Got a BFP, not sure how I feel and DH isnt going to be happy

[hogwarts]

I've also posted on the pregnancy board.

My period was late and yesterday I did a Pg test and got a BFP. DH and I have discussed another child, we have 2 already 5 & 8 and he was very much against it although I was very keen. We agreed that we wouldnt have another child and concentrate on our relationship. Circumstances at the min are not great financially although we had DS when I was 21 so not great timing then either! I havent told him that I have done the test but did tell him yday that it was very late - he has said constantly I hope you aren't pregnant. A bit of background is that DH had an affair 3 years ago and we seperated for 9 months. We are now very much together and have a stronger relationship, I'm just so scared that he will take this news badly and leave as he has been texting me all morning to tell me to get a test and do it and that he is worried sick that it is going to be BFP. I asked him this morning if he loved me which he answered yes, I asked him if he would still love me if I was pg and he said yes but he really did not want another child. I know this may seem insensitive of me when there are so many people trying very hard to conceive, its just such a very very big shock to me. Part of me is so pleased but the rest is shocked/scared/worried about DH reaction. I had my mirena coil out earlier this year, been on Cilest pill since. I am due to be bridesmaid at my brother and SIL wedding next March, by my reckoning I will be around 7 months pg by then - I'm due to go for the first fitting on Thursday - do I tell them or not, I dont want them to pay any money when I know I wont be able to do it but then again as I am only 4/5 weeks I dont want it made public....

What a pickle I'm in .... Please help

Good luck hog.

Just a suggestion: Is there any way at all you can write your mam a letter tonight, telling her everything you've been through (Including dh's suggestion!)? Put it in an envelope & let her read it after she drops the kids at school?

That way she can either ring you at work, or let the info sink in before you get home from work?

Congratulations on your pregnancy darlin', if you need anything at all, you know where I am

Bog love to you & bean xxx

good luck, hogwarts! for a healthy pregnancy.

You have had such a crappy time Hogwarts, your last post sounds much brighter.

Wishing you loads of luck and a healthy pregnancy.

Take care and keep us posted on how that little bean is growing.

Good to hear from you.
X

You have had such a crappy time Hogwarts, your last post sounds much brighter.

Wishing you loads of luck and a healthy pregnancy.

Take care and keep us posted on how that little bean is growing.

Good to hear from you.
X

coolkat you've written exactly what I was thinking I'll adopt your spare second post if you like.

Good luck hogwarts x

good stuff hogwarts.

glad you have worked thru things in your own head. your mum will be a great ally, keep us posted on how things go. take us all to work and everywhere else in your bag if it still helps

been following this and thinking of you. Glad you sound stronger. wishing you the best of luck

Glad you have come to a decision and that all is well Hogwarts!

Congratulations Hogwarts! Best of luck.

hi hogwarts,

so glad you sound so more positive today. as you have said making your decision now means that you can focus on you and beanie (and your other kids), there are plenty of mners around to give you support as and when you need it. good luck

Glad you have come to a decision and are feeling brighter.

Good luck with telling your Mum.

x

How'd it go Hogwarts?

Thinking of you xx

Hi Hogwarts, you sound a bit more resolved now, I'm glad you are thinking about you and bean because it means you are looking forward not so much in the limbo you were experiencing before.
Please try to take care of yourself, although it is hard to eat when you feel down.
I wish I could book you into a spa for a weekend of pampering. Maybe a pedicure?
Hugs

Hiya Hogwarts. Glad you sound so much brighter now Hope telling your mum went okay - you're probably never going to find the ideal time to do it so best just to get it over & done with.

Just wanted to let you know I'm still here in your bag

Hi Hogwarts, I agree with greebos there will never be the ideal time to tell your mom. If you have told her please come and tell us what happened like I said before I don't want to sound nosy but we do care.

Hope you are having a lovely day!

Oh goodness me, I've not been on for a couple of days and missed all this. I'm SOOOO pleased, you sound so much better for having made that decision, well done you .

How did it go with your mum? Ok I hope?

Glad to hear that your appointment went well on Monday. Hope that you and your Mum had a good chat and that you are feeling a bit better.

Take care of yourself and your lo.

How are you Hogwarts?

I was wondering what with the bad news in NI over the past few days if your dh would have gathered some perspective regarding the wee one.

Hope you're doing well

Just wondered how you are hun?? Did you tell your mum? Please come and put our minds at rest - we're not being nosey, just concerned for you hun!!

LT xxx

SO nice to read your last post HOgwarts, and to see you are feeling more positive. It really comes through in your post, even if you're not sure you are feeling it IYSWIM?

I think you will start to feel so much better now, and will find telling people easier now that you know what you are doing. I totally understand why it was hard to before, if you were not sure what was going to happen.

I hope your mum has been able to give you some support, and the kind of cuddle only mums can give... god knows you deserve it.

Take care, and hope to read from you soon.

xx

Hi Hogwarts, are you feeling any better?

Hope all is well with you xx

Hello Hogwarts

Was just thinking about you, wondering how things are for you. Just so you know, you are not forgotten

Had a weird dream last night......I was scrolling through messages on MN and a thread with a title HOGWARTS was there, I went into it but all the posts were blurred and I couldn't read anything. How strange is that!!! Pregnancy hormones making me dream some weird stuff recently!

Anyway....please come and let us know if you're ok - we're concerned about you hun xxx

hi hogs, hope you are ok, please pop in sometime to let us know how you're doing. thinking of you and LO. take care. (((x)))

looney - those hormones must be in overdose proportions, girl - who needs alcohol when you can go nuts on hormones alone?! good luck with the looneybean.

cheers.

HOGWARTS I just want to know you're ok xx