TTC after miscarriage - February 2020

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Hi to anyone reading 👋🏻

This is a thread for anyone TTC / testing in February, after a miscarriage.

I’ll start off with intros! I’m 37 and my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 5 1/2 weeks in December. I TTC straight afterwards, but AF found me, so here I still am on this crazy, frustrating, rollercoaster of a journey!

I joined the January thread after my miscarriage and it’s been amazing to go there and chat to other women who know how you feel.

So for anyone joining this, I’m so so sorry you find yourself here, but you’re in good company ❤️

@SweetpeaOrMarigold sorry to hear it’s negative, do you think maybe you could have ovulated a bit later than you thought? It’s horrible to be left in limbo not knowing one way or another what’s happening.

@SweetpeaOrMarigold I'm in the same boat! AF was due Friday, although may have changed as it's my 1st since mc. I'm now 14dpo, I stopped testing after getting peak on opk, so maybe I ovulated a 2nd time & that's delayed AF?

@SweetpeaOrMarigold I'm same boat negative test but no af as yet. Frustrating

Thanks everyone. Wanted to throw the frer at the wall!
Sorry @toomanyleggings and @kkr168 you are both in limbo too.
@Leok83 I have no idea honestly. Is first after MC and I didn't use opk and my body didn't really tell me either, do we just dtd lots. Had cramps and nausea left over for a week after bleeding stopped but was bnf 3 days into the MC so I've just treated it like a normal period as it was about 10 days.
Ordered some more frers as I have nothing else to do. Mild cramps since dtd last night with that pink staining but all clear now. In fact its almost ewcm.

I have ewcm too, opk yesterday was negative, I'll test again later

Eurgh that’s so frustrating @SweetpeaOrMarigold @toomanyleggings @kkr168! I hope you all get some answers soon!

I finally got my static smiley / peak this morning, at last!! This cycle (first after MC) has deffo been different, so for anyone cracking on with TTC soon after I really recommend using OPK’s. I didn’t straight after the MC and can now see why we were unlucky! My usual signs of ovulation aren’t really matching up with the OPK’s so far, so I’m glad I’ve got that knowledge! Been DTD every other day since CD8 (I’m now CD16) so cracking on with 2 days in a row now, semi SMEP style - fingers crossed!! 🤞🏻

@terrible ahh nice!!! Enjoy the BDing 🥳

Good morning ladies. Hope you're all getting on okay. I was on the Jan group but was holding off joining here until af/bfp.

I'm gutted because I had a faint line on a FRER yesterday, but I woke up this morning having soaked my pj bottoms in blood 😑. That's right, AF showed up didn't she!! Just as I was getting my hopes up! Little f*cker 🙄🤬. Oh well - here's to February!

I'm sorry to say I'm going to try and stay off Mumsnet this month as I think it was making me more anxious last month... but I wanted to say hello and I'll be popping in from time to time.
Thank you for keeping me company on the Jan thread as it certainly made me feel less lonely, and your support and advice was invaluable.

Sending lots of good luck and baby dust to all you lovely ladies with your TTC journeys! 🌈 💫 xxx

Oh no @milscookie I'm so sorry that she reared her ugly f head right after the positive frer

I'm out this month. Got AF in work today exactly 28 days after Erpc. I don't think I even ovulated. Have been testing on ovulation sticks for two weeks and only had a positive when I was still getting pregnancy tests that were positive. At least I can start afresh now

@toomanyleggings sorry lovely
Good luck everyone for February xxx

Hey am I ok to join this thread too? I have been TTC for just over 2 years now, 2 miscarriages, so terrified to be pregnant again but want to at the same time. I have Pcos so tracking my periods are near impossible they are usually about 8-10 weeks apart but sometimes this can be completely different it's so irregular! Nice to meet everyone ❤️

This is my test this morning ... don't know whether to trust these eBay cheapies? Thoughts everyone? Xx

Ooh I love a test strip!
Looks positive to me honestly @LITTLEPICKLES88 I would get a frer and test on fmu. Good luck!! Xx

@LITTLEPICKLES88 looks positive to me, I can see it quite clearly!
Definitely try with a frer but I’d be shocked if it wasn’t a bfp! X

Thanks ladies, trying not to get excited, half of me is worried to see a bfp because I know I will spend the next few weeks worrying out of my mind! But I obviously want one too!!xx

@LITTLEPICKLES88 yes looks positive! Hopefully it's a sticky baby !

Looks positive @LITTLEPICKLES88 :)

@MilsCookie @FireflyGirl sorry to welcome you to this thread as well girls xx

Cycle day 5 today so period ending and gearing up for DTD lots over next 2 weeks.

Anyone at a similar cycle point?

Sorry not updated since I asked to join. I’ve been kept busy so guess it’s a good thing.
@seaduck and @Bath2020 can I ask if you don’t mind how the thyroid effected your pregnancy? I sometimes wonder if that might end up being one of the causes of mine.
Hope everyone is keeping well, I’m struggling to figure out my cycles I’m not sure when to count from.

@Anny27, CD7 here, so similar cycle point.

Off topic but I think because I had a conversation with someone about my erpc because of mmc Facebook had 'overheard'. My feed is full of terrible anti abortion videos and testimonials from anti abortionists. I was in tears from one I got a glimpse of yesterday that was so graphic. This really should not be allowed. How the heck do I stop them coming?

Hi all, just quickly checking in to see how everyone is doing! AF has made a surprise appearance for me tonight CD27. I used to always be between 29-32 days but who knows what my body will decide to do now post MC 🤷🏼‍♀️. @MilsCookie @fireflygirl I think we are cycle buddies for now 👋🏼.

Least it explains my complete irrational meltdown on Tuesday over nothing 😳. Bloomin hormones playing havoc with me!

Anyway, one month closer now until we start ttc again. Slight bonus to having a shorter cycle I suppose 😂.

@leok83 Sorry I never responded to your previous message either. I think that's a really good point about compassion fatigue. I also work in a profession where there is high burnout because of the nature of our work and the emotional demands so I can sympathise. I guess if they're dealing with it daily inevitably they have to become a bit de-sensitised to it for self-preservation.

Hope everyone's doing ok, hello to everyone who has joined recently. Sorry you all find yourselves here but hopefully you will find it supportive on here 😄

Sorry @toomanyleggings*@MilsCookie AF got you. Hopefully Feb is your month 🤞good luck! @mills* completely understand if you want to be away from MN for a while...it does add to extra stress sometimes...but we all are here for any support!
@Anny27 cycle and name buddies!! How great is that. Hopefully we can BFP buddies too
For all the ladies in limbo...hope you get an asset soon..keep us updated xx

Not asset!!...answer soon 🤦‍♀️

AF just arrived, 6 days late, at least I'm no longer in limbo