TTC after ectopic pregnancy

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Hello I'm hoping to chat with other ladies ttc after ectopic pregnancy with tubal removal. I recently had an ectopic pregnancy and lost my left tube. I don't know anyone who has been through this so I've no one to talk to about this. I would love this tread to become a kind of support group where we can support each other on the scary journey of ttc.

So up and down it's stressful. Just got to wait for scan Monday- what a long wait!!!

Thank you everyone for your messages. It's been really comforting to read them whilst I'm sat in the ward alone - not allowed to have my husband in.. for the 3rd time this year.
What a crap 2020.
I'm feeling much better today. Hopefully once the catheter comes out I can get up and move around. The doctor has done the referral for ivf so who knows what the future holds - it'll be a long road but I'm trying to keep hopeful (otherwise I'd cry)
If they had done the scan on Friday the rupture could have been prevented.. but I can't dwell on that - what's happened has happened now so I can't change it.
Thanks again for all of the messages, they've been comforting in lonely times.

@littleeggcup thinking of you - hope the scan goes ok

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You are an incredibly strong lady @coffeewithmilk and I really admire your outlook 💙

So I’ve just called EPU about the niggles I’ve been having at my ectopic site, I guess I wanted to hear them say that twinges are normal and as long as it’s not accompanied by bleeding and isn’t proper pain then they’re sure it’s fine...

That didn’t happen, they want me checked out and I’m booked in for an earlier scan tomorrow morning.

I mean I guess I’m glad they are being thorough but now I’m worried I’ve been too complacent and something might actually be wrong. Shitting a brick. 😭

Ohh @MrsB2019x I know your feeling right now!! How many weeks are you?

I'm going for my scan Monday and I'm so so worried still it's horrid. I wish you all the luck xxxx

Oh @MrsB2019x they are doing the right thing and taking care of you. Far worse for them to dismiss your concern and leave you to fret. It must be worrying but try and see it as being looked after. Are you able to have someone with you for the scan?

@littleeggcup I’m 5+1 today. I got treatment for the ectopic last time at 5+4 so maybe because it’s coming up to that time I’m more anxious? Best of luck for your scan on Monday 💙

@NigellasMicrowave Thank you, yeah I completely agree I’d rather they be over cautious but it’s got my mind racing! Not allowed DH with me ☹️ But I went through my last one alone as it was over Easter so nothing has really changed!

Oh ladies I've just caught up!

@coffeewithmilk I'm so so sorry to hear your news. I'm sure each of us here can relate or at least understand a little of what you are going through, and send massive virtual hugs. How unbelievably sh**.
I'm glad they have started the ivf referral for you, as you say it's a way of looking forward in the darker times. How are you feeling now? Are you still an inpatient?

Good luck to those still waiting on scans, and it's good they are seeing you sooner @mrsb2019x, less time to dwell on the what ifs. The wait feels forever and I know how hard it is going in alone. FC for you and @littleeggcup in the week ahead xx

Hello everybody

I hope it is ok to join this thread. Last week i suffered an ectopic pregnancy at 6 weeks . I had been complaining about a weird pain a few days earlier but the hospital ignored it and didn't scan or take any bloods. I went to another hospital where they scanned me took blood etc and said it had ruptured. I ended up having surgery and losing my right fallopian tube and of course my baby. I am 40 years old and suffered a miscarriage ( twins) in the summer so lost 3 babies in 5 months. This time i just feel like my chances are so much slimmer than before especially with my age. I am also doing this alone ( the father is around but we arent together we are friends with benefits trying for a baby). I just dont know what my next steps should be ? Could anybody recommend a specialist ? I dont really care about the cost, I just dont want it to happen again . I find the facebook pages I have a joined arent that useful or helpful for me . I am sure others do though. I am just so sad at the moment but i dont quite know how i can move on. Sorry for the rant.

@Hlump1980 I am so sorry you find yourself here with us, and sorry for the loss of your babies 💙 next steps at this point are to allow yourself to recover, both physically and mentally. It’s a hell of a lot to process. Could always book an appt with your GP to discuss tests/ways forward? x

@MrsB2019x good luck with the scan today 🤞

@hlump1980 I'm so sorry for your losses. I booked in a consultation with a fertility clinic immediately after my tube removal and found it very helpful in thinking about what to do next. He made some recommendations and I am now going through some fertility assessments with the NHS. I had my amh checked this week and had a good result which has reassured me. I'm now waiting for a hycosy to check if my remaining tube is blocked. As others have said though it can take a long time to process what has happened so do whatever makes you feel better. For me, I didn't want to wait around so started trying again straight away. I'm now on cycle 3 since my ectopic and am hoping for a Christmas miracle! 🤍

Baby is in the right place!! 😍

They are getting me back in on 4th Jan as I have another black area which they are thinking is probably fluid but can’t rule out a second gestational sac 😳 I don’t think it is because of the shape and neither me or DH have history of twins in our families but they just want to be sure what they’re dealing with.

So relieved 🥰

That is SUCH good news @MrsB2019x I’m so very pleased for you!

What a relief for you! Congratulations, wishing you a very peaceful 9 months 💛

Thank you ladies 💙

@coffeewithmilk are you home now? I thought you had a scan planned but I guess they cancelled it because of the blood work? So gutted for you. You are so brave and I wish I had your strength ❤️

Glad to hear things are in the right place @MrsB2019x You were right to get checked out!

So happy for for @mrsb2019x! I had an extra sac at my 6w scan and I do have a history of twins! But they said it was either an area of small bleed or a twin that didn't implant. Either way it was gone by my next scan. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy xx

Welcome to the group @hlump1980, so sorry to hear of the hard year you have had.
From what I gather, most ectopic are random If you've not had other complications and mc are awful but happen a huge amount. Hopefully the two won't be connected to a similar cause.
I had an ectopic 1st time ttc then a mc just before this pregnancy and I think it's just really bad luck. The only silver lining is it made me cherish my babies more through the hard days.
Depending on your history it might be worth seeing a specialist just to get a check on all your baseline hormones, and sperm counts etc for peace of mind if anything else? My gp referred us to a fertility clinic before my ectopic as we had been ttc for over 12m and my husband has a varocele, but then I had my ectopic then got pregnant with my dd.
Fwiw I found tracking my cycles helped (if you don't already), and found my ovulation was on the short side so started taking agnus castus and some other supplements and loosely followed the smep. The month I caught with this one I'd managed to push ovulation back to cd 11/12 which I think helped. It also helped to know that I was maximising the chance each month of the swimmers getting to the egg. But it can feel quite intense being so focused on it all. But have hope, if your ovary is functioning normally then you can still conceive from that side even without a tube! I did with this bump x

@MrsB2019x oh I am sooo relieved for you!!! Also couldn't help but notice that you're in Portsmouth? I'm in Southampton! Xx

Congratulations @MrsB2019x what a relief! So pleased for you 😊

I’m now firmly in the TWW and trying desperately not to symptom spot... Easier said than done! Today I think I have a heightened sense of smell... But then I have loads of smelly cheeses in the fridge right now 😂🙈

Thanks you so much everyone xx
I feel so less worried now

Hi, can I join too?
I had my ectopic pregnancy December 2015 and lost my right tube. I did go on to have a rainbow April 2017, we are now wanting to try for baby number two and im freaking out already.

I came off the pill last month and had whst I thought was my period but later for out was a withdrawl bleed on either the 11th November or 12th November. Iv not had a period since and we have been trying, im now 8 days late but getting negative tests sk im petrified its another ectopic. However friends have said its probably due to being off the pill for first proper month it making mt periods late, can this happen I was on dinette pill.

Sending baby dust to you all

Omg no way @littleeggcup small world!

Thank you so much everybody for your kind words, going to try and relax a little now!

@MrsB2019x Delighted for you love ❤️
Sorry to hear of everyone else's stories and welcome to anyone new on the thread.
I'm home now, after being discharged on Wednesday and then having to go back in for ongoing pain. I'm home now and finally just settled. It's amazing how a long shower and fresh pajamas can make you feel.
I'm feeling quite teary at times and just can't help but feel I'll never have a moment in my life ever where I'll be like 'oh my period is late what if I'm pregnant' because it's just impossible now.
I cried to my husband earlier saying for the most natural thing to happen in the world and my body failed at it 3 times, it's just not fair. I just can't understand why this has happened but I suppose everyone has a plan in life and ours is just going to be a little bit more difficult until we can get our rainbow.
Sorry for getting all soppy of a Friday evening but I've just had so much time to think.
I've already had a nosy in the ivf threads, so I presume they'll be my new go-to from now.

Obviously I won't be leaving this thread - it's been my lifeline over the last year.

For now I'm going to switch off and try enjoy Christmas feeling happy that I'm safe and with my husband and family.
Happy Christmas to everyone and let's hope 2021 brings happier news than 2020.

Lots of love
X

@coffeewithmilk Glad you are on the mend. I totally understand taking a break over Christmas, hope you can switch off a little and recharge. Hope you have a lovely Christmas and 2021 brings much better things for you 💙 you deserve it.

I really don't know what to do- scan Monday at 1.50pm but my one sided pain is awful today. I'm still managing to walk etc but it's worse than it has been all week. I don't know if I should just wait for Monday as they probably can't do anything today??

Also had an upset tummy this morning and I know this can be a sign of ectopic too