TTC after miscarriage - April 2020

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Starting this thread for anyone TTC after a miscarriage. My MC was in December and I’ve had no joy since, but these threads have been wonderful for being amongst lovely people going through the same thing.

As always, sorry to anyone who finds themselves here and fingers crossed we all get our rainbows soon 🌈

@Hayleylou89 I know what you mean about feeling obsessed with the opks. I’m really not familiar with all this opk business. Your dtd is all you can do so whenever you ovulate you won’t miss an opportunity. I too had strong but not peak opks and what could have been ovulation pain (but who knows really) and just kept dtd every other day. You will surely have some swimmers waiting for when you do ovulate :)
It does feel a little forced sometimes though. I was sure with my cm that I wasn’t ovulating the other day and my opk literally had one line and We dtd for fun anyway and it was the best experience this month without a ‘goal’ or objective in the bedroom!
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@VP91x @Hayleylou89 now I'm even more confused decided to try out the CB ovulation stick and it's a static smiley face, not sure if it's really good timing or I did something wrong 😂

@SmileyT Oooh, that is meant to be your peak now isn't it!? That must be a good sign! I went for my second test earlier still flashing x

@VP91x yeah it's saying I'm peaking now even though I thought I may have missed it earlier in my cycle. Annoyingly the OH has been on night shifts (7pm-7am) this week/ weekend and I've been working during the day so only DTD a couple times. Hope you get your static smiley in the next couple days and we can get through the TWW together x

@SmileyT see if you can pin him down at some point tomorrow for that extra chance, but good that you have managed a couple of times even with the different shifts!

Yes, hopefully!! X

@SmileyT thats goood mines still flashing this morning!! Im not suprised urs is peak though because ur opks looked really positive yesterday, mine have never really looked positive only really strong at times! Xx iv got to take into account some cycles are 38 days long so today is cd 21 which isnt half way yet 😒 my ovarys are literally aching though so something is happening ...i just want to see that static soon 🙏... u need to get baby dancing now 😍 Have u been temping too? what have the temps been like if u have been? X

Hi ladies hope you are all okay. Just a quick update. Done another two tests this morning both more faint than yesterday. So am thinking it’s either a very very early miscarriage or chemical. Still bleeding very very lightly.

Morning all. It's definitely AF. Woke up with lots of blood in the night. :(
Think we're taking a month off because I'm utterly devastated and I need to be able to cope with it better

I’m sorry @Sallyjo27

I had a chemical in February, it’s so horrible especially after a MC. Take it easy today 💛

@Re6ecc4 I'm so sorry 😔 be kind to yourself. Hopefully you can do something today that will make you feel a little better xx sending you a big hug

@Sallyjo27 oh no, are you going to contact your EPU today they might be able to offer some further advice as it is still a positive test? X

Morning ladies, I don't suppose any of you had more of your hair coming out after your miscarriage and if so what did you do to help it? Thanks xx

Oh no so sorry @Sallyjo27 hope you are okay I recently had a chemical pregnancy too xxx

@Sallyjo27 sending you lots of love 💕

@Re6ecc4 definitely take some time out if it is becoming a stressful experience for you, maybe you just try without trying for a month. DTD when you want to and to have fun and connect with OH then see how you feel in a month. I'm so sorry this hasn't been your month but I really hope it will happen for you soon x

@Klwb93 I didn't notice any hair loss but I wear extensions and so probably wouldn't be as aware as others if I had any.

@VP91x I’ve rang the EPU and they’ve said they aren’t scanning unless an emergency at the moment but to do another test in a week and see. The line this morning is much more faint so don’t have any hope. Think I’m going to wait a few months now before trying again. It’s so bloody stressful.

Thank you ladies ❤️
@Re6ecc4 I’m so sorry. I don’t blame you, take some time for yourself x

@Hayleylou89 yes we DTD yesterday and will go at least once today and tomorrow (just in case 😂) Well at least you know there is a good chance you will peak later this week and you'll definitely be in your fertile window now. Yeah i ordered a thermometer a couple days after my surgery so only have data from CD6 (guessing it was higher straight after MC but seemed to level a bit afterwards) definitely looks like it's on its way up now, do you temp? Do you get a dip before ovulation? xxx

Sending you a big hug. Hopefully you get an answer soon so you know where to go from there xxx

Sorry that was for you @Sallyjo27 x

@Sallyjo27 very sorry to hear that. Big hugs take care. Such a stressful time but especially with everything else going on in the world at the moment.

@Re6ecc4 oh no I was really hoping it was implantation bleeding like others have said before treat yourself to something and take some time out. I know it sucks but I’m sure in a week or so when ovulation is due you will feel better. Thinking of you both xx

Thankyou all you lovely ladies, we think we will just be using contraception for a while as this last cycle took a toll on both me and my fiance. However, neither of us are good at sticking to things so I'll stay on the thread in case we do anything again!

@Re6ecc4 look after yourself it is such a difficult journey.

my bleeding from my misscarrage finally stopped at the weekend (yay - it's been 2 weeks) I was looking forward to trying again however I had an awful day at work and am now feeling sorry for myself. I had to tell my boss I was pregnant before my misscarrage when I was only 6 weeks due to being a keyworker.... I have been working from home since my misscarrage (although i did email my boss to tell him a misscarrage was likely due to an early scan showing poor development). I was planning to tell him about my misscarrage face to face today.
When I got into the office one of the nurses pulled me aside to tell me that my boss had told one of the teams senior staff and they had announced my pregnancy to the whole team last week 😤 I got quite a few congratulations before I burst into tears and told them I had lost my pregnancy.
I never cry at work and feel really crap and embarrassed. To rub salt into it two of my colleagues are also pregnant and due around the same time I would have been 😭

What a crappy day. I'm going to eat chocolate and feel sorry for myself this evening then try and move forward tomorrow. 🤞 for a bfp in the next couple of months.

@Quail15 oh that’s absolutely awful! I can’t believe that! So out of order to announce it to everyone like that!!!

Fingers crossed you get your bfp soon. Think of the positives your bleeding has stopped and you can think of trying again when you’re ready

@Quail15 that is so unprofessional of them to share your information and definitely not what you need on your first day back in, I think anybody in your situation would've had a little cry at work. Glad the bleeding has stopped so you can start to look forward I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a BFP in the coming months 💜

@Re6ecc4 aw that’s it you just do what feels right. If you need a break take a break. This is very hard emotionally so I can understand why you feel this way. Thinking of you.

I’ve been feeling quite low today. I am trying so hard to be positive and look on the bright side. Very frustrated. I feel like I’ve been waiting forever for another baby. I know I’m lucky to already have my son and I love him so much but I so want to extend my family and have more. Hubby keeps telling me to be patient and go with the flow, that I shouldn’t feel upset but I can’t help it. Today I’ve just tried to stay out of his way because I feel so upset and don’t want to keep being moody around him but it’s hard with the lockdown. I know he’s right but that logic doesn’t always get through to my emotions. No positive opks this month. I know that breastfeeding can be inhibiting my ovulation, as it’s done for over a year, and logic says to wean. He’s 16 months so again logic says why not. But every time I try my son is very upset and he cries and I don’t want to hurt that bond we have, it doesn’t seem fair if he’s not ready. Also worried if I get a bfp, so nervous after what I’ve just been through but again logic tells me it didn’t mean I would miscarry again. Seriously my emotions are taking over the things I know in my head! I need to give my head a wobble!