TTC for the Over 40s

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The first thread I've ever started.

Me age 41 and TTC since mmc in June. Anyone else out there.

hi wigan welcome congrats on the BFP but I understand why you are worried about mcing. You see such scary stuff about the chances on mcing over 40 but have got a BFP which is a long way there. We are a select bunch of sporadic posters and so the thread is not as active as some but you are welcome. I have a ds who is 4 and I am trying for my second.

Hi Wigan, I'm from Wigan too!! Or maybe you're not from Wigan and just have it for a name for some bizarre reson?

Another sporadic poster here - with a positive tale. I was 43 when I had my DD, now aged 1. Conceived in a month and no sickness. BF for 10 months, then AF came back so we tried again. Got PG straight away though only for 7wks. Tried again the following month and am now 11wks - and aged 44. Going for an OSCAR next week (that's a medical test not a prize for longevity), so fingers crossed it's all ok. Good luck to you all. It can happen

Hello hedgepig, lilibet & leolo - good to hear from you.

hedgepig, just wondered how long you've been ttc number 2?

lilibet, yes originally from Wigan but have been an ex-pat for more than 20 years

Congratulations leolo! It's great to hear your story. Goes without saying that I hope all goes well with your OSCAR tests.

I want to be informed, but have decided to stop tormenting myself with the negative statistics on 40+ pregnancy. Instead, I'm concentrating on the success stories - the latest one is a colleague of DH who has just delivered her twins at the age of 46.

Hiya everyone. I think good news stories are the way to go it is all ... "dam lies and statistics" Lilibet are you feeling any more positive?
Wigan I have been trying for a year now but this month I am insanely positive my boobs are sore but in a differ net way to usual fingers crossed for no unwelcome visitors next weekend. How are you feeling?

Hedgepig - thank you for remembering my mini rant! At the moment I am in a bit of a tizz - you really won't beleive this - I can't remember when I am due on!!

I lost count of the 'days' with Christmas and I threw away my calendar without carrying on the dates.

I think I'm nearly a week over due but have done a test and it's negative. Will do another in a couple of days. I'm not that bothered either way at the moment TBH

I am still panicking over money and stuff but que sera sera and all that.

Wigan - where abouts are you from, I am originally from Hindley Green but am now in Winstanley

Leolo - when do you get the test results and what do they tell you?

I came on today - I'm posting it here in case I need to kow

good idea lilibet ,I have been staring at you post and have just understood what you mean.

Well I am in an absolute state of shock I have a BFP ! after a year. I just feel numb waiting for spotting to start but I have done 2 tests different makes and both are positive.

Congratulations Hedgepig!!! Wonderful news x

Just wanted to wish warmest congratulations to hedgepig ! have been lurking for a while and seeing this thread bump back up every now again keeps me going as its normally positive news

Rapidly approaching 41 and TTC no 1 nearly a year and can relate to lilibet's xmas feelings particularly around peeing on those blasted sticks ! but seeing another positive post has cheered me up no end.

Congrats to wigan and leolo too !

Hello, I am 41 in 13 days, and desperate for another child. Ds is 14 and dd is 2.7 (different dads).

Dp and I are not even contemplating sex cos we got property and financial stress... I cannot wait till it is all sorted so we can have some bd again and, I hope, have the chance of another child....... But as dp is not up to the challenge atm it's not gonna happen soon

Feel so that I might not have another child, don't want dd to grow up without a close sibling. Ds is so much older, they adore each other but it's not the same is it?

Terrified of mc and now terrified of amnio, last one was horrible, you know, the waiting for results, the worry that it might cause mc... Not sure dp would understand if I refused it, if we ever get pg that is.

On the plus side I got pg very quickly both times and haven't abused my body over the years, so fingers crossed eh?

Thanks everyone I just can't believe how different I feel around the end of last year I was so down and now I am very happy but in shock after trying for a year. In the last few months I bought the "taking charge of your fertility" book and temp charted and paid much more attention to my CM, and this really help to focus our efforts on an optimum time .
I'm a bit scared to join and antenatal thread yet so shall lurk around if that is OK.

Please do lurk around Hedgepig and let us know how you are doing. It must be scary (but still exciting) so keep smiling and remembering its "damn lies and statistics" so many success stories can't all be wrong!

I bought the 'taking charge' book too, I had the Zita West book so knew about CM/cycles etc.. but am thinking of starting temp charting so hearing that worked for you will give it a try next cycle, on day 13 at the moment so coming up to that crucial time again. I seem to measure my whole life in 2 weeks segments these days. Sad I know

Klaw - hope you can get your stressful situations sorted so you can get started on ttc. You are ahead of me not abusing your body, wish I could say the same ! Its hard enough being stressed about ttc but then not being able to eat bad things and drink wine most of the month makes it even worse ! just hoping it will be worth it soon.........

Hedgepig - I am so pleased for you, don't jsut lurk - keep posting and let us know how it all goes.

Wonderful news hedgepig, congratulations!! How are you feeling? The sickness has started to kick in for me, which I like & find reassuring. I know what you mean about being scared to join an antenatal thread - I feel that there are several milestones to reach before I can relax.

Lilibet, originally from Marus Bridge area of Wigan, so just down the road from Winstanley!

thanks everyone for you lovely messages. I'm feeling OK a bit tired and a bit sick (but i think that is worry about mc). wigan I slapped myself around the face and told myself not to be so daft and joined the Oct thread. when are you due?

That's great news Hedgepig! Now you have a great excuse to take it easy and put your feet up for a while.
We have an appointment tomorrow at the fertility clinic, so have no idea what will happen there. I hope they have some kind of magic wand.

Hi Rowingboat I wish I could put my feet up but work has gone a bit nuts but I don't want to say anything to them at the moment.
How did the visit o the clinic go?

Hedgepig, can you fake a debilitating illness, which allows you to work, but requires that you put your feet up and eat biscuits??
I'm depressed! Apparently the only option for us is IVF, but because we are over 38 it means we would have to pay £3,500 per cycle. Alternatively, we could get it for £2.50 in Algeria?
The doctor said my FSH level was 7.5, which is in the normal range and fine for my age. He said we should consider IVF because we are running out of time and if I have blocked tubes, the surgery may take a year to work, if it does. So it was a bit poo!
I really can't imagine forking out all that money for something that only has a 25% chance.
I'm going to be inspired by all the success stories on here and carry on, but feel fed-up tonight. Oh and DP has a good sperm count (good boy! ).
I have to have an HSG (dye up the tubes thingy see if they're open - for the uninitiated) and might get a cancellation next week, so will know if the tubes are OK soon. Then it's just up to us - no mysterious hormone things -drat!
It's day 2 in my cycle so I'm trying to look ahead and be positive for this month.

Hi I have been lurking about for some time. I am 41 and have a dd who is 2.
I swore that I wouldn't have another after a 4 day labour, however have recently got really broody and it may seem strange but I do feel that I have one more baby to come.

Only problem has been me being to knackered for any baby making action. It is amazing how that has changed now that I am back in the saddle and willing a bfp.
Only on first month though, but will aim not to obsess to much.

another broody older mum here. I am (just) 43 and would love another child. I have 3 ds 9,5 and 3 .....I have had a t least 3mc since ds 3 was born and stopped trying to get pg in the summer........just started again, don't hold out much hope but find some ladies storied amazing

good luck everyone x

Hi rowingboat. cripes that is a load of money and from what I have read in your late 30's IVF doesn't work as well anyway, did he give you any idea about what the chances of it working were? The month we concieved we just had a load more sex than usual, every day for about 4 days around ovulation (based on EWCM) and I seemed to have more CM than usual (although I can't think of a reason).

Hello,

Thought I might see if I can join in. Had a miscarriage in Dec after an unplanned BFP in Sept. Will be starting ttc next month... About day 19 of current cycle but waiting for af before we start for various reasons. I will be 41 at the end of this month.

Hi cece, sorry to hear about your mc. There are lots of positive stories on this thread, some who have sadly been through the same thing and gone on to have healthy babies in thier forties. Good luck to you when you feel ready to start again.

Giggly, the knackered thing certainly makes a difference past 40, I struggle enough without a toddler to deal with and DH certainly struggles to keep up the energy around the right time !

Hello everyone else, glad to see so many others also joining this thread !

Rowingboat hope you are feeling more positive this weekend, its tough but it sounds like everything is in working order so keep trying !

Hope all is well with Hedgepig and Wigan.

Did anyone else get a very stern lecture from their GP about TTc and their age! Obviously been to see Gp about mc and she asked if we would try again, I said yes. I then got a 5 min thing about increased risks! Would I be having tests etc etc?