Anyone TTC second baby?

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Hey! Just looking for some folks in a similar position to start a chat with.

I'm 34 and have been trying for a second child for 6 months. With my first, I didn't realise how lucky we were when we got pregnant in the first cycle with no real trying. I was 30 at the time. Our daughter has just turned 4.

This time, I tried the relaxed approach for a couple of months to start with and then resorted to opks and an app to give some guidance as to when would be a good time to try.

Anyway, after trying for 6 months with no joy, I'm beginning to feel a bit anxious. I can't stop wondering if there's a problem and can't stop googling!!

Please join if you're in a similar position and wanting to chat! X

Hi @inahaze , the emotions are just so overwhelming aren't they. Every time at nursery pick up my heart breaks seeing all the babies and pregnant bumps. My little girl keeps talking about being a sister too, I try not to feel guilty about that! Too many feelings!!! Lots of luck to you this month, hopefully won't be long for us both.

Hi @Mrstakeiteasy 🙋
@Emelene I seem to be ok with heavily pregnant friends at the moment as its their first baby but many of the mums I met with DS are pg and I do get a pang of jealousy when I see them. My colleague is 14 weeks pg and I worry that the longer I go without a BFP the bigger she'll get and the more sad/jealous I'll get of her, which I really don't want to be. 🤞 It happens soon for us all.
Also, 9dpo today and totally convinced myself I'm pg. My mind knows I'm being silly and I can't possibly have symptoms this early but everything is a sign. I had trap wind which caused cramp type pain, realised it was wind then wondered if that must be a sign....wtf?!

Hi @SomethingAboutYou I've been doing that too, the symptom spotting can drive you crazy! Everything is a symptom when you want it so badly! Fingers crossed for everyone!

@LBB2020 congratulations!

Thank you @Ejb86

Alcohol- what do you all do - completely abstain whilst TTC?

I'm only drinking when I have my period.

Half way into 2ww here. Mentally exhausting!

I haven't been drinking much recently as I'm trying to lose weight but over the weekend I really wanted wine so had a few glasses. I'm 12dpo today and starting to get excited about potential testing but af is never regular so if she's not here wednesday it doesn't really mean much. Gah!

I'm 9dpo and I wasn't going to test until the weekend but now I can't resist!

I don’t drink that often anyway but not cutting down or cutting out unless I get a pregnant test as trying to keep things as normal as possible.

Stay strong @inahaze I've scared myself into not testing too early after reading loads of threads where people have tested early and got a squinter bfp then af turns up a few days later and they're (understandably) heartbroken.

Looking at Ovia should test after 27 Feb if no period. Going to try and hold out. I don’t have any pregnancy tests in the house so that should help I hope

@TinkleTwinkle11 sounds reasonable. I drank a lot the weekend before I got my bfp with DS as I'd taken a test and got a bfn so thought I was clear. I stopped altogether after the bfp (went off the stuff anyway) so I guess I'll do the same now.

@SomethingAboutYou yeh i forgot about that, i will try and hold off. for some reason this cycle i am not feeling positive at all.

@60sPony good idea not having any tests in the house! I bought mine at the weekend as I've signed up to give blood on Friday so want to be able to test before that. Having them in the drawer is definitely making it harder to avoid!!

Hi I don’t know if this is the right place but I was wondering if anyone could help me decipher when I’m ovulating. I had a miscarriage in November so I assume my cycle is still getting back to normal but it’s usually around 32 days.

@beesly sorry about your MC, I haven't used ovulation sticks, but that looks tricky to decipher. Hope someone more experienced comes along to help you with it.

Thank you. They’re more stressful than helpful tbh. I give up with them if I’m still trying next month. I might try temp measuring though. My DD was 4 last month and she’s currently in our bed not well so she’s not making it very easy to make her a baby sibling!! Driving myself crazy 😩

Erm, I just caved and peed on a stick.... I've only gone and got myself a bfp!!

Yayyyyyyy! Congrats!! How you feeling? How many dpo are you?

@Beesly sorry I have no clue about opk.

I charted years ago and it was great. Not sure I can this time with a 4 yr old who is up in the night/early hours

@SomethingAboutYou woohoo congratulations!

Thanks!

@inahaze I'm feeling fine thanks. Very excited but started to worry about things going wrong already! 🤦‍♀️ I'm 13dpo today so nhs site says 3 weeks pregnant. Old system of counting from date of last period puts me at 5 weeks thanks to my long cycles so we'll see where the midwife slots me in for appts etc, if things go well and I get that far🤞

@Somethingaboutyou congratulations!!!

@inahaze I’ll look into it, thanks