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Got a BFP, not sure how I feel and DH isnt going to be happy

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hogwarts · 04/09/2007 11:31

I've also posted on the pregnancy board.

My period was late and yesterday I did a Pg test and got a BFP. DH and I have discussed another child, we have 2 already 5 & 8 and he was very much against it although I was very keen. We agreed that we wouldnt have another child and concentrate on our relationship. Circumstances at the min are not great financially although we had DS when I was 21 so not great timing then either! I havent told him that I have done the test but did tell him yday that it was very late - he has said constantly I hope you aren't pregnant. A bit of background is that DH had an affair 3 years ago and we seperated for 9 months. We are now very much together and have a stronger relationship, I'm just so scared that he will take this news badly and leave as he has been texting me all morning to tell me to get a test and do it and that he is worried sick that it is going to be BFP. I asked him this morning if he loved me which he answered yes, I asked him if he would still love me if I was pg and he said yes but he really did not want another child. I know this may seem insensitive of me when there are so many people trying very hard to conceive, its just such a very very big shock to me. Part of me is so pleased but the rest is shocked/scared/worried about DH reaction. I had my mirena coil out earlier this year, been on Cilest pill since. I am due to be bridesmaid at my brother and SIL wedding next March, by my reckoning I will be around 7 months pg by then - I'm due to go for the first fitting on Thursday - do I tell them or not, I dont want them to pay any money when I know I wont be able to do it but then again as I am only 4/5 weeks I dont want it made public....

What a pickle I'm in .... Please help

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hogwarts · 05/12/2007 13:09

Thanks Looney, been in tears myself too, though to be honest it doesnt take much. DD went to see Santa last night with her Rainbow's group and when she came home all excited and told me about Santa sleeping in his log cabin I cried my eyes out! As for watching the results on the xfactor and come dancing, well its tissues at the ready. I even cried when Liam proposed to Maria in Corrie the other night!!

How are you keeping? and how is your sister?

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GreebosWhiskers · 05/12/2007 13:35

Yaaayyyy!

Can I just say

TOLD YOU SO

That's brilliant news Hogwarts & it must feel like the weight of the world has just lifted.

I'm so chuffed for you

fireflyxmasfairylights2 · 05/12/2007 13:45

Bloody hell!! What flippin' FANTASTIC news!!!

Aw I'm chuffed that your mam & dad are excited for you

How lovely

dizietsma · 05/12/2007 14:53

Well done Hogwarts, I'm so pleased you finally have support from people who are excited about this new baby! Now you can really start to enjoy this pregnancy and look forward to your new baby. What wonderful news

dingdongmummylinonhigh · 05/12/2007 15:22

i am so glad you have finally told your mum,what a relief for you.I hope it all goes well for you now and that dh,s heart will finally accept he is going to have a new child.best of luck.

coolkat · 05/12/2007 15:53

I in tears how nice Hogwarts, see we told you it would be fine

Don't leave us now though we want to know how your doing.
X

NorthernLurkerwithastarontop · 05/12/2007 17:24

That's wonderful Hogwarts - well done for telling them - so so glad for you

belgo · 05/12/2007 17:31

that's wonderful Hogwarts

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hogwarts · 05/12/2007 20:43

Further update - Bro and future SIL are thrilled with the news, more annoyed that I had stressed myself worrying about their wedding. Her Best friend is going to be bridesmaid and I am to do the reading.
Told DC - both chuffed to bits and in bed at the minute writing lists of their favourite names! DS wants a brother and DD wants a sister although DS (9) did admit he would have preferred the surprise to have been a wii or a puppy and DD most concerned about where it was going to sit in the car as it was "her booster seat"! Have now told a few friends, all who have been thrilled to have heard some good news. You did all tell me this, but when you are down you see all the negatives and not the positives. I am actually excited now, hoping to have the best nights sleep since September.

Once again, thank you all for everything. I might even start a new thread over on pregnancy now.......! (but only if you all come too!!)

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jezzemx · 05/12/2007 20:54

With you all the way!!!!!
well done i'm so pleased for you.
stay in touch.

x

TheIceQueen · 05/12/2007 21:01

Haven't posted on your thread for a while Hogwarts (I'm QoQ incase you're wondering) - but glad to see things are going well. You're DH sounds SO much like mine - by the time we were half way through he was at least acknowledging that I was pg, and now - well he's still head over heels in love with DS3 (I'm lucky to get a cuddle when he's at home!).

Keep positive - I'm sure that once DC comes along your DH will also love him to bits.

becklesparkle · 05/12/2007 21:17

Hogwarts, so so glad that your family are so pleased and that LO is doing well!

NineBabiesDancing · 05/12/2007 21:23

So pleased the secret is out. It sounds like you are getting loads of real life support and your DH seems to be coming around too

Yippee

gigglewitchyouamerrychristmas · 05/12/2007 22:21

i look like this tho my face isn't quite so yellow

it's been a long road but soooooo good at this end of it.
you better had start another thread, but make sure you take that huge bag of yours with you - tho now we can start climbing out and making room for the nappies and wipes don't you DARE lose touch with any of us, it feels like we have known each other for years

dingdongmummylinonhigh · 05/12/2007 23:00

now you wont have such a filled pocket or heavy bag

FAWKEOFFwiththetinsel · 05/12/2007 23:07

well done you deserve to be happy about the baby x i really hope things tourn out great for you ((((((((hugs))))))))))

SelfishMrsClaus · 06/12/2007 00:29

You've got me sobbing again!!

I breathed a huge sigh of relief for you! I'm over the moon!

Was dh there when you talked to the kids? Aw I'm so happy for you pet xxx

ABudafulSightWereHappyTonight · 06/12/2007 01:24

Damn you - you have me crying!

What do you mean Liam proposed to Maria?????

Great news about how everyone is reacting. Your DH will get caught up in the excitement too. Sounds like he is not far off tbh!

REally good news - sounds like a great Xmas in your house!

GreebosWhiskers · 06/12/2007 08:35

That's fantastic news Hogwarts - I still have a big on my face from your post about your mum & dad!

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hogwarts · 06/12/2007 09:03

Aww thanks, in tears reading this - bloody hormones!

DH was there when I told the kids although he didnt say much - I gave off that he wasnt saying much but he said I was covering it all. I'm just leaving him to do things in his own time. Kids didnt settle for ages in bed, were dead excited. My brother and SIL called round, DH was out when they arrived. They congratulated him when he came in and he was quite flippant about it and changed the topic of conversation pretty quickly. He obv hasnt fully come round but as its now the hot topic of coversation I dont think he is going to have much choice but to talk about it. At the minute I'm caught up in the "high" that everyone else is giving off and don't care how he is reacting. I told him it is up to him to tell his dad/sister etc. TBH I don't care if he doesnt tell them until the LO is born, there is no love lost between me and his family, we rarely see them (unless they want something) so if he tells them then so be it, they aren't going to be a part of my support so I dont need them just at the minute. I told another friend (by text late last night as I didnt want her DS to hear from my DS in school today) She also had suspicions (I thought I was hiding it well!!) but confessed that she was exactly the same when she discovered she was pg with her youngest and her DH reacted the same way so I am going to ring her later today and we can compare notes.
What a rollercoaster! There's a long way to go with DH but at least its moving now, rather than being "stuck". I feel so much better already.

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ABudafulSightWereHappyTonight · 06/12/2007 09:47

You sound so much better.

Really pleased for you. I know the last few months have been miserable but hopefully it is now all "onwards and upwards".

Enjoy all the attention and excitement - you deserve it!

TheIceQueen · 06/12/2007 11:14

That's fantastic Hogwarts - you see in 1yrs time you'll be posting on with threads such as

"DH always wants to sort the baby out and I don't get a look in"

maisiemog · 06/12/2007 15:32

That's such brilliant new Hogwarts! I'm so glad you can now celebrate this baby the way it should be and get all the fuss and attention that an expectant Mum should get!!!
Hooray!
I'm crying about the Santa in the cabin; children are so gorgeous aren't they!
It is quite fortuitous that you have found another person who has been through this before. It help sometimes to sit and chat with someone who knows exactly how you are feeling. I sense a much happier person now, with all the love from family, just what you deserve.
Big Hug!
Did you start the pregnancy thread yet??

NorthernLurkerwithastarontop · 06/12/2007 16:18

It is wonderful to read your posts - there is so much joy and excitement bubbling up now. I'm so pleased you are getting all this support now and especially that your children were excited.

AnybodyHomeMcFly · 07/12/2007 20:10

Hurray, hurray, hurray!!! So pleased for you Hogwarts

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