TTC after miscarriage - March 2020

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Hey everyone 👋🏻

This thread is for anyone TTC or testing in March after a miscarriage.

So sorry if you find yourself here, but you’re in good company ❤️

@Moominmiss they’re looking good!! Cautious congrats!! I hope it’s a really sticky bean!

Thank you @Leok83, me too 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

Hi ladies, can I join please?
I found out on 17th of February I’d had a missed miscarriage. I had spotting at 9 weeks went to a&e had to wait 5 days for a scan but when I had a scan that confirmed there was no heartbeat and the baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks. Ive since had a scan and they have confirmed the pregnancy has passed.
How long was it before you had your 1st period? I’m so impatient. I just want start ttc already.

Oh wow @Moominmiss I can definitely see lines on your newer tests! That's exciting!
I had a bfn this morning, not even sure why I took the test as it's too early and I dont have any symptoms! Having some spotting too which is usually how my AF starts so I'm just trying to prepare myself for that. How was everyone's first AF after MC, was it worse?

Sorry to see you here @Sallyjo27 hope that you are bearing up ok. I've not had mine yet, but by the looks of ovulation, my cycle seems to be running about a week longer than normal (if you assume the first day of the MC was the equivalent of CD1)

@whiffle77 mine was more painful than normal, but I'm generally very lucky in that I have short relatively painless AFs.

@Moominmiss I know you dont want to get your hopes up but I can't help but think positive for you. Xx

@Whiffle77 how many dpo are you now?
I’ve had no symptoms whatsoever to make me test so early at 8dpo! Literally no sore boobs, nothing. I felt slightly bloated yesterday but I also ate loads so 🤷🏼‍♀️😂
My first af after the miscarriage was totally normal. Not painful, lasted 4 days which is the norm for me and was medium flow for the first 2 days, then very light. Which again is normal for my usual af. So for me it wasn’t any different.

@Sallyjo27 I’m so sorry you’re here.
I miscarried on 1st January and my first af arrived 7th February. But we started ttc as soon as the miscarriage was over. We didn’t wait for ages to arrive. Obviously that didn’t work for us, but in theory you can start ttc again whenever you feel ready x

@Ejb86 thank you. I need some of your optimism lol.

I’m sure it’s the nerves of the whole situation but this afternoon I have felt so unbelievably nauseous. Literally just want to curl up and sleep til it passes!

I think about 11 @moominmiss but I didnt get a positive until about 15 dpo last time. I did have a few symptoms then though. Not sure why I am stressing and testing, there isnt anything I can do about it! Only tested when I was late last time, but obviously o feel far more desperate about it all now!
Thanks to you and @Ejb86 - two different experiences so no way to predict how mine will be I suppose! Felt quite crampy already today

@Sallyjo27 sorry for your loss. hope you are doing ok, it’s such a difficult time. I had ERPC 7/01 and didn’t get AF until 21/02. Seems like forever but didn’t get normal HCG confirmed until last Monday. Hopefully ur cycle will get back to normal a bit quicker.

@Whiffle77 sorry about the BFN but ur not out yet! If AF does arrive hopefully it’ll be a regular one too. Mine lasted an extra day or so and was but heavier. Stopped for a day and then came back very light, stopped another couple days and today CD10 more brown spotting. Not sure if it’s normal or to be expected..will ride it out for now but getting so sick of my body throwing it all at me at the mo.

In general having a really crappy day as went to see my friends new baby boy, last year 8 of my friends got pg and now they’ve all had their babies . They are all saying how good it is to be on mat leave together. Then came home and have this brown spotting and just wanted to cry and pack it all in. Anyways sorry to drag the mood down. Onwards and upwards!

Aww @Leok83 I’m so sorry you’re having a rubbish day, we all have days like that! Try to get a good nights sleep and start fresh tomorrow. It will be your turn one day 💕

Having a rubbish day myself. I think the beginning of a new season is hitting me like a ton of bricks!! My little one from my first miscarriage was due November 2019 and I’m dreading the anniversary of that miscarriage at the beginning of May. The little one from my ectopic was due the end of May 2020 so all in all if I get to May with no positive hpt it’s going to be a down right awful month!

@Anny27 this must be a chemical as the lines were clear... sorry though. Not great... but maybe try tomorrow just to make sure?

@Moominmiss these tests look all positive to me but so early!! Are you sure you didn’t ovulate before?? Cautious congrats :)

@Ljm0101 no sign of ovulation whatsoever here!!! Only cd8 though

When doing opks, they can vary in the low from one day to another... i mean you will see when it gets dark it’s very obvious 😄

Welcome to all the new ladies and sorry to see you here...

@SunnySideUp2020 well I had my last af on 7th feb, got a positive opk on 20th and dtd on 10th, 14th, 15th, 16th, 18th, 19th 20th 21st, 22nd, 25th, 29th. Then bfp today, supposedly 8dpo. I input my tests into the premom app and from 21st the opk’s were really light, no where near a positive.
I guess all I can do is wait and see what happens now.

@DisneyMummySince2010 sorry to hear ur having a crappy day too hun. Hugs ❤️ It’s so hard to stay upbeat all the time but hopefully this will be our month. what cycle day are you?

@Leok83 I’m CD3 currently have AF, new cycle new hope, a Christmas baby would be a dream come true 🎄

Are you feeling better today?

CD25 and finally have a positive ovulation result!! But day 25 😣 it's felt like a long time coming! And annoyingly I was away without DH all weekend so not sure if results are on there way up or down, hoping so much it's up so we havent missed our chance. Hope everyone else is doing ok ❤️

@DisneyMummySince2010 A Christmas baby would be amazing😊! feeling better this morning. Got flashing smiley on CB so obviously gearing up to ovulate which is about the normal time in my cycle so that’s def cheered me up, bit worried about the brown spotting though, hopefully that goes away soon.
How are you feeling?

@shhhhs hope you caught the surge on way up!! You’ve still the full day after where you might ovulate so even if it’s going down get busy DTD now until it’s def low and hopefully the timing will be right!

@SunnySideUp2020 waves, all the love to you 💜

Yes definitely get busy @shhhhs, I have a really good feeling about this month!

I’m okay, feeling hopeful @Leok83

Can I ask everyone- does anyone have their hubby / bf on any particular vitamins?

Thanks everyone for the well wishes. It wasnt meant to be this month. Pleeeeeeeease let me have strength to not test early next month. I feel like I obsess to much, perhaps because I want it so badly but it's not good for my mental health. Period not arrived yet but imagine it wont be too long as tested again to make sure today and it was negative again 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

@disneymummysince2010 I have just ordered my hubby the wellman conception vitamins. Cant hurt!

@Moominmiss I can see a line! Has it progressed?

@MilsCookie thanks lovely! You did the right thing not testing early this month, its heartbreaking!

@SunnySideUp2020 yeah my DH saw the lines too so definitley there 😪 have you started DTD again now?

@ChampooPapi yes December baby will be beautiful! When we found out about our first baby I bought a "born in 2020" babygrow that's still hanging in my wardrobe. If we dont conceive this month I'll have to give that away which will be rather heart wrenching

Thanks @Leok83 but with spotting and cramping too I think it is probably safe to say I am out! Feeling very blue about it but be good to get the first one out the way I suppose. I dont usually cramp much so I'm hoping it isnt going to be really painful.
Sorry to hear you have had a rubbish time, your friends sound quite insensitive! It is hard though when so many people have what you are desperate for. The whole process is so exhausting.
Like everyone else has said, the thought that I may not have a baby in 2020 is really tough.
@DisneyMummySince2010 since my MC I have put my husband on the zita west vitamins.

@Anny27 don’t beat yourself up. I’ve found since the miscarriage I obsess way more than I ever thought I would! I try to not let myself think about things, but when you’re ttc it’s just impossible to ignore your own bodys signs.
You still aren’t out til af shows up.
I’ve read about people not getting a bfp til like 20dpo and even later!

So I tested again last night, and this morning. Will attach the pics. It’s not overly darker than yesterday’s. I’m not feeling positive if I’m honest.

This was last nights

Then these are this mornings

Hi Everyone,

I had a miscarriages in June and November last year at 6 and 7 weeks.

Just got a positive test a few days ago and am so scared.

My doctor has started me on progesterone pessaries and I’m taking low dose aspirin as well.

Fingers crossed everything goes ok this time, I don’t want to get my hopes up because my second miscarriage was really hard on me emotionally