TTC after miscarriage - April 2020

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Starting this thread for anyone TTC after a miscarriage. My MC was in December and I’ve had no joy since, but these threads have been wonderful for being amongst lovely people going through the same thing.

As always, sorry to anyone who finds themselves here and fingers crossed we all get our rainbows soon 🌈

@Hayleylou89 yeah definitely get all the distractions and odd jobs done during this time haha xx

Welcome new ladies 🙂 I'm sorry you find yourselves here.

Well my peak is over so I am officially in the TWW. I'm not confident though. Haven't managed to dtd during my two peak days as the 1st day I worked a 12hr shift and yesterday my husband wasn't in the mood 😤 I don't tell him when I'm ovulating as he complains it puts to much pressure on him.
We dtd the night before my peak so any hopes I do have are on that. 🤞🤞

@Mommybear05 hi, I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I know it's a horrible thing but seeing other similar stories gives me a bit of peace somehow. And yes, we are together in this journey now😊
I only tested once, and it was a bfn but not sure when to test again. According to my app (i'm using Flo) I am due my AF on 13th.
It's annoying because all these symptoms and spotting might just be our bodies adjusting and coming back on track but it could also be a new pregnancy but we can't know for sure now.
Your situation is very similar to what I am experiencing and I would love to hear updates from you, of course I will do same. Hubby thinks I should wait and test the day my AF is due and see what happens but knowing how impatient I am I'll probably test tomorrow instead lol.
Keep me posted pls and good luck🤞💝💖💗

@Rainbowdust31 welcome to our little community, sorry you find yourself here but rest assured there is loads of love and support in this group.

I think we all understand the desire to TTC again after a MC, I didn't wait for a cycle either after a MC at 9.5weeks (baby measured 7.2) in March so we are trying aswell, so you are not alone in wanting to try again.

Implantation is the point at which pregnancy really starts so that is when your hcg is produced, so based on what I've read I don't think you'd get a positive test for at least a couple days after that. I'd wait until AF is due and then do another test as that will give your body time to produce hcg. What other symptoms have you had? Fingers crossed this is your month and we have a BFP to celebrate next week 🌈

@busby85 so sorry u find urself here after ur loss - although i lost my baby very late on at 22.5 weeks, I can say i bled for just under 2 weeks and that cycle was 1 day longer than my longest cycle so im usually 35- 38 days and my first cycle was 39 days. Take the first day of ur bleed as cd 1 and work from there, so if your cycles are typical 28 days ull likly ovulate day 14 but mc can throw everything off so if you can be patient and wait for your next AF its kinda like a reset button or just DTD every other day from when you feel comfortable and u may catch, also you need to wait for hcg to be completely gone so ur not testing and seeing a false positive.
I hope u get ur rainbow soon 🙏🌈

@Mommybear05 sorry, just noticed your question. No other children yet, we always knew we wanted to have children but life happened and it got delayed several times. When we finally started trying we got pregnant so fast and the excitement was even stronger, only to find out it didn't work out and I miscarried. I knew it was to good to be true..

@Babytinx11
How r u today? have u done ur test? 🙏

@hayleylou89 thank you for seeing my post! I am so sorry for your loss too, I hope things have worked out for you 🌈? That is really helpful, there is so much conflicting information out there it is so difficult to process it all, dh and I know how lucky we were to gp straight away I am wanting to try and keep any stress out of it (if I can) in some ways I think lockdown has done my a favour as I have been able to hide away and emotionally deal with it. Thank you x

@busby85 Iv just gone into my the tww today so praying we have our easter rainbow 🌈... I was the same we got back from out honeymoon in sept and decided to try and i fell the same month so we were very lucky and I lost her in feb and wanted to try straight away i think everyones different but alot of us in here are in the same boat, i felt awful for wanting to try again but theres a reason we were trying in the first place, because we want a family so dont feel bad!

The information is so conflicting because everyone is different i can only tell you what my body did, and the next person will be different but if u dtd every other day id say thats ur best shot at catching because doing opk's this cycle will just be all over the place with your hormones. If ur wanting to track start from ur next fresh cycle id recommend x

@Hayleylou89 @Quail15 welcome to the TWW club!! This is my first TWW as wasn't TTC before and it is really nerve wracking, trying not to get excited but then also imagining what could happen. Fingers crossed the last full week of April brings lots of BFPs.

@VP91x what was your CB saying this morning?

@busby85 sorry for your loss, mine was a MMC found on a scan at 9.5weeks and I had surgery the next day on 19th March, my bleeding was minimal and lasted about 4 days but it may be different with a natural MC. I think I ovulated on CD19 taking surgery as CD1 which is a few days later than normal (generally a clockwork 28day cycle girl). You can start TTC when the bleeding stops if you are ready and then just take it from there. I'm now just waiting for my first AF to arrive (or not arrive as I'm hoping) x

Waiting for them to be delivered so I am now debating if I need to wait till tomorrow morning xx

@hayleylou89 my fingers are crossed for you! I really hope it all works out for you. Thank you that is really reassuring - i was feeling heartless wanting to get back on with it however you are right, I am ttc for a reason and that is to have a family. Please do let me know how you get on, I have everything crossed x

@SmileyT still flashing 🤔
Although my CM was stretchy etc earlier in the week and now it is alot drier so I may have missed it. Will keep testing regardless as I may be completely wrong. X

@SmileyT ahh thank u lovely! Thank god for the tww... how ironic after struggling, the hubby pestered to dtd this morning and i had to play ball so he didnt think id just used him for his swimmers the past god knows how many days 🙈😂... what dpo are u now? Last pregnancy i had very early implantation bleed so if i get that again ill get a little bit excited 🙏 x

@smileyT thank you, I am sorry for your loss! Everyone on here is so nice, it is reassuring to read my thoughts are not unusual and I am not heartless to want to get on and TTC. I have everything crossed for you and your 🌈 xxx

@Babytinx11 ahh how many dpo are you today ? I got a strong bfp at 10dpo and digital 1-2 weeks the same day with my last pregnancy but its upto you really as i presume uv had ur fmu now x

@SmileyT thank you it is stressful fingers crossed we get our bfps. Although I randomly started spotting this morning 🤷 I don't think my body knows what it's doing yet. Maybe like you I should of waited until my 1st AF to start trying again.

Ahh @Quail15 how many dpo are u? ..have u just joined the tww like me? X

@busby85 hello and so sorry for your loss. You must be gutted and still processing everything so give yourself time. I don’t think it’s harsh to want to try again! I felt exactly the same! I bled for around five days. I mc at nine weeks although measured at five. I had no medical management and passed a big clot and also smaller clots.

Once the bleed finished we started again to have unprotected sex. That felt right for us. Regarding your cycle, annoyingly it can be all over the place! I am very unfamiliar with my cycle. My history goes like this: on the pill for years since a teenager, off pill pregnant first cycle, lactational amenorrhea due to breastfeeding for 13 months, first period post partum, pregnant again, miscarriage. And now waiting to see. No idea what a normal cycle is for me. And still bf so that can also throw things. Opks negative too so can’t even catch a break there! The reason I tell you all this is I completely understand your frustration in not knowing what’s going on, feeling like you have no knowledge and control of your own body. Your period may be different this cycle or take a while to settle but I hear it usually sorts itself out within three months after mc. But here’s hoping you catch before that as well. Like you I don’t have confidence in what to expect about my cycle at then moment but regular unprotected sex is really what it takes I think. And also continue with your prenatal vitamins. Do U intend on taking opks? They haven’t been my friend this month but I will invest in cb digital if I haven’t conceived. Big hugs to you at this horrible time. I’m confident you will pull through this and get your rainbow! Xxx

@Hayleylou89 aw good luck with your tww. And typical hubby wants to dtd now haha 🙈 they get so touchy when they think they are using them for their swimmers haha. I love that you have a nice little project going on at home to keep your mind occupied. It sounds fab to convert your loft we did that in our old house. We’re using lockdown time to try and renovate the kitchen. It’s hideous but we can’t afford a brand new one if I’m going on maternity leave soon (here’s hoping 🤞😉)

I really hope af stays away for you so you will have that rainbow x

@Quail hey you’re in the tww as well. So what cd are you on? I know it’s confusing to ask when af is due because first cycle after mc it can be four to six weeks so anything is normal! X

@mummybear05 thankyou for taking the time to respond and relaying your very personal journey to someone you dont know - i appreciate it immensely. I am very lucky in that none of my friends mc so am finding it tricky to navigate what is 'normal' if there is such a thing. I hadnt given any thought to OPKs - I can get quite obsessed and think to begin with it will probably be best to see how I go without any use of them or else it will just be a cause of stress. It really will be a game of hoping something hits.
I really hope you catch the break you deserve and you get your rainbow 🌈 xx

@Babytinx11 so excited for you! And if af is still away it’s so positive! Do you think you could wait til the morning? Only one more day xx

I af was due on Monday although not been using opks so could have ovulated late xx

@busby85 any time it so helps to talk! And I will drive my people mad if I don’t vent online haha. My one friend did have a mc back in the autumn. I had no clue she was pg or miscarried but she confided in my ‘best friend’ and she then my best friend told me all her business. I couldn’t believe that my friend would betray her confidence like that, that she had told her she’d gone through mc and trusted her to keep secret and she went on to tell me, but I wasn’t even having a clue to any of it it just felt like she couldn’t keep it to herself. Then I fell pg. I vowed I wouldn’t tell her until 13 week scan because I clearly couldn’t trust her. Then I mc. So my ‘best friend’ didn’t even know I was pg or mc. And I knew I couldn’t trust her not to betray my confidence like she did to our other friend. She knows we’ve been ttc and she never asks me how I’m getting on anyway. So now i know I can’t rely on her to keep a secret and things between us won’t be the same again. So I definitely find comfort in you girls on here