TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 34 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's

[BunnytheBlueWhale]

Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to give and receive support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy or baby. Pregnancy and child loss is one of the most difficult things we can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. I hope you find this thread to be of some comfort.

I have found so much comfort from the lovely ladies on this thread and I’m hoping for lots of BFPs in 2020!

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How on earth do you share a link on MN

Thanks I've found it!

@avocadoincident
So so sorry. Welcome to this group of incredibly strong women ! You are in great company! I lost my precious son at 23 weeks so
I know that heartache. God bless you with strength through it. I am glad to hear you haven’t given up! We r all going to be moms I believe that!

I feel today that I've got no one to talk to. I have friends but I don't want to talk to them or see them.
Thank god for mumsnet.

I feel separated from people if that makes sense. Like I'm different.

Hi everyone, I hope you don't mind me joining as journey is a little different to some of you ladies. I lost my son neonatally back in August. I was pointed here by @BunnytheElephant from another thread. I'm so sorry for everyone's loss, a loss at any stage is so heartbreaking & this seems like a lovely group of supportive ladies. We have been pretty much TTC since my cycles came back but unfortunately nothing yet. Forever hopeful we will all get to bring our babies home one day

@avocadoincident I’m so sorry for your losses. I lost a DD at 40 weeks a year ago and then had a MC 6 months later. It’s awful to feel alone. I think we’ve probably all felt that way but this is a lovely group

@lunamoon1 Hello 🙋🏻‍♀️

Hope everyone else is ok. I’m a bit up and down with it being DD anniversary and DH is being an arse. I’m sure it’s because he’s upset / stressed but it doesn’t help

Love to all 💕

Welcome @avocadoincident and @lunamoon1 I am so sorry for your losses, this group of ladies has been a greay support for me ❤️ ❤️

@BunnytheElephant I'm sorry your dh is being an arse. I think you feeling up and down is totally normal, hope you are being kind to yourself. Sending love 💕

How are you today @Mumlili9?

Lots of love to everyone xx

@VenusStarr hi thanks for asking after me.
Honestly not great, I still feel really pregnant and my boobs are so sore. How long will I feel like this?

I'm sorry to hear that @Mumlili9 ❤️ I guess while you still have hcg in your system it could last a while longer. It feels cruel that our bodies don't realise straight away. It's a strange thing to be wishing the symptoms away. Have you got any follow up to check your bloods or another scan? Have you taken any time off? X

So I caved tonight and done a test ... 11 days po and im pretty sure its a BFN 😔
I knew deep down that it was gonna be ... period due on Friday.

Happy Valentine's to me 😔

@VenusStarr I've got a scan booked for Monday it was initially a follow up scan because the first one they couldn't find a baby and were looking for an ectopic pregnancy. After all the cramping and bleeding Saturday I was sure it was all over but now that I think on it I didn't pass any tissues so I've probably got rpoc again. I'm not sure how much I should be passing as my lining on the last scan was 9mm so maybe not that much.

I'm sorry you're in limbo @Mumlili9 I hope Monday brings some answers and closure.

@MissSparkles81 I'm sorry about the bfn, hoping its just a bit too early xx

@MissSparkles81 :( I'm sorry - you're where I was on Thursday last (caved and tested) and its such a horrible feeling. Give yourself a few days to be sad, but the next cycle is a fresh start xxx

@Morganmom what wonderful positivity! I'm going to try and steal some from you, I've been having way to many sad and unhelpful thoughts these past months :(

@avocadoincident I'm so sorry for your journey so far, and this weekend sounds horrible :( I'm glad you are getting referred through for tests etc and hopefully more information will be a good thing. It could of course be bad luck and I'm crossing my fingers that we all have success next time. I totally understand the not wanting to see friends. I feel really alone at the moment. Theres about 2 friends who are really putting themselves out to be in touch with me regularly and check how I am - apart from that people seem to be avoiding my sadness, or maybe I'm avoiding them. Lots of friends who were pregnant at the same time as me or fell since and it really hurts. I feel like the only one who has not had a simple journey and who's future is uncertain.

@BunnytheElephant sending lots of hugs for your sad anniversary. Be kind to yourself. It's awful when these things put strain on our relationships too... xxx

Good evening, may I join?
I've 4 beautiful children but desperate for number 5 I'm 42 so time is not on my side but I had an early loss September 18 then another horrific loss in July 19 at 12/13 weeks

@VenusStarr Thank you I am getting better, just going back to work is stressing me out but I'm trying to psyche myself to go back. I hate it that I have to think about staffing issues when I'm in this situation and feel guilty and feel that I have left my team down. But like the lady said at the miscarriage association I have to be kind to myself. I did have a bath - now I'm thinking due to risk of infection I should not have had one, I'm just spotting brown discharge now a days and just a little bit, still having some cramps from time to time? It's been two weeks since I had MC. I hope you are okay as well.

@FloDaffodil Thank you, yes maybe next time I won't have a bath or not have bath soaks until the bleeding/discharge has completely stopped. The advice online are all very different. I wasn't advised that I shouldn't have one, just that have it when bleeding stops. I thought they meant heavy bleeding but when you're light bleeding it is okay. I hope I won't get any infection.

@avocadoincident I am 40 as well and I lost my little one a couple of weeks ago. We found out our baby was 6 weeks old on our 12 week scan. I thought I just want to let you know that I know how you feel. I couldn't even tell my closest friends on what happened. I just told one colleague, my sister in law and my mum. I had a good nurse at the EPU so that helped. Mumsnet and online stories also got me through. I also chatted to someone from miscarriage association and I found that very helpful. I wish you well.

Also, just to say that I found a prayer online for healing from miscarriage and prayer to conceive. I won't post it here to show respect for those who have no faith but if anyone would like I'll send you a link or maybe a screenshot.

@MissSparkles81 I'm so sorry to hear, please keep positive.

@Mumlili9 I'm sorry, sending you lots of good thoughts and good luck for Monday.

@avocadoincident pls send me the prayer. My faith gets me thru! And lots of affirmations!
@mogmogmog85 I have been working on being more positive. If anything it keeps me distracted from all the negativity that flows thru my head. I also get practically drunk from the estrogen once my period ends! Hello estrogen! Missed you so much!
Question is anybody else taking DHEA? I bought a supplement last week. I hope it can restore some of my fertility.

@mrsmb03 I'll be definitely having a nice bath soon. Probably before the two week mark as I'm desperate for a good soak.

@BunnytheElephant thinking of you on this special and sad day. My husband can be a dick especially if I'm stressed. Can you just get a hug out of him and maybe no words.

@Morganmom what is DHEA?

@mrsmb03 it's so helpful knowing the people here understand what I'm going through.
No one in real life can say the right thing and even if it's the right thing one day, the same comments could be wrong the next day. People can't win so I'm hiding from everyone.

@MOGMOGMOG85
I totally understand about friends getting pregnant.
My 'was' closest friend is pregnant and is due the week I was due. She's 7 months pregnant now and we've totally drifted and I miss her but something has changed. At first she was the best person in the whole situation but she's very quickly moved on and in fairness she has to focus on herself.
I don't want special treatment but I also don't want to hear her moaning about her pregnancy ailments. I'd love all her ailments.

I'm trying not to talk about the losses too much and only answer questions if my friends bring it up. I don't want to be the person who brings the mood down.

I also don't want to the one moaning on this thread all the time either.

So at least it was a nice sunny day today and I walked to get some vitamin d and happy hormones going 🌞

@avocadoincident
DHEA is a chemical occurring natural that suppose to increase your estrogen or testosterone levels ( men). It’s supposed to help with fertility and there all these women that say online it’s the reason they get pregnant ?

@Morganmom Hi I've sent you the ink in your inbox x

@Mumof4andahalf hello and welcome to this thread. How are you?

Advice from you lovely ladies please. If my hcg numbers was over 800 how long before I would get a negative test

@BunnytheElephant I'm sending birthday wishes to your DD today. I hope that you have a gentle day.

There are some beautiful snowdrops that I pass on my way back from work and I will think of your DD and send her a wish.

xx