TTC after miscarriage - February 2020

[TerribleImagination]

Hi to anyone reading 👋🏻

This is a thread for anyone TTC / testing in February, after a miscarriage.

I’ll start off with intros! I’m 37 and my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 5 1/2 weeks in December. I TTC straight afterwards, but AF found me, so here I still am on this crazy, frustrating, rollercoaster of a journey!

I joined the January thread after my miscarriage and it’s been amazing to go there and chat to other women who know how you feel.

So for anyone joining this, I’m so so sorry you find yourself here, but you’re in good company ❤️

@SweetpeaOrMarigold I hope you have some news soon, I can see a shadow there.
@Happythecrocodile I'm the same, I'm pretty good at not testing early, and waiting for the date my period is due too so not having a date to focus on for a test is a bit frustrating. I may be ovulating this week so probably mid Feb too. I dont use OPKs either and my body doesnt seem to give me clues so thats all based on dates guesswork.

To the ladies doing opks?
What does yours look like after period?

Currently on CD8 and having a lot of creamy white CM (sorry for TMI)

Never really tracked CM before so wondering if it’s normal?

Today’s opk attached

@Michette have you tried uploading the opk sticks on the premom or the Femometer app? It marks them for you and makes it way easier to find your peak!
It’s still quite light looking to me but I know in the past I had creamy CM (very glamorous this TTC) at same time as my opk started to turn from no line to light line and the next day changed to EWCM so keep an eye on it!
Also some people it seems have a longer build up of LH rising until peak. Once I got the line I did those opks twice a day to make sure I caught my peak.

For me looks like I’m in for a longer slog than I hoped 😢. HCG results today from yesterday’s blood still at 200 so have to go back next week to recheck. Feeling pretty upset and frustrated about it today, I just wanted it all to be over so much. It’s 3 weeks tomorrow so didn’t expect this.

Hi ladies. I was on the jan thread too as had a mmc that started 28 December and needed the support which was fantastic here. Anyway natural MC didn’t happen for me and I was made wait for admin reasons but had an erpc finally on 24 jan. I have light bleeding now but jez I don’t know how I’m going to keep my head until I get AF! I have an under active thyroid as well which i manage with medication. My midwife/consultant said to wait for one cycle and try again but my GP said to fire away and get on with it when I feel up to it that the wait is purely for dating reasons. To each their own but that’s the conflicting advice I’ve gotten...Anyway I just want to get on the thread again for easy access and to wish everyone the best for this month xx

Hi @Bath2020 - Sorry you're here, hope you are feeling okay now that the physical side is over.
I have an underactive thyroid also, which I take levothyroxine for. I found 2 days before my mc my dose was too low and I do wonder whether this played a part in my mc, I've spent a lot a time thinking about that specifically and wishing I'd gone to get it checked earlier but will never know now.
I have 2 children already and my thyroid was managed successfully through those pregnancies, so I know it can be done.

Good luck!

Hi ladies & @TerribleImagination - can I join?

Me and DH decided to TTC in December and caught 1st time, however unfortunately I had a chemical / early loss at 5+1 earlier this month. I had a light positive 30th December but the tests got lighter and I had a BFN on the 5th Jan and af arrived 6th Jan... It was like a normal af for 5 days, maybe a bit heavier the 1st few days but otherwise the same as a normal.

We're keen to TTC straight away however I'm cd23 and still no sign of ovulation. I'm quite in tune with my cycles and I've had no cm changes that suggest ovulation is anywhere near and I've been using opk twice a day (for the 1st time) this month and so far no second line.

I don't know if this is just my cycles messed up since the cp? I feel frustrated with my body atm...

Also - quite a few of the early pregnancy symptoms I experienced are still hanging around... Headaches, cramps, lower back ache, some nausea on an off, some boob tenderness, and mostly this overwhelming fatigue. Anyone else experience this? It's been 3 weeks so I thought they'd be gone by now... Or is it all in my head?

Sorry its a long post. So pleased this thread exists because I've not been able to find any reassurance anywhere so far.

Hope you're all ok, and that February is our month 👍🏻🤞🏻

@Leok83 thanks!! Used the all and said low 3 today. This will be super helpful...

@bath2020 hello and sorry to see you here 👋 hope you are ok x

@Sausage1990 my early pregnancy symptoms hanged around most of the 4 weeks after MC just now after first periods my boobs have returned back to pre pregnancy form...

Thank so much @seaduck thats good to hear! I have no other children so it was my first pregnancy. My endocrinologist said the thyroid levels were fine at the time I got pregnant but Increased my dose by 25mg On 3 days of the week . I only got to 7.5 weeks so not sure if it was anything to do with thyroid as hadn’t had my thyroid bloods rechecked at that stage. Was due to do that at week 10. Wellllll it’s good to know you got two lovely babies even with thyroid issues! That’s brill!

Thanks @Michette yes tbh I am relieved. I was 3 weeks wondering “is today the day” that I’ll actually properly start the process of miscarriage and that was absolutely shit so glad the physical is finished but emotionally it’s hard. I’m also so f@*#ing impatient that the thought of waiting for AF is just a pain in my arse and mind.

My place is like an apothecary with the evening primrose, co q 10, royal jelly (acupuncturist says take these), pregnacare! If anyone walks in they will think I’ve straight up lost the actual run of myself

Thank you @Michette that's really helpful to know xx

Welcome to the safe space ladies, sorry you are here xx
Wondering about my thyroid now. Mine has been borderline for years and I've had a repeat test form sitting in the kitchen drawer for a year. Maybe I should go.
Its cd 27 today and still bfn with proper AF cramps. My boobs are still big but not hard and not agony anymore. Not sure which way this will go.
Will try again tomorrow. FRER are making a fortune out of me.

@Sausage1990 Welcome! Although I’m so sorry you find yourself here 😢

RE cycles after miscarriage, yep mine have been odd! I lost pregnancy symptoms overnight the day I started bleeding from the miscarriage, and then some came back, which was weird. The last thing to go was the metallic taste, I think that was about a week after. I did find some popped up again, but the same ones I can often get just from progesterone before AF. The weirdest one is I get quite bad bloating and water retention leading up to AF and that was also bad in pregnancy. It went away after the miscarriage when I took water tablets, but then it came back with a vengeance and hasn’t left since! So I’ve spent a good few weeks looking pregnant (it gets that bad), which isn’t ideal!

Cycles wise I’m on my first full cycle since the miscarriage and I have no idea when I’ll ovulate, even though I’m using Clearblue OPK’s! I had days of the blank circle, even when I had EWCM and now I’m on day 3 of flashing smiley, although I had the signs yesterday of imminent ovulation that has always tied in with the peak result (loads of EWCM!) but nope, still that bloody flashing smiley. So I’m wondering if I missed my surge or if I’m going to ovulate later?! No idea... I think a lot of people cycles go a bit mad post miscarriage.

Hey, can anyone see the EXTREMELY faint lines I can on these? The top one definitely has some colour to it. My partner can see them too but they are incredibly incredibly faint. I very nearly binned them.
I don’t know how to invert a photo or anything. I tried using the photo editor on my iPhone and in some I could get the lines to look slightly darker.
Whatever it is I can see all came up within the time limit. But it’s so unbelievably barely there I’m very unconvinced.
I’m cd29 going from the mc and tested negative by cd9. I just think maybe my eyes are seeing what they want to see, or that somehow I have have them tiniest traces golf hcg left over and the bfn I had previously was not really a proper bfn but maybe just super super faint.
I’ve no idea if I’ve ovulated, I noticed ewcm on cd13 but zero other symptoms. I’ve no idea when af is due. But tbh we’ve not actually dtd all that much this month, only on cd’s 2, 4, 6, 8, 9, 13, 14, 15, 17, 21, and 25.
But I would think that had ovulation happened around 13th ish, that I’d be showing a darker positive test if I was pregnant as implantation would have happened by now.
Ugh, I hate that my body isn’t back to normal and I don’t know what to expect from it at the moment 😩

@moominmiss I can definitely see lines on all of these, and I can never see the lines on these when people post them normally 🤦 why don't you try a FRER?

Hi all, sorry to hear your stories but is nice to know we all have a place to talk. I miscarried on Monday and like all of yours, was awful, physically and emotionally. Really eager to conceive and start a family though and the thought of waiting when me and my OH were so excited is awful. I want to start trying again once the bleeding has stopped (although at this moment it sounds awful... I know that once the bleeding has stopped il want to give it another go) xx

@Ttcbn1 I'm so sorry that is happening to you, it really breaks my heart, it's just such a shit time. I'm now 19 days post MC and finally feel back to normal both physically and emotionally, although do still have episodes of feeling really crap. There's literally nothing that can be said to make it better, I hope the bleeding stops quickly for you ❤️

@shhhhs thank you! It’s nice to know I might not have line eye after all.
I just feel they’re so so faint that it might turn into a chemical pregnancy. I hate that I’m a total poas addict and test literally all the time. Means I always find out super early and then have such a long worrying wait 🙈
I only have those ic tests here and I can’t get to a shop until tomorrow. If my partner gets home anytime soon I can maybe send him out though lol.

@Ttcbn1 I’m so sorry you’ve sadly been through this horrible awful experience. I really wouldn’t wish it upon anyone.
There’s nothing wrong at all with looking forward and wanting to start ttc straight away when you’re physically able to.
My bleeding began on 18th December and lasted for 2 weeks just lightly bleeding until I finally miscarried on 1st January. The bleeding stopped almost instantly and by 2nd January I had no bleeding whatsoever, not even a spot when wiping. So we started dtd from then onwards.
There’s no right or wrong way to deal with your situation, everyone is different and will have their own way of getting through it. For me it was ttc as soon as I could. For others they might want to wait weeks or months before they feel ready.
Big hugs though, it’s such an awful time. I’ve only recently joined this thread but the ladies in here have all been wonderful and there seems to be so much support so I’m sure you’ll be in good hands here xx

@moominmiss hopefully they are only faint because it's early 🤞 I'm the same as you in regards to testing early, I just can't resist. DH has suggested we don't test until I have symptoms this time as AF will probably be later than expected dut to miscarraige, but there's no way I'll be waiting, I'll give it another week and then the FRER will be purchased for sure!! 😂 I have friends who don't find out for months and I just think 'how is that even possible!!'

@shhhhs I’m the same! I literally have no idea how some women stay so string willed and hold off testing until af is late! I’m like possibly 8dpo? 🤷🏼‍♀️ Let’s start testing 🙈🤦🏼‍♀️😂
It would be lovely to not find out until later and then not have the pregnancy seemingly last for years lol but I know exactly what I’m like and I know I also won’t ever change 😂

Hey, thought I would join the thread as been lurking for a while.

I miscarried in November at 7.5 weeks. After five weeks of bleeding I then had the surgical procedure. Started TTC as soon as I got a negative test but got AF 29 days after procedure. Hoping that means my body is back to normal routine. Ovulated a couple of days ago but not sure if we did the deed at the right times/enough. Just in the waiting period now.
Wishing everyone a BFP as soon as possible x

Planning to poas tomorrow as AF due, my boobs have grown 2 sizes in a week and I'm shattered.
Just dtd and (tmi sorry) when I cleaned up it was pink stained
Just waiting now to see which way it's going to go. Just sat on the toilet and cried. Last time I bled it was my MC.
This is so hard.

@Bath2020 impatient women i hear you !
One of my friends actually got me a pregnancy book for impatient women like me and many of us and it said that we should have been pregnant YESTERDAY! Made me smile...

Good luck everyone.

CD9 for me. Taking a break from DTD today to get ready for the weekend when it should be fertile window !

Its negative and I'm not bleeding.
I hate this.

@SweetpeaOrMarigold sorry to hear it's negative, maybe it's just too early. Whatever the situation the wait it killer ☹️ hope you get your BFP so soon ❤️

Morning, just moving over from the January board as AF started this morning, so back to CD1.

@SweetpeaOrMarigold, sorry you're not getting any answers. Fingers crossed for you.

Sorry @SweetpeaOrMarigold :(

@fireflygirl welcome lovely, sorry AF arrived!

Cd5 today for me so end of period and then back to DTD tomorrow