Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Original poster

TTC after miscarriage - February 2020

863 replies

TerribleImagination · 16/01/2020 09:35

Hi to anyone reading 👋🏻

This is a thread for anyone TTC / testing in February, after a miscarriage.

I’ll start off with intros! I’m 37 and my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 5 1/2 weeks in December. I TTC straight afterwards, but AF found me, so here I still am on this crazy, frustrating, rollercoaster of a journey!

I joined the January thread after my miscarriage and it’s been amazing to go there and chat to other women who know how you feel.

So for anyone joining this, I’m so so sorry you find yourself here, but you’re in good company ❤️

OP posts:
Thread gallery
57
Ibaadsmummy · 08/02/2020 11:50

Awww ladies thanks for your advice everyone that has miscarried I'm sure you guys all had the same worry will it happen again. I just wana start trying to prove to myself I can do it again. It really frustrating because I had a car accident day before bleeding started was in a black cab and went flying from seat n hit back of drivers wall section wasnt major but had bad bruise on leg and whiplash on shoulders next day then bleeding started also. Docters say it wont have caused miscarriage but I feel it was the culprit. So annoyed at myself.

BS9790 · 08/02/2020 13:13

@Michette I think we are at a similar point in our cycles? X

Michette · 08/02/2020 21:40

@BS9790 yep.
Ovulated today!!
How is it going?

eomjthesmallthings · 08/02/2020 22:36

Sorry to hear of your losses😢I am also just getting over a miscarriage at 9 weeks in early November. I in my late thirties and was keen to try again soon after but after natural miscarriage didn’t work I needed a d&c and bless for almost three weeks. I feel ready to try again but was all over the place with my cycle and periods. I have had two periods since and have none using ovulation strips this week as I feel (due to using apps) that I should be ovulating. I have bought boots brand packs and a pound land version. None of them have given me a positive result. I’m very confused and afraid we will miss my ovulation period. Has anyone got advice on this? We are TTC this week but we’re both so tired we can’t keep having sex every day/ second day.

kkr168 · 09/02/2020 11:09

I've been using ic opks, on the 6th & 7th I tested around 6.30am, both tests were low. On the 8th I didn't test until 10pm & got peak. We'd been away Friday night & I'd forgotten to pack the opk, which is why I didn't test in the morning, I wasn't going to test at 10pm but thought I may aswell, lucky I did otherwise we'd have missed it. Last month I had a few days of high before the peak, so was not expecting that result, I woke in the night last night with ovulation pains so think I definitely ovulated.
Now the tww begins.......

kkr168 · 09/02/2020 11:22

Should have stayed off google, now worrying I have a short follicular phase after ovulating on cd11!!

BS9790 · 09/02/2020 12:32

@Michette, think I ovulated yesterday/last night too. Had a peak on clear blue in the morning, peak on cheap opk in the evening... Then this mornings cheap opk was negative so guessing ovulation has already happened.

How are you feeling entering the TWW?

Leok83 · 09/02/2020 12:57

I’ve finally got a flashing smiley on Clearblue CD33 after MC, obviously still need to wait for ovulation and have to get repeat hcg done next Wednesday as HCG was 37 last Wednesday but it has been dropping but I’m so happy everything is finally getting back to normal😊

@eomjthesmallthings sorry for your loss, have you tried the CB opk? It gives you the flashing smileys before peak so you have an idea something is starting to happen as it’s easy to miss peak on the others unless you are doing the opk a couple of times a day. Have you had any colour on the opks you have been using even if not positive? cause the cycle I conceived mine literally peaked at lunch but was not positive but had colour and and pm so would have missed if I hadn’t done lunch. Also I’m the same not being able to DTD every day/other day as hubby works nights some weeks and I do a lot of on call so between the two we just don’t have the time/energy so found the Clearblue opks great for saving our energy for the fertile period!

@kkr168 I would never have thought 11 day follicular phase is too short, try not to worry!!

Michette · 09/02/2020 12:57

@bs9790 TWW relaxed this month.
If it doesnt happen it’s ok.
I have a lot of long flights and travelling planned for the next three months so going to relax a bit more about not being pregnant...
I think Grin
I still have some weird ovary feeling today but opk was only high yesterday so pretty i already ovulated.

How about you?
When will you test?

kkr168 · 09/02/2020 13:05

@Leok83 I never realized TTC could make you crazy & over analyse everything Blush I will stay away from Google!

eomjthesmallthings · 09/02/2020 13:37

Thanks for the advice Leok83! I have tried again today and it is slightly darker ( with two different tests). It would mean that ovulation is later this month but that’s fine as long as it happens. I will try again alter and also to stay away from google kkr168 as it is literally driving me crazy! Thanks all!

eomjthesmallthings · 09/02/2020 13:38

Thanks for the advice @Leok83! I have tried again today and it is slightly darker ( with two different tests). It would mean that ovulation is later this month but that’s fine as long as it happens. I will try again alter and also to stay away from google @kkr168 as it is literally driving me crazy! Thanks all!

BS9790 · 09/02/2020 15:01

@Michette pretty much the same here. Feeling so much happier this month than last.
I'm on a work residential Mon-Fri, then we're going away for a week. I'm also away in April, so like you, a few flights coming up. Lots of things to look forward to, trying to have the "whatever will be will be" approach 😂

I will probably do a test on weds 19th, I know its early!

CAM285 · 09/02/2020 16:37

Hi everyone, I am 6 weeks pregnant but unfortunately I believe I am having a miscarriage due to 4 days of heavy bleeding, passing clots and very painful cramping. I'm so gutted. We plan to try again straight away. Any advice on ovulation following a miscarriage? 💗💗

Michette · 09/02/2020 17:03

@BS9790 exactly same approach !
I also wanted to test on 19/20 but i have my driving test on 20th morning (yes i am 30 haha) and i am worried i will start obsessing and overthinking whatever results.
So will probably test 21st or 20th after test !

Do you have kids? This is our first.

Michette · 09/02/2020 17:11

@CAM285 sorry to hear that, i would take it easy it i were you.
I also was rushing the MC to try again and ended up with an infection and a two weeks course of antibiotics.
Take time for yourself, and make sure all the bleeding has stopped and you had a scan to confirm that the MC is complete before starting.
Good luck xx

CAM285 · 09/02/2020 17:28

@Michette thank you for the advice. Very eager to try again but don't want an infection!! I'll wait a while for my periods to settle again. Xx

BS9790 · 09/02/2020 19:20

@Michette, ooh good luck with the driving test. I'm almost 30 and only been driving a couple of years so I'm not judging there lol!!

I want to test 19th as it's earliest I think a test would show, and as we're on holiday I feel like I'm going to be in limbo around the cocktails etc!!

We're also trying for our first x

seaduck · 09/02/2020 20:46

Going to test tomorrow, 29 days since mc, no idea when or even if I ovulated so could yet be too early. I don't feel pregnant and my mood has been horrendous which is usually the best indicator of an incoming period for me. But I'm still holding onto a tiny tiny hope, that my periods are 28 days like clockwork normally so if I treat the mc as a period, I would be 1 day over. Just want to be pregnant again. Sad

seaduck · 09/02/2020 20:50

So sorry about your mc @cam285.

CAM285 · 09/02/2020 20:54

@seaduck thank you 😊. Good luck on your test tomorrow 🤞🤞🤞

seaduck · 10/02/2020 08:24

Is this positive?? Blush I managed to wee everywhere but the test so it didn't have much urine to go off.

TTC after miscarriage - February 2020
Leok83 · 10/02/2020 08:59

@seaduck yes!!! That def looks positive!! Yay..Congrats!!!
So happy to see a BFP..was just thinking this morning the thread needed one😄

My flashy smiley went straight to peak this morning😊 CD 34
I’m a bit conflicted tho as to wether or not to go for it as my ultrasound isn’t until tomorrow and repeat hcg not till Wednesday but don’t want to miss the window! Surely if there were retained products I wouldn’t be ovulating? Also have a def bfn on home PT so I’m assuming it’s ok..wish this was more clear cut and advice from docs was the same across the board on wether or not to wait until after af!!

Happythecrocodile · 10/02/2020 09:11

@seaduck looks positive to me! Congratulations!!

I am trying to wait until the weekend to test (if no period by then) but I’m so tempted to test early 😬 I’m CD27 today...

seaduck · 10/02/2020 09:16

@Leok83 Thanks Shock im still feeling a little unsure due to messing it up, going to get another test today and have another go. I only have a Clear blue to go and that line looks faint so don't want to waste it.

I'd say if your home pregnancy test is negative it's very unlikely to have retained products now. I'll be the devil Grin and say go for it, don't miss your window if you feel ready.