Anyone TTC second baby?

[Lnix]

Hey! Just looking for some folks in a similar position to start a chat with.

I'm 34 and have been trying for a second child for 6 months. With my first, I didn't realise how lucky we were when we got pregnant in the first cycle with no real trying. I was 30 at the time. Our daughter has just turned 4.

This time, I tried the relaxed approach for a couple of months to start with and then resorted to opks and an app to give some guidance as to when would be a good time to try.

Anyway, after trying for 6 months with no joy, I'm beginning to feel a bit anxious. I can't stop wondering if there's a problem and can't stop googling!!

Please join if you're in a similar position and wanting to chat! X

Thanks @Beesly

Congratulations @SomethingAboutYou! How exciting xx

I keep getting terrible back pains... in sure it’s nothing but it’s suddenly made me so aware of every twinge

I seem to be getting loads of questions about "having another one" at the moment... anyone else?
I just answer enthusiastically that we are really hoping for another one soon... I don't know if that's TMI?

@Emelene God yeah! I was trying to think if I’ve always been asked that and previously brushed it off whereas now it’s really getting to me, does that make sense?

@Beesly - yeah totally makes sense. I don't remember people being so nosy before! It's not upsetting me at the moment per se but it does remind me how much I want another child.

Hey @Beesly I think it looks like your got your positive surge on day 19 and were still surging into day 20? Which would suggest likely ovulation on day 20. What do you think?

@Lnix that’s what I was guessing it as, thank you for confirming! I was so confused as they look all over the place compared to ones I see online. Last month I caught the surge randomly at about 3.30pm without tracking beforehand but had to wait until after 10pm for DH to get home from work so I guess that wasn’t quick enough. This time we have done it 4 days in a row (exhausting) around ovulation so surely! I’m gonna look into SMEP for next month

@Beesly opks can be impacted by various things - time of day, first morning wee, dehydration, ultra hydration, length of time since you last did a wee etc Best course of action is to test twice daily between 10am and 8pm (I actually test 3 times due to not want to do it at work, so first thing, when I'm home at 5 and before bed). I usually catch the surge. Still no BFP though after several cycles! We tried SMEP this month. But I feel like AF is grumbling in the background, am due in a few days xx

@Beesly so what meant was - yeah they can look to be a bit all over the place just depending on those factors - but if you test regularly enough you should see a clear positive at some stage, as you did x

@Lnix well I have been trying to drink more water in the hope that it produces better quality CM.
When’s your AF due? Mines Thursday. Last time I was pregnant I got a positive on 9 DPO which would be tomorrow but I’ve purposefully not got any tests in the house. With my daughter I managed to wait until the day AF was due so I’m trying to recreate that!

Hi all. I'm ttc baby no 2 and have super long cycles and this morning got dreaded AF. Absolutely gutted as had completely convinced myself I was pregnant during the long 2 week wait, (more like 3 for me) unwrapped the test to take it today and found AF instead. It's seventh cycle now and baby no 1 took at least 6 months as well. Just joining to hear your experiences and get some advice. Wondering if I am making it harder for myself as baby 1 still has the occasional BF? She is 17 months so doesn't need it but is comforting for her. Do you think it would have an affect?

Sorry @CeceJo I don’t have medical advice but I know people who have fallen pregnant while breast feeding so I wouldn’t have thought it was a huge factor to not falling. But maybe someone more knowledgeable will reply!
My cycles are quite long too, its so frustrating isn’t it

Hi @CeceJo - I'm still BF my 15 month old too, quite a lot! There's a really good specific TTC while breastfeeding Facebook group.

I'm hoping it won't affect fertility too much as my cycles are back. My AF was due today so I'm testing in the morning... eek!

@Beesly so frustrating I feel like it is this magical 24 hours of ovulation which could be any day between 15-20 for me then have to wait c. six months until a period! 

Ooh good luck @Emelene and fingers crossed! Thanks re bf note I will check it out.

BFN this morning for me, not even a hint of a line. Feeling disappointed.

@Emelene @CeceJo breastfeeding for 26 months and we're still going strong.

I did get pregnant with my twins whilst breastfeeding my lb, whilst pregnant he was pretty much self weaned, but then my milk came back in when my body thought I'd had 2 babies, so he's living his best life and back on the boobs. That was one of the hardest parts of my miscarriage, knowing that the milk was meant for my girls.

@Emelene ⚘Hope you're ok.

I caved and took a frer this morning. I’m 10dpo and I see the faintest line, it doesn’t come up very good pictures. What do you guys think? Am I imagining it? I know it’s early.

Hey @Beesly I turned the brightness up and think I can see it a little bit but not sure. How are you doing now?

@Lnix I edited it a bit too and it looks a bit clearer. DH convinced me not to take another test until Ovia app tells me to, which is tomorrow so I guess we’ll see then. Trying now to get my hopes up. How are you? Any sign?

So hard not to get hopes up. It's a squinter but possibly there!

I haven't tested but will test tomorrow if AF doesn't come today. I can't be sure of ovulation because I don't temp and I'm not 100% certain on length of luteal phase. (Think 12 or 13 days). Today would be day 13 of phase if I ovulated 24 hours after positivr opk. X

Fingers crossed for you tomorrow @Lnix xx

Can I join you ladies? TTC #2

Stats:
Age: 34
DC: DD is almost 4
Cycle: quite irregular. Can be 28 days, can be 45 days! Recently more stable though so thought good time to try again.
Currently CD11. If cycle is similar to last 3 months then I'd be due to Ov around CD15 (so over the weekend).

We are still v much in the relaxed beginning stages of ttc. I always wanted a larger age gap for my kids so I feel I'm not in a massive rush. conceived DD on 3rd cycle I think, but we were not too active in trying and I wasn't tracking anything.

TBH, after a very traumatic first birth (which has left me with some ongoing issues and conditions) I'm quite scared about trying and having another baby in case my body literally falls apart this time! However, I know in my heart that I want DD to have a sibling and that I want to do it all again just one last time. So... here I am!

Hey @OneOfManyDays gosh your stats and experiences sound very similar to mine. I guess if I relaxed about the age gap I might find things a bit easier! My DD was 4 in December and we put off trying for a second until summer just gone, down to traumatic experiences first time round. I just find myself feeling a bit guilty about that now...like maybe if I'd been brave enough to try sooner then I wouldn't have been trying for 8 cycles and counting...But hey, I couldn't have known. Just something I wonder about!