my first AF post MMC 💙

@MilsCookie Keeping my 🤞 that this will be your cycle starting off a fresh with no doubt lots of time in the house to DTD sending lots of positivity your way 💜

@Wishingfornumber2 Did you take a test? Without a test it would be hard to know whether you MC but sending you lots of virtual hugs and hoping this is your month 🧡

@SmileyT thank you, I hope so too, For all of us. Are you a key worker? I’m back in work tomorrow too- I’m a teacher in a local primary school and it’s my shift to work. I’ve got to be honest I’m quite looking forward to having routine and something else to think about.
I’ve been using natural cycles to track my periods for just over two years. The cycle I got pregnant I used the clear blue ovulation tests so think I will start using them again.

@Hayleylou89 🙊 xx hope you're okay today xx

@Sallyjo27 Hiya sorry to hear of your MMC. I'm okay in lockdown... WFH so occupied during the week and I can be a bit of a home bod so not going too stir crazy over weekends. Am missing some family and wondering how long lockdown may go on for. How you coping ? X

Hi @MilsCookie sorry you're joining this thread xx hoping this is your month xx sending positive vibes back to you too xx do you use opks any any other tracking ? X

@wishingfornumber2 hi hun xx sorry for your loss x I guess it would be hard to know either way . My period in december came 2 days early and was really different to normal. Like really heavy and didnt like start slowly like it normally does for me so I did actually wonder if was an early loss too but I didnt do HCg tests so I wouldn't know. But could just be looking into it too much as were TTC .. if that happened when I wasnt TTC i just wouldn't think anything of it yano. Sending you lots of luck for this cycle xxxx

Hi @renna im ok today thanks just still a flashing smily... how r u xx

@SmileyT no I didn’t take a test. I was going to test today but AF showed up on Thursday. Thank you, virtual hugs to you too. Sorry for your loss. I hope you are able to track soon and stay safe going back to work. X

@renna thank you, sorry for your loss too. Yes I think the same, if I wasn’t TTC I wouldn’t have thought anything of it or how I was feeling. Lots of luck to you too. X

@MilsCookie sorry to hear you are feeling frustrated you are not pregnant yet! Sending baby dust to you!

@SmileyT yes I u defat and you can feel so low after a mc and then to not be able to get back into your routine to try to move forward leaves you very vulnerable. I hope that going into work helps you start to feel better. I’m in a similar boat regarding ovulation. I’m on cd 16 if u count the mc as day one and no idea at all what to expect! I’ve started using the cheaper OPKs but I’m getting negatives so far. Bd anyway though haha

@Sallyjo27 I’m a primary school teacher too. I only work part time so I’m in Wednesday only this week. This of course could change though

@Sallyjo27 I am classed as a 'key worker' but I'm a mortgage advisor for a high street bank so really have no idea why they are making us go in, seems like an unnecessary risk and just spent 90mins on the phone to my dad telling me how I shouldn't go in as nobody is buying houses but unfortunately can't afford not to get paid and stay at home. I've seen loads of people mention the CB ovulation tests, was natural cycles inaccurate for when your ovulation was? I'm thinking about getting one but wasn't sure if it was worth the money over the cheap amazon tests x

@Mommybear05 yeah I'm hoping having a distraction tomorrow at work will start putting things back to normal a little and will give OH a rest from all the BD, I'm only CD11 but had some pains on my right side last night and have convinced myself it's ovulation but probably just gas 😂

@dinosaur17 tracking is confusing me, opks seem to be coming up as high but no idea what my BBT is doing 🤷🏾‍♀️ one reading femometer wouldn't even take

@Mommybear05 are you finding it strange not being in? I need the routine 😂 yes of no children are in we don’t have to go in either.

@SmileyT that does seem very unfair! Especially as you can’t work from home. Natural cycles was slightly but as I put in the results from the cb ovulation tests it adjusted. But saying that I don’t take my temp as often as I should either so if I used it properly it probably would be. I got the digital cb ones- first cycle I used it I got pregnant I was using the cheapies before along with natural cycles. I found CB so much easier to read.
@Renna thank you, it’s so hard isn’t it? I find its all I can think about at the moment especially when I’m at home so much.

@Hayleylou89 yeah I'm okay :) No other symptoms really. Not had many other cramps tbh or any signs of AF yet. Still have until Tuesday though and expecting it could come later as first AF since MC. think I've realised today I will be more upset than I'm convincing myself when I see AF arrive. Maybe because ITs a Sunday and dont have work to occupy me today. I've still been doing the cheapie opks to make sure ovulation hasn't come like ridiculously late and last few days that I've started doing them I get very faint lines so think I always have some kind of level of LH that it detects. You'll see your peak soon lovely xx

@SmileyT So your BBT is saying fertile day is 27th and you’ve had a high reading on the 27th as well? Looks nearly positive to me. I do still wonder if some people’s readings don’t “peak” as such.

I’m not using BBT but starting to think I should! I got another low testing today 🤦🏼‍♀️ X

@Renna you sound exactly like me i literally always do opks and pretty much always have a second line no matter what but they do say we have lh alot of the time anyway like u say! ...the way i looked at my first AF was like a reset button to normality again... because how annoying would it be to have cycles like ur having now but all the time, and i was the same not knowing when ill ovulate or when AF would come.

if AF arrives its ur body adjusting back to some normality and i see that as a positive thing and u know where you are then. I'm just trying to help u see the silver lining, however I'm hoping u are pregnant and all the above doesnt matter! 🤞🏻 x

@renna have u not got an frer to test with - it would likly show now if u are pg? X

@Mommybear05 @Sallyjo27 primary school teacher over here too!

@Renna thank you lovely. I started using OPKs on cycle 2 which have helped me know a rough window when I ovulate. Other than that I don't do anything like temping etc... what about you?

Urgh CD1 is sooooo crap!!!

@Hayleylou89 thanks hun this is true and deffo good way to look at it. Xxx 😘 no dont have frer, think I'd rather wait .. it's like you get few more days thinking it's a possibility you caught rather than knowing its negative and just waiting for AF 🙄 will keep you posted xx

@MilsCookie before MMC just used CB advanced OPK and first month I used conceive plus lubricant is when I got pregnant. So using that again around ovulation and since reading these threads since MMC earlier in the month I've started temping and cheapie opks. Not helped me this month as started it all past when I should have ovulated but hopefully will help me going forward 🤞

CD1 nearly coming to an end for you 😘 xx

Thankyou everyone who was being kind about the keyworker thing, all of you other key workers are doing amazing too!
On the TTC front, currently 5 days until AF is supposed to show, I have been a bit nauseous, off pasta and no PMS symptoms yet. My OH seems to think I only get PMS 4 days before period tho so we shall see how things are tomorrow!! Here's praying for that BFP.

@Renna hope your AF doesnt show! I'm having the same no symptoms. Mine is due friday so I'm right there behind you! Also expect your AF to be totally different because mine was!

@Re6ecc4 I've really got my 🤞 for you I'm hoping we get some great news on the thread next week

@Wishingfornumber2 Thanks for your kind words, I've promised myself I won't test before a missed period so that I'm not more disappointed but it's so hard when you're in that 2WW 😬

@Sallyjo27 think I'm going to order the CB so I have something to look forward to using when AF inevitably turns up this month

@dinosaur17 all 6 of my apps are saying that I should ovulate next week but all based on a 28day cycle and ovulating somewhere in the middle but who knows what this post MMC hormones are doing, I've not even got a negative HPT yet so maybe I'm being ambitious tracking anything else as BBT and hormone levels are probably all over the place anyway

@Re6ecc4 yup fully expecting a different AF 🙄 I guess only think I hope for if it arrives is that's its roughly around the usual date I'd expect , even if it's just a few days later than usual. What was different about yours ?
Fingers crossed from BFP for you end of the week lovely 🤞🌈 xx

@courtneyrennamy AF was ridiculously light and 2 days late after I MC. It lasted 4 days. It didnt hurt at all either, but I got horrible PMS symptoms. And yes fingers crossed. A bit terrified haha!
@SmileyT thankyou!! Fingers crossed for you too lovely!!

@SmileyT haha gas. I get that u are looking at every twinge and questioning it. It’s exhausting. So are you expecting to ovulate soon? I’m not sure what to expect immediately after miscarriage and especially when I’m breastfeeding. I had my first ppaf in January and I got pregnant in feb. The thing is I wasn’t using OPKs but I tested for pregnancy on cd 26 and 29 using a sensitive cb early detection. Both negative. And then I tested again cd49 when af never came. That’s when I got my bfp. So I’m assuming I must have ovulated late? For pregnancy not to show on cd 29. So that was my only recent cycle. Indicating that I’m having long cycles. 13 months before that I was in lactational amenorrhea (spelling?) and then before that I was pregnant and before that on the pill for absolutely years! So no clue what my cycle should be! I got negative opk today at cd 16 and no ewcm. Bd anyway and yes need to give hubby a rest! Lol. Have no clue what to expect this cycle though. I am so hoping I get my December baby although I know chances are slim!

@MilsCookie haha. How are you finding the school closures? U in much? Just Wednesday this week for me.

@Re6ecc4 hoping for good news for you soon. I have my fingers crossed for you!

@Sallyjo27 yes it’s strange for sure. I really miss my routine too however I have a routine at home pretty much- that many jobs need to be done in the house is keeping me and my husband busy!

On ttc I’m also considering investing in the Cb digital although so expensive compared to the cheapies on amazon!