Anyone TTC second baby?

[Lnix]

Hey! Just looking for some folks in a similar position to start a chat with.

I'm 34 and have been trying for a second child for 6 months. With my first, I didn't realise how lucky we were when we got pregnant in the first cycle with no real trying. I was 30 at the time. Our daughter has just turned 4.

This time, I tried the relaxed approach for a couple of months to start with and then resorted to opks and an app to give some guidance as to when would be a good time to try.

Anyway, after trying for 6 months with no joy, I'm beginning to feel a bit anxious. I can't stop wondering if there's a problem and can't stop googling!!

Please join if you're in a similar position and wanting to chat! X

@tgwjslo so glad you asked this because i'm having exactly the same issue! I'm just going to do BBT next month to know for sure.

@inahaze sorry what's BBT?

@tgwjslo basal body temperature, I discovered it after reading the book "taking charge of your fertility" which I read about 10 years ago....
www.naturalcycles.com/cyclematters/bbt-explained-what-is-basal-body-temperature/

and
www.tcoyf.com/

Welcome @tgwjslo 🙋

I just use the fitbit app which highlights the fw in blue with a little sign for OD - it starts a few days before OD and stops the day after, which is consistent with CM so I've assumed it was right. Didn't know other apps had other ideas though, how annoying!!

Not used opk sorry @lnix

Thinking about it, surely before and during makes sense as sperm can live for up to 5 days so if they're there before the egg releases it means they could fertilise it straight away whereas if you send them in after ovulation it may be too late....🤔

I use Ovia and my Fitbit they are roughly the same (just a day out)

Thanks @inahaze I'll definitely ready into it. I think I'm going to try acupuncture as well to see if that helps!

I use Fertility Friend and Femometer apps. When I've plugged in the cycle info I've got from my period tracker app (which I've had for years) they both match up quite well. I like that you can take pictures of your OPKs on Femometer, but the graph for BBT is better on Fertility Friend.

I've just posted on the wrong thread thinking it was this one, so embarrassing!

we've been invited on a family holiday to Efteling in the Netherlands in October half term....... I'm guessing I wouldn't want to travel / wouldn't get insured after 32 weeks, which would mean a due date of mid-December? is that right? So I can't book it yet I don't think

@inahaze i think you're right! Tricky as you don't want life to stop either...can you wait a few weeks to book? X

That sounds about right @inahaze

The TWW is starting to get to me...I'm 7dpo and desperately trying not to symptom spot but just can't help myself. Every little twinge I think is a sign - send help! 🤦‍♀️

I got a BFP this morning

Wooooooo yay!!!! @LLB2020 great news!

How you feeling?
How many DPO?

Thank you @inahaze!
AF was due on Tuesday. I’m feeling fine at the moment, hopefully it stays that way!

Amazing news @LBB2020 - congratulations! Such exciting news!

Thank you!

Did you have a feeling or signs that made you think you might be pg or did you manage to block it all out until af was late?

I just felt like I usually do in the run up to getting my period. I didn’t test until this morning, AF was due Tuesday.
We’re still a bit shocked, this was our first cycle TTC. We conceived first cycle with DC1 but didn’t expect it to happen so fast again this time! Hoping all goes smoothly (I’m late thirties and a few friends have had miscarriages recently so I’m quite nervous about something going wrong this time)

Ahhh first cycle both times, amazing. Fingers crossed for you that it all works out well and you'll have a new addition to your family this Autumn! 😍😍😍

Congrats @LB2020!

Thank you! x

Can I join too! Not been on mumsnet since having our dd 4.5 years ago, she was a very lovely surprise! So never been through ttc before and finding it very difficult to cope with the 2ww how does everyone cope?! Congratulations on your bfp lbb2020! And good luck to everyone this month!

Congratulations @LBB2020!

My really good friend just told me she is pregnant with her second, after a recent loss. I'm really happy for her but I also had that stab of longing and jealousy for myself. Has anyone else had similar? I feel like a bad friend!

Thank you @Emelene
You’re not a bad friend I think its completely natural to feel that way x

Hi @Mrstakeiteasy ! Same here really, small just turned 4 and conceived first month with her.

Wind forward 5 years and I'm with a new partner, second month TTC. I'm 37

I cry pretty much every time someone tells me they are pregnant.... just the way it is