TTC after miscarriage - February 2020

[TerribleImagination]

Hi to anyone reading 👋🏻

This is a thread for anyone TTC / testing in February, after a miscarriage.

I’ll start off with intros! I’m 37 and my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 5 1/2 weeks in December. I TTC straight afterwards, but AF found me, so here I still am on this crazy, frustrating, rollercoaster of a journey!

I joined the January thread after my miscarriage and it’s been amazing to go there and chat to other women who know how you feel.

So for anyone joining this, I’m so so sorry you find yourself here, but you’re in good company ❤️

I am feeling so frustrated about it all today. I think it's probably because it should be scan day today, I don't feel sad about it though just so irritable (and maybe a little sad). I'm 24 days post MC now and I just want the next week to hurry up so I know where I am now. I find it so frustrating how much it's effected me and how obsessed I now feel. I'm sure most of the people on this thread feel the same, but in my everyday life it's feeling very lonely ☹️☹️

@SweetpeaOrMarigold, did you get a positive hpt before AF arrived?
I felt a bit sick, had cramps etc for a week or more then AF came. It was heavy and very painful, it was exactly like my MC... Just didn't last as long. But I know I wasn't pregnant as I'd had my hcg bloods done as part of some routine tests x

@BS9790 No but my boobs are 2 sizes bigger (had to buy new bras), constant nausea and food aversion and metallic taste waking me up at night. OH left an apple on the table and I had to go and get fresh air because I felt so ill at the thought of eating it!!
I get slightly bigger boobs normally a day or 2before AF but this has been 2 weeks not being able to get comfy in bed because my arm grazes past a boob and its agony. I still feel sick now which is rubbish.
I sound like a total hypochondriac but I'm honestly a normal person usually

I feel exactly the same on the obsessed front.
Friday I got some dizzy spells in the evening and thought maybe it was a sign and felt happy. Then the next day I thought about how crazy I was being and was on a downer. Yesterday I was at a baby shower, felt a bit emotional being there at points. This morning my husband joked I can’t be pregnant as my boobs hadn’t grown (in the past that is what I notice first), and he joked it was a good thing as we get to have lots more nooky next month (he really doesn’t think comments through sometimes). Then I have had more dizzy spells. I probably have some sort of deficiency knowing my luck. Period not due for another week and a half and I am climbing the walls. I can’t cope with this on a monthly basis. If I am not pregnant this month I need to find a way to switch off the rollercoaster emotions!

he really doesn’t think comments through sometimes
A whole world of this. Its not their fault but I have the same. Last time when my boobs deflated he was saying how disappointing it was. My boobs. Not the MC.
Then this time he was happy because my big boobs were back.
He does care and is trying his best but hes absolutely failing to understand how this feels for me.

Hello everyone, please can I join you :) we had a mc at the end of Jan, hoping to try again this month. Will be testing end of Feb.

Hi @Zoetuxx 👋🏻 So sorry you have to be joining here, but welcome! This is a great place to be after such a horrible time ❤️

Welcome @Zoetuxx sorry to see you here and good luck xx

Anyone else in the 2ww?
I am usually ok in this bit as I tend to just put it out of my head until period is due/late, but the last couple of days I’ve had bad heartburn, tingly boobs, feeling full/queasy... but period isn’t due til around 13th so feels early to be pregnancy symptoms? This is my first cycle since mc though and I haven’t been using OPK so that date is just based on previous cycles, so I’ve no idea really. I’m trying not to get my hopes up though.
Do I hold out until 13th or try an early test this week?!

@happythecrocodile I'm at the same stage right now. I'm CD25 so if I went by old cycles would be due on this week. But also first cycle since MC so who knows!! I feel like I have had a couple of symptoms but also well aware it may just be wishful thinking! I have just been into town to by FRER though... But scared to do one as don't want to face a negative.

I think I’m now in 2WW but have missed ovulation, BBT has put me at 4DPO but had no signs it was happening and was still getting positive HPT so assumed I wouldn’t be ovulating, thought it would happen when HPT turned negative but obviously it must have gone low enough to stop surprising ovulation. We DTD day after predicted ovulation day so very minimal chance caught the egg..I’d imagine I’m gonna have to wait until next cycle now. So frustrating😩!! Oh well at least it’ll stop me driving myself insane with symptom spotting for the next week anyways😄!!

@Zoetuxx sorry you are here too. xx

Thank you for all your welcomes :) keeping for Fingers crossed for lots of positives for everyone xx

Yep another in the TWW here 🙋🏻‍♀️ 4DPO, CD21, AF not due until 14th Feb! ARGH!

On the plus side, O2 priority give you a free hot drink at Nero today! So a large hot choc is helping me relax 😆

The month I conceived before I did TWW yoga... no idea if that helped or not with conception, but it definitely helped me relax, so I highly recommend it ❤️

I am entering fertile week! Cycle day 10 so a week or so off from the dreaded TWW

@bs9790 you are similar cycle day to me arent you?

I am not doing OPKs this month,just DTD every other day and confirming ovulation with temping. Fingers crossed the more relaxed approach works! As I got myself really worked up and stressed last month

@Anny27 🥳🥳🥳
Doing anything differently this month in terms of BDing?

I am on CD15 and just getting a darker opk but not positive. No ovulation pain yet.
Decided to DTD twice a day from CD12 up until after ovulation... which we have been doing.
No pre seed this month though.

I also got myself super stressed last month but found reading less mumsnet helps currently

Good luck!!! And enjoy :)

Also need some ladies who been ttc opinion...
I will be going on holiday mid March and can swim with Dolphins.
If lucky i will be 8 weeks by then. If less lucky 1 week and if not lucky at all not pregnant.

But would you book it? I mean would you do that swimming with dolphins thing in early pregnancy?

Hey all, I am cd15...not tracking ovulation but know the fertile window dates so BD every day. I am trying after a miscarriage last October...I am still very nervous and self-doubting a lot. You ladies are my strength, please keep us all updated.

Another thing is I don't know how you all manage...but managing to BD every day is very taxing for us...by the time we finish dinner and put my toddler to sleep I am almost in a tiring state :(

Ah I’m glad there are others going through the 2ww frustration as well! I have had a word with myself about not taking every twinge as a ‘symptom’ and am going to hold out testing for another week or so. @shhhhs good luck if you decide to do yours though 🤞

@Happythecrocodile thank you! I'm going to try and wait until the weekend!! I'll let you know what happens 🤞

Using the clear blue digital ovulation kits again this month. I had an erpc on the 2nd January and couldn't detect ovulation through January because I was still getting positive pregnancy tests. I don't think I actually ovulated that month. Then got af last Thursday. Started using the ovulation tests yesterday because I didn't want to miss ovulation and thought perhaps i might ovulate early given that I dont think I ovulated last month. Got a blank circle yesterday then today flashing today cd6. This seems way early to be gearing up to ovulation? Any thoughts ladies?

Have had some spotting and temp has dropped so I think I’m out already for Feb 😞

Had only just started supplements and I know they wouldn’t work straight away but I would even want the chance to take a test at this point, feel like I’m getting nowhere with ttc.

Never heard of TWW yoga @TerribleImagination ! Might give it a try, definitely need to de stress somehow but finding it so hard not to constantly think about this

I’m in TWW and it feels like it is going on for ever. I ordered some pregnancy tests through Amazon and got them on a five day delivery instead of next day to stop me from being tempted to test too early. Period isn’t due until Thursday week if I stay true to my pre MC cycle.

Hi everyone,
I was wondering if I could join. We are TTC after a miscarriage at 7 weeks mid January. I've got no idea when I ovulated if my cycle went back to normal it should have been this weekend just gone I think. I haven't used OPK's before but I track using an app and it's always worked for me. X

@TerribleImagination we're pretty closely synced. If my cycle is 28 days (only had 1 28 dayer since MMC) I'd be due AF on 14th. TWW officially sucks!

@TerribleImagination we're pretty closely synced. If my cycle is 28 days (only had 1 28 diayer since MMC) I'd be due AF on 14th. TWW officially sucks!

@Ejb86 Hi cycle buddy 👋🏻 Yep it truly sucks doesn’t it!! I’m planning on leaving it a few days after AF is due to test... If it doesn’t arrive 🤞🏻