TTC after miscarriage - March 2020

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Hey everyone 👋🏻

This thread is for anyone TTC or testing in March after a miscarriage.

So sorry if you find yourself here, but you’re in good company ❤️

@MilsCookie I got a positive on a CB digi at 9dpo with my MC! Couldn’t believe it x

Hello everyone, hope you don’t mind me joining you. I had a mc in January at 5 weeks, it was an upsetting time for us. I took a test this afternoon and there is a very faint line! Extremely anxious but hopeful everything will be okay.

Look forward to meeting you all xx

@milscookie I've also switched to decaf. It's not been as bad as I expected actually and all coffee shops/cafes seem to offer this now!

@Annn27 could defo be implantation bleeding! I never had it either but every pregnancy comes with different symptoms so watch this space!

@scrumdiddly123 definitely looks like something is there but I think those tests always have a bit of a shadow. Maybe test again first thing.

@Zoetuxx if you have a positive test you might want to move over to the pregnancy after loss thread. People on this thread are still ttc following their miscarriage. Watch out for @ChampooPap 😂

@Fizzl sorry didn’t realise I was on the wrong thread

So I'm driving myself mad testing. I'm really concerned that lines arent getting darker. I'm getting really conflicting results with the variety of cheap tests I have in my collection ( really don't want to go out to the major supermarket). The first pic with the strongish line was taken last night at 11dpo. It's not a frer and is only supposed to be sensitive to 25mui. The others I've taken this morning with the same wee. Yes I've done this many!

@triedandtestedteacher your FRER from 11dpo looks stronger than mine was at 12dpo FMU. So good sign I think :D

@Fizzl yep I am getting ahead of myself haha! Do you have any symptoms?

@Annny27 the weird thing is it's not a frer. It's 'clear answer test' from Bodycare but it came up instantly last night but these much more faint ones today

@scrumdiddly123 I can see the line on that. It looks like one of my cheapies at the moment.

@triedandtestedteacher

Mine was like that 4 days after my period was due and didn't get darker until 9 days late!!! So that's definitely a good sign!!! X

@triedandtestedteacher when I conceived in January (unfortunately ended in MC), I was getting really faint lines on cheapies but a nice line on a standard clear blue and even got a ‘pregnant’ result on a CB digi at 9/10dpo! So I do wonder whether these tests are as sensitive as they say. Can you order a FRER from amazon?
I’m exactly the same after getting that result today, need a proper test but don’t want to go out! It really drives you mad doesn’t it x

@Zoetuxx too bloody right, it's like really bitch 🙄😆

Sorry couldn't help myself

@Annny27 eeeek I really hope that's what it is for you!! I just want to knoooowwww. I swear the waiting this month is trying to kill me. I've been getting a couple of odd twinges on the left side of my uterus but I just checked my Flo app and I was getting that this time last month as well so prob doesn't mean anything!

@triedandtestedteacher I would say they're all good positives!! Try not to worry about the lines getting darker or not. Lots of factors could be affecting that e.g. how much you've had to drink. Try to relax now, although I can imagine that must be easier said than done. Congratulations!!

@Whiffle77 hang on in there lovely... you're definitely not out yet!

@scrumdiddly123 I can see something but not sure if it's a shadow... I would test again tomorrow! How many dpo are you?

@Annny27 absolutely everything crossed, I mean come on world, we are owed another bfp on here in the next few days ✨🌈

(And not from someone we've never seen before!)

Fingers crossed for you @Annny27 that would be great!

And thanks for the pep talk guys haha! I'm pretty sure but any positive vibes are accepted at the minute!

@Whiffle77 we are all here rooting for you! Get through the next few days anyway you can or want, be kind to yourself because you have been through enough not to be 💜🤞🌈

Thanks @champoopapi that means a lot!

@scrumdiddly123 yes it's frustrating. The sensitivity they claim doesn't seem to correlate at all to the lines. I've been getting darker lines on less sensitive tests with the same urine. Go figure. I will prob brave the pharmacy tomorrow if Af doesn't show. I'm really worried about my dd being indoors so much

@triedandtestedteacher I’ve just ordered 2 FRERs off amazon for £6! To be delivered tomorrow. So will hopefully know for sure. I know what you mean about getting out, I have 3 at home with me now with schools shut, have made sure we have a walk everyday and play in the garden!

Hi girls, I have no doubt I'm about to get a load of abuse following this but it's been on my mind for days and now seeing the posts this evening I can't let it go unsaid. I've continued to follow this post with the hopes of seeing you all get the BFP's that you all deserve. But oh my god some of you have been horrid to newbies (or name changers!!), before this thread I had never used MN so didn't know the expected etiquette, maybe it's the same for others?

You all know that horrendous lost feeling following a MC and that looking for help or reassurance when trying to concieve or having just got a possible positive. Imagine looking for that support and then getting called a bitch at the time you feel most vunerable..

I mean no disrespect to anyone but maybe it's time to remember that everyone here is living through some really rough times.

@shhhhs posting a positive test on a trying to conceive after miscarriage thread without ever having been on before is incredibly insensitive and actually just plain wrong. How anyone would think that was ok to all the woman who have been trying and have lost previous pregnancys or had still births is beyond me.

And the 'really bitch' was a joke without obviously tagging the person, sometimes we have to be ourselves on here and not completely 'perfect' as well, otherwise we arnt be very honest about who we actually are are we? We have to stand up for others and that's what I did for all the women on here, trust me, you don't have to tell us how to feel about women who have had miscarriages. We know.

Anyone with compassion, intelligence, and a strong sense of sisterhood, reading even the last two pages of this thread would know that.

Go find someone else , preferably a man, to tell off or silence

@shhhhs and thanks for your congratulations 🙄

maybe it's time to remember that everyone here is living through some really rough times

Patronising much?

Oh shit we forgot about people actually having been through something, we thought it was actually just a silly game we were playing. And no one was actually real. That they were actually going 'through' rough times.

There are women here who have held babies in there arms who will never wake up @shhhhs. You have really crossed a line here, take a looks t the amount of women on here you have probably offended, or worse, made to feel guilty, what were you actually thinking? Preaching to these woman is unbelievable

@ChampooPapi have you forgotten that I am one of these women? You felt like you needed to be voice for people, I felt the same, just for different reasons. I will not get dragged into this. My intention was never to patronise and apologies if that's how you feel but I will not backtrack what I said.

@Annny27 no still don't really have any symptoms. I keep getting mild heartburn, I have it again tonight but it could just be the sheer amount I'm eating because I'm at home 😬 and my husbands top up shop wasn't the healthiest 🙄. Other than that, nothing. I keep poking my boobs, waiting to feel some cramps or something but nope, nada.

@shhhhs I do understand that some people won't understand mumsnet etiquette if they're new which is why I pointed Zoe in the right direction for the thread where she will get support. I think as women who have all gone through miscarriage we totally know how it feels. I would not have posted a positive pregnancy test on my first post if I knew I was talking to women who had gone through miscarriage. Obviously we all want to support but I don't think it's totally unreasonable for there to be some sensitivity and to approach with some caution I think.

@shhhhs it's not just me it's on every thread someone does this, it's just really odd when people do it and often incredibly insensitive, and they always get called out by someone. So it is certainly not just me. I haven't forgotten you are one of them because I've supp you on this thread and have been absolutely thrilled at your pregnancy. So no, I do not forget you had experienced miscarriage.

You seem to have forgotten I have though. You need to practice what you preach.

But I know you already and I know you don't like me from a very long time ago, way back in November no? You hold a grudge and you took your chance here, so no, I don't think your very genuine either 'defending' others. If it was anyone else you would have left it.

Anyway, this is not our thread any more so I'm buggering off.

I'll check in on you ladies though over the next few weeks and months, just to see those positives 🌈♥️