TTC after miscarriage - March 2020

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Hey everyone 👋🏻

This thread is for anyone TTC or testing in March after a miscarriage.

So sorry if you find yourself here, but you’re in good company ❤️

@ Sparkl - ah when is AF due?

Yesterday evening in was absolutely boiling hot for a few hours so I dont know if that was anything to do with now having a negative test. Having cramps so imagine AF on the way :/ December baby 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞

My cycles vary but probably due today or tomorrow. Having cramps now too.

That’s strange I was boiling too, even my 3yo noticed it, put hand on my forehead and said you’re hot mummy! Was so hopeful

@milscookie haha I know I trust there aren't any crazy stalkers on this thread! Like a pp said I doubt a miscarriage thread is where they're gona hang around! 😂 I'll try and talk to DH again to see if he will see it that way as would love to keep in touch.

Sounds like we're pretty much doing the same thing. I've been making sure we've both been taking vitamins all this time too so hopefully it will help 🤞. As well as pre-seed I've also bought a paraben free one called 'baby dance'. I thought it might be better somehow but there aren't that many reviews so I'm not sure whether to risk it or just stick with what I know works.

@Anny27 ah that's so disappointing! I was really hoping when I checked this thread it would be positive news for you. There was a definite line there yesterday 😕. If af doesn't arrive maybe test again?

I've totally convinced myself that December is the perfect month for a baby now! Since my period started I've worked out what my due date would be and everything 😳. And this is me trying not to obsess and get my hopes up...

@SunnySideUp2020 thank you for that thread - I think we all need to see some positive stories. It's really hard not to feel like it will never happen for us but hearing others stories gives me hope. I also remind myself that everyone who I've spoken to who has been through the same thing all have had a positive ending. I know this is only a small number and won't be the case for everyone sadly but it's helped me realise that the huge majority of people who experience one miscarriage do go on to have a healthy baby eventually 🌈

@SunnySideUp2020 thanks for that thread, so encouraging to hear happy endings.

I’m CD20 so in 2ww limbo- anyone else due AF / testing around 11 March?

Really sorry @Anny27 you must be really disappointed!
I think I'm about 11DPO but guessing as not had AF since MC. We put our all into it this month but I dont feel like I did last time i was pregnant so im not expecting anything. But I will still be disappointed!
Yes thanks for the thread @SunnySideUp2020 it's a great read

@Happythecrocodile I'm cd19 today. Got my strongest opk today though so more bd will be happening tonight! Since losing my twins, my cycle is shorter and I appear to ovulate later. I am worried that ovulation on day 18/19 is too late in a 26 day cycle. Anyone any positive experience of a cycle like mine currently is?

@Fizzl yes a December baby will be lovely 💗 I always calculate my next "due date"when my period arrives haha! Yep I do the 10 mins hip raised afterwards, not sure it does anything but i feel proactively doing something haha!

@Ejb86 if you ovulate later your cycle might be longer overall, mine does that

@Whiffle77 a bit gutted tbh! Inusually spot around 12dpo - 14dpo and then period arrives but i havent had any spotting (am 13dpo) which makes me think it was a chemical

@ sparkl I hope AF stays away!

@Happythecrocodile AF due 10th here 🙋🏻‍♀️ So if it doesn’t arrive I’ll probs be testing the 11th!

Morning
@Anny27 I'm so sorry I really thought this was your month. 🙁

@SunnySideUp2020 and @ChampooPapi I've just done another OPK and even though it's negative I've put it in the Premom app that you recommended and it's showing 0.55 compared to yesterday's 0.32 so guess I'm going in the right direction 👍🏼👍🏼 xx

@Anny27 ovulation was the same time last month, but AF showed on cd27. I think if we're unsuccessful this cycle and next, and I continue with the short lp, I'll make an appointment to see my gp.

Hey everyone, I’ve been a bit quiet after the whole situation with my friend and her seeming a little insensitive to my situation.

Anyway, she had confirmation on Friday that she was infact miscarrying (her hcg dropped by more than half over 48 hours, and she’s continuing to bleed and lose clots). So I’ve been there as much as I can for her and offered her any advice I can. She seems to be coping ok, but I think it helped that she wasn’t sure what she wanted to do anyway so she feels the situation was taken out of her control.

It’s been so nice to see so many bfp’s happen over on the February thread and now a couple in here too.

@Anny27 I’m sorry you saw a bfn this morning, I wouldn’t give up hope just yet. It’s not over til it’s over and you haven’t got af yet so if she stays away just retest in a day or 2.

I’m sorry to anyone new joining, it’s not nice to end up here.

Well I’m 8dpo according to getting my peak on an ovulation test on 20th feb.
I’d been reading various posts of different forums while in bed this morning, googling 8dpo symptoms 🙄 and read things from ladies that had got bfp’s this early (earliest I’ve ever got one was 11dpo). Anyway, I got up and in the loo my addiction to poas got me and I thought why not?! I won’t be disappointed by a bfn as I know it’s far too early. I have a ton of ic tests so I did one.

It came up with a faint pink line. Within 30 seconds. I took it to my oh who is about as clueless as they come with stuff like this, and I asked him if he could see anything and he straight away pointed out the line!

I will attach a pic. For me it’s much clearer in real life. I’m not getting my hopes up at all, and actually now wish I hadn’t tested as now I’m going to be panicking and am convinced if I am it’ll become a chemical.
I will test again later on as my tests have always been better and darker win the afternoon/evening than fmu. Then I’ll test again tomorrow but who knows 🤷🏼‍♀️

Tweaked photos of the same test

Sorry about your friend @moominmiss it's an awful situation all round! Hope it hasn't brought up too many feelings for you. Will keep my fingers crossed for your test as well!

@Whiffle77 it’s hard to be there for someone so close, when everything they describe to you brings back memories of your own experience. It’s like she’s experiencing such A similar process to what I went through.
It’s hard, but in a weird way I’m glad she miscarried rather than abort a baby. It’s definitely a strange mix of emotions!

@Moominmiss I can see that line! It’s a bit early yet for anything definitive but hopefully it gets darker! When are you testing again?
Sorry to hear about your friend..at least you were there for her. I imagine it was still difficult for her even if she didn’t want it..hopefully she’ll be more sensitive to you in the future.

@Anny27 so sorry it’s a BFN this morning 😔

@Leok83 yeah I think it upset her more than she thought it would. Planned or not, it was there and now it’s gone. It’s hard to deal with whatever your circumstances.

Yeah I’m totally not pinning my hopes on this test either being a random 1 off dud test, or the downside of testing too early and picking up a chemical. But just because I’m such a poas addict I will test later today and again tomorrow so will update with whatever my results are xx

@Moominmiss best of luck with it!🤞 for some good line progression!xx

2 more years taken just now

Tests

Ahhhh no @Anny27 I was so expecting to see a darker line? The first two definitely looked positive though - it wasn't line eyes! Have you tried any other tests in case it was a faulty one? Like others have said - AF hasn't arrived yet so you're not out just yet! Hope you're ok xxx it's just a mind f*ck xxxx

@Fizzl Don't worry hun - I'll still be popping on here from time to time. PM me if you change your mind though! :-) sending lots of positive vibes and luck your way this month! xxxxxx

@Moominmiss 2 more lines! Exciting times!

@Ejb86 I know but testing so early just opens you up to bigger disappointment and more heartbreak if it turns into a chemical 😩
But now I’ve tested I can’t ignore it, my poas addiction has cranked up a gear and that’s me now testing twice a day for the next few weeks 😂🙈 or until af arrives

@Moominmiss I completely understand. I am the same. I took so many tests when I was pregnant with the girls, got to 16 weeks and it still all went wrong

When is AF due?

@Ejb86 oh wow. I’m sorry. I can’t even begin to imagine the pain of losing a baby so far into the pregnancy.

Well I’m not entirely sure when af is due. My last period started 7th February and pre miscarriage my cycles were around 29 days. My app says I’m due on 7th March. But who knows. I had a positive ovulation test on 20th February. We dtd practically every day this month.