TTC after miscarriage - March 2020

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Hey everyone 👋🏻

This thread is for anyone TTC or testing in March after a miscarriage.

So sorry if you find yourself here, but you’re in good company ❤️

Just came back on to talk boob poking and now all this... feel a bit obliged to contribute.

@shhhhs I know that we should try to make all of these boards welcoming and open. I came to mn for ttc and then mc so I don’t have a lot of experience re etiquette but it seems clear from other boards that a minimum is to read the OP and their follow up comments. If you did that here you would see that this thread comes from Feb, and that one from Jan and I think you would fairly quickly have an idea of the history of the people on here. I would not go on to a longer running thread and just throw a comment on without doing that.
The thread title has the word miscarriage in it, to me that should signal people to take a little more care that they’re posting appropriately. Particularly if they’re wanting congratulations following a BFP. There are so many threads for that on the conception boards, I’m just not sure why someone would choose this one.
When I’m having a bad day I can’t even scroll past the June 2020 birth club ones without feeling upset, I actively avoid other TTC threads. When it pops up here out of the blue it can be upsetting. I am always always delighted for people on here who know the struggle but other than that I kind of want to hide away.
But I understand your wanting to protect people in a vulnerable place.

Anyway, boob poking....

I’m going to miss a load of things after all that but

@MilsCookie I think I will test this weekend if I last! 😬 haven’t even got to the point of testing on other cycles so I’m basically dying to POAS

@Annny27 thanks! Here we go again! Be crippled with the crossing of fingers this time

I never even knew how many types of tests were out there before this thread, so educational 🤣

@MilsCookie I’m not entirely sure as this is first cycle after my MC but think I’m about 15dpo. Have just tested again with another cheapie as all I have and there’s a definite pink line 😳 I’ve literally spotted/bled for the last 9 days so I can’t possibly see how I could be pregnant. Hoping my FRER comes early tomorrow!

That's definitely a line @scrumdiddly123 :D maybe order a FRER off amazon?

@milscookie @fizzl @Whiffle77I am 10dpo and tested this morning and got a bfn.....so I would hold in if you can haha.

@sparklevery time I type your name is doesnt let me space between your username and the next word...weird!!!

Ooof @scrumdiddly123 I can see something in that one!

Haha @annny27 well getting to 10 dpo is pretty good! I am still spotting on and off with cramping which I only had last month for first af after MC so I'm pretty sure still I'm out. But plenty of time to try again now we are on lockdown! Geez louise 2020 has not been kind!!

Thanks @Anny27, I have a FRER coming from amazon today, good old prime!
How are you feeling? Any symptoms?

Thanks @Whiffle77, I’ve woken up feeling sick but think it’s in my head. Just doesn’t make any sense the amount of spotting I’ve had!
How are you? When is AF due?

@scrumdiddly123 I can see it! Try not to worry too much about the spotting. I've read its quite common in early pregnancy!! So exciting!! Let us know how you get on with the FRER.

@Anny27 what are we like 🙈🙈🙈 I also tested this morning and got a stark white bfn. Glad it wasn't just me who caved!! I ordered 2 FRERs last night so will maybe do one of those on Thursday at 12dpo. I just feel like it should show by now at 10dpo on a 10mlU test with FMU (I know people don't get positives till later) 😩 Why do I always think I'll be one of the lucky ones who gets an early bfp!! The wait is torrrrture. Oh well, if it doesn't happen this month, as @Whiffle77 said we're going to have plenty of time to do it next month!! 🙈

Oh glad I wasnt the only one @milscookie 🤣🤣🤣 yep I looked at the "countdown to pregnancy" website and it said by 10dpo, if you were pregnant, 65% of pregnant people would have had a positive by then and 35% would have had a false negative.....lets hope we are the 35% 🤞🤞😬😬😬 I have 2 more FRERs coming too haha!!

@scrumdiddly123 I cant wait to see the result on your FRER!!!!

@Whiffle77 yes lots of time during april to conceive some new years babies haha!!

@Anny27 fingers crossed we are in that 35% then haha!! Are you going to test again tomorrow or wait? I am going to try and wait until Thursday I think...

@milscookie I think we both know the answer to that 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I am deffo testing again tomorrow 🙈🙈🙈

I'm ok thanks @scrumdiddly123 feel a lot better than yesterday! Feel less anxious now we are in lockdown bizarrely...
AF due any time between tomorrow and the weekend I think. Lockdown does mean no acupuncture either which is a shame! Small fry in the scheme of things but it was making me feel good.

FRER just taken after a 3 hour hold...

@scrumdiddly123 definitely looks like there is something there.

@Whiffle77 I also feel slightly calmer now it feels like we're doing something to try and control this.

Ahh @Annny27 and @MilsCookie it's still early days. I want to wait until Friday so hopefully I'll have a more definitive answer but I'm also worried that as soon as I get a positive test I need a prescription from the hospital and if I can't get sorted Friday it will be Monday. In the grand scheme of things a few days probably isn't a big deal but I'll panic all weekend. I'm still not hopeful anyway. I've had some mild cramps this morning and a bit of a pinching sensation but I just feel like I normally do when AF is about to show.

I've seen two more pregnancy announcements on Facebook this morning - anyone else feel like everyone is all of a sudden getting pregnant around you?! I can't help but feel a little bitter but then remind myself I don't know what journey they've been on either. Never been a huge fan of social media😔

X-posted @scrumdiddly123 that's a definite positive! Congrats!

Thanks very much @Fizzl! I’m so surprised and regretting how much wine I’ve drank over the last week! 😨

@scrumdiddly123 yes!! Congrats! I'm feeling more certain now ( or as certain as you can be!) test was a lot darker today still on cheapies. No af but I know I'll prob start spotting soon as I did all the way through pretty much with my daughter as well as my miscarriage

@scrumdiddly123 that's an amazing line! Congratulations! Xxx

@Fizzl yep definitlwy hold off if you can! I dont feel pregnant if I am honest. Not got sore boobs and not particularly tired

@triedandtestedteacher thank you! And that’s a nice solid line for you too! Fingers crossed for us x
@Anny27 thanks very much! 16dpo today and hardly noticed any symptoms which is unusual for me so really am shocked!
Fingers crossed for lots more BFPs on here 🤞🏻🤞🏻 x

@scrumdiddly123 and @triedandtestedteacher those are both very positive! So exciting for you both, wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months ahead

@Annny27 that is weird with the name

I’m only 8dpo and sore boobs are gone, temp dropped and had some spotting so I guess I’ll take myself off to April board after all. We’ve had pretty spot on timing every cycle since mc. I’m less surprised I’m not getting a positive this month but so disappointed that my body doesn’t seem to be working and having such short luteal phase 😞

Oh wow they are both good positives, congrats guys! What great news! Dont worry about the drinking scrum, it wont get through to them yet.
Sorry @sparkl but as everyone said to me, you never know!

Thanks everyone! Do we have to leave? I don't feel like I want to join a pregnant group. Last time I did I had to leave soon after

Oh bless you there is a pregnancy after loss group which will be more tempered than a normal pregnancy group! But I understand how you feel

Morning girls - tested again at 11dpo today and bfn. Not even my line eyes can make up a line on it 🤣🤣 that's me out as temps slightly dropping and boobs arent sore atall

Hope we have some other bfps on here!!!!!

www.countdowntopregnancy.com/pregnancy-test/dpo-chart.php?dpo=11

This is a good website which shows your chances each dpo :)