TTC after miscarriage - March 2020

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Hey everyone 👋🏻

This thread is for anyone TTC or testing in March after a miscarriage.

So sorry if you find yourself here, but you’re in good company ❤️

@SunnySideUp2020 it's really, really, really tough. Especially on Mothers' Day of all days. Sending you all the strength I can muster. We're all in this together and we WILL get there xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Oh wow congratulations @Champoopapi I'm so happy for you, you've totally got this best of luck for the next 9 months. I'm so happy for you !! Best mother's Day present xxxxx

@SunnySideUp2020 keep your chin up we will get through this together!!
I'm so sorry it's not your month 😕!! I was the same I had a good cry, but it will happen for us 😘😘😘😘 xxxx

I've really struggled today. I had a bath and then cried to my mum. I went downstairs and cuddled George, but knew I should be cuddling my 2 girls too. My gorgeous tiny babies, Poppy and Maisie.

I feel so guilty for feeling kind of glad they're not here, being born at 34 weeks at the latest, they'd likely have had lung issues and been at such high risk, it would have been so worrying. They might not even have been out of hospital yet.

Congratulations to all those with BFPs. Couldn't be happier for you all. Desperately hoping the rest of us get our turns soon.

@ejb86 sending hugs 💐 💓

@Ljm0101 thanks for your words lovely x we will indeed get through this together 🌈❤️

Congratulations @ChampooPapi !!That's great news 😘

Congratulations @ChampooPapi lovely news x

@Ejb86 sending love and support from me here, sat in my living room, feel for you so much. It is so hard, it just is so so bloody hard. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and keep checking in with everyone here. I can't imagine what you have been through 💜

@Happythecrocodile @Nuggetlover27 @Ljm0101 @Fizzl thank you for all your congratulations and all the love and just being so brilliant and fantastic! I don't deserve it though! You all have made this journey up until this point not just bareable but a pleasure, an honer ladies to have been involved with your personal stories and your lives. You are brave beyond anything I ever could imagine, I have learnt a lot on here about what women go through, and what inside they are carrying with them.

I will practice more patience, more compassion, I will try and be better from this experience of loss, not worse. I will make you all proud ♥️

And to answer about what I did this month, other then pickling myself in white and red wine on 3 separate occasions (after a t total 8 weeks!)

I'll upload my chart, I stopped the vits but kept up with the iron spa tone, doubled my does actually to two sachets.

And I did opk's this month for the first time, but was a little crap with those

@Champoopapi I don't know what happened there but you've just had me welling up 🙈.

@Ejb86 thinking of you and sending lots of love.

Today is the start of a new cycle ..... bring it on !! 😊😊 xx

My chart, but it's pretty much standard I think to everyone else's. Just started sex a few days after af and carried on up untill supposed ovulation. Was less fanatical this month, it was month 5 so I was in a resigned state that it wasn't happening again, doubt that helps 🙄😆

@champoopapi I am just so so happy for you!! How are you feeling? Has it sunk in yet? Any symptoms?

Girls I'm only 9dpo and getting so itchy to test 😬😬😬 anyone else? @Annny27 @Whiffle77 @Fizzl please tell me to step away from the sticks!!! 🙈

@Ljm0101 I cried when I read everyone's messages, and a fair few other times as well when just reading the thread to be honest. I will never look at a women the same way after being a part of this, and I will obviously narrow my eyes internally at all men! No offence to them but they don't really have a clue do they the ignorant blissful bastards!

@MilsCookie no symptoms other then ones that I'm still relating to my Thursday night booze session, i know it's been three nights but we were up till 3am so I know I'm still on a bit of a sleep debt.

Sit on those hands! I think it's totally reasonable to test in a couple of days but not today, even tomorrow woman, but not today !

Thanks for sharing @champoopapi - whens your due date?? :D

@MilsCookie I had a dream I tested and it was super positive but obviously at 9dpo it would be the squintiest squinter haha! So I will wait till wednesday 11dpo at the earliest.
Not gonna lie though I have been super tempted a few times haha!

@SunnySideUp2020 yep if social distancing goes on till June I will look 9 months pregnant anyway 🤣🤣

Thanks @fizzl 🥰🥰 you tempted to test?

@EJB86 sending love to you, it's horrible when you stop and think. I would have been only 2 months away from meeting my baby 😭

@ChampooPapi thanks for sharing your tips 😂 I've really cut back on the wine and not had any since being in the tww but I know there will probably come a time if I don't get a BFP after a few months that I'll think sod it and also pickle myself. I know it's a cliche but so many people say when you relax it happens - seems that was the case for you!

@Annny27 @milscookie I do keep thinking every day 'I can test soon' but I'm surprised that I don't feel tempted to do it yet. Last time I got a positive it was day 29 and 12dpo so part of me wants to wait until Friday when I will be 12dpo. The other part of me is saying let's just see on Wednesday! I don't think I really have any symptoms tho, if I'd noticed something obvious I'd be more tempted to test on Wednesday I think 🤔. Ahh who am I kidding we all know I'm going to cave on Wednesday 😂

@ChampooPapi @annny27 thanks girls - I really need to be reminded that it's still too early (doesn't stop me googling 'bfp at 9dpo' though does it!)

@annny27 that's so funny, I've had a fair few of those positive pregnancy test dreams! and also many where I've been pregnant. They're almost the worst cos then you wake up and realise you aren't :-(

@Fizzl I've massively cut down on alcohol too. Not that I'm a big drinker anyway but for the last few months I've just had it when AF has showed and then maybe once or twice before ovulation but then that's it. Same with caffeine as well!

I'm going to tryyyyyyy and hold out till Weds (11dpo) I'll be AMAZED if I get to then though!

How is everyone else doing? @SunnySideUp2020 have you done any more tests? xxxx

@MilsCookie yes but still the same whitest of whites... but it’s ok i am waiting for af and thinking of next cycle strategy now 🙄

Hi all, I had moved over to April thread but I’m 7dpo now so thinking I might sneak an end of March test. Saturday would be 12dpo for me. Not feeling too hopeful this cycle. Or I’m telling myself that anyway to lessen the blow!

Anyone have any promising symptoms?

Nothing for me girls, and not tempted to test - I'm having some spotting already so think AF is on it's way. Which would be a bit early but body obviously still recovering! Feeling really emotional today, sad because of AF but obviously also anxious about the world! Not sleeping either which doesnt help!
Whinge whinge whinge....!!! Ordered a load more opks to make sure I dont run out during the crisis ha...priorities...
Hold out a little longer girlies and dont test! You'll only be disappointed if you get a BFN and it might not be true anyway!
Hope everyone else is ok, echo previous comments about this thread being full of strong women! Has def kept me going in some tough days

@SunnySideUp2020 you are an incredibly strong woman. I read something earlier that helped slightly, which was: every month we don't conceive our body is getting a little bit stronger to have a healthy baby. I know it doesn't have any scientific basis but it gave me some comfort. Just think - this cycle could be the cycle! What have you already been doing to support ttc?

@Whiffle77 I wish I had your restraint!! Your spotting... could it be implantation bleed? How long are your cycles usually? You're not out yet!

@Sparkl are you going to test at the weekend? I also tell myself I'm not pregnant to protect myself! The things we do for self-preservation!

@ChampooPapi what a lovely line, congratulations!
I had left this thread and moved onto April so just catching up! I hope no one will mind if I post a test pic I’ve just taken? I thought I was out as been spotting for the last 9 days but not enough for me to call it AF and seems to have almost stopped. So just POAS (because what else is there to do at the moment 😆) and could see the faintest line within the time frame. Thinking maybe a dodgy test though as don’t feel any different other than a couple of dizzy spells today.
Would love to hear people’s thoughts or just tell me I’m going crazy!

They varied before miscarriage between 24 - 28! So today is 22, would still be early but I usually spot before. I dont think its implantation, it's starting the same way as last month and have some cramps. Really thought I'd nailed it this month!
You're right though, this is only my second AF after MC so my body is still healing. I'm just impatient and frustrated...as we all are!!
Tomorrow is another day...

Afternoon :) so I had cramps at 7dpo in the evening and then just now I have had some brown cm, like similar to what I get before af (a day before) but this is 9dpo. Trying not to read too much into it but ofcourse my mind is racing to....IMPLANTATION BLEED. When actually i had no brown whatsoever when I conceived and it's more likely just af spotting 🤷‍♀️

@Fizzl yep I got my bfp at 12dpo last time so I am thinking 11/12dpo is a good bet!

@MilsCookie I am also totally googling "bfp and 9dpo" "9dpo squinter" "9dpo frer" 🤣🤣

I cant see it sorry @scrumdiddly123 but it doesnt mean Its not there!

@whiffle77 ahh hopefully its implantation and not af spotting!

@sparklwelcome back yayyy that you will be testing end if march:D

Put the wrong pic up and don’t know how to edit the comment 🤦‍♀️

Also did an opk at the same time and got this! I don’t think I’m pregnant but have no idea what’s going on 😕