TTC after miscarriage - February 2020

[TerribleImagination]

Hi to anyone reading 👋🏻

This is a thread for anyone TTC / testing in February, after a miscarriage.

I’ll start off with intros! I’m 37 and my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 5 1/2 weeks in December. I TTC straight afterwards, but AF found me, so here I still am on this crazy, frustrating, rollercoaster of a journey!

I joined the January thread after my miscarriage and it’s been amazing to go there and chat to other women who know how you feel.

So for anyone joining this, I’m so so sorry you find yourself here, but you’re in good company ❤️

@MilsCookie I have thrush atm around ovulation time!!!! So annoying for us both haha. The doctor said we can DTD but might be uncomfortable ......a price I am willing to pay haha!

@Cometa08 I cant help sorry lovely as havent had any testing - I think some other ladies have though si hopefully they can respond

@MilsCookie i have the same issue every month of BV before ovulation. I found having a full day break helps as soon as you start noticing the symptoms.
I know it’s not great as you should be dtd but i found it really helps.

I am 6dpo and not symptoms spotting because nothing to spot!

Also because of the colposcopy/biopsy to cervix i have some brown thick discharge and small cramps anyway.

So not expecting much from this cycle :(

@Cometa08 no GP refused tests for me.
So i went private and had a Full blood done.
To mainly check any sign of inflamation or infection or clotting problems.
All was good...

Lucky yours checked thyroid though.

@TerribleImagination sorry AF is here, it def doesn’t seem to be the case that we are more fertile after MC unfortunately😞.

I’m 3DPO now confirmed with my opk and BBT😃! Only took 35 days😄!!only DTD once day before ov..not feeling too hopeful so gonna take it that I’m expecting AF in couple weeks now. also interestingly got HCG level back from day after ov and was 10.7 still so obviously I ovulated with HCG in system still. Was told need to go back for repeat blood in another week..so now have to admit to doc I tried before reached zero..hopefully they won’t be too annoyed with me😬!

6dpo here. No symptom spotting as nothing to spot! Been busy all week away on a work trip which has taken my mind off the TWW.

I was going to wait til Thursday, 12dpo to test, but now thinking I might test on Tuesday at 10dpo.

When do you usually test?
@Michette, how you getting on?

Hello to all ladies who are back from the January thread xx

@Anny27 oh man that's so annoying! Good luck with dtd over the next few days, fingers crossed it doesn't affect it in any way!

@Michette I wonder why it keeps happening around ovulation? I asked the doctor and he wasn't aware that they would be linked, but just said as it can be linked to sex maybe it's because you're doing it more around this time of the month?! Anyway I've been given a course of ABs so I'm not gonna get my hopes up this month!! 😒

@BS9790 lol said the exact same as you - no symptom spotting as nothing to spot 🤣

So yeah that sums up how i am getting on!
All good and nothing much
Healing from the cervical biopsy

Will test on Friday 21st at 13/14 dpo

Unless i have a good reason to test before!

How come you are testing early???

@MilsCookie oh no!!! Ok it’s probably not great the AB but if it treats might be just in time for ttc still...
I wouldn’t say it’s not happening this month for you! Don’t lose hope

When i got my BFP in december i had BV in november for ovulation and DTD

Hope you get better and @Anny27 too

@Michette I developed BV while pregnant. I went to a sexual health clinic and I was explained that you can get it during pregnancy because of hormonal changes. You can also get it while trying to conceive as the sperm has an alkaline ph and can make the vagina's ph (that should remain slightly acidic) more alkaline creating a change in the balance of the bacteria -> BV.

I was given a course of antibiotic that solved the problem and I was told to use when needed Canesflor Probiotic Vaginal Capsules to prevent its recurrence.

I hope it helps.

I’m sure I posted on here a few weeks ago but I can’t find it now. my mc started on 19th December and lasted about 9 days. Words can’t describe how i felt and have been through a range of emotions since then. I’ve been on painful waiting game for my period to come back so we can start trying again (I’ll be 40 this year and want to get on with it.) It’s been nine weeks since my miscarriage and no period, was getting worried and frustrated. But it finally came last night. I’m really pleased it’s back as feel we can move forward now. It’s painful but only the same as normal I think, maybe a bit worse. Just wanted to offer a bit of encouragement to those in a similar position that my period’s back and it’s not as horrendous as I was preparing for. Much love to all of you who have miscarried. Death is sad and no matter what anyone says to you - you have every right to be sad and upset as it is a loss and that’s sad. I had someone say that it wasn’t really a “baby” that I lost. Well it was. Life is from conception and my baby was 8 weeks. I’ll forever love my little baby and will never forget him or her even if I go on to have a hundred more children xxxx

@Cometa08 thanks for that!
I had also heard it but what a pain! How are we supposed to conceive in these conditions? 😄
Doesn’t make sense. I mean sperm literally causes harm !!

@VeeJayBee My cycle after the miscarriage was 35 days long (it is normally 25 days) and I believe I ovulated the 24th day (it is normally the 13th). Before the new cycle can start again the prognancy hormone must go back to zero; a more advanced pregnancy results in a higher lever of pregnancy hormone in the body that is going to need more time to get back to zero hence an even later ovulation than normal.

I understand how you feel. I can't forget that I was supposed to be still pregnant now and my baby would have been with me in July

@Michette Human reproduction is so imperfect, it is unbelieveble how many things we have to take into account. When my nephew will start asking how babies are made I will honestly say I don't know!

@Cometa08 thanks that’s good to know that your cycle was longer after mc as I’d have totally assumed I’d got pregnant once we start trying again, as I was having short cycles pre mc, 21-24 days long.

It’s really hard to think of the due date and I’m sure it’ll be really hard when it comes round. I would have been due 25th July and I think I’ll somehow mark it xxx

7/8dpo now and feeling so sick.
This started around 7dpo last time, trying not to get my hopes up or think about it!
Got a flight to catch today, hopefully I'll be busy enough over the next couple of days to stop symptom spotting.

Hope everyones doing OK 😊

Going to my follow up scan 2 weeks since miscarriage feel abit sad....should have been my 8 weeks booking appointment this week and a kick start off.. I DTD this month after negetive test n positive ovulation hopefully I get lucky n get a BFP in a week I know alot of ppl dont think ur more fertile after a mc but maybe il get lucky I really just wana be pregnant again xxx best if luck all you ladies waiting for BFP

Ment best of luck xx

@BS9790 It’s great to have stuff to take mind off the TWW..but it can’t be nice getting on a flight feeling sick🤢 hope the journeys ok!!

@lbaadsmummy good luck at the follow up scan. It’s always so sad when you think about how far along should be😔How many DPO are you now ?

Leok69 I miscarriage started 30th jan and scan on 2nd feb confirmed mc buy fifth feb stoped bleeding ovulation positive from 9th pregnancy test so hoping I caught it let's see. I do have a 2 year old so he has helped me alot I think cos first pregnancy was problem free that's why it shocked me more this time as cant figure out what I did wrong xx

@leok83 I ment

Well all looks clear and one good thing she told me my lining had thickened and she saw a egg on folical so that means I'm due to release a egg soon so I still got hope this month need to DTD again next few days xxx

@BS9790 sounds promising so far!

I am 8 dpo and i have some sharp stabbing pain on my left side which reminds me of that bloodh infection and MC.
It comes every 30min or so and lasts a few seconds

Not sure what to do.....

@lbaadsmummy that’s great it all looking good and ur about to ov! And you didn’t do anything wrong..I think it’s hard to accept but the sheer amount of ladies on here going through the same is testament to how common MC actually is. You can do everything right and sometimes it’s just not meant to be. I found out about MMC 7th Jan and really only starting to accept it wasn’t because of something I did in the last couple weeks. Xx

@Michette hopefully it’s implantation cramps and not infection again, also I sometimes get really stabbing left side cramps with wind..could it be that??!!

Sorry for disappearing, it was my due date from my first pregnancy of last year. Was so hoping I'd be pregnant again by now.

It's been very hard, and I'm only just starting to come out of the other side.

5dpo now, so fingers crossed for everyone this month!